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girlfriend will not give up talking to ex boyfriends
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My girlfriend will not stop talking to two of her ex boyfriends. We have been together for almost three years and I just found out that she still talks to them,IM's them and hangs out with them. She does not feel the need to tell me when she is engaging in the above captioned activities. She claims that they are only friends. One guy is on his second marriage(they had a relationship on and off for four years)and the other guy is single (they had a relationship for three years). She said she knew them before she knew me so she's not going to stop talking to them or hanging out with them. I have plenty of ex girlfriends that I get along with. I have disclosed to my ex girlfriends that I am in a relationship so it's not a good idea not to talk to them or hang out with them because I don't want to hurt her feelings. Is this normal behavior or is this a red flag? This is driving me nuts.
Quoting: help 421612The fact that this bothers you shows you're insecure. The fact that you had to establish the boundaries with your ex girlfriends shows that you weren't sure that you could remain faithful if you were in touch with them. Which shows you from where your suspicion stems. Ask her to let you know when she sees them, and if you promise not to get upset then at least have the decency to keep that promise. If she has been open with you about them and their role in her life, then she probably has nothing to feel guilty about. Have a chat with her, tell her how you feel. Youcan't really control what she does.. She has a past that you were not a part of. You can either be mature and walk forward, or dump her and try find someone better. But remember this is probably mostly about what you would do, your value system and how you approach the world. imo,fwiw
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