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I need DUDE HELP -- Wife is Divorcing Me -- About to binge listen to Nine Inch Nails, while Chad likes his lips

 
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1 - No more zero days! From the moment you're a free man on, turn up the volume. Don't waste time listening to crappy music, use that time to improve your life.

2 - Cut her out of your psyche like cancer. If you're this down and she doesn't care, then you need to break your emotional ties to her.

3 - If she is serious and it is truly over, then it's time to recognize her for what she truly is. A vessel that gave birth to your kids and nothing more.

4 - Allowing yourself to stay in a negative state of mind for any amount of time will always turn into a reinforcing circle of depression. That is her goal, don't let her have that win also.

5 - To achieve success with #4 do the following: Every time a memory of her pops up, program yourself to make that a reminder of what your main dream in life is or was. Use that reminder to get you back on task working towards it

6 - Start progress on 5 by taking that goal and identifying the main objectives or bullet points in achieving it.

7 - Take each bullet from number 6 and break those up into smaller checkpoints or "stopping points" along the path towards the next bullet

8 - Continue repeating 7 until you have about 3-5 layers worth of a list that contains the goal, objectives to reach it, hurdles to overcome to meet those objectives and a set of weekly goals.

9 - Start at the beginning of that project road map you just finished and remember no more zero days

10 - Achieve your dream, then look at where your ex-wife is and pity the bitch!

You can do it, and don't let yourself feel like you can't.
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My wife tried that "I want out" crap off and on for several years after 15 years in. Finally, I got just fed up and told her after her saying, "I want a divorce. Tomorrow." for like the 10th time, I said, "If you want out, just pack your shit and go. Just leave." She didn't.

And it hasn't happened since. Stuck a chord, I guess.
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1 - No more zero days! From the moment you're a free man on, turn up the volume. Don't waste time listening to crappy music, use that time to improve your life.

2 - Cut her out of your psyche like cancer. If you're this down and she doesn't care, then you need to break your emotional ties to her.

3 - If she is serious and it is truly over, then it's time to recognize her for what she truly is. A vessel that gave birth to your kids and nothing more.

4 - Allowing yourself to stay in a negative state of mind for any amount of time will always turn into a reinforcing circle of depression. That is her goal, don't let her have that win also.

5 - To achieve success with #4 do the following: Every time a memory of her pops up, program yourself to make that a reminder of what your main dream in life is or was. Use that reminder to get you back on task working towards it

6 - Start progress on 5 by taking that goal and identifying the main objectives or bullet points in achieving it.

7 - Take each bullet from number 6 and break those up into smaller checkpoints or "stopping points" along the path towards the next bullet

8 - Continue repeating 7 until you have about 3-5 layers worth of a list that contains the goal, objectives to reach it, hurdles to overcome to meet those objectives and a set of weekly goals.

9 - Start at the beginning of that project road map you just finished and remember no more zero days

10 - Achieve your dream, then look at where your ex-wife is and pity the bitch!

You can do it, and don't let yourself feel like you can't.
 Quoting: The Raleigh Jogger 46303246


Also, fuck Chad. You ARE Chad! Anyone can be Chad, you just have to put in the effort and maintain your mental toughness. We all get side-tracked by a million different things all programmed to hold us back. They only get to you if you let them. Don't ever feel like you're "beta" or that someone else is "Chad". Chad is nothing more than a guy that started out at the beginning and just kept at it. You can do the same! As long as you're not handicapped or hindered physically from completing tasks, you can always keep up the pressure in reaching it OP!
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no man will have a real relationship with her because of the 5 kids.
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No kidding. She is delusional if she thinks she can find the "bigger, better deal" when she already has 5 kids. Unfortunately, boys especially will be very negatively affected by a mom's abandonment if she often leaves them alone while they know she is out whoring. And if he steps in to be the 'involved parent' she wants while she is out getting laid, he is just enabling her to become the giant whore her sons will grow to hate anyway.
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I'll give you some tips.

