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I need DUDE HELP -- Wife is Divorcing Me -- About to binge listen to Nine Inch Nails, while Chad likes his lips

 
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Yes she did.
Don't be a fuxking idiot , they don't leave till they have other shit lined up (unless they are being abused)
Use your fucking head - stop being a dumbass.


No wonder she left you, you are a retard who is pushing the Chad psyop.

I hope she gave you herpes while she was cheating on you.
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She didn't cheat on me and hasn't.

But, I think after we split, she could snag a Chad, at least for a night or two. However she couldn't get him long term.
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I know. It wouldn't be like her, but then who the fuk knows right? Might be.
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Hang in there, it will get better in time. Like others have said, focus on your kids and then yourself. Don't rush into a new relationship, just enjoy some time to yourself. Take up a new hobby, or an old one that she made you give up.

And never let her see you miserable, nothing aggravates a woman more than knowing you got over her. Yeah she will ride the cock carousel for a while but guess what, they won't stay for long. Nobody wants to help raise another mans children.

She will find out that the grass she thought was greener, really was over the septic tank.
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My question is, who the hell is going to want a 40-something person thats got five boys?
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Jebus what the F were you thinking having 5 flipping kids?

My god.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 51056313


I know, I know.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 71473722

After reading through your other thread, something doesn't add up with you. You don't say things that a father of 5 boys (I didn't see that info on the other) would say. Normally you would have talked about them ahead of her. You don't sound mature enough, are they really yours? Or did you take on someone else's?
Sorry if I missed the details in this or the previous thread.
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She hasn't and isn't going to turn them against me. She wants me to be an involved parent.

Dealing with five kids all the time, you want a break and shen eeds that break from me. We already agreed on the details with the kids. So that's all fine.
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My question is, who the hell is going to want a 40-something person thats got five boys?
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Jebus what the F were you thinking having 5 flipping kids?

My god.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 51056313


I know, I know.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 71473722

After reading through your other thread, something doesn't add up with you. You don't say things that a father of 5 boys (I didn't see that info on the other) would say. Normally you would have talked about them ahead of her. You don't sound mature enough, are they really yours? Or did you take on someone else's?
Sorry if I missed the details in this or the previous thread.
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So you're an Alpha looking to hand off your work to a wealthier Beta or what? Or your not sure if they're really yours?
whatever

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She wants me to be an involved parent.

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Just so you will babysit while she is out getting laid. Sorry but that's the absolute truth.
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Jebus what the F were you thinking having 5 flipping kids?

My god.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 51056313


I know, I know.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 71473722

After reading through your other thread, something doesn't add up with you. You don't say things that a father of 5 boys (I didn't see that info on the other) would say. Normally you would have talked about them ahead of her. You don't sound mature enough, are they really yours? Or did you take on someone else's?
Sorry if I missed the details in this or the previous thread.
 Quoting: hillbilly


She hasn't and isn't going to turn them against me. She wants me to be an involved parent.

Dealing with five kids all the time, you want a break and shen eeds that break from me. We already agreed on the details with the kids. So that's all fine.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 71473722

So you've already agreed to this and planned it in detail.

Even though it was killing you.

Probably because you care for her. "If you love her, let her go." What total brainwashing.

You've gone pretty far down the road now, I am not really sure how to recover. You should have come here earlier.

If she wants a break from you, she can take a vacation without you. That's how you do that, not divorce just to take a break.

And flirting with another guy in front of you isn't taking a break but something totally different.

Good luck.
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Its good that she divorces your little pathetic ass. I couldnt stand it when the 5 boys would become such a loser like their dad. It will be a good lesson to them and teach them to never submit to a womans will and be a little pathetic beta cuck. Enjoy your pain you deserve every minute of it.
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whatever dude.

You must have never had a long-term relationship.

And if you did, you probably had some woman who was abused as a child and accepted yours.
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Get the kids and demand alimony from her. Then when it's all settled make sure the kids know that she didn't love them. Plant every vile, negative seed of hate into your children for their mother. Then, sit back and watch her crash and burn her life into the ground.

If you were the bread winner as you said, she's going to have a stark fucking reality... like 15 years of no credit. She'll be cut off at the tit and how credit history. She'll be worse off than whatever she though she was with you.
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She wants me to be an involved parent.

