I'm barely holding on.

I want to get as far away from that incestuous band of lunatics as I can.

If things are as bad in other families - it is getting very bad.

Fat chance of that. Families will be divided.

I get in arguments with my nephew, who is some kind of psychotic weasel. I have always been very generous with him and his sisters since they were small.

A few yeast ago, he was an adult man living in his mother's house, after she had moved out. Living for free, and mostly unemployed.

He ran the house into the ground. Every inch of it was caked with filth and filled with more flies than you can imagine. Almost all of the windows were broken and the doors were falling off their hinges. Water from the pipes was leaking into the dank, and musty basement, which was full of wet clothes on the floor and all sorts of garbage. The bathroom was filthy and completely trashed, with a broken sink and a rotten hole, more than a foot wide right in front of the toilet. The house should have been condemned.

At my own expense, nearly five thousand dollars, and thousands of hours of labor, I managed to clean the house, fix the bathroom, the leaky pipes, the windows including installing new storm windows, the yard, demolish and rebuild the front porch, and a host of other things, too numerous to mention.

Before I left, I let him have a lot of my stuff, including an expensive stereo system, and a large flat-screen TV, among other things like tools, leather jackets, a table saw, etc.

While I was working on the house, he offered no help, and I was constantly having to clean up after him and his parties. He spent most of his time drunk and stoned. He never even thanked me, and started crying about me paying rent. In a rotten little house that couldn't even legally be rented, where I slept in a large closet sized room in the back while he slept in the master bedroom, I paid him $200.00 per month, but I would have preferred to use the money for materials. I had to quit working when I ran out of money for materials, and I spent the next for months sorting through my stuff, and selling what I couldn't take with me.

Everyone knew for all those months that I was planning to leave, and packing and repacking my car to see how much I could bring with me. I had to leave some things that I couldn't bring with, so I packed them in boxes, ready for shipping, and I told my nephew that I would either send for them when I got a place, or return and pick them up.

When I returned half a year later, my nephew acted distressed and weird, and started accusing me of stealing his stuff. He had to paw through every box I removed, but none of his stuff was in it.

Then he started accusing me of stealing a book of his that he couldn't find. A stupid, little, worthless book! I told him I didn't take it, but he kept insisting I did. I told him that someone had put books that were on shelves in the living room into the basement, and it was probably there. No, he kept insisting I stole it, and he was telling his mother and everyone I stole his book. For months, he kept bitching at me about stealing his book, and when I asked him if he looked in the basement, he claimed he had, and it wasn't there.

A few months ago, I looked around in the basement and found his book. Vindicated with proof, and does anyone even imagine that the very next thing I said to him was that I found his book in the basement where I said it probably was? His reaction was surprising. He just shrugged and said "oh". There was no apology for slandering me.

I am currently sleeping on my sister's couch and planning to go homeless, since I can't find a job. While I had a very wretched, minimum wage job, which didn't pay me enough to find a place of my own, and which was most of last year, I paid my sister $240.00 per month, a third of the rent, to sleep on the couch, and all along, I did most of the housework.

So now I can't pay rent, as I sort out my stuff and try to figure out what I need and what I can carry when I go. I'm still buying my own food and doing most of the house work, and trying not to impose on my sister. I never asked for compensation for the $5000.00 in materials I spent on her house, or any compensation for the thousands of hours of very exhausting and dirty labor on her house.

Yet, after I lost my job, my nephew showed up and started telling me to get a job and contribute. He was talking like the big, swinging dick and lord of the manner, and saying that everyone takes advantage of his mother and I was being a freeloader. Did I need to remind him that he didn't own the whole house he was living in for free? He was the only person present who was still taking advantage of his mother, as he had for many years, while destroying her house.

He was impervious to logic and reason. Nothing I said to him even registered. He just rocked back in his chair, grinning at me, rubbing his fingers together, and saying I had to pay cash.

He really seemed to be acting like his mother's pimp.

Last weekend, we had another argument when I found out he had been telling lies about the book. He had been telling everyone he found the book in a box that I was trying to sneak out of the house with, and he cleverly contrived to ask me about it, and I then reluctantly confessed that I found it. My sister apparently even believed the fabrication. She is not that stupid.