1) Your wife is already fucking with another and is ending the marriage to be with him.
2) There is nothing more disturbing to a woman than contempt.
3) Focus on the second tip I gave you and treat it with as much contempt as possible. When she's talking about separation, tell her what you do and maybe it's even better because she can not take it anymore and there are other women you're interested in and they're interested in you too, and you just did not start anything because Was with her. (And focus at this point talking as if you were no longer with her and that tomorrow will be relating to this other woman)

If you are the type of cuck who likes to see your wife with another then continue with her when she gives up on separating. I think you should forget about it and move on to another.
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You ever smacked your wife OP? If not, maybe now is the time to start.

Next time she starts giving you lip, split hers wide open.

You are the man of the house, the owner of your bitch. You make the rules, not her.

She wants to leave, tough shit, it ain't happening.
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Have a few good IPA's and listen to old school Slayer
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Don't breed 'em if you can't feed 'em. I'm thinking you guys either adopted, or you're not convinced you're the real daddy. You sure haven't convinced me yet.

You still checking the other thread you quit an hour before starting this one?


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Tonight the wife wants us to tell the kids were divorcing.

And today I feel punched in the stomach and tempted to binge listen to Nine Inch Nails.

I dont know how Ill emotionally survive this.

Weve been married 15 years. Got kids.

All these years man, all I did was take care of her. But in arguments shed graphically tell me how much she thinks I suck. She expended more KINETIC ENERGY chewing me out than she did telling me she loved me.

And fuck, thats what I wanted, a true blue wife who loved me.

Facebook fucked everything up for us.

That and her wannabe rich friends who drove luxury cars but were in debt to their eyeballs.

This caused her to shift her perception of me from being her beloved husband to some faceless personality filling the role of husband expected to do breadwin, do most of the chores, pay the bills, and shuttle back to his backyard shed.

Making this worse is shes the only girlfriend/woman Ive ever had or been with.

We have five boys.

My question is, who the hell is going to want a 40-something person thats got five boys?

I think her friends convinced her that shell have the time of her life. I know she could get dates lined up easily if she wanted to.

For me, the thought of sitting home alone on Friday night watching my boys while shes on a date is like a knife being driven into the heart. How the fuck will I survive this?

I feel like I want to find a woman that I can experience true love with pronto.

Luckily for me, Im in shape, got some muscle, and get some female glances. But Im not a tall Chad and Im not outgoing like Chad, but Ive got wit.

Still, Im afraid of getting lost in love with another woman again. My wife years ago told me that no matter what shed never leave me or divorce me, that all she needed to be happy was me and the kids.

(Sad laugh. Takes swig of beer.)

So how the hell do I get over this?

I cant do the clubbing/bar scene to find a good woman. And I hear the dating sites are scams.

Any thoughts?

I want to voice my feelings of being disenfranchised like this and put that back at her that she promised shed never leave me. But that wouldnt be a good idea because were actually getting along much better now than we have for the past few months.

Aside from figuring out how to deal with my emotional Chernobyl, and the wasteland that is dating, should I get an apartment close by to the kids or have some distance?

(P.S. Dont mention money or legal stuff. We got that squared away.)

Thank you.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 71473722


All pain will pass. I have been through this as well 20 years ago. As soon as I saw the writing on the wall I started sleeping around and it helped tremendously. Find a young chick, they like older men!!! You will be glad you got a divorce. This could be a new beginning for you bud.
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HOpe so man because I'm thinking about cracking and demanding she stop this shit. And trying to convey to her that she's going to end up brokenhearted in the end because what guy is gonna want a woman a few years away from age 50, who's got a bunch of boys.

But then, I see lots of hotties here at this restaurant. I also saw a parade fucking Chads waltz in here too and that sucked the wind out of my sails.

I mean, I can get some attention, but next to those dudes, I think my poker hand doesn't look so good.

So while she doesn't have a good set of cards due to the abovementioned, I'm not so sure I do either. Heck, I've never been down this road so hell if I know.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 71473722


Man up your about to go down it weather ya like it or not. Start seeking out some side chicks. It will make the pain fly by. If not your in for a long sad run.
Between girl friends and your kids you will be so busy she want matter to ya anymore.
She's trying to let you down easy. I've been there. You can't change her mind.
Damn the torpedoes! Full speed ahead!
Oh,FUCK tepco & the VA!!!
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Tonight the wife wants us to tell the kids were divorcing.