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Just so you will babysit while she is out getting laid. Sorry but that's the absolute truth.
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Yeah OP is either lying or has an urgent need to take a step back and recover his balls that he pledged to her when they married.
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Get the kids and demand alimony from her. Then when it's all settled make sure the kids know that she didn't love them. Plant every vile, negative seed of hate into your children for their mother. Then, sit back and watch her crash and burn her life into the ground.

If you were the bread winner as you said, she's going to have a stark fucking reality... like 15 years of no credit. She'll be cut off at the tit and how credit history. She'll be worse off than whatever she though she was with you.
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Or, maybe better than that, help the kids learn about what might be wrong with her. Narcissistic Personality Disorder usually fits that situation pretty well. Sam Vaknin did some nice videos you could have the kids watch, so they notice it applies to their mom.

Don't start acting narcissistic yourself. You're a man, you're not built for that and would lose that game, as well as truly losing your self respect.
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Jebus what the F were you thinking having 5 flipping kids?

My god.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 51056313


I know, I know.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 71473722

After reading through your other thread, something doesn't add up with you. You don't say things that a father of 5 boys (I didn't see that info on the other) would say. Normally you would have talked about them ahead of her. You don't sound mature enough, are they really yours? Or did you take on someone else's?
Sorry if I missed the details in this or the previous thread.
 Quoting: hillbilly

So you're an Alpha looking to hand off your work to a wealthier Beta or what?
whatever
 Quoting: hillbilly


Well, early in I was an alpha it seemed. But after having all the kids, then the stupid Facebook, and her wannabe rich friends in the picture, it didn't matter how big my take-charge biceps were.

I could do no right in her eyes.

And we argued a lot. So I wsn't a floormat, but I felt stuck having to do most of the compromising just to settle shit down in the house.
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Tonight the wife wants us to tell the kids were divorcing.

And today I feel punched in the stomach and tempted to binge listen to Nine Inch Nails.

I dont know how Ill emotionally survive this.

Weve been married 15 years. Got kids.

All these years man, all I did was take care of her. But in arguments shed graphically tell me how much she thinks I suck. She expended more KINETIC ENERGY chewing me out than she did telling me she loved me.

And fuck, thats what I wanted, a true blue wife who loved me.

Facebook fucked everything up for us.

That and her wannabe rich friends who drove luxury cars but were in debt to their eyeballs.

This caused her to shift her perception of me from being her beloved husband to some faceless personality filling the role of husband expected to do breadwin, do most of the chores, pay the bills, and shuttle back to his backyard shed.

Making this worse is shes the only girlfriend/woman Ive ever had or been with.

We have five boys.

My question is, who the hell is going to want a 40-something person thats got five boys?

I think her friends convinced her that shell have the time of her life. I know she could get dates lined up easily if she wanted to.

For me, the thought of sitting home alone on Friday night watching my boys while shes on a date is like a knife being driven into the heart. How the fuck will I survive this?

I feel like I want to find a woman that I can experience true love with pronto.

Luckily for me, Im in shape, got some muscle, and get some female glances. But Im not a tall Chad and Im not outgoing like Chad, but Ive got wit.

Still, Im afraid of getting lost in love with another woman again. My wife years ago told me that no matter what shed never leave me or divorce me, that all she needed to be happy was me and the kids.

(Sad laugh. Takes swig of beer.)

So how the hell do I get over this?

I cant do the clubbing/bar scene to find a good woman. And I hear the dating sites are scams.

Any thoughts?

I want to voice my feelings of being disenfranchised like this and put that back at her that she promised shed never leave me. But that wouldnt be a good idea because were actually getting along much better now than we have for the past few months.

Aside from figuring out how to deal with my emotional Chernobyl, and the wasteland that is dating, should I get an apartment close by to the kids or have some distance?

(P.S. Dont mention money or legal stuff. We got that squared away.)

Thank you.
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All pain will pass. I have been through this as well 20 years ago. As soon as I saw the writing on the wall I started sleeping around and it helped tremendously. Find a young chick, they like older men!!! You will be glad you got a divorce. This could be a new beginning for you bud.
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My question is, who the hell is going to want a 40-something person thats got five boys?

