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My girlfriend will not stop talking to two of her ex boyfriends. We have been together for almost three years and I just found out that she still talks to them,IM's them and hangs out with them. She does not feel the need to tell me when she is engaging in the above captioned activities. She claims that they are only friends. One guy is on his second marriage(they had a relationship on and off for four years)and the other guy is single (they had a relationship for three years). She said she knew them before she knew me so she's not going to stop talking to them or hanging out with them. I have plenty of ex girlfriends that I get along with. I have disclosed to my ex girlfriends that I am in a relationship so it's not a good idea not to talk to them or hang out with them because I don't want to hurt her feelings. Is this normal behavior or is this a red flag? This is driving me nuts.
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Re: girlfriend will not give up talking to ex boyfriends
RUN!!!!
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Re: girlfriend will not give up talking to ex boyfriends
Been there bro, Tell her how you feel about it, if she still won't stop seeing them then get the fuck out.
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Re: girlfriend will not give up talking to ex boyfriends
Save yourself a lot of pain, if she wants to keep in contact with her ex boyfriends let her, if it doesn't suit you then find a girl that doesn't talk to her ex boyfriends.
Have you received enough light yet?
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04/23/2008 10:48 AM
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Re: girlfriend will not give up talking to ex boyfriends
Save yourself a lot of pain, if she wants to keep in contact with her ex boyfriends let her, if it doesn't suit you then find a girl that doesn't talk to her ex boyfriends.
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Exactly! Hi Sky!

It shouldn't be a problem unless you want it to be.
Everything is permitted..
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04/23/2008 10:49 AM
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Re: girlfriend will not give up talking to ex boyfriends
Either you trust her or you don't. But maybe it wouldn't hurt for you to get to know these friends of hers as well.

Hard to judge other people's relationships to one another unless you see them together. And I don't mean spying, as that would indicate to her that you don't trust her.

Just tell her that you want to have a get together and she can invite her friends, etc... Plan some social event, party, etc.. and get to know these guys.

It will be the only way to tell if there is 'chemistry' going on between them and her.
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Re: girlfriend will not give up talking to ex boyfriends
ahahah

you're kinda pathetic OP
What a low esteem!

If someone dates someone, specially for a long time, it's obvious that they were friends at that point. The end of a relationship doesn't mean the end of a friendship!
Maybe your girlfriend doesn't tell you everytime she hands with one of them, because you tend to over-react to it.
If something goes wrong with her, you'll probably the one to blame, with all your paranoia.
If you can't stand her actions with friends, Ex-relationship or not, the problem is yours, and you're the one that should end the relationship, for her well-being.

People and relationships are like birds:
If you hold them too tight they will die
If you open too much, they will fly away.
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04/23/2008 10:52 AM
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Why does she have to lose her old friends, boyfriends or not? Do you go thru her pictures and letters and throw out any that are not you or from you? Why do you think you have to be the ONLY one, the biggest and the best? Get over yourself. That's your friggen ego, put it in it's place. No one likes a clinging, desperate mate.
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04/23/2008 10:55 AM
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Re: girlfriend will not give up talking to ex boyfriends
Skip the psycho-babble! Boring & it's bullshit!

Lose the girl. Yeah-it was fun while it lasted but, bye-bye.

Keeping her is only setting yourself up for a heartache! And, you need that like...well, a girlfriend who hangs onto her ex-boyfriends!

Oh, but-get one last bang before bailing! For the road-be good to yourself! You never know-you might hit a dry spell before the next babe comes into your life-and, one will, just give it time.

Cheers,
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And pray that there's intelligent life somewhere up in space,
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Re: girlfriend will not give up talking to ex boyfriends
I have asked to meet these two friends. I said hey why don't we get together for lunch/dinner one night. If these people are truly her friends then I can accept that. If they are going to be a part of her life and we are sharing our life together then that's cool. She refused to let me meet them and she never wants to talk about the activities that go on between them. I have a problem with her secrets.
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Re: girlfriend will not give up talking to ex boyfriends
ahahah

you're kinda pathetic OP
What a low esteem!