We got in another argument and he recounted his completely delusional version of events. He claimed I had just up and disappeared without telling anyone, and that I had assured him that I would take care of the house and everything. It was completely strange and delusional. I now believe he is a completely deranged psychopath. Something is very very wrong with his brain. Too much drugs? Too much booze? I don't know. Maybe he is simply evil. I have observed that he likes to gaslight people - just about everyone. It is no wonder that his roommate left all of a sudden without notice, at a time when he kept telling me I could kick out his roommate. I had to keep telling him I didn't want to kick out his roommate, and that I liked him. He was a cool guy. His roommate never told me he was leaving, but he left behind many clues and messages that he thought my nephew was evil - really and genuinely evil.

I want to get as far away from that incestuous band of lunatics as I can.

If things are as bad in other families - it is getting very bad.

Excellent post OP. Please stay here and let's chat.

For one thing, the globalists are the problem. They will push their agenda even if it means WW3. I will not submit and neither should you. I was in a similar situation a few years back -- married, kids, 9-5 job, providing a lavish life.

Wife and I decided to sell our expensive home in NJ and move to Florida. BEST decision ever. First, we made out bandits on the house sale we managed to sell in 2011 when both of us lost our jobs. We could buy 4 homes in Florida for what we sold our house for in NJ. Second, property taxes are 1/4th what they were in NJ.

Now, we work less and spend more time with the kids and we love life. Until the day comes when the globalists take over, we're going to live the good life. Salt Life.

Sometimes just researching that expat life and watching lots of you tubes and doing lots of reading can change or lighten the mindset - just planting the seed there are options.

Today I am looking at Viet Nam - in the past I looked at Uruguay - now - none if it might happen but something about looking - watching youtubes about their food markets, for example yesterday I watched people eating Pho in Viet Nam - and street vendor videos from Cambodia.

Sometime just LOOKING, emerging a view in an outside culture helps for a little bit. Reading is also good for the brain - you know old fashioned turn the page stuff - go to the library look at and feel some books -

Small things like this can make the brain focus on something besides the over pressuring trap of how it seems the world works right now in your reality - the messages you tell yourself, the culture that brain washes you - go look at - occupy your brain with something different -

Its eye opening.

I'm here brother. I travel around networks as a consultant. I spent some time as a kid in Florida, on the treasure coast. What part are you in? I would love to move. I live in the midwest rust belt and people are very beat down. We stayed for my wife's family, whom have all slowly died of cancer, with one still fighting. Perhaps soon I will be able to get out. How is the job market there?

Middle aged IT worker. I see the bad in everything. I see the lies and boogeymen people create to elevate themselves to hero status. Its the marvelization of society. If you can make demographic X evil that equates yourself to hero status. Everyone is practicing it now. Everything is so fucked up now. Im not seeing the point to being miserable anymore. At work I'm chasing an ever smaller piece of pie. You pretty much have to become a pathological liar to advance in corporate America. A fair days wage for a days work was probably always a lie too. Wife's head is buried in TV fantasy soap operas. Somehow its my responsibility to provide a lavish lifestyle even though she's more educated. That's the hoot about American education right now. Women have all these opportunities to become over-educated and no social pressure to do anything with them. Got a doctorate, then start pumping out kids. just finished med school, you deserve a man to take care of you. Its fucked because I don't know one relationship that has survived the woman being the primary bread winner. If your a man and your wife makes more than you. You're looked down upon. period. even if its behind your back.

Im so tired. i don't know ho much longer im hanging in there. Not any time soon, not going to let the dog down. But i'm not going to grow old in this country. I see the hate in these kids eyes. It's going to be much worse here in 10+ years. The globalists have been playing the long game for decades. America will be like that torched restaurant in Goodfellas. They were signing away our futures with their right hand while waiving a flag in the left. always remember nobility largely only exists in fiction. Its the lie that propels society forward.

Nephew is a classic sociopath. Sever all ties and never look back.
I had to do it with my big brother 15 years ago. The horror stories top yours by a 10 fold.
Life has never been better.

