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Anonymous Coward User ID: 74611726 United States 04/11/2017 02:42 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
wharrgarbl (OP) User ID: 73050993 United States 04/11/2017 02:42 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
Relativity User ID: 69703057 United States 04/11/2017 02:45 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Backstory: Been married 7 years. Wife was going to visit an old flame from before we were married for a couple of months back in November/December, claims no sex, but some kissing and also emotional infidelity. Caught her (tracking her phone) going to visit him in the hospital after he was almost killed in an accident in January. She went to visit him once since then, to his house (I believe he was still really bad off and out of it) after I told her not to go. Quoting: wharrgarbl Today: She went to his mother's house without my knowledge (I tracked her through her phone) and he happened to be there. I found this out because I left work and knocked on the door. She came out and I told her to go home, I had to go back to work. I don't think she's sleeping with him, just wanting to see him on the mend. I'm going home in a few hours. I have no clue what to do/say. We have kids. Op I went through this BEFORE we had a kid. Kids make things harder. I am agnostic, but hold my wedding vows sacred. I confronted, she admitted and then we got counseling. Been great ever since and I am glad I never listened to everyone (religious) to cut the cord clean. Follow your heart and use common sense if you still love her.. “In finding balance between lies and trust there will never be a better source than to speak your truth or make your peace some other way.” ~Sully Erna Many that live deserve death. And some that die deserve life. Can you give it to them? Then do not be too eager to deal out death in judgment. For even the very wise cannot see all ends. -Gandalph "A fool thinks himself to be wise, but a wise man knows himself to be a fool." - William Shakespeare |
CountryWise User ID: 71926757 United States 04/11/2017 02:45 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Look, marriage is hard work. You've both failed. Stop tracking her. She needs to stop seeing him. Period, unless they have kids together. Period. And if she won't, then you need someone else and not GLP. Are the kids just yours and hers, mixture of you & her and his & her or just his and hers? It makes a difference. Sorry OP. Tough situation. Question, did she say "yes sir" when you told her to go home? Did she have the kids with her? Sending a prayer for you for direction. |
CountryWise User ID: 71926757 United States 04/11/2017 02:47 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Backstory: Been married 7 years. Wife was going to visit an old flame from before we were married for a couple of months back in November/December, claims no sex, but some kissing and also emotional infidelity. Caught her (tracking her phone) going to visit him in the hospital after he was almost killed in an accident in January. She went to visit him once since then, to his house (I believe he was still really bad off and out of it) after I told her not to go. Quoting: wharrgarbl Today: She went to his mother's house without my knowledge (I tracked her through her phone) and he happened to be there. I found this out because I left work and knocked on the door. She came out and I told her to go home, I had to go back to work. I don't think she's sleeping with him, just wanting to see him on the mend. I'm going home in a few hours. I have no clue what to do/say. We have kids. Op I went through this BEFORE we had a kid. Kids make things harder. I am agnostic, but hold my wedding vows sacred. I confronted, she admitted and then we got counseling. Been great ever since and I am glad I never listened to everyone (religious) to cut the cord clean. Follow your heart and use common sense if you still love her.. That's awesome advice. |
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wharrgarbl (OP) User ID: 73050993 United States 04/11/2017 02:52 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Look, marriage is hard work. Quoting: CountryWise You've both failed. Stop tracking her. She needs to stop seeing him. Period, unless they have kids together. Period. And if she won't, then you need someone else and not GLP. Are the kids just yours and hers, mixture of you & her and his & her or just his and hers? It makes a difference. Sorry OP. Tough situation. Question, did she say "yes sir" when you told her to go home? Did she have the kids with her? Sending a prayer for you for direction. I agree about the mutual failure thing... Thx for the prayer. As for the kids, they were not with her. We have some of our own, and one is hers and not mine, but from another un-involved man to this particular situation. She does not have kids with this man. She's not really a "yes sir" person, but she was very contrite. She keeps taking offense at the tracking, so I will stop, good advice. We are getting counseling currently, just wanted to see what the conspiracy theorists here thought...for shits and giggles. Last Edited by wharrgarbl on 04/11/2017 02:53 PM (Insert clever, inspirational and/or witty quote here) |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 68155626 United States 04/11/2017 03:02 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | As for the kids, they were not with her. We have some of our own, and one is hers and not mine, but from another involved man to this particular situation. She does not have kids with this man. ..... You make it sound like the both of you picked up some kids at a kids r us store. GLPtards ALWAYS have dysfunctional relationships. Just watch the most fucked up Jerry Springer show you can find on youtube, then do whatever they do. Relationships are really not THAT hard, but the level of fail that abounds in this place makes it seem like a nearly impossible challenge. Good luck. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 74522875 United Kingdom 04/11/2017 03:15 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Backstory: Been married 7 years. Wife was going to visit an old flame from before we were married for a couple of months back in November/December, claims no sex, but some kissing and also emotional infidelity. Caught her (tracking her phone) going to visit him in the hospital after he was almost killed in an accident in January. She went to visit him once since then, to his house (I believe he was still really bad off and out of it) after I told her not to go. Quoting: wharrgarbl Today: She went to his mother's house without my knowledge (I tracked her through her phone) and he happened to be there. I found this out because I left work and knocked on the door. She came out and I told her to go home, I had to go back to work. I don't think she's sleeping with him, just wanting to see him on the mend. I'm going home in a few hours. I have no clue what to do/say. We have kids. if u think they are having sex then this is what u should do....Wait in the cupboard and get naked; wait till they are doing the doggy position and come out and put ur penis in his backside and say "HOWDY" |
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CountryWise User ID: 73123659 United States 04/11/2017 03:16 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Look, marriage is hard work. Quoting: CountryWise You've both failed. Stop tracking her. She needs to stop seeing him. Period, unless they have kids together. Period. And if she won't, then you need someone else and not GLP. Are the kids just yours and hers, mixture of you & her and his & her or just his and hers? It makes a difference. Sorry OP. Tough situation. Question, did she say "yes sir" when you told her to go home? Did she have the kids with her? Sending a prayer for you for direction. I agree about the mutual failure thing... Thx for the prayer. As for the kids, they were not with her. We have some of our own, and one is hers and not mine, but from another un-involved man to this particular situation. She does not have kids with this man. She's not really a "yes sir" person, but she was very contrite. She keeps taking offense at the tracking, so I will stop, good advice. We are getting counseling currently, just wanted to see what the conspiracy theorists here thought...for shits and giggles. Well you got a good answer from both a male & female, ignore the rest! Please. Positive vibes only. |
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nutmeg User ID: 70579162 United States 04/11/2017 03:20 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Backstory: Been married 7 years. Wife was going to visit an old flame from before we were married for a couple of months back in November/December, claims no sex, but some kissing and also emotional infidelity. Caught her (tracking her phone) going to visit him in the hospital after he was almost killed in an accident in January. She went to visit him once since then, to his house (I believe he was still really bad off and out of it) after I told her not to go. Quoting: wharrgarbl Today: She went to his mother's house without my knowledge (I tracked her through her phone) and he happened to be there. I found this out because I left work and knocked on the door. She came out and I told her to go home, I had to go back to work. I don't think she's sleeping with him, just wanting to see him on the mend. I'm going home in a few hours. I have no clue what to do/say. We have kids. They say that emotional "cheating" is worse than sexual. Been through it, but not while married. I ended the relationship. Wishing you the best. Google, "emotional affair or emotional cheating" Last Edited by nutmeg on 04/11/2017 03:24 PM |
wharrgarbl (OP) User ID: 73050993 United States 04/11/2017 03:21 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Look, marriage is hard work. Quoting: CountryWise You've both failed. Stop tracking her. She needs to stop seeing him. Period, unless they have kids together. Period. And if she won't, then you need someone else and not GLP. Are the kids just yours and hers, mixture of you & her and his & her or just his and hers? It makes a difference. Sorry OP. Tough situation. Question, did she say "yes sir" when you told her to go home? Did she have the kids with her? Sending a prayer for you for direction. I agree about the mutual failure thing... Thx for the prayer. As for the kids, they were not with her. We have some of our own, and one is hers and not mine, but from another un-involved man to this particular situation. She does not have kids with this man. She's not really a "yes sir" person, but she was very contrite. She keeps taking offense at the tracking, so I will stop, good advice. We are getting counseling currently, just wanted to see what the conspiracy theorists here thought...for shits and giggles. Well you got a good answer from both a male & female, ignore the rest! Please. Positive vibes only. will do! thx! (Insert clever, inspirational and/or witty quote here) |