And today I feel punched in the stomach and tempted to binge listen to Nine Inch Nails.

I dont know how Ill emotionally survive this.

Weve been married 15 years. Got kids.

All these years man, all I did was take care of her. But in arguments shed graphically tell me how much she thinks I suck. She expended more KINETIC ENERGY chewing me out than she did telling me she loved me.

And fuck, thats what I wanted, a true blue wife who loved me.

Facebook fucked everything up for us.

That and her wannabe rich friends who drove luxury cars but were in debt to their eyeballs.

This caused her to shift her perception of me from being her beloved husband to some faceless personality filling the role of husband expected to do breadwin, do most of the chores, pay the bills, and shuttle back to his backyard shed.

Making this worse is shes the only girlfriend/woman Ive ever had or been with.

We have five boys.

My question is, who the hell is going to want a 40-something person thats got five boys?

I think her friends convinced her that shell have the time of her life. I know she could get dates lined up easily if she wanted to.

For me, the thought of sitting home alone on Friday night watching my boys while shes on a date is like a knife being driven into the heart. How the fuck will I survive this?

I feel like I want to find a woman that I can experience true love with pronto.

Luckily for me, Im in shape, got some muscle, and get some female glances. But Im not a tall Chad and Im not outgoing like Chad, but Ive got wit.

Still, Im afraid of getting lost in love with another woman again. My wife years ago told me that no matter what shed never leave me or divorce me, that all she needed to be happy was me and the kids.

(Sad laugh. Takes swig of beer.)

So how the hell do I get over this?

I cant do the clubbing/bar scene to find a good woman. And I hear the dating sites are scams.

Any thoughts?

I want to voice my feelings of being disenfranchised like this and put that back at her that she promised shed never leave me. But that wouldnt be a good idea because were actually getting along much better now than we have for the past few months.

Aside from figuring out how to deal with my emotional Chernobyl, and the wasteland that is dating, should I get an apartment close by to the kids or have some distance?

(P.S. Dont mention money or legal stuff. We got that squared away.)

Thank you.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 71473722



You get over it by finding a slut to fuck...

And then another.

And then another.

Until you see the ex out somewhere,

Then you lay it on thick.
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Get a dog and go fishing.5a
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Best advice right there ....take a break.
Get involved with your sons more.
Love yourself this is probably the
best thing that could have happened to
you.
If she made you so miserable this is the get
out of prison card. RELAX and carry on.
hf
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Tonight the wife wants us to tell the kids were divorcing.

And today I feel punched in the stomach and tempted to binge listen to Nine Inch Nails.

I dont know how Ill emotionally survive this.

Weve been married 15 years. Got kids.

All these years man, all I did was take care of her. But in arguments shed graphically tell me how much she thinks I suck. She expended more KINETIC ENERGY chewing me out than she did telling me she loved me.

And fuck, thats what I wanted, a true blue wife who loved me.

Facebook fucked everything up for us.

That and her wannabe rich friends who drove luxury cars but were in debt to their eyeballs.

This caused her to shift her perception of me from being her beloved husband to some faceless personality filling the role of husband expected to do breadwin, do most of the chores, pay the bills, and shuttle back to his backyard shed.

Making this worse is shes the only girlfriend/woman Ive ever had or been with.

We have five boys.

My question is, who the hell is going to want a 40-something person thats got five boys?

I think her friends convinced her that shell have the time of her life. I know she could get dates lined up easily if she wanted to.

For me, the thought of sitting home alone on Friday night watching my boys while shes on a date is like a knife being driven into the heart. How the fuck will I survive this?

I feel like I want to find a woman that I can experience true love with pronto.

Luckily for me, Im in shape, got some muscle, and get some female glances. But Im not a tall Chad and Im not outgoing like Chad, but Ive got wit.

Still, Im afraid of getting lost in love with another woman again. My wife years ago told me that no matter what shed never leave me or divorce me, that all she needed to be happy was me and the kids.

