Wife nervous as i prepare to sleep with another woman

Because this guy is always there and i said to her, you know what's the deal with this dude? she says oh he's just one of her bitches that she can chat to about bullshit and they are just good friends but then she left out that part about sleeping once with him until recently. I felt like if i do not get my revenge and stick to it she will think i am a walkover and she can bang any of the male friends whenever she wants without consequence

so from now on any type of sexual moves or flirtation with any of the male friends and i will go out and sleep with a fresh woman for each time she does it.

Fair or not?

how can you get even when she did him before you were together?

must be trolling cuz that doesnt even make sense

so now youre going to ruin your marriage because she had sex with someone before you were together?

You know, you two were not married when your then g/f stepped out.

That may have been messed up in retrospect.

In fact, it may be much more of a transgression (sleeping with a new gal after you have tied the knot.)

You can be a better man than that.

She did not break her marriage vows when she was with the other guy.

Think long and hard before you take the action you are speaking of.

Be confident in your strength and the strength of the union you and your wife now share.

The past is gone &
Vengeance is a double edged sword.

My wife recently confessed that she'd fucked one of her male best friends before we were together. She said it was just a one-off fling 6 years ago and they have been friends for 12 years with nothing else sexual happening....

I said well i'm not going to leave you but you know what i am going to do is find another woman to sleep with so i can even the score kind of thing. She agreed at the time but now it's the time for me to meet this woman tomorrow and bring her home while my wife stops at her friends and now my wife is putting up some resistance saying she's nervous and what if i decide i 'like her better' or want to stay with her instead etc. I assured her it will be just a fling, just sex like you had with your male friend but still she is fussing asking what sheets will be on the bed, will she stay the night after the sex and stuff.

I never interrogated her about the male friend (who is still very much around and part of her life by the way) now i feel like i am answering questions and dealing with too much stress about this....

your suggestions?

"before we were together"

What kind of a man are you that you can't handle that? Sounds like you have issues, and it's not her fault. She'd be better off without you.

My wife recently confessed that she'd fucked one of her male best friends before we were together. She said it was just a one-off fling 6 years ago and they have been friends for 12 years with nothing else sexual happening....

I said well i'm not going to leave you but you know what i am going to do is find another woman to sleep with so i can even the score kind of thing. She agreed at the time but now it's the time for me to meet this woman tomorrow and bring her home while my wife stops at her friends and now my wife is putting up some resistance saying she's nervous and what if i decide i 'like her better' or want to stay with her instead etc. I assured her it will be just a fling, just sex like you had with your male friend but still she is fussing asking what sheets will be on the bed, will she stay the night after the sex and stuff.

I never interrogated her about the male friend (who is still very much around and part of her life by the way) now i feel like i am answering questions and dealing with too much stress about this....

your suggestions?

"before we were together"

What kind of a man are you that you can't handle that? Sounds like you have issues, and it's not her fault. She'd be better off without you.

My wife recently confessed that she'd fucked one of her male best friends before we were together. She said it was just a one-off fling 6 years ago and they have been friends for 12 years with nothing else sexual happening....

I said well i'm not going to leave you but you know what i am going to do is find another woman to sleep with so i can even the score kind of thing. She agreed at the time but now it's the time for me to meet this woman tomorrow and bring her home while my wife stops at her friends and now my wife is putting up some resistance saying she's nervous and what if i decide i 'like her better' or want to stay with her instead etc. I assured her it will be just a fling, just sex like you had with your male friend but still she is fussing asking what sheets will be on the bed, will she stay the night after the sex and stuff.

I never interrogated her about the male friend (who is still very much around and part of her life by the way) now i feel like i am answering questions and dealing with too much stress about this....

your suggestions?

Just sleep with this guy too - you know you want to.

Then you'll be even.

Now

Because the guy is STILL AROUND Constantly. He comes over to the house for tea and dinner about 3 fucking times a week. It's like they are rubbing it in my face. I can't stand for that.

I believe my husband slept with an old girlfriend shortly after we were married. I let it go and would have Never Ever onsidered sleeping with another man...EVER. I believe he was faithful thru out the marriage. But I don't know. And I don't care.

BTW, I don't believe you OP.

To be fair to the OP, ladies, keeping a guy in your life that you previously had sex with, without being honest with your husband, is a really shitty thing to do.