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Woman opens heart to man who slaughtered her family
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canislatrans 
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5/15/2008 1:29 PM
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The new world is here. :)
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GITARAMA, Rwanda (CNN) -- What does Macy's have to do with healing from genocide? Nothing and everything.
Fourteen years after Hutu extremists killed between 800,000 and 1 million people -- mostly Tutsis -- in a devastating slaughter, Rwandan women are weaving peace baskets for sale at Macy's in the United States. Not only does the work bring them a regular salary but the business is also fostering reconciliation between victim and perpetrator.
Iphigenia Mukantabana, a master weaver, sits in front of her house in Gitarama -- an hour from the capital Kigali -- making beautiful baskets with her friend, Epiphania Mukanyndwi.
In 1994 Mukantabana's husband and five of her children were hacked and clubbed to death by marauding Hutu militias. Among her family's killers was Jean-Bosco Bizimana, Mukanyndwi's husband.
"In my heart the dead are dead and they cannot come back again," Mukantabana said of those she lost. "So I have to get on with the others and forget what has happened."
Forgetting and forgiving everything she lost, everything she witnessed.
"Women and girls were raped and I saw it all," she told CNN. "The men and boys were beaten and then slaughtered. They told others to dig a hole get in, then they piled earth on top of them, while they were still alive." Watch Mukantabana say how she survived »
Yet today, Mukantabana shares her future and her family meals with Bizimana, the killer she knew, and his wife, her friend Mukanyndwi.
Bizimana did spend seven years in jail. He then went before a tribal gathering, part of a return to traditional ways by the new government in 2002 with Rwanda's justice system unable to cope and process hundreds of thousands of imprisoned perpetrators.
The government decided that the master planners and worst perpetrators would face formal justice. But lower-level killers were allowed to publicly confess and apologize to the families of their victims at gacaca courts, where elders would hear grievances and decide on the punishments.
"In the gacaca court, I told them how we killed our fellow men and I asked for forgiveness in front of the court and the whole district was there," Bizimana said.
"The people who died in this very area -- I knew all of them because they were our neighbors." Watch Bizimana describe how he killed Tutsis »
He places blame squarely on the extremist Hutu government at the time, and on vile radio broadcasts that urged on the killers during the 100-day slaughter.
"They were giving instructions all the time, that was from the government and so we thought it as the right thing because we were getting this instruction from the government," Bizimana said.
He showed where he and a Hutu mob had killed 25 people, including members of Mukantabana's family, a few yards from where he had just shared lunch with her. "We used machetes, hoes and wooden clubs," he told CNN.
Mukantabana admits it was difficult to forgive. She said she did not speak to Bizimana or his wife for four years after the killings. What put her on the road to healing, she said, was the gacaca process.
"It has not just helped me, it has helped all Rwandans because someone comes and accepts what he did and he asks for forgiveness from the whole community, from all Rwandans," she said.
Bizimana said he did just that.
"You go in front of the people like we are standing here and ask for forgiveness," he said.
But despite his confession and apology, Iphigenia said reconciliation would not have happened unless she had decided to open her heart and accept his pleas.
"I am a Christian and I pray a lot," she said, the pain etched in the lines on her face and around her sad eyes.
But the basket business also played a key role in forging forgiveness and reconciliation after the horror.
"We knew how to weave baskets," Mukantabana explained. "It helped unite Rwandans in this area because they accepted me as the master weaver and I could not say 'I am not taking your basket or I am not helping you because you did something bad to me.' " See photos of the women who have learned to forgive »
Macy's sold the first "peace baskets" in 2005 and officials say the deal generates between $300,000 and $400,000 a year. A Rwandan weaver can earn about $14 per week -- a king's ransom in a country where so many live on less than $1 per week.
The international project is a far cry from 1994, when the United States, Europe, the United Nations and the rest of the world turned away while the genocide went unchecked in Rwanda.
"They didn't care, they were totally indifferent," Rwandan President Paul Kagame told CNN in an interview in his office in Kigali.
He said the world thought Rwanda "was just another bloody African situation where people just kill each other and that's it." Watch Kagame explain why he sought reconciliation »
Today Rwanda is an African success story. It has one of the fastest economic growth rates in the region, and one of the lowest crime rates, and lowest rate of HIV-AIDS. About one third of Rwanda's cabinet are female ministers and 48 percent of parliamentarians are women -- the highest anywhere in the world, according to the United Nations.
The country is clean because of a mandatory policy that sees even government ministers participate in clean-up once a month. Plastic bags are banned. The international business community praises Rwanda's good governance and the absence of official corruption or graft.
Kagame is credited not just with turning Rwanda around, but with also being the driving force behind rejecting revenge.
"We were in danger of having another genocide," he said.
"People were so badly aggrieved they could easily have turned on those they thought were responsible for this and actually killed them in another wave of killings. But that did not happen" he said. "We said building a nation is the most important thing."
Now no one talks about Hutus or Tutsis, he explained. "There is Rwanda, there are Rwandans and the common interest we have for a better future for this country is more important than any other interest."
In Gitarama, Bizimana said, "It hurts my heart to see that I did something wrong to friends of my family, to people who we even shared meals with," he said. "I am still asking for forgiveness from the people I hurt."
Amazingly many seem to have forgiven.
[link to www.cnn.com]
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Sireen-reborn
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5/15/2008 1:32 PM
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These women are definately better people then I.
There's no way in Satan's HELL i'd ever forgive, let alone befriend, marry or share a bed with my children's killer!
anything after 'but' is bullshit!
