My girlfriend says she is not responsible for my emotional happiness

She isn't.

Women don't mature mentally or emotionally past being bratty teenagers. So you are the adult and responsible for her emotional happiness. Not the other way around.

Where do all of these wusses come from? So afraid of American women. Thank God I have never run across this in real life. Is it because I live in the South?

This from the bitch that just complained about men fucking with her while she dances. You should be a dyke

Not my thing at all. Why do you say this? Because I want to dance by myself? What a load of b.s.

Do yourself a favour and get rid.

You are suppose to make one another happy.

Stop spending your money on her whims. When she starts complaining, tell her you are also not responsible for her emotional happiness.

A relationship is a two way street. Both have equal duties to make each other happy.

Find yourself another girlfriend, then comment you aren't responsible for her financial well being.

Gee can anyone guess what she's doing with all that time alone?

She's just practicing with that to see how many other things she can get you to accept her not being responsible for.

Someone who declares that they are not responsible....

Well, they probably aren't!

Not the kind of person you want to rely on some day, and it turns out they aren't responsible for something else that might be a real help to you, but they are too selfish or lazy.

Ask her to write up a list of all the things she's not responsible for, just so she has a chance to think about it a little deeper.

I wouldn't trust her after a declaration like that.
Thank her for her honesty and cut her loose.
Whether or not she wants to take any responsibility for anything is her choice, but who needs a partner too immature to accept responsibility?

You're already alone with a woman like that.

Youu sounds like a ball-less needy douchebag....I suggest she divorce you're dumb ass and you can get a dog.

You sound like a bitch. She's probably annoyed as fuck with how needy & clingy you are. Grow up & be responsible for your own emotions. She's not your mother you big baby!

That's pretty fucked up OP. You should pump her one last time and then leave.

its another troll thread.

but yeah, that's the correct action. get rid of the slug./

Nobody is responsible for your happiness and it is true that happiness comes from within, but we are empathetic compassionate beings which means in order to have a happy relationship, we must have the ability to feel each others pain rather than ignoring it. Compassion means to feel with.

Most people try to avoid pain at all costs. When someone ignores your pain or your feelings, it is because they have learned to ignore and dismiss their own pain and feelings. This is more about repressing, suppressing and disconnect that often leads to self medicating and other forms of behavior that takes its toll on relationships because you are carrying and hiding your pain and burying your own internal happiness, leaving one always on the defensive and in victim mode in the process.

Making ourselves vulnerable to another's pain is how we connect emotionally. It is our way of saying I know how you feel rather than saying it's not my problem, it's your problem which is a subtle form of blaming or shaming that causes disconnect rather than connection. It is so easy, not to mention emotionally mature, to say I want you to be happy and I'm here for you, what can I do or is there something I am doing that is not helping?

Nope. That's just political correctness bollocks.

It's Captain and First Mate.

Emotional support does not equal emotional happiness.

I don't think she needs a man around.

The feminism is showing.

You should simply disappear from her life.

You aren't required to waste time or attention on someone who will only become more entitled, nor does even deserve an explanation. She knows what she said.
Give her plenty of time alone to think about it.

You'll be doing the next guy a favor.
Maybe she will even begin to realize how to respect a man someday.

Maybe he, and bobbit should have met and hung out together for a while anyway ?

i am female. i can comment. i read your title and thought he was very humble.

I'm telling you this from a serious standpoint. 2017..relationships are way different..smart phones..social media..killing it. Never assume others get it like you..they dont.

If you are demanding respect or support, you will never get it from your wife or from others. You have to earn it. Your wife is correct: you are responsible for your own feelings. If you base them on what your wife is going to do or not do, then you are going to be in for a world of pain.

Instead of demanding that she support you, be a man she can admire and support without you demanding that she do.

People don't evolve themselves into a better person. You have to have moments that graduate the mind into a higher understanding. A girlfriend must be more then..her body n looks...many men don't see that.

This person gets it.

Yes...
"My emotional support does not result in your emotional happiness"


to OP:
When have you bitched at a person about someone/something and felt true happiness after? when? When have you told someone all that they're doing wrong and it somehow resulted in you feeling happy?

If those things are what make you feel happy, you must check yourself.

Don't treat people as you don't want to be treated. Does she demand you to be responsible for her happiness? She's saying all humans are in charge of themselves. In this world, the only person you have even a shred of evidence of existing is yourself. Think about that.

It's rather mature of her to reach this point. If she seems completely emotionally distant, maybe she's not into you. But if she still is kissing, fkn, etc, there's really no reason to be all butthurt just because she won't listen to how unhappy you are with work, life, etc.

If you spend your days all unhappy because you aren't on vacation, then spend all vacation unhappy because vacation will end too soon...when are you happy? Are you going to blame the vacation? Work? Figure your shit out xD

I don't get it. Is her pussy that good?

Actually, this is a good measure of the relationship.

If she is there for you, is physically loving and nurturing, maintains the household while you work, and WANTS to be with you physically and sexually, then she's a keeper. Such a person will enjoy looking and being her best, and will want to dress for you and perhaps grow her hair out because you like it that way.

I'm presuming that you want to do similar things for her, in a guy way. If so, you two need to talk a lot and stop listening to the bullshit from the pop psychology shit about each being responsible his/her own happiness. As a couple, you're responsible for doing your best for the other as well as yourself.

If she continues to chant the same tune, tell her to go find her happiness elsewhere. She's raining on your parade and failing in her sexual duties. Sex and nurturing are required in a relationship. Otherwise, it's just a business arrangement.

Nobody's afraid of American women - we're just disgusted with them. They are entitled, privileged, and have no desire to make a man happy sexually, regardless of how a man appreciates them. All the want is to either get off or get attention, and they'll do it with any man or even a girl. Most have no loyalty and only have sex when they feel like it. Quite honestly, they're not worth the effort.