I think her friends convinced her that shell have the time of her life. I know she could get dates lined up easily if she wanted to.
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If she got to this point she has most likely found someone else. Chicks at that age with kids don't make a move like this unless they are ready to implement a new plan.
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She does seem unusually happy.
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From a guy that;s been through this I will tell you your gonna hurt and hurt for quite sometime but it will pass. Try and stay strong and get your kids as much and you can and whenever you can. They being with you will help your pain. Always remember you still and will always have your children. Be there for them when they need you brother! Stay safe.
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She wants me to be an involved parent.

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Just so you will babysit while she is out getting laid. Sorry but that's the absolute truth.
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I think it is too.
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maybe she hates you because you post stupid shit to glp?

you probably talk too much in real life. try not to.
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My question is, who the hell is going to want a 40-something person thats got five boys?

I think her friends convinced her that shell have the time of her life. I know she could get dates lined up easily if she wanted to.
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If she got to this point she has most likely found someone else. Chicks at that age with kids don't make a move like this unless they are ready to implement a new plan.
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She does seem unusually happy.
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So get a PI and find out. It could get you full custody in the divorce, with her and Chad paying.
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My question is, who the hell is going to want a 40-something person thats got five boys?

I think her friends convinced her that shell have the time of her life. I know she could get dates lined up easily if she wanted to.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 71473722


If she got to this point she has most likely found someone else. Chicks at that age with kids don't make a move like this unless they are ready to implement a new plan.
 Quoting: Shamrock007


She does seem unusually happy.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 71473722


So get a PI and find out. It could get you full custody in the divorce, with her and Chad paying.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 47678081

And if you've already settled on financial terms, withdraw your agreement to that, if she's breaking her vows.

You don't owe her that at all if that is the case.
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lawyer up, now
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Its good that she divorces your little pathetic ass. I couldnt stand it when the 5 boys would become such a loser like their dad. It will be a good lesson to them and teach them to never submit to a womans will and be a little pathetic beta cuck. Enjoy your pain you deserve every minute of it.
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whatever dude.

You must have never had a long-term relationship.

And if you did, you probably had some woman who was abused as a child and accepted yours.
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I am not the one whining on a the interwebs over my fucked up relationship seeking advice from lunatics. And the idea that not bowing to a womans will is abusive is the best prove how far away your perception is from the reality. Tell me, which of these things have you done today for your wife who treads YOU like shit?
Buying something for the household?
Make the dishes?
Prepare food?
Clean something in the house?
Put away your dirty socks?
Do the laundry?
Telling her you understand her or that still love her

If you said yes only once you are fucked up beyond recognition and everything i said in my first post stands for the absolute truth.
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Tonight the wife wants us to tell the kids were divorcing.

And today I feel punched in the stomach and tempted to binge listen to Nine Inch Nails.

I dont know how Ill emotionally survive this.

Weve been married 15 years. Got kids.

All these years man, all I did was take care of her. But in arguments shed graphically tell me how much she thinks I suck. She expended more KINETIC ENERGY chewing me out than she did telling me she loved me.

And fuck, thats what I wanted, a true blue wife who loved me.

Facebook fucked everything up for us.

That and her wannabe rich friends who drove luxury cars but were in debt to their eyeballs.

This caused her to shift her perception of me from being her beloved husband to some faceless personality filling the role of husband expected to do breadwin, do most of the chores, pay the bills, and shuttle back to his backyard shed.

Making this worse is shes the only girlfriend/woman Ive ever had or been with.

We have five boys.

My question is, who the hell is going to want a 40-something person thats got five boys?

I think her friends convinced her that shell have the time of her life. I know she could get dates lined up easily if she wanted to.

For me, the thought of sitting home alone on Friday night watching my boys while shes on a date is like a knife being driven into the heart. How the fuck will I survive this?

I feel like I want to find a woman that I can experience true love with pronto.

Luckily for me, Im in shape, got some muscle, and get some female glances. But Im not a tall Chad and Im not outgoing like Chad, but Ive got wit.

Still, Im afraid of getting lost in love with another woman again. My wife years ago told me that no matter what shed never leave me or divorce me, that all she needed to be happy was me and the kids.

(Sad laugh. Takes swig of beer.)

So how the hell do I get over this?

I cant do the clubbing/bar scene to find a good woman. And I hear the dating sites are scams.

Any thoughts?

I want to voice my feelings of being disenfranchised like this and put that back at her that she promised shed never leave me. But that wouldnt be a good idea because were actually getting along much better now than we have for the past few months.