THIS IS WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT!!!
Make a CHANGE!!!

Even if you have to ride a grey hound bus to do it.
If you are church person - show up - ask for help if you need it - be willing to do anything - be willing to get dirty and work physically if you have to.

BUT MAKE A CHANGE.

If we are the generation alive when Jesus returns then it is a bitter sweet. I pray you find peace in understanding this is not our home and we are not alone. Everyone I know is being drug through the fire so give all to God ,He helps me each day.

Let go...

I understand where you are coming from, it's not worth it.
Take the dog, simplify your life, spend time in nature.

They are going to destroy Earth no matter what, might as well live a carefree life and enjoy some moments before this game is over.

Fuck society, fuck the rat race, fuck the game.

I agree with you, but I believe people are far too self absorbed to even realize what's really going on. I'm at the point that I don't care and welcome war. Something has to happen to affect change.

The USA is over. Our so called government has turned into a self serving dictatorship and clearly doesn't care about the tax paying individuals who support them financially.

I've had enough. I too am a middle aged IT worker and see what's happening very clearly. I don't want to be a part of what's going on. I don't want to contribute my life time and personal resources any longer. It's simply not worth it.

Fat chance of that. Families will be divided.

I get in arguments with my nephew, who is some kind of psychotic weasel. I have always been very generous with him and his sisters since they were small.

A few yeast ago, he was an adult man living in his mother's house, after she had moved out. Living for free, and mostly unemployed.

He ran the house into the ground. Every inch of it was caked with filth and filled with more flies than you can imagine. Almost all of the windows were broken and the doors were falling off their hinges. Water from the pipes was leaking into the dank, and musty basement, which was full of wet clothes on the floor and all sorts of garbage. The bathroom was filthy and completely trashed, with a broken sink and a rotten hole, more than a foot wide right in front of the toilet. The house should have been condemned.

At my own expense, nearly five thousand dollars, and thousands of hours of labor, I managed to clean the house, fix the bathroom, the leaky pipes, the windows including installing new storm windows, the yard, demolish and rebuild the front porch, and a host of other things, too numerous to mention.

Before I left, I let him have a lot of my stuff, including an expensive stereo system, and a large flat-screen TV, among other things like tools, leather jackets, a table saw, etc.

While I was working on the house, he offered no help, and I was constantly having to clean up after him and his parties. He spent most of his time drunk and stoned. He never even thanked me, and started crying about me paying rent. In a rotten little house that couldn't even legally be rented, where I slept in a large closet sized room in the back while he slept in the master bedroom, I paid him $200.00 per month, but I would have preferred to use the money for materials. I had to quit working when I ran out of money for materials, and I spent the next for months sorting through my stuff, and selling what I couldn't take with me.

Everyone knew for all those months that I was planning to leave, and packing and repacking my car to see how much I could bring with me. I had to leave some things that I couldn't bring with, so I packed them in boxes, ready for shipping, and I told my nephew that I would either send for them when I got a place, or return and pick them up.

When I returned half a year later, my nephew acted distressed and weird, and started accusing me of stealing his stuff. He had to paw through every box I removed, but none of his stuff was in it.

Then he started accusing me of stealing a book of his that he couldn't find. A stupid, little, worthless book! I told him I didn't take it, but he kept insisting I did. I told him that someone had put books that were on shelves in the living room into the basement, and it was probably there. No, he kept insisting I stole it, and he was telling his mother and everyone I stole his book. For months, he kept bitching at me about stealing his book, and when I asked him if he looked in the basement, he claimed he had, and it wasn't there.

A few months ago, I looked around in the basement and found his book. Vindicated with proof, and does anyone even imagine that the very next thing I said to him was that I found his book in the basement where I said it probably was? His reaction was surprising. He just shrugged and said "oh". There was no apology for slandering me.

I am currently sleeping on my sister's couch and planning to go homeless, since I can't find a job. While I had a very wretched, minimum wage job, which didn't pay me enough to find a place of my own, and which was most of last year, I paid my sister $240.00 per month, a third of the rent, to sleep on the couch, and all along, I did most of the housework.