If someone dates someone, specially for a long time, it's obvious that they were friends at that point. The end of a relationship doesn't mean the end of a friendship!
Maybe your girlfriend doesn't tell you everytime she hands with one of them, because you tend to over-react to it.
If something goes wrong with her, you'll probably the one to blame, with all your paranoia.
If you can't stand her actions with friends, Ex-relationship or not, the problem is yours, and you're the one that should end the relationship, for her well-being.

People and relationships are like birds:
If you hold them too tight they will die
If you open too much, they will fly away.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 421557


Hummmm-you bring to mind, Cartman from the South Park episode about computer-gaming.

You know, the Cartman that never leaves his computer and he turns into this blob!

Except, from your advice, I'm betting that you're a hermorphadite!

iStarbug

So remember, when you're feeling very small and insecure,
How amazingly unlikely is your birth,
And pray that there's intelligent life somewhere up in space,
'Cause there's bugger all down here on Earth.

Monty Python - Galaxy Song
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Re: girlfriend will not give up talking to ex boyfriends
Maybe it means she's a nice person who actually liked her exes although she didnt see longterm with them because she wasnt INLOVE with them. Maybe after you finish doing her damage, with the possessiveness crap, she would like to be your friend too.

Not all relationships are meant to be...it doesnt mean you no longer give a damn...it justs gets put back to friends ONLY mode. They are married and with gf.....so she realises she isnt their best friend..YOU are but you arent acting like it right now.

Unless people get married there is no reason to amalgamate all friends. Are you married? No....so dont expect her to act like you are either.
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04/23/2008 11:03 AM
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Re: girlfriend will not give up talking to ex boyfriends
Been there bro, Tell her how you feel about it, if she still won't stop seeing them then get the fuck out.
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Yep, I've been there too. It's disrespectful to hang out with ex-boy/girlfriends. Talking to them is one thing, but hanging out is totally disrepectful. I would run for the hills if she doesn't understand the way you feel about it.
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Re: girlfriend will not give up talking to ex boyfriends
I have asked to meet these two friends. I said hey why don't we get together for lunch/dinner one night. If these people are truly her friends then I can accept that. If they are going to be a part of her life and we are sharing our life together then that's cool. She refused to let me meet them and she never wants to talk about the activities that go on between them. I have a problem with her secrets.
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OK, well, that is strange. Secrets aren't good. Tell you you want an honest relationship and to be able to talk to each other about anything. She's going to have to make some decisions.
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Re: girlfriend will not give up talking to ex boyfriends
Is she hanging with her ex boyfriends more than she hangs out with you?

If you want to keep this relationship going, the last thing you want to do is let her know that it bothers you that she talks and hangs out with her ex(s). You must be secure enough to simply not care.

The problem here is you have a certain code of conduct (not seeing your ex girlfriends) and you expect this to be reciprocated back and its not happening.

If you are a man of confidence, and don't care about the relationship, get rid of her.
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Re: girlfriend will not give up talking to ex boyfriends
I have asked to meet these two friends. I said hey why don't we get together for lunch/dinner one night. If these people are truly her friends then I can accept that. If they are going to be a part of her life and we are sharing our life together then that's cool. She refused to let me meet them and she never wants to talk about the activities that go on between them. I have a problem with her secrets.
 Quoting: help 421612

That's odd though.

Communication is the key...otherwise, leg it!!
Everything is permitted..
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Re: girlfriend will not give up talking to ex boyfriends
I have asked to meet these two friends. I said hey why don't we get together for lunch/dinner one night. If these people are truly her friends then I can accept that. If they are going to be a part of her life and we are sharing our life together then that's cool. She refused to let me meet them and she never wants to talk about the activities that go on between them. I have a problem with her secrets.

That's odd though.

