When you meet that someone who just clicks with you, the connection is amazing and almost magical. Thats when Love and Sex collide .... kapow fireworks.

If you don't want to feel the urge, just re-channel that energy into something else. Meditation is most effective.

It could also be hormonal in which case you just need to listen to your body, don't take stupid risks and try to understand what drives the urge? Usually is a craving for a special someone ... instinctive.

For women it usually only starts improving in late twenties by which stage many have given up and accepted frigidity ... hence eventual platonic marriage. However platonic marriage is a common reason for adultery ... especially if its platonic because the two people involved no longer find each other sexually attractive.

.... its complex but the worst part of it is if you have a negative feeling about it ... usually the point at which its labelled evil ...