Sounds like you guys just married and date shitty chicks with nothing going for themselves. My wife is a physicians assistant. Makes about 150k/yr, great benefits, pays my insurance. I own my business so that's huge. I make about 60k/yr and do what I love. And she always supported me. I have a lot of free time and she works hard. I manage the money also and she cleans, we both cook. We have "Mom" jobs and "dad" jobs around the house.
Get an educated woman you love and you won't complain like this. If we ever did divorce I'm pretty sure I would make out better.