girlfriend will not give up talking to ex boyfriends

I don't know man, what do you expect if you've been together for three years and aren't married yet.

If you can't handle her having a bunch of guy friends, tell
her you want to be her one and only and ask her to marry you. Otherwise accept her carefree lifestyle.

And never look back.

eject

Where the hell am I oprah or dr phil site???

From the outset let me just say, you are a pussy.
She is getting banged like a drum by her exs ,
and you are sitting there with your thumb up your butt
like you really have a question on your hands.
NEXT!

Major red flag... been on both sides of that equation. Bail.









By my math, she's having at least six. Sounds like she makes more tea then Lipton...

We broke up. I'm free now and we will see how "friendship" works out. I'm on to greener pastures.

I think the OP made a very reasonable request to meet her ex-boyfriends. If she had been happy to have him meet them, then I would think she was being honest that they are just platonic friends now. The fact that she wasn't glad he wanted to meet her "friends" says a lot. Most women want their boyfriends to meet their friends.

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Dude, now you can fuck her too. And you can leave when you're done. And she can tell her boyfriend that you and her are just friends. You definitely did the right thing!

Group Sex. Solves all problems.

as someone who has been with a lot of women, if she had a relationship, on and off with a guy for 4 years, she was banging him on and off, while he was married the first time, right?

she still is. wise up. the key is that she talks and texts them and YOU can't meet them.

the advice about making her an ex girlfriend is the best.

you are being stupid and being played. you will end up being dumped.

wow those ex boyfriend threat a psyops ....no man will accept this or he his not a man....

If the friend thing doesn't work, i.e. your not gettin any from her on the sly, go off radar for a few months. Then out of the blue, contact her, say you met someone, and you both decided to get tested before getting "serious" into the relationship. Then tell her you tested positive for HIV and she might want to get checked, and make her own calls, then drop off radar again.

Sure, sounds evil and dirty. It was meant to be. Tit for tat. :p

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Invite those in question for cards and read their "bluffs" if there are any to be seen..

Wow, she sounds like she's borderline (google it) and your the proverbial sucker with no self esteem.

RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Just freaking RUN, and break off ALL and I mean ALL contact.

She doesn't respect you in the slightest.

MY GF and I had the same thing going on. she wanted to talk hang and chat with old boy friends. I decided to call it off, the first night after I said no more for me guess who spends the night at her house... old boy friend. I waited a while and called her for lunch. we had lunch several times then one day she said that her friend made her mad. I banged her brains out that night and got a great BJ. best ever from her.
MY thoughts are "I had rather be the one she cheats with than the one she cheats on"

The fact that she wont tell you what she does with them probably means they are being intimate. you said it is driving you crazy, did you ever consider it to be exciting thinking of them with being with her? doesnt sound like much of a relashionship without honesty.

and people try to be nice to this guy.

You cannot control anyone, nor should you try. If she is covering up the fact, then she has something she does not want you to know about, whether that is because she is scared you will feel bad about it or she is sleeping around. The fact is that she knows it will cause problems with you either way, but she does not care and does it anyway. Dump her and find someone who will nurture a relationship with you, not undermine it. Dump her fast and don't look back, because nobody should have to live feeling insecure about the most important person in your life. It might be hard to dump her if you have feelings, but just because she doesn't have any respect for you does not mean you should not have respect for yourself. If she is young, and really does have feelings for you, well, then maybe she will realize that and get over her "overwhelming" feelings about the two of you, clearing up the question in her mind of "Is he really the one for me", which is a scary question and can push a young girl away.
In order for a mature relationship to work, both parties have to take care to be considerate of the other, and either she is too young or she does not care for you. If she is too young, well, she will figure out real fast and you won't have to look back... if she does not care for you, well... you will be taking care of yourself and you won't be driven into the hole that she is planning on leaving you in, with no self confidence and hatred in your heart.

Let her go, and if she grows up and comes back to you confident that she wants to be with you, then you have gained a special relationship... if she is capable of being a mature individual.

Possessive much.

She's fair game until you put a ring on her finger.

Here's the thing about girlfriends.

They are allowed to have friends.

They are not allowed to cheat in a exclusive sexual relationship.

If she does that you dump her, if she treats you with less respect than she does you.

Sounds like she is keeping her options open. If she was committed to you and cared at all about your concerns she would be open to you meeting these guys in order to reassure you that everything is kosher. She obviously does not care about doing that. Dump her.

This is coming from someone who's experienced this from both sides of the fence. Good luck.

The odd thing is not that she is friends with them but that you didn't know about it the three years you have been together. It is pretty normal in a relationship that lasts that long to either know or know about the other person's friends. Unless you acted like an irrational jealous bf from the beginning and gave her a reason to keep it a secret, I would label this a red flag situation.

Get out, bro.

This is coming from a girl that would jump on the dicks of a few ex boyfriends...it's a matter of self control and respect for my s/o

Think about it, she has sucked all those cocks and taken boners in her anus from these guys, and literally gargles their cocksnot and you are such as pussy that you cannot keep her away from other men she used to fuck. They were the alpha males who just used her as a cum dumpster, and you are the beta male who makes a good domesticated man lesbian. Those guys DIDN'T want to be tied down to her, just use her holes to pound day in and day out. Mark my words, she will being licking their stringer wads off her lips very shortly as you get upset and protest to her about these guys, as again the beta male emerges. Dump the whore before she makes you bankrupt.

bail

Wow... talk about insecure.

The problem with you jealous types is that you are so insecure you make shitty boyfriends...

So shes probably hanging out with her ex's to remind herself of what a man is.