Literally Hitler User ID: 8640508 United States 04/11/2017 03:22 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Look, marriage is hard work. Quoting: CountryWise You've both failed. Stop tracking her. She needs to stop seeing him. Period, unless they have kids together. Period. And if she won't, then you need someone else and not GLP. Are the kids just yours and hers, mixture of you & her and his & her or just his and hers? It makes a difference. Sorry OP. Tough situation. Question, did she say "yes sir" when you told her to go home? Did she have the kids with her? Sending a prayer for you for direction. I agree about the mutual failure thing... Thx for the prayer. As for the kids, they were not with her. We have some of our own, and one is hers and not mine, but from another un-involved man to this particular situation. She does not have kids with this man. She's not really a "yes sir" person, but she was very contrite. She keeps taking offense at the tracking, so I will stop, good advice. We are getting counseling currently, just wanted to see what the conspiracy theorists here thought...for shits and giggles. Spouses who lie about their whereabouts or go places they shouldn't go always take offense to being tracked. And I'm sure that criminals take offense to being jailed. That's just too goddamned bad. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 16287525 Canada 04/11/2017 03:23 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Look, marriage is hard work. Quoting: CountryWise You've both failed. Stop tracking her. She needs to stop seeing him. Period, unless they have kids together. Period. And if she won't, then you need someone else and not GLP. Are the kids just yours and hers, mixture of you & her and his & her or just his and hers? It makes a difference. Sorry OP. Tough situation. Question, did she say "yes sir" when you told her to go home? Did she have the kids with her? Sending a prayer for you for direction. I agree about the mutual failure thing... Thx for the prayer. As for the kids, they were not with her. We have some of our own, and one is hers and not mine, but from another un-involved man to this particular situation. She does not have kids with this man. She's not really a "yes sir" person, but she was very contrite. She keeps taking offense at the tracking, so I will stop, good advice. We are getting counseling currently, just wanted to see what the conspiracy theorists here thought...for shits and giggles. You married a ho. May as well learn to live with that fact. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 25342732 United States 04/11/2017 03:26 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Backstory: Been married 7 years. Wife was going to visit an old flame from before we were married for a couple of months back in November/December, claims no sex, but some kissing and also emotional infidelity. Caught her (tracking her phone) going to visit him in the hospital after he was almost killed in an accident in January. She went to visit him once since then, to his house (I believe he was still really bad off and out of it) after I told her not to go. Quoting: wharrgarbl Today: She went to his mother's house without my knowledge (I tracked her through her phone) and he happened to be there. I found this out because I left work and knocked on the door. She came out and I told her to go home, I had to go back to work. I don't think she's sleeping with him, just wanting to see him on the mend. I'm going home in a few hours. I have no clue what to do/say. We have kids. If I was in your situation, I would pay him a visit, and make it clear that if I ever found out he came within 30 feet of my wife again, I would make him sorry he recovered from his health problems. I would stress that his life would be made miserable, his mother's life would become miserable, and that he would never have another happy, carefree day or night. I would make sure he lost his job, didn't get another one, and that his mother would share in his misery. I would calmly tell him that within 12 months, he would be living under a bridge, spending his days at traffic lights with a cardboard sign. The key would be telling him this in a dead-calm voice, making no physical threats at all. Or, you can tell him that you can't live without your wife, and that you will kill yourself, leaving overwhelming evidence that he murdered you. He will spend the rest of his life in prison, unless you live in a state with the death penalty, in which case, he'll be meeting Mr. Mayhem. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 74631160 Finland 04/11/2017 03:35 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | The moment she fornicated/committed adultery you were divorced (spiritually). If you were married spiritually (only real marriage in Gods eyes) she needs to repent and correct herself...she is also defiled now, so you cannot touch her physically or in sexual way without defiling yourself. Please understand she is polluted now, and another mans soul and semen has propagated onto her mind, soul and body. It is likely she has a soul connection to that another man, and is even thinking of breaking the one with you and going with the other! Depending on the case (very complex, God will judge), you may be able to go back together. |