So now I can't pay rent, as I sort out my stuff and try to figure out what I need and what I can carry when I go. I'm still buying my own food and doing most of the house work, and trying not to impose on my sister. I never asked for compensation for the $5000.00 in materials I spent on her house, or any compensation for the thousands of hours of very exhausting and dirty labor on her house.

Yet, after I lost my job, my nephew showed up and started telling me to get a job and contribute. He was talking like the big, swinging dick and lord of the manner, and saying that everyone takes advantage of his mother and I was being a freeloader. Did I need to remind him that he didn't own the whole house he was living in for free? He was the only person present who was still taking advantage of his mother, as he had for many years, while destroying her house.

He was impervious to logic and reason. Nothing I said to him even registered. He just rocked back in his chair, grinning at me, rubbing his fingers together, and saying I had to pay cash.

He really seemed to be acting like his mother's pimp.

Last weekend, we had another argument when I found out he had been telling lies about the book. He had been telling everyone he found the book in a box that I was trying to sneak out of the house with, and he cleverly contrived to ask me about it, and I then reluctantly confessed that I found it. My sister apparently even believed the fabrication. She is not that stupid.

We got in another argument and he recounted his completely delusional version of events. He claimed I had just up and disappeared without telling anyone, and that I had assured him that I would take care of the house and everything. It was completely strange and delusional. I now believe he is a completely deranged psychopath. Something is very very wrong with his brain. Too much drugs? Too much booze? I don't know. Maybe he is simply evil. I have observed that he likes to gaslight people - just about everyone. It is no wonder that his roommate left all of a sudden without notice, at a time when he kept telling me I could kick out his roommate. I had to keep telling him I didn't want to kick out his roommate, and that I liked him. He was a cool guy. His roommate never told me he was leaving, but he left behind many clues and messages that he thought my nephew was evil - really and genuinely evil.

I want to get as far away from that incestuous band of lunatics as I can.

If things are as bad in other families - it is getting very bad.

Middle aged IT worker. I see the bad in everything. I see the lies and boogeymen people create to elevate themselves to hero status. Its the marvelization of society. If you can make demographic X evil that equates yourself to hero status. Everyone is practicing it now. Everything is so fucked up now. Im not seeing the point to being miserable anymore. At work I'm chasing an ever smaller piece of pie. You pretty much have to become a pathological liar to advance in corporate America. A fair days wage for a days work was probably always a lie too. Wife's head is buried in TV fantasy soap operas. Somehow its my responsibility to provide a lavish lifestyle even though she's more educated. That's the hoot about American education right now. Women have all these opportunities to become over-educated and no social pressure to do anything with them. Got a doctorate, then start pumping out kids. just finished med school, you deserve a man to take care of you. Its fucked because I don't know one relationship that has survived the woman being the primary bread winner. If your a man and your wife makes more than you. You're looked down upon. period. even if its behind your back.

Im so tired. i don't know ho much longer im hanging in there. Not any time soon, not going to let the dog down. But i'm not going to grow old in this country. I see the hate in these kids eyes. It's going to be much worse here in 10+ years. The globalists have been playing the long game for decades. America will be like that torched restaurant in Goodfellas. They were signing away our futures with their right hand while waiving a flag in the left. always remember nobility largely only exists in fiction. Its the lie that propels society forward.

Middle aged IT worker. I see the bad in everything. I see the lies and boogeymen people create to elevate themselves to hero status. Its the marvelization of society. If you can make demographic X evil that equates yourself to hero status. Everyone is practicing it now. Everything is so fucked up now. Im not seeing the point to being miserable anymore. At work I'm chasing an ever smaller piece of pie. You pretty much have to become a pathological liar to advance in corporate America. A fair days wage for a days work was probably always a lie too. Wife's head is buried in TV fantasy soap operas. Somehow its my responsibility to provide a lavish lifestyle even though she's more educated. That's the hoot about American education right now. Women have all these opportunities to become over-educated and no social pressure to do anything with them. Got a doctorate, then start pumping out kids. just finished med school, you deserve a man to take care of you. Its fucked because I don't know one relationship that has survived the woman being the primary bread winner. If your a man and your wife makes more than you. You're looked down upon. period. even if its behind your back.

