in general, she isn't. but your happiness should be a goal of hers. just as her happiness should be a goal of yours.
of course, if she went into the dumps, lets say she had a bad sickness or an emotional unwellness...
you would, just as ever, need to be responsible for your own mental health and happiness.
(and vice versa)
everyone has to be their own best friend.
in fact, when you have a loved one it is one of the responsibilities of relationship land. it's part of the deal.
i need to stay happy and healthy for my hubs, for instance. and he for me.
congrats on having a house person. i think every house should have a house person.
Quoting: queenbee 72138947 This is absolutely true, yet there are two sides to every coin.
Interesting that after reading all of these people's opinions it is a wonder that she herself in question hasn't answered. You wrote and all talk about responsibility for feelings but havent mentioned anything about what it was that you are feeling?
Make it into a very grey area. I think responsibility is relative, literally or not, it would be intersting to what level responsibility you are expecting r Rom her. Good communication begins with duct tape across the moutth and a smoke! Just some friendly advice....it is interesting tho
No, she is not responsible for his emotional well being. What she is responsible for, however, is fulfilling the role of PARTNER that she has chosen in their partnership.
OP hasn't mentioned the efforts that he makes beyond material providence, but if he shows up for her in the capacity of meeting her physical (intimacy) needs and emotional (intimacy) needs, but she does not return investment into the relationship in an equal capacity, then the relationship exists in a serious state of imbalance.
Separately, we are responsible for our individual strength and well being. When we make the decision with another person to form a partnership, we then become responsible to bring our individual strength and well being to the table and willingly invest in the strength and well being of the partnership. As far as the partnership is concerned, it is no more or no less than the sum of the investment made by BOTH partners.
Regardless of the division of superficial labor, if one partner is providing physical and emotional intimacy to the other but the other does not do the same in return, the giver becomes diminished, the imbalance increases, and the relationship becomes more toxic and volatile.
Moral of the story is, be very damn careful of the partnerships that you make, and walk away from the "partners" that wear the name tag but for some reason are always on break.
Or perhaps just don't give anything worth having yourself, if you can be satisfied with emptiness and illusion.
Good luck.