My girlfriend says she is not responsible for my emotional happiness

Perfect! Women see these things so clearly and ruthlessly. If men listen to honest women it can help them find their balls, because a woman knows very clearly when a man has lost his.

You maintain this woman to sit in your house. It's like owning a pet perhaps. But a dog is more reliably friendly.

She thinks you are a wuss. Better testosterone up your image.

She's not. Emotional support, yes. She has no responsibility to make you happy. You find true happiness yourself. She can be a part of it.

Dump her immediately

She doesnt love.
Dump her now!
Shes not for you.
Youre just there to pay the bills until her Knight in shinny Chad arrives,

Get out now before she bury you alive

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I hate to agree, but QE is right. If you dump her, find an Asian or Eastern European girl. Maybe even a Latina, but not an American. American girls have never been socialized to be proper wives.

If you don't dump her, get couple counseling and she'll leave you.

I don't feel she is either. I've never asked my partner to fulfill my emotional happiness...in fact, i can't believe a guy would even talk like this. Too much Oprah?

Your girlfriend has brains!

No one is responsible for your happiness but you, you choose the thoughts and words that come through your mind and the actions that follow.

Its called self responsibility, being aware and responsible for your self, thoughts, actions and deeds.

Im not saying the lady shouldn't help support you emotionally through life but she is 100% right about you being responsible for your own emotional happiness.

Please put your big boy pants on now and take responsibility for your own emotional happiness. You are the master of your ship but you gotta look out for the icebergs.

^^ says another stay at home cheater

You are getting a really bad deal here. I suggest that you look elsewhere for emotional support. Like another more sensitive woman.

You sound kind of weak and needy. Chick's want someone poised, in control, and strong.

Think you are confused about traditional roles.

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Last Edited by OU8122 on 07/15/2017 11:39 PM

she's not.

that's all on you.

hopefully she isn't a bitch and means that in the right way.

grab her by the pussy in the right way.

if she doesn't like it.

move on.

Nobody is responsible for your happiness but you.

You will probably have terrible relationship problems until you learn this.

The silence or fight. She's a sociopath. Get out of the whole deal and don't look back.

With those kind, it's cold and it's cool. It's never warm and loving. They hate you or there is neutrality. The emotional stuff is the stuff they can't manipulate around, so it all gets thrown back on you as blame and also to make you feel bad for even expressing the need, want or desire for emotional support.

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If a girl in a committed relationship isn't available for sex at least every morning and night, she's not doing her job. If she is not nurturing and kind most of the time, she's failed as a wife/girlfriend. These two things are the core of what make a man happy, and he will work hard for her if he gets that. That, and of course, sleeping together naked all night long. This is the essence of a relationship and nothing else really matters.

If a man is happy without a girlfriend, why bother with humanity at all?

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This!

Drop the leech and a job or 2 and start to look out for #1

Agreed.

Most women want selfish, narcissistic men. They'll argue about it, but when the guy wants to live for her, she'll dump him for a selfish Chad.

Best to be that uncaring, selfish Chad from the get-go. At least pussy can be bought, even if it's expensive.

It's still much cheaper than marriage or dating.

That's awful

Eve didn't CARE in the past, do you think she will in 2017 ? Haaaa freakin Haaaa. Good luck Adam ! from

Use Charles Manson as a role model. He has girls that will follow him straight to hell.

The less shits he gives, the more they adore him.

Go figure.

Hi OP, this post is accurate.

You and GF are talking about two different things.

You are talking about a sweet glance, a tender word, an affectionate embrace. Along those lines.

She is referring to something TOTALLY DIFFERENT. She is talking about taking responsibility to understand that YOU choose (or not choose) to be happy in every situation. She is not wrong in this understanding but it can seem like a harsh attitude if not properly understood. YOU NEED TO UNDERSTAND THIS CONCEPT. It is liberating and strengthening to the individuals and to the relationship. You bear the ultimate responsibility for how you react to things, and for your emotional wellbeing. If you lay that responsibility on another person, you are not emotionally mature. She is just telling you to not be a cuck, basically. Take back your power, you choose how you feel.

Happy people have figured this out. Co-dependent misery lovers have not figured it out. Take your pick.

Don't make her your wife.

She could be cold. Is she spiritual? Wbile we are responsible for our own happiness, you need a caring lover and partner. I hope you find her.

That is your first mistake. A girlfriend is not the same thing as a wife

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Why don't you sit down with her and have a conversation about this. Try to explain to her why you are upset, but try to understand what and why she is saying. She may just be quite stressed or miserable. Maybe she needs some time away from home herself, a bit of space.

Communication is the most important thing in a relationship.

Emotions are a fucked up thing.

People talk about having a mind, body, and soul.

Emotions could be either a 4th construct entirely or something born from either the mechanisms in your mind, body, and soul. And it's "life" depends entirely on where it came from. It's a lot more volatile than the other 3.

You're already emotional and further getting emotional about not having emotional support <--- Instead of spiraling out of control like you are doing, figure out where it came from in the first place. It's not your girlfriend.

Maybe she can help you navigate. Instead of being responsible for it entirely.