I daydream a lot about women and relationships; I am a loner. Is this healthy?

It's a normal psychological process. It can be beneficial if you are unconsciously using it to think out and rehearse what you should do. The time to worry about it is if it acts as a substitute that makes you less motivated to actually work toward finding a real relationship.

I am not in a relationship, have not been in one in nearly 20 years. I find myself every day immersed in daydreams of romantic relationships. Am I psychotic? I cannot stop doing it as it fills in that void of loneliness in me :-(

I was divorced at age 55 from my wife of 20 years. She said that she could not bear the liability of me being an entrepreneur. In other words, she was totally NOT supportive of my plan to be my own boss.

So, I found myself single again. I tried dating, but it seemed pointless. Nice women and fun, but I was not in love with any of them.

I poured myself into my new company. I worked long hours seven days a week. I gave up parties, clubs, restaurants, movies, the gym, etc. Just work.

Over time, I also began to fantasize about meeting a new love. I daydreamed that she would be a younger woman, probably a Latina immigrant. I always thought Latinas were the most beautiful group of women in the world.

I used to tell people I could only marry a woman who loved the smell of garlic and onions because I cooked Asian and Indian food all the time.

I concentrated on being a better person. Kinder, more at peace, friendly to all, dedicated to my kids and my disabled sister.

One day, my Office Manager told me, "Maria (not her real name), the delivery driver for our biggest customer, is interested in you". I did not believe it. She was about 20 years younger, a beautiful Latina.

But, I asked her out on a date anyway.

We had three dates.

I proposed. We kissed for the first time.

A bolt of lightning hit my heart. I felt like I was 12 years old in puppy love for the first time.

We got married less than a week later.

It has been the happiest four years of my life. She is INCREDIBLE in every way.

I am truly blessed by the Almighty. I don't deserve it, but I gladly accept it.

So, concentrate on being a better you. Perhaps the Almighty will bring the One to you.

Good luck, my friend.

You just need to get out more mate. become more social, maybe join some groups/organisations within your area based on hobbies or volunteer a little time etc?

Anyway i think most people do or have done this daydream thing at some point, consider it practice ... but dont forget to include the fights lol.

Good luck man and if you feel suicidal you should really talk to someone even if just family or a good friend

not "patriotic black dude"!

come on now, I expect better from you. often like your threads.

but this one is pathetic and sad.

and belies a person who is out of touch with reality, which must include God, imo, for it to be happy.

once you know Jesus Christ and God's plan, a woman will be secondary to that and these kinds of thoughts (suicide!?) will evaporate…

then you will stop putting out sad low energy and attract the right person, ideally someone beautiful inside and out, who believes in commitment to one man, who wants to have children with you and love you…this person is easier to find in a Christian environment, imo…

Lord, please bless the Patriotic Black Dude of GLP, in Jesus's name, amen!

TAURUS

Jesus is not right for everyone. There are other paths. I had someone pray for me to get laid and it took forever, and finally I just did it with a hooker.

i had to resort to the hooker option. not fulfilling. no connection. the more i am going through these tough life situation the more I realize that God is not real or indifferent and what we are sold by the churches is lies.

Going through a similar situation right now, op.

Things happen in life and in the end it's about those times that you ponder that mean the most.

For some, it's taken for granted.

I got sick. Used goods. Baggage...a liability.

It's those who want it the most that get it the least.

Don't loan the $. Just give freely. It will attract the ladies.

thanks for the support and advice.

I was divorced at age 55 from my wife of 20 years. She said that she could not bear the liability of me being an entrepreneur. In other words, she was totally NOT supportive of my plan to be my own boss.

So, I found myself single again. I tried dating, but it seemed pointless. Nice women and fun, but I was not in love with any of them.

I poured myself into my new company. I worked long hours seven days a week. I gave up parties, clubs, restaurants, movies, the gym, etc. Just work.

Over time, I also began to fantasize about meeting a new love. I daydreamed that she would be a younger woman, probably a Latina immigrant. I always thought Latinas were the most beautiful group of women in the world.

I used to tell people I could only marry a woman who loved the smell of garlic and onions because I cooked Asian and Indian food all the time.

I concentrated on being a better person. Kinder, more at peace, friendly to all, dedicated to my kids and my disabled sister.

One day, my Office Manager told me, "Maria (not her real name), the delivery driver for our biggest customer, is interested in you". I did not believe it. She was about 20 years younger, a beautiful Latina.

But, I asked her out on a date anyway.

We had three dates.

I proposed. We kissed for the first time.

A bolt of lightning hit my heart. I felt like I was 12 years old in puppy love for the first time.

We got married less than a week later.

It has been the happiest four years of my life. She is INCREDIBLE in every way.

I am truly blessed by the Almighty. I don't deserve it, but I gladly accept it.

So, concentrate on being a better you. Perhaps the Almighty will bring the One to you.

Good luck, my friend.

I am not in a relationship, have not been in one in nearly 20 years. I find myself every day immersed in daydreams of romantic relationships. Am I psychotic? I cannot stop doing it as it fills in that void of loneliness in me :-(

beats daydreaming about killing yourself thats for sure.

Do you have any hobbies?

thanks for the support and advice.

beats daydreaming about killing yourself thats for sure.

oh you'll meet one and then
you'll have something to
cry about

Hit up POF, lots of lonely chicks there.