Aside from figuring out how to deal with my emotional Chernobyl, and the wasteland that is dating, should I get an apartment close by to the kids or have some distance?

(P.S. Dont mention money or legal stuff. We got that squared away.)

Thank you.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 71473722


She sounds like a witch. Ive seen a few of my buddies wives be influenced by "friends" to get divorced and meet new people. Best wishes OP.
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Sow pain, reap wisdom. Welcome.

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Living good is the best revenge sir. Now get to it ;)
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Get a dog and go fishing.5a
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That and her wannabe rich friends who drove luxury cars but were in debt to their eyeballs.

Hmmm... where have I heard that before?

Oh, yeah... I keep saying that about my wife. ;-)

What happened yesterday, or a year ago, or 15 years ago, is history. Cant be changed.

If it resulted in damage, say to your marriage, it may be able to be repaired. But what happened yesterday happened and can't be changed.

Wake up tomorrow and make up a new plan... if it is keeping your marriage alive, so be it. If it is moving on without your wife, so be with it.

If the plan includes sulking about what happened yesterday, you are wasting your time and not going to move forward.
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Good stuff.

But man, I spent the better part of the marriage forgiving and forgetting and I wonder if it led to a lot of this.

Me just letting stuff go. Not making her accountable you know?

At the same time, if I just got over her most recent bullshit act of flirting with that guy in front of me, maybe we could move forward.
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I did not say anything about rolling over and playing dead. It is not about 'get(ting) over' anything. What happened - happened. You can't change what she did.

If it is not acceptable to you -- then come up with a plan to rectify the situation.

Sulking about it is not going to move you forward. You have to take the emotion out of what happened and think logically. Stay sober. Think.

If flirting with another man, in front of you or not, is not acceptable to you -- Maybe the plan is to tell her that you were thinking about it -- and you did not think it was appropriate.

If she responded appropriately -- then you handle that as planned (like, wait and see if she does it again). IF she does not respond appropriately, what is the next step?

Perhaps your plan is to ask her for a second opinion -- counseling? How did she respond? Yes -- go to counseling. Did she say no? How far do you want to take it? Tell her you want a divorce?

Have a good plan... know in advance. Stick to your plan.

Getting drunk and crawling into a corner is not impressing anyone on GLP -- and not impressing your wife or kids either.

Getting mad and throwing your liquor bottle is not going to impress anyone either.
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Tonight the wife wants us to tell the kids were divorcing.

And today I feel punched in the stomach and tempted to binge listen to Nine Inch Nails.

I dont know how Ill emotionally survive this.

Weve been married 15 years. Got kids.

All these years man, all I did was take care of her. But in arguments shed graphically tell me how much she thinks I suck. She expended more KINETIC ENERGY chewing me out than she did telling me she loved me.

And fuck, thats what I wanted, a true blue wife who loved me.

Facebook fucked everything up for us.

That and her wannabe rich friends who drove luxury cars but were in debt to their eyeballs.

This caused her to shift her perception of me from being her beloved husband to some faceless personality filling the role of husband expected to do breadwin, do most of the chores, pay the bills, and shuttle back to his backyard shed.

Making this worse is shes the only girlfriend/woman Ive ever had or been with.

We have five boys.

My question is, who the hell is going to want a 40-something person thats got five boys?

I think her friends convinced her that shell have the time of her life. I know she could get dates lined up easily if she wanted to.

For me, the thought of sitting home alone on Friday night watching my boys while shes on a date is like a knife being driven into the heart. How the fuck will I survive this?

I feel like I want to find a woman that I can experience true love with pronto.

Luckily for me, Im in shape, got some muscle, and get some female glances. But Im not a tall Chad and Im not outgoing like Chad, but Ive got wit.

Still, Im afraid of getting lost in love with another woman again. My wife years ago told me that no matter what shed never leave me or divorce me, that all she needed to be happy was me and the kids.

(Sad laugh. Takes swig of beer.)

So how the hell do I get over this?

I cant do the clubbing/bar scene to find a good woman. And I hear the dating sites are scams.

Any thoughts?

I want to voice my feelings of being disenfranchised like this and put that back at her that she promised shed never leave me. But that wouldnt be a good idea because were actually getting along much better now than we have for the past few months.

Aside from figuring out how to deal with my emotional Chernobyl, and the wasteland that is dating, should I get an apartment close by to the kids or have some distance?