(Sad laugh. Takes swig of beer.)

So how the hell do I get over this?

I cant do the clubbing/bar scene to find a good woman. And I hear the dating sites are scams.

Any thoughts?

I want to voice my feelings of being disenfranchised like this and put that back at her that she promised shed never leave me. But that wouldnt be a good idea because were actually getting along much better now than we have for the past few months.

Aside from figuring out how to deal with my emotional Chernobyl, and the wasteland that is dating, should I get an apartment close by to the kids or have some distance?

(P.S. Dont mention money or legal stuff. We got that squared away.)

Thank you.
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Lose one gain one
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Tell her you're not watching the kids while she's whoring around. Better yet get a new woman who can help you with the kids and smear your ex wife in count. Get custody of the kids yourself. I'm not enabling a bitch to live like a princess while I'm getting fucked. I do the fucking!
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I'm at a restaurant now posting on GLP.

And a "8" strawberry blonde, with a ring on her finger kept exchanging glances with me. She just left.

That for a few seconds made me feel better. But ... that girl looked like high maintenance.

And thinking about that, starting all over to wow someone and keep them wowed so you can get in a relationship seems daunting.
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remember someone somewhere is sick of her shit
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She wants me to be an involved parent.

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Just so you will babysit while she is out getting laid. Sorry but that's the absolute truth.
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Lol true.. Always be busy on weekends
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Fuck her friends. Make sure she finds out.
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Tonight the wife wants us to tell the kids were divorcing.

And today I feel punched in the stomach and tempted to binge listen to Nine Inch Nails.

I dont know how Ill emotionally survive this.

Weve been married 15 years. Got kids.

All these years man, all I did was take care of her. But in arguments shed graphically tell me how much she thinks I suck. She expended more KINETIC ENERGY chewing me out than she did telling me she loved me.

And fuck, thats what I wanted, a true blue wife who loved me.

Facebook fucked everything up for us.

That and her wannabe rich friends who drove luxury cars but were in debt to their eyeballs.

This caused her to shift her perception of me from being her beloved husband to some faceless personality filling the role of husband expected to do breadwin, do most of the chores, pay the bills, and shuttle back to his backyard shed.

Making this worse is shes the only girlfriend/woman Ive ever had or been with.

We have five boys.

My question is, who the hell is going to want a 40-something person thats got five boys?

I think her friends convinced her that shell have the time of her life. I know she could get dates lined up easily if she wanted to.

For me, the thought of sitting home alone on Friday night watching my boys while shes on a date is like a knife being driven into the heart. How the fuck will I survive this?

I feel like I want to find a woman that I can experience true love with pronto.

Luckily for me, Im in shape, got some muscle, and get some female glances. But Im not a tall Chad and Im not outgoing like Chad, but Ive got wit.

Still, Im afraid of getting lost in love with another woman again. My wife years ago told me that no matter what shed never leave me or divorce me, that all she needed to be happy was me and the kids.

(Sad laugh. Takes swig of beer.)

So how the hell do I get over this?

I cant do the clubbing/bar scene to find a good woman. And I hear the dating sites are scams.

Any thoughts?

I want to voice my feelings of being disenfranchised like this and put that back at her that she promised shed never leave me. But that wouldnt be a good idea because were actually getting along much better now than we have for the past few months.

Aside from figuring out how to deal with my emotional Chernobyl, and the wasteland that is dating, should I get an apartment close by to the kids or have some distance?

(P.S. Dont mention money or legal stuff. We got that squared away.)

Thank you.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 71473722


OP in my younger days it would not have mattered if you had 5 boys.
They are a blessing! Right now your main goal is to help them get through this.

Stop worrying about finding someone else. Good grief!

Learn to live independently without a woman. Please. It's important for your sons to have you with them not have you chasing women or bringing other women into their lives just yet.

Redneck & Deplorable & Proud of It!
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every time I read one of these threads I am reminded as to why I never got married.after a couple times being burned by women I decided to live the monk life.
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Enjoy living the last 20 years of your life, then spending your last 6 months arranging everything for your death, which you will also be completely alone for.

