This time the thread is NOT about sex. (Surprise topic that could alter your life in a stunningly positive fashion quickly and easily)

You're about to discover a simple way to have more love, joy, happiness, gratitude and kindness in your life regardless of how bad your life might have been up to this point.

Before we start, first let me say that when a previous edition of this thread was posted folks got sidetracked into discussing their peak sexual experiences.

This thread is NOT about sex. It's about using the most profound positive experience you've ever had in your life to transform the negative tapes that are probably interfering with your life right this second.

For most people who have had children, it just so happens that they will say their most profound positive memory was the first time they held their newborn.

But your peak memory could be anything. Maybe it was a making love to someone. There's nothing wrong with that. The key here is that you identify your most profound experience.

It's useful to talk about the impact of holding a new born baby to illustrate what I mean.

It just so happens that if you were to ask 100 people to recall the most wonderful moment of their lives, a good number, and probably most, will recall the moment they held their child for the first time as their very best memory in their entire life.

I'm basing this conclusion on being in a room with a lot of people who were asked to identify their best memory. Sure enough, holding their infant child for the first time was #1 on the list of most people.

Why is it that for probably 90% of those who have had children, they would answer with the same moment being at or near the top?

Because for most of us a newborn baby emanates peace and love in its pure state more so than any other experience we might have.

This technique you're about to discover is not a religious practice, but those qualities of peace and love are qualities of God and the Christ which is why peaceful loving moments resonate in us so strongly. If you haven't had the experience of holding your newborn baby yet, nothing prepares you for it.

Sorry, now let's get to the real topic...It's kind of funny in a not so funny way that we often choose to hold memories that don't remind us of love and peace instead of focusing on profoundly positive memories, such as our memories of holding our newborns, as an example.

Few of us run constant tapes in our heads of that amazing moment, whatever that moment was for you. But we will run negative tapes in our heads nearly 24/7. Is it any wonder that our lives - include me in this habit - fall short of our desires when we do that?

Those unhappy memories are things from our past and we give life to their negative aspects when we focus on them. They literally make us feel bad.

Is it any wonder that we suffer mentally and emotionally when we do that - when we let past negative memories come back to life even though they only exist in our minds? The actual negative moment is gone. Whatever it was is not happening now other than inside us.

It might have been an argument. Or maybe someone screwed us over royally, or even hurt us physically. It happened 5 minutes ago or 50 years ago, yet we relive it. For what purpose?

The problem has been that although we understand that it is better to focus on the positive, it's just as likely no one has shown you an easy way to change the pattern. Up until now, changing those negative tapes for profoundly positive ones has been incredibly difficult to do.

That difficulty is about to change for you in the next 60 seconds or so.

Whatever your best memory is, whenever you feel something that is bothering you, focus on it right now. Amplify how it makes you feel bad. That's right, instead of denying the negative feeling, make it more pronounced whether it be a physical pain or a mental/emotional one.

Once you've got that image or feeling fully present as much as you can, ask yourself a "Why" question such as, "Why do I love letting go of my pain/suffering/traumatic memory, etc?"

This will give your mind something to do. Your mind will go on a sort of Google search to find an answer. Be sure to use the format "Why do I love...?" It's not important that your mind finds the answer. We just want to put your brain in search mode. Our brains love to "figure things out."

Our brains aren't so great at resolving our negative emotions, however, so we want to give our brain something to preoccupy it so that it doesn't get in the way. Your brain will be happy with the assignment and will contribute to the process in its own timing.

If by chance your negative memory is some bonehead or terrible thing you've done - everyone has those moments - you could phrase your question this way: "Why do I love forgiving myself for...?" Those moments can be the toughest challenges we have, and they can severely impact our daily experiences even if we aren't thinking about them.

After you've asked yourself the "Why do I love...?" question, move to your embellished negative memory with our fondest one. Amplify it. Embellish it. Make it as wonderful as you can.

If you have a special memory of your newborn, you get the added bonus of tapping into pure love and peace.

When you recall this memory - whatever it might be - don't just be an observer in the place where it happened. Put yourself right in the middle of it. Feel your baby in your hands if that is what your best memory is. Amplify the joy you feel.

The next step is to go check back on how the negative tape looks. It might have changed a little but it's still there. Keep cycling the same four step process, only this time you don't need to amplify the negative, just observe what is left each time.

When you repeat the positive experience in your heart and mind, continue to embellish the experience to an even grander level.

You might think this is cheating. LOL But it is guaranteed that you have already embellished your negative tapes for years or decades! We do that, don't we! We take our stinking experiences in life and make them worse in our minds when we replay the movies we have made about them.

You repeat this four step process until your negative tape has turned into a "nothing burger" of neutrality or until you actually 'see' the negative movie in a new light. Don't stop in the middle of this process any more than you'd stop in the middle of performing surgery.

It might be that everyone in your remade emotional movie is happy, smiling and loving towards you and you are doing the same with them. It is perfectly fine to redo the movie because you're not changing what actually happened. What you are doing is changing the "movie" you've made about your bad experience in your head and heart.

Here are the steps once again...

1. Embellish our negative mental/emotional tapes

2. Ask "Why do I love...?"

3. Embellish our most profound experience

4. Repeat until the negative tape is either totally neutral or even profoundly positive. Do not embellish this tape after the first cycle except with positive images.

Do this often. You can do this many times a day if different issues. It can work wonders for you. Soon you'll be able to go through the steps in mere seconds.

No one needs to know you're even doing it. You can use this technique in the middle of an argument or when you're stressed out in backed up traffic with your children fighting in the back seat! It's amazing what can happen if you do that.

You do not have to recall the actual negative event. You might not even have any memory of it. You're simply working with the pain or hurt feelings you presently have. It could be a stiff neck for example.

I've done this exercise to overcome a violent beating I experienced as a one-year-old child by a nanny that left me with a broken collar bone and a broken back bone.

This technique is so powerful that I now see the perpetrator as smiling at me instead with the dearest love in her eyes. In my present day memory, she loves interacting with me now.

What was the result of shifting this memory? Prior to this exercise, for the last two years I have had to drag my left leg out of the bathtub after showering. Now my left leg clears the side of the tub without touching the side.

I'm walking a little better, too. There is less pain when walking.

What will your result be? There is no limit. And the worst thing that can happen is that you will be recalling the best moment in your life several times a day. Why not do that!

If you like this idea, bump it so that others can be exposed to this technique as well.