(P.S. Dont mention money or legal stuff. We got that squared away.)

Thank you.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 71473722


All pain will pass. I have been through this as well 20 years ago. As soon as I saw the writing on the wall I started sleeping around and it helped tremendously. Find a young chick, they like older men!!! You will be glad you got a divorce. This could be a new beginning for you bud.
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HOpe so man because I'm thinking about cracking and demanding she stop this shit. And trying to convey to her that she's going to end up brokenhearted in the end because what guy is gonna want a woman a few years away from age 50, who's got a bunch of boys.

But then, I see lots of hotties here at this restaurant. I also saw a parade fucking Chads waltz in here too and that sucked the wind out of my sails.

I mean, I can get some attention, but next to those dudes, I think my poker hand doesn't look so good.

So while she doesn't have a good set of cards due to the abovementioned, I'm not so sure I do either. Heck, I've never been down this road so hell if I know.
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07/14/2017 03:15 PM
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Re: I need DUDE HELP -- Wife is Divorcing Me -- About to binge listen to Nine Inch Nails, while Chad likes his lips
Its good that she divorces your little pathetic ass. I couldnt stand it when the 5 boys would become such a loser like their dad. It will be a good lesson to them and teach them to never submit to a womans will and be a little pathetic beta cuck. Enjoy your pain you deserve every minute of it.
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whatever dude.

You must have never had a long-term relationship.

And if you did, you probably had some woman who was abused as a child and accepted yours.
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I am not the one whining on a the interwebs over my fucked up relationship seeking advice from lunatics. And the idea that not bowing to a womans will is abusive is the best prove how far away your perception is from the reality. Tell me, which of these things have you done today for your wife who treads YOU like shit?
Buying something for the household?
Make the dishes?
Prepare food?
Clean something in the house?
Put away your dirty socks?
Do the laundry?
Telling her you understand her or that still love her

If you said yes only once you are fucked up beyond recognition and everything i said in my first post stands for the absolute truth.
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Ha, ha. Man - I do ALL that shit. That's why this is so fucked up.
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My wife years ago told me that no matter what shed never leave me or divorce me, that all she needed to be happy was me and the kids.

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And you believed.
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Its good that she divorces your little pathetic ass. I couldnt stand it when the 5 boys would become such a loser like their dad. It will be a good lesson to them and teach them to never submit to a womans will and be a little pathetic beta cuck. Enjoy your pain you deserve every minute of it.
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whatever dude.

You must have never had a long-term relationship.

And if you did, you probably had some woman who was abused as a child and accepted yours.
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I am not the one whining on a the interwebs over my fucked up relationship seeking advice from lunatics. And the idea that not bowing to a womans will is abusive is the best prove how far away your perception is from the reality. Tell me, which of these things have you done today for your wife who treads YOU like shit?
Buying something for the household?
Make the dishes?
Prepare food?
Clean something in the house?
Put away your dirty socks?
Do the laundry?
Telling her you understand her or that still love her

If you said yes only once you are fucked up beyond recognition and everything i said in my first post stands for the absolute truth.
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Ha, ha. Man - I do ALL that shit. That's why this is so fucked up.
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Rofl dude
Iam really sorry for you
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07/14/2017 03:24 PM
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no man will have a real relationship with her because of the 5 kids.
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07/14/2017 03:28 PM
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It is unbiblical for the wife to divorce the husband. Get that bitch back in line. Biblically, you are the property of God, and she is your property.

Best start owning that shit.
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That sounds good and I agree.

But you can't play that tough guy, alpha male stuff with her like this.

In the bedroom though you can. But having been called cruel names, I just don't want to worship the body of someone who'd talk to me like that.
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OP: I would NOT tell the kids there will be a divorce. As a woman, I'm telling you to FIREPROOF THIS MARRIAGE. Believe it or not, it IS salvageable. Get on Amazon and buy Fireproof the movie and book. It will be the best ten bucks you ever spent. Tell her that there will be no talk of divorce for at least 40 days. That's how long it takes to Fireproof your marriage to last forever. You will look at each other the way you used to or better. Nine inch nails is mockery against God, that is the last thing you need! Try Casting Crowns The Alter And The Door. Get humble before God and see how much better it gets. You will have 40 days to remind her of that "hippie Christian" you fell in love with! <3 Now go do it!!!


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