Im so tired. i don't know ho much longer im hanging in there. Not any time soon, not going to let the dog down. But i'm not going to grow old in this country. I see the hate in these kids eyes. It's going to be much worse here in 10+ years. The globalists have been playing the long game for decades. America will be like that torched restaurant in Goodfellas. They were signing away our futures with their right hand while waiving a flag in the left. always remember nobility largely only exists in fiction. Its the lie that propels society forward.

As bad as it is here in the USA, there is no place better. Your best bet is to get out of the rat race, buy a place in the country and live simply. Rediscover what is really important in this life. Rural America is still pretty nice in the big scheme of things. It doesn't sound like your wife would be on the same page, though, so I'm not sure what to suggest.

I fucked up. My wife is very controlled by her surviving family. She can't barely take a shit without phoning for permission. I'm not very close to my family, Im respectful but I had a not-great childhood. My parents were very young and selfish and once they divorced they wanted us kids to just go away. the experiment was over so to speak. But many had much worse so i don't dwell on that. Im respectful for all they did do. But im not very well respected as a leader in my wifes eyes. overall she looks to her family for guidance. Im not sure if i can fix that or if i even have the willing energy at this point. I feel very much like a single parent a lot. i do agree i need to fix it. Its rough when your barely holding on.

^^^ Ok - I understand. Try not to ruminate on this. Sometimes we make uniformed decisions when we are young - or we do not have the real picture of the circumstances. You might have even felt that relationship your wife had with her family was refreshing coming from a less defined family of upbringing. Only now you see it for what it is - a prison.

She is wrong by the way to put them first and be codependent and controlled. I think its a kind of sickness. I am not religious per say but even the Bible talks about how it is supposed to go when we marry. The first step should be that it is ADULTS getting married that are not still functioning in some kind of long line of generational curse that won't allow maturity to come along.

You should grasp the hand of your partner when you wed and basically start your own journey as a couple. This just doesn't happen, and we are not really set up as a culture to nurture that.

Instead you have a big constructed mess of situation - and then we have a culture that now builds a financial trap around us - its a fucking mess.

So - try not to dispare too much now since you allude to being a single parent there are children in this situation. They come first. But there will be a time and years will pass - so in the mean time - escape to those youtube videos and researching options and make a plan like you are leaving the "Old Country" and going to a new land - make plan A and plan B - and chart a course - even if it is dreams and wishful thinking stuff it can plant a seed of hope that gets you through these darker times.

"there is no place better"



I got a laugh out of that.

I think you're right. I am feeling so dissappointed in Trump.
I do not want anymore wars.

Middle aged IT worker. I see the bad in everything. I see the lies and boogeymen people create to elevate themselves to hero status. Its the marvelization of society. If you can make demographic X evil that equates yourself to hero status. Everyone is practicing it now. Everything is so fucked up now. Im not seeing the point to being miserable anymore. At work I'm chasing an ever smaller piece of pie. You pretty much have to become a pathological liar to advance in corporate America. A fair days wage for a days work was probably always a lie too. Wife's head is buried in TV fantasy soap operas. Somehow its my responsibility to provide a lavish lifestyle even though she's more educated. That's the hoot about American education right now. Women have all these opportunities to become over-educated and no social pressure to do anything with them. Got a doctorate, then start pumping out kids. just finished med school, you deserve a man to take care of you. Its fucked because I don't know one relationship that has survived the woman being the primary bread winner. If your a man and your wife makes more than you. You're looked down upon. period. even if its behind your back.

Im so tired. i don't know ho much longer im hanging in there. Not any time soon, not going to let the dog down. But i'm not going to grow old in this country. I see the hate in these kids eyes. It's going to be much worse here in 10+ years. The globalists have been playing the long game for decades. America will be like that torched restaurant in Goodfellas. They were signing away our futures with their right hand while waiving a flag in the left. always remember nobility largely only exists in fiction. Its the lie that propels society forward.

Start a blog, become a writer. You have some good insights into life in this crazy country.

Move to gated community and chill.