Atleast you have your chakra or w.e.
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well if people get married just because they don't want to be alone when they die then that to me is stupid. I took car of one of my parents while they were sick with cancer and they died peacefully at home.I'm not going to stupid enough in this day and age and complicate my life with a person who I will never be able to please.
I hope Opie learned from his lesson and after his ex wife rakes him over the coals and takes over half his net worth he is smart enough to put the rest in a revocable living trust.Especially if he is planning on letting another demon spawn woman in his life.
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Tonight the wife wants us to tell the kids were divorcing.

And today I feel punched in the stomach and tempted to binge listen to Nine Inch Nails.

I dont know how Ill emotionally survive this.

Weve been married 15 years. Got kids.

All these years man, all I did was take care of her. But in arguments shed graphically tell me how much she thinks I suck. She expended more KINETIC ENERGY chewing me out than she did telling me she loved me.

And fuck, thats what I wanted, a true blue wife who loved me.

Facebook fucked everything up for us.

That and her wannabe rich friends who drove luxury cars but were in debt to their eyeballs.

This caused her to shift her perception of me from being her beloved husband to some faceless personality filling the role of husband expected to do breadwin, do most of the chores, pay the bills, and shuttle back to his backyard shed.

Making this worse is shes the only girlfriend/woman Ive ever had or been with.

We have five boys.

My question is, who the hell is going to want a 40-something person thats got five boys?

I think her friends convinced her that shell have the time of her life. I know she could get dates lined up easily if she wanted to.

For me, the thought of sitting home alone on Friday night watching my boys while shes on a date is like a knife being driven into the heart. How the fuck will I survive this?

I feel like I want to find a woman that I can experience true love with pronto.

Luckily for me, Im in shape, got some muscle, and get some female glances. But Im not a tall Chad and Im not outgoing like Chad, but Ive got wit.

Still, Im afraid of getting lost in love with another woman again. My wife years ago told me that no matter what shed never leave me or divorce me, that all she needed to be happy was me and the kids.

(Sad laugh. Takes swig of beer.)

So how the hell do I get over this?

I cant do the clubbing/bar scene to find a good woman. And I hear the dating sites are scams.

Any thoughts?

I want to voice my feelings of being disenfranchised like this and put that back at her that she promised shed never leave me. But that wouldnt be a good idea because were actually getting along much better now than we have for the past few months.

Aside from figuring out how to deal with my emotional Chernobyl, and the wasteland that is dating, should I get an apartment close by to the kids or have some distance?

(P.S. Dont mention money or legal stuff. We got that squared away.)

Thank you.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 71473722


OP in my younger days it would not have mattered if you had 5 boys.
They are a blessing! Right now your main goal is to help them get through this.

Stop worrying about finding someone else. Good grief!

Learn to live independently without a woman. Please. It's important for your sons to have you with them not have you chasing women or bringing other women into their lives just yet.

 Quoting: Sassy Granny


Stop dwelling on her and who she's with. She's emotionally not been with you in a long time. Wake up.

You need to man up for your sons. There are good women out there who would love a good man like you but you are not ready yet.

Take the boys fishing, camping, bowling- get to know them better!

During this time- it is important for them to know you are there for them no matter what.

Hint- Don't be surprised to find out she's already seeing someone else or has someone waiting in the wings.

She has been unhappy for a long time and angry. She has blamed you for it but I suspect she's more unhappy with herself. She started resenting you and blaming you for all the things she thinks is wrong with her life. She's in for a surprise.

Use this as a learning opportunity - You know what you don't want in the next relationship and warning signs.

It would be wonderful if you could take the boys to counseling and wouldn't hurt you to have a session or two.

Just remember this. Your most important role now is DAD! Be the best Dad you can be. Please for Heavens sake do not bring other women around the kids until you're in a serious relationship. This is so traumatic for them.

You are NOT a failure! You WILL get through this and will be a better person in the end!


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fuck you's guys are idiots


you are being trolled


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Tonight the wife wants us to tell the kids were divorcing.

And today I feel punched in the stomach and tempted to binge listen to Nine Inch Nails.

