When is it better to get married, in your early 20s, or in your early to mid 30s? | |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 74913357 United States 07/17/2017 11:47 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ^^^^^^^^^THIS^^^^^^^^^ The good ones are GONE by 30 - best ones before that...you will be stuck with leftovers - divorced with kids- or heartbroken and won't ever trust again College student don't realize it is EXTREMELY difficult to meet good potential mates after you get out ...work limits your movement and ability to meet your own age... Date 2-3 years before marriage - then wait 2-3 years for kids. Sorts out the craziest and laziest before kids exposed to them . Good luck |
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Gelatinous Mass User ID: 73899585 United States 07/17/2017 12:12 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Marry later. Get established. Set up a family Trust with other family members BEFORE marriage. Put any large purchases into the name of the Trust... House, properties, fat stacks, etc.. Once married, your spouse could / should be added to the Trust as an individual beneficiary along with the others. In the event of divorce / shakedown, there is no chance you will be cleaned out. If you ultimately establish a high net worth, structure the Trust so that the bulk of the wealth stays in your personal family tree. For instance, some goes to your spouse, but the bulk goes to your son or daughter Failure to do so enables the bulk to shift to your spouses side of the family. Drop a few grand and hire a top notch estate attorney BEFORE MARRIAGE. Have them help you structure things so that if shit goes sideways, your assets are protected. NEVER FORGET that anything you earn / purchase AFTER marriage belongs to both of you, so get your big shit purchased BEFORE you marry. Cold and crafty? Perhaps...... Necessary in this day and age? Absolutely. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 74538516 Panama 07/17/2017 01:10 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Get married and have kids when you're in your early 20's. You'll be young, healthy and fertile with a lower risk of birth defects occurring. Also, your parents will still be reasonably young and your grandparents will likely still be alive. Why rob your kids of a chance to know their grandparents and great grandparents because you put off having children for too long? |
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Big Daddy D Chaotic Constitutionalist User ID: 48865774 United States 07/17/2017 01:33 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Get married and have kids when you're in your early 20's. You'll be young, healthy and fertile with a lower risk of birth defects occurring. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 74538516 Also, your parents will still be reasonably young and your grandparents will likely still be alive. Why rob your kids of a chance to know their grandparents and great grandparents because you put off having children for too long? This! HWR The US is a One Party State controlled by a small cadre of Financiers Big Daddy D |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 75237234 United States 07/17/2017 02:57 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Doesn't matter, as long as you marry a woman who is on your same level career and income wise. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 74671388 The people who wine on forums that divorce is horrible and they have to pay their ex wife hundreds of dollars a month are in that place because they married a loser woman who had no career or wanted to be a stay home mother. If you are a professional, then marry another professional. If you make minimum wage, marry a woman who also makes minimum. Men start destroying their life when a blue collar man who makes 50,000 a year marries a jobless woman simply because she is good looking. This is the path of self destruction for that man, and he will get what he signed up for when in family court. A smart man marries a woman on the same professional level as he is, then if they divorce then the kids go to the mom half the time and to the dad half the time and nobody has to pay each other. Obviously you've never made more than $50,000 a year and don't know what you're writing about. If you start a business and become successful you will have to buy half your company back from your ex-wife who may be a professional, or she may have floated around in your pool while you built the business, doesn't matter. After 15 years the man will pay alimony for life in most states. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 74799873 United States 07/17/2017 03:23 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I got married at 18, wife was 21. Quoting: Lofty Elim We met when we were 16 and 18. Been married 36 years. Ups and downs along the way. But still in Love. It's really if you can get over the bad little things and appreciate the good ones. Take heed, wise advice. 23 years here this year, we've been separated a couple times, had our ups and downs. Marriage is different for everyone, if I had to give one piece of advice it would be- Learn to listen,tomorrow is a new day, and nothing last forever unless you want it to, and that goes for both love and hatred. |
NowIhavetothinkofaname User ID: 73761995 Australia 07/17/2017 03:31 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Marry later. Quoting: Gelatinous Mass Get established. Set up a family Trust with other family members BEFORE marriage. Put any large purchases into the name of the Trust... House, properties, fat stacks, etc.. Once married, your spouse could / should be added to the Trust as an individual beneficiary along with the others. In the event of divorce / shakedown, there is no chance you will be cleaned out. If you ultimately establish a high net worth, structure the Trust so that the bulk of the wealth stays in your personal family tree. For instance, some goes to your spouse, but the bulk goes to your son or daughter Failure to do so enables the bulk to shift to your spouses side of the family. Drop a few grand and hire a top notch estate attorney BEFORE MARRIAGE. Have them help you structure things so that if shit goes sideways, your assets are protected. NEVER FORGET that anything you earn / purchase AFTER marriage belongs to both of you, so get your big shit purchased BEFORE you marry. Cold and crafty? Perhaps...... Necessary in this day and age? Absolutely. This is something every male on GLP needs to hear. NowIhavetothinkofanameohnoithurts It's all bull! Nevertheless, the ruler is not truly wise who cannot discern evils before they develop themselves, and this is a faculty given to few. Niccolo Machiavelli Karma is funny, people who kick dogs usually get bitten. If someone doesn't add value to your life, then that someone shouldn't be a part of it. You can always trust people to do whatever is in their own interests. It is certain wastelands will be brought under cultivation. |
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Daggo User ID: 72234993 United States 07/17/2017 03:38 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Most here are going to say never but that's bull shit. If you find a good woman who will support you like you support her, one with morals, who believes in God, is willing to put up with you through the good and bad, one you trust with your heart and life. Marry her ass fast, there's very few of them left in the US. :Pirate Flag: 8-14-2018 The day Free Speech died in America |
queenbee User ID: 72138947 United States 07/17/2017 03:39 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | i really believe it is silly for people to put of child rearing for any reason. Quoting: queenbee 72138947 have your children young (if you can) while you and your spouse are in the height of your health. you will be giving them the strongest gift. however, don't forget that people of all ages get married. i remember the wedding of my widowed grandfather at 65 ish. in general, you get married when you find the right person. and not an instant before. for the poster who said marry a professional, i made more money that my husband when we married. over time we slowly weened off my salary and i became a stay-at-home. hubs got 2 advanced degrees because i was there to keep the home lights burning and has had a very good career. we are very happy with the way our lives have gone. i would say marry a person you ADMIRE. a person with similar background, morals, work ethic and probs born in the same decade. come on queenbee..don't give us fake feminist talk .Women marry for sex and free money. i'm the opposite of a feminist... i think because my mother was one of the first working moms in my neighborhood and i realized at 12 years old that women CAN'T have it all. it is a good question: why marry the answer is, you are choosing a partner for life. yin and yang, two heads better than one. someone who puts you first. if you don't want a partner for life, if you want to be a "lone wolf" don't get married. if you want to build a tribe, get married. |