How do you get rid of a stalker, when the law won't help?

car accident.

call jerry springer

need a whole lot more details


my mind is evil, very evil, and i am willing to help :)

Shoot, shovel, and shutup. :D

is she hot?

You call homeland security and tell them that there is this crazy person who won't leave you alone and they keep talking about "plots" against the president. That should take care of it.

so much for my idea! woodchippers are a bitch to clean anyways ;)

The law says she hasn't done anything illegal. Phone calls, text, emails are driving us crazy. ( It stems from a brief affair, that ended poorly!)

I have to say, at this point, I DO LIKE YOUR IDEAS!!!!

without committing any crimes yourself, make her understand that you are the wrong person to fuck with, and if she values her existence, she should be utterly terrified to make any contact with you or your family whatsoever.

What does she want from you? Can you made a deal with her? Give her money to compensate her for being dumped maybe?

Any suggestions? I open to all!

I've got it easy, I'm surrounded by these handy evidence disposers.

Here are some basics to start with. These and other safety precautions can be found in I Know You Really Love Me:

1. Tell the stalker "no" once and only once, and then never give him the satisfaction of a reaction again. The more you respond, the more you teach him that his actions will elicit a response. This only serves to reinforce the stalking.
2. Get a dog. The Los Angeles Police Department’s Threat Management Unit says this is "one of the least expensive but most effective alarm systems."
3. Block your address at DMV and Voter Registration. If you don’t, anyone can get it for the asking. This is how Robert Bardo found actress Rebecca Schaeffer and was able to murder her at her front door.
4. Never
5. give out your home address or telephone number. Get a post office box and use it on all correspondence. For those places that will not accept a post office box, change "PO Box" to "Apt." and leave the number. Put this address on your checks. When the stalker gets your home telephone number, don’t change it. Instead, always let an answering machine pick-up. Get a new, unlisted number, and give it to everyone who calls but the stalker. Gradually, only your stalker will be using your old number – it will become his private line. If it upsets you when he calls, put the machine in a room you don’t use. You can even have someone else monitor the tapes. This way, the stalker will think he is still getting through to you, although you will never make the mistake of picking up when he calls. Whenever you close off one avenue for a stalker, he will find another and it could easily be worse.
6. Document everything. Even if you have decided not to go the legal route, you may change your mind. Keep answering machine tapes, letters, gifts, etc. Keep a log of drive-bys or any suspicious occurrences.
7. Take a self-defense class. A lot of security experts don’t advise this, fearing that it gives victims a false sense of security, but we do. The best self-defense classes teach you how to become more aware of your surroundings and avoid confrontations, things that stalking victims would do well to learn.
8. Have co-workers screen all calls and visitors.
9. Don’t accept packages unless they were personally ordered.
10. Remove any name or identification from reserved parking at work.
11. Destroy discarded mail.
12. Equip your gas tank with a locking gas cap that can be unlocked only from inside the car.
13. Get a cell phone and keep it with you at all times, even inside your home, in case the stalker cuts your phone lines.
14. If you think you are being followed while in your car, make four left- or right-hand turns in succession. If the car continues to follow you, drive to the nearest police station, never home or to a friend’s house.
15. Never be afraid to sound your car horn to attract attention.
16. Acquaint yourself with all-night stores and other public, highly populated places in your area.
17. Consider moving if your case warrants it. No, it’s not fair, but nothing is fair about stalking. If you stay and fight through the legal system, you might get some justice, (although not necessarily your definition of it), but you almost certainly won’t get safety: There is no possibility of life imprisonment for stalkers. Research how to keep your destination secret. Stalking and victims’ organizations can help.
18. Don’t be embarrassed and think you caused this somehow. Stalkers need no encouragement. Your shame is your stalker’s best weapon. It makes you more likely to engage him or agree to plea bargains, which are bound to be taken as sympathy and we know where that leads. Instead, tell everyone you know that you’re being stalked, from neighbors to co-workers, so that when the stalker approaches them for information about you, they will be alerted not to divulge anything and will let you know he’s been around. One young widow moved to escape her stalker, a stranger she had never really met. Yet, after finding out where she moved, he was also able to pinpoint her exact location by showing her helpful neighbors pictures he had surreptitiously taken of her and her children, telling them that he was her estranged husband and she had kidnapped the kids.
19. Join one of the stalking victims’ support groups that are springing up all over the country. They can be invaluable resources for information in your community (such as how local law enforcement handle these cases) as well as provide essential support. See the resources section for organizations that can help. If there is no group in your area, start one. It only takes two. Tragically, we can guarantee you are not the only person being stalked in your area.

A stalker that did'nt know when to stop... I guess he/she would just disappear into thin air.

I'm sure nooone would care.

/L

I'm guessing she was hurt...and probably wants to make you hurt back. I'm sure if you ignore her, she will eventually stop stalking you. If she doesn't...and it continues to get worse..change your phone numbers and email addresses.

She wants my man! And no deals! She's a 20 year old bar whore ( I'm serious!!!) And I just found out I'm 3 months pregnant with our second child. (girl, I'm hoping)!!!!!!!!

Turn the tables. Stalk her back. Slash her tired, break her windows, and make her life miserable.

An anonymous tip to the police next time she leaves the bar drunk in her car could put a serious crimp in her lifestyle.

You should consider the guy that is resposible for your troubles.

Do you really need that guy?

Guess not.

/L

that makes me really worried, you being pregnant,, seriously, with a lunatic stalker

i know what i would do , but it wouldn't be a good idea to post it

I'm doing my best to be civilized about it, but I think it's going to have to be my man to put her in her place. But God, how do I get that GATOR SHIPPED TO KENTUCKY?

and stash some crack cocaine in the car, just enough for 20 years time

The best way to extinguish bad behavior is to ignore, ignore, and ignore!!

Ever watched the movie "Fatal Attraction"?

The precaution list made some good reccomendations.

earth worms do a cleaner job ;)

She did pose with herb pics of herself on HIGHTIMES.COM under the name dedgirl. How would that work?

I'd plaster copies of that all over town.

And make sure you scrawl the word "Homewrecker" on 'em too, LOL

No, I don't need him, BUT I LOVE HIM!!!!!! And so does his children.

here is a thought:

Human beings only have two ways to deal with one another: reason and force. If you want me to do something for you, you have a choice of either convincing me via argument, or force me to do your bidding under threat of force. Every human interaction falls into one of those two categories, without exception. Reason or force, that's it.

In a truly moral and civilized society, people exclusively interact through persuasion. Force has no place as a valid method of social interaction, and the only thing that removes force from the menu is the personal firearm, as paradoxical as it may sound to some.

When I carry a gun, you cannot deal with me by force. You have to use reason and try to persuade me, because I have a way to negate your threat or employment of force.

The gun is the only personal weapon that puts a 100-pound woman on equal footing with a 220-pound mugger, a 75-year old retiree on equal footing with a 19-year old gangbanger, and a single gay guy on equal footing with a carload of drunk guys with baseball bats. The gun removes the disparity in physical strength, size, or numbers between a potential attacker and a defender.

Yeah, but they would take to long. Unless they are the ones from the old film, what was it called? (Crawlers, Worms, or something like that!) Anyway, the electric gave them teeth!!!