I dont know how Ill emotionally survive this.

Weve been married 15 years. Got kids.

All these years man, all I did was take care of her. But in arguments shed graphically tell me how much she thinks I suck. She expended more KINETIC ENERGY chewing me out than she did telling me she loved me.

And fuck, thats what I wanted, a true blue wife who loved me.

Facebook fucked everything up for us.

That and her wannabe rich friends who drove luxury cars but were in debt to their eyeballs.

This caused her to shift her perception of me from being her beloved husband to some faceless personality filling the role of husband expected to do breadwin, do most of the chores, pay the bills, and shuttle back to his backyard shed.

Making this worse is shes the only girlfriend/woman Ive ever had or been with.

We have five boys.

My question is, who the hell is going to want a 40-something person thats got five boys?

I think her friends convinced her that shell have the time of her life. I know she could get dates lined up easily if she wanted to.

For me, the thought of sitting home alone on Friday night watching my boys while shes on a date is like a knife being driven into the heart. How the fuck will I survive this?

I feel like I want to find a woman that I can experience true love with pronto.

Luckily for me, Im in shape, got some muscle, and get some female glances. But Im not a tall Chad and Im not outgoing like Chad, but Ive got wit.

Still, Im afraid of getting lost in love with another woman again. My wife years ago told me that no matter what shed never leave me or divorce me, that all she needed to be happy was me and the kids.

(Sad laugh. Takes swig of beer.)

So how the hell do I get over this?

I cant do the clubbing/bar scene to find a good woman. And I hear the dating sites are scams.

Any thoughts?

I want to voice my feelings of being disenfranchised like this and put that back at her that she promised shed never leave me. But that wouldnt be a good idea because were actually getting along much better now than we have for the past few months.

Aside from figuring out how to deal with my emotional Chernobyl, and the wasteland that is dating, should I get an apartment close by to the kids or have some distance?

(P.S. Dont mention money or legal stuff. We got that squared away.)

Thank you.
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Sorry dude but if that is how your wife has been treating you, you should have left her a LONG TIME AGO

The situation you are in now is totally your fault for staying with a cunt like that and wasting years of your life

Suck it up and be done with her...move on. Lift weights, eat good, etc

If you are dumb enough to repeat the cycle by losing yourself in another dumb cunt and don't have the balls to be the alpha in the relationship...then you deserve to be a cuck for life

Be a MAN and take the reigns

Show your kids you still have balls by starting over fresh and be a great role mode
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Any guy that gets involved with your ex has got to be the biggest brain dead moran. Even if it was just a sexual thing, why show interest in a woman with 5 fucking kids? That's contemptible, psychotic behavior. I would feel sorry for any man that did that unless the woman was a widow.
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damn dude she might as well stay with you.

She is nuts 5 boys?

Its hard to date a woman with that many sons.

One son is bad enough.

lol really.

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Chad would even run from her , i promise.

Okay chad might do her in a one night stand at a motel 6 with a fake name.But he wouldnt date her.

You need to tell her the truth before she makes a huge mistake.

Unless you just dont want her anymore.

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How much money is it for 5 kids on child support?
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Well, let's put it this way. He won't get a check, he will just get the check stub.
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Chad would even run from her , i promise.

Okay chad might do her in a one night stand at a motel 6 with a fake name.But he wouldnt date her.

You need to tell her the truth before she makes a huge mistake.

Unless you just dont want her anymore.
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Don't tell her SHIT OP! Let her realize the fucked up decision she made and when she begs to come back, no matter how lonely you are, tell her to FUCK OFF.

NEVER TRUST THIS SHE DEVIL AGAIN.
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How much money is it for 5 kids on child support?
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Well, let's put it this way. He won't get a check, he will just get the check stub.
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5 kids is why she doesnt have all the nice shit everyone else has.

She needs to snap back into reality.With 5 kids she needs a man making 500k a year.... and those guys have trophy wives.

she is a lost soul.
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Tell her to get a Job.

That will keep her busy during the day, provide alternative social interaction and perspective about how much work it takes to make a living.

It Works.

And she'll be happier.










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