Communication is the key...otherwise, leg it!!
 Quoting: Nothing Is True


yeah, if she's not being open and honest with you then that's a different story, like NIT said.... leg it.

Hey NIT!
Have you received enough light yet?
Starbug

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04/23/2008 11:14 AM
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Maybe it means she's a nice person who actually liked her exes although she didnt see longterm with them because she wasnt INLOVE with them. Maybe after you finish doing her damage, with the possessiveness crap, she would like to be your friend too.

Not all relationships are meant to be...it doesnt mean you no longer give a damn...it justs gets put back to friends ONLY mode. They are married and with gf.....so she realises she isnt their best friend..YOU are but you arent acting like it right now.

Unless people get married there is no reason to amalgamate all friends. Are you married? No....so dont expect her to act like you are either.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 350460


Oh, my God!

Are you serious?

Look-rock dweller, the girl is obviously trying to have her cake and eat it too!

What is it about her behavior that you idiots don't get?

She's having a ball-literally!

Unless, you people are a bunch of "sack-heads" you're all just stupid! Or, worse-idealist!

I dated this air-head blonde-babe for awhile. Time after time she busted me with other girls-guess what routine I pulled? You guessed it-the "Hey, those girls-they're just ol' friends-nothing to it!" But, truthfully, I was banging them, left & right! Is that so hard to see through? Even my "thick-as-a-whale" girlfriend eventually figured it out.

So, don't be stupid, dude-dumb the bimbo and move on (before she dumps you-and she will because, no girl is going to want an idiot for a boyfriend!)

Starbug

iStarbug

So remember, when you're feeling very small and insecure,
How amazingly unlikely is your birth,
And pray that there's intelligent life somewhere up in space,
'Cause there's bugger all down here on Earth.

Monty Python - Galaxy Song
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Re: girlfriend will not give up talking to ex boyfriends
I have asked to meet these two friends. I said hey why don't we get together for lunch/dinner one night. If these people are truly her friends then I can accept that. If they are going to be a part of her life and we are sharing our life together then that's cool. She refused to let me meet them and she never wants to talk about the activities that go on between them. I have a problem with her secrets.
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Yeah dude, that's very sketchy. If she's acting like that, she must have something to hide, ya know? I hate to say it, but she's probably hooking up them. You said one of them was an on again/ off again BF. Just ask her to be honest with you, if she can't, then break it off.
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Re: girlfriend will not give up talking to ex boyfriends
Make her an "old girlfriend."
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Make her an "old girlfriend."
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Finally! hf
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And pray that there's intelligent life somewhere up in space,
'Cause there's bugger all down here on Earth.

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Re: girlfriend will not give up talking to ex boyfriends
My girlfriend will not stop talking to two of her ex boyfriends. We have been together for almost three years and I just found out that she still talks to them,IM's them and hangs out with them. She does not feel the need to tell me when she is engaging in the above captioned activities. She claims that they are only friends. One guy is on his second marriage(they had a relationship on and off for four years)and the other guy is single (they had a relationship for three years). She said she knew them before she knew me so she's not going to stop talking to them or hanging out with them. I have plenty of ex girlfriends that I get along with. I have disclosed to my ex girlfriends that I am in a relationship so it's not a good idea not to talk to them or hang out with them because I don't want to hurt her feelings. Is this normal behavior or is this a red flag? This is driving me nuts.
 Quoting: help 421612


RED FLAG!

OLD FLAMES RED FLAG!

You need to have your cake - even if it not perfect - and eat it on your own!
Read - for thy sustainer is the most bountiful one, who has taught the use of the pen, taught man what he did not know!
Nay verily man becomes grossly overweening, whenever he believes himself to be self-sufficient: for behold unto thy sustainer all must return.

