How did you walk away?

don't do it Op please for the sake of your children
my son left because his wife was unfaithful
now they are seven hours away
he will never be a part of their lives like he was
talking on the phone is not the same as being there
I love her and my grandchildren and begged him to forgive her
he does not forgive so he suffers and so do his children
later on in life stupid mistakes don't seem so important
don't do something rash as your childrens' future will be. affected

Things have calmed down again, where she claims she understands and will try to make changes. I can only hope. I'm used to a pattern now of apparent acceptance, change for a very short time ( a week or two ), and then back to the bad normal, followed by a big fight.

Stick it out. People and marriages have bad years. Sometimes consecutively.

If you made an oath, hold to it. Get counseling.

Thanks. Hope you're right. Tired of fights - tired of my little four year old coming to me and saying: "why's mommy crying?"

Shouldn't say "tired of my four year old ..". I mean horrified. I hate to see and feel the reaction of my babies ( 4 and 2 ), reacting to these fights. However, I can't walk away from it. I want to leave the home when this happens, but she blocks the door. I obviously can't physically remove her; the results would be catostrophic.

Your whole family is under distress. There is a reason. Find that reason, and fix it.

No one said marriage was easy or blissful. Remember why you married her? It's still there.

Little things add up. Whether positive to the relationship, or negative. Remind her. She'll remember.

Add more laughter to your relationship. Make her laugh. If you're clever, all the better. Be spontaneous with affection. Even if she pulls away, she still kinda likes it.

Happy wife, happy life.

Op this is where counselling can make a big difference
it is hard to break old patterns even when we know it's necessary
it's very hard not to fall back into the bad behavior unless the root issues are identified and dealt with
please don't give up, I'm rooting for you

"I'm exhausted! I want to get a way and sleep for several days, recover and start fresh. This has left me feeling completely drained and unmotivated."

There was a very popular show years ago "Married With Children"

It's hard work, but not being in love with the mother makes it damn near impossible.

I agree with the other poster though - divorce has to be HER idea, regardless of how you feel.

Hopefully, things will work out and you can become a loving happy family again.

Good luck with whatever path you choose.

This video has a list, choose wisely.

Thanks for your responses. I'll keep trying. I really do love her, but this behaviour is horrible and so hard on all of us. I believe strongly that mature people contain stress; they don't take it out on their friends and family. Correct me if Im wrong.

OP,

Your story sounds a lot like mine!

We fight like rabid dogs then make up.

Rinse and repeat every other week.

OP, have you pointed out to your wife what the stress from pressure from her mama is doing to your marriage, your family?

My youngest son had this convo with his wife about her mama. She wanted this n that for her daughter, dangled carrots in front of her, basically undermined every plan my son and DIL had planned for their life, the pressure and stress nearly destroyed their marriage.

If this is what is going on with the two of you and your wife's mama, then it's time to put your foot down, my friend, kindly of course.

The two of you are married. Some parents have never been able to 'let go' of their grown 'kids'. Your wife's mama needs to cut those apron strings, your wife needs to let her, and cut her own strings attached to her mama.

If that's already been done, and is not part of this problem you describe, then let me know and we'll look at it from a different direction.

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