Quran 96:3-8

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Re: girlfriend will not give up talking to ex boyfriends
My girlfriend will not stop talking to two of her ex boyfriends. We have been together for almost three years and I just found out that she still talks to them,IM's them and hangs out with them. She does not feel the need to tell me when she is engaging in the above captioned activities. She claims that they are only friends. One guy is on his second marriage(they had a relationship on and off for four years)and the other guy is single (they had a relationship for three years). She said she knew them before she knew me so she's not going to stop talking to them or hanging out with them. I have plenty of ex girlfriends that I get along with. I have disclosed to my ex girlfriends that I am in a relationship so it's not a good idea not to talk to them or hang out with them because I don't want to hurt her feelings. Is this normal behavior or is this a red flag? This is driving me nuts.
 Quoting: help 421612



The fact that this bothers you shows you're insecure. The fact that you had to establish the boundaries with your ex girlfriends shows that you weren't sure that you could remain faithful if you were in touch with them. Which shows you from where your suspicion stems. Ask her to let you know when she sees them, and if you promise not to get upset then at least have the decency to keep that promise.

If she has been open with you about them and their role in her life, then she probably has nothing to feel guilty about.

Have a chat with her, tell her how you feel. Youcan't really control what she does.. She has a past that you were not a part of. You can either be mature and walk forward, or dump her and try find someone better.

But remember this is probably mostly about what you would do, your value system and how you approach the world.

imo,fwiw
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There are two possibilities: 1. they are gay and could be just friends or 2. they want to fuck her again.

She may be just friends because girls can do that but guys want sex even if they are friends.
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When half of the people get the idea that they do not have to work because the other half is going to take care of them, and the other half gets the idea that it does no good to work because somebody else is going to get what they work for, that my dear friend, is the beginning of the end of any nation.

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Dump her...there are plenty of girls to choose from.
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My girlfriend will not stop talking to two of her ex boyfriends. We have been together for almost three years and I just found out that she still talks to them,IM's them and hangs out with them. She does not feel the need to tell me when she is engaging in the above captioned activities. She claims that they are only friends. One guy is on his second marriage(they had a relationship on and off for four years)and the other guy is single (they had a relationship for three years). She said she knew them before she knew me so she's not going to stop talking to them or hanging out with them. I have plenty of ex girlfriends that I get along with. I have disclosed to my ex girlfriends that I am in a relationship so it's not a good idea not to talk to them or hang out with them because I don't want to hurt her feelings. Is this normal behavior or is this a red flag? This is driving me nuts.
 Quoting: help 421612


lmao
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Re: girlfriend will not give up talking to ex boyfriends
Dump her...there are plenty of girls to choose from.
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Well said!

But when you dump her, let her know you don't like her ugly habbits of wanting to be with her exs and all you can think of that you don't like about her.
Read - for thy sustainer is the most bountiful one, who has taught the use of the pen, taught man what he did not know!
Nay verily man becomes grossly overweening, whenever he believes himself to be self-sufficient: for behold unto thy sustainer all must return.

Quran 96:3-8

[link to www.islamicity.com]
__________
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Cure: [link to www.youtube.com]
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She's still bangin' at least one of 'em. Guranteed.
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Why does she have to lose her old friends, boyfriends or not? Do you go thru her pictures and letters and throw out any that are not you or from you? Why do you think you have to be the ONLY one, the biggest and the best? Get over yourself. That's your friggen ego, put it in it's place. No one likes a clinging, desperate mate.
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If you force her to give them up, she'll go back. You need to dump her now. In the future, you'll be wondering if the kids are really yours, and where she is when your meal isn't ready. Warning Warning Warning, Will Robinson. It doesn't matter what she's got, you can get it somewhere else with an exclusive GF, not the community bitch. Women who demand the right to see other men don't really love you.
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she is BAD NEWS....
she also sounds like she is 22
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Re: girlfriend will not give up talking to ex boyfriends
I have asked to meet these two friends. I said hey why don't we get together for lunch/dinner one night. If these people are truly her friends then I can accept that. If they are going to be a part of her life and we are sharing our life together then that's cool. She refused to let me meet them and she never wants to talk about the activities that go on between them. I have a problem with her secrets.
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I think that it says it all.

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