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canislatrans
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5/15/2008 3:18 PM
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to the top
And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music. |
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Tessa
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5/15/2008 3:21 PM
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These women are definately better people then I.
There's no way in Satan's HELL i'd ever forgive, let alone befriend, marry or share a bed with my children's killer! Quoting: Sireen-reborn
agreed
"My eyes divide the sky
As sirens sound in heaven
My will brings down the moon
And shatters it to pieces" |
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Anonymous Coward
User ID: 433621
5/15/2008 3:27 PM | | Re: Woman opens heart to man who slaughtered her family | Quote |
They finally got trained after KILLING the middle and upper classes. Fastest economic growth my ass...
They systematically took out a large portion of those above them and NOW they talk about "we are all Rwandans" give me a fucking break. PROPAGANDA
These women are going with the flow.. yay |
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Bloggermouth
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5/15/2008 3:41 PM
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One of the most difficult things to do in life is forgiveness. Forgiveness of others and oneself. It was mania that took hold of the Hutus. I don't expect people to understand or appreciate Mukantabana's ability to forgive, but I certainly hope that people would strive to. If they don't learn to forgive, another generation will learn the fear and distrust of the past and repeat history. Revenge has never been the answer.
Forgiveness is the answer.
A stupid man's report of what a clever man says can never be accurate, because he unconsciously translates what he hears into something he can understand.
- Bertrand Russell
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I think differing philosophical points of view as branches of a tree, each competing for its share of the light. It is the leaves at the top of the tree whose ego says, "it is us that provide for the life of this tree." They have forgotten the roots and the branches who now sit in the shade. - Bloggermouth |
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canislatrans
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5/15/2008 3:52 PM
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One of the most difficult things to do in life is forgiveness. Forgiveness of others and oneself. It was mania that took hold of the Hutus. I don't expect people to understand or appreciate Mukantabana's ability to forgive, but I certainly hope that people would strive to. If they don't learn to forgive, another generation will learn the fear and distrust of the past and repeat history. Revenge has never been the answer.
Forgiveness is the answer. Quoting: Bloggermouth
I agree entirely. Good post.
And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music. |
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Anonymous Coward
User ID: 433491
5/15/2008 3:55 PM | | Re: Woman opens heart to man who slaughtered her family | Quote |
These women are definately better people then I.
There's no way in Satan's HELL i'd ever forgive, let alone befriend, marry or share a bed with my children's killer! Quoting: Sireen-reborn
sick |
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Michael T.C.O. nli
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5/15/2008 4:15 PM | | Re: Woman opens heart to man who slaughtered her family | Quote |
One of the most difficult things to do in life is forgiveness. Forgiveness of others and oneself. It was mania that took hold of the Hutus. I don't expect people to understand or appreciate Mukantabana's ability to forgive, but I certainly hope that people would strive to. If they don't learn to forgive, another generation will learn the fear and distrust of the past and repeat history. Revenge has never been the answer.
Forgiveness is the answer. Quoting: Bloggermouth
I sure like that...thanks for sharing, friend
Peace |
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Anonymous Coward
User ID: 425272
5/15/2008 4:19 PM | | Re: Woman opens heart to man who slaughtered her family | Quote |
I'll leave the forgiving to those who CAN forgive...but if someone kills my kids, it's EYE FOR EYE for me, and I won't have peace until I see the killer dead.
Then and ONLY then would I find an inkling of forgiveness. |
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Bloggermouth
User ID: 374108
5/15/2008 4:25 PM
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I'll leave the forgiving to those who CAN forgive...but if someone kills my kids, it's EYE FOR EYE for me, and I won't have peace until I see the killer dead.
Then and ONLY then would I find an inkling of forgiveness. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 425272
Would you want the killer's family react in the same way you would? When does the anger and fear stop? If you react in the same way to those that hurt you, does it make you a better person?
A stupid man's report of what a clever man says can never be accurate, because he unconsciously translates what he hears into something he can understand.
- Bertrand Russell
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I think differing philosophical points of view as branches of a tree, each competing for its share of the light. It is the leaves at the top of the tree whose ego says, "it is us that provide for the life of this tree." They have forgotten the roots and the branches who now sit in the shade. - Bloggermouth |
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Anonymous Coward
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5/15/2008 4:28 PM | | Re: Woman opens heart to man who slaughtered her family | Quote |
One of the most difficult things to do in life is forgiveness. Forgiveness of others and oneself. It was mania that took hold of the Hutus. I don't expect people to understand or appreciate Mukantabana's ability to forgive, but I certainly hope that people would strive to. If they don't learn to forgive, another generation will learn the fear and distrust of the past and repeat history. Revenge has never been the answer.
Forgiveness is the answer.
I agree entirely. Good post. Quoting: canislatrans
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Anonymous Coward
User ID: 433558
5/15/2008 4:30 PM | | Re: Woman opens heart to man who slaughtered her family | Quote |
Let me guess white people made them kill each other! Actually, I wouldn't forgive anyone, because it was insanely unnecessary and cruel and evil. |
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Aresh
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5/15/2008 4:55 PM
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that is amazing, i think.
the power of love is always better than the submission of hate
In all things, i am flowing back thru and in and out, within and without and beyond them.
This is the Cosm. This is both I and You.
I am the Truth, and I am the Lie - I am the very spark of the Divine!
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DOOM - It's What's For Dinner!
A.K.A - Aresh, Awakened Me, An Ominous Coward (Howard), The Goddess Pandora, Aumon Haht Fith Ashai, Within The Flower and a few others... |
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FF
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5/15/2008 5:08 PM | | Re: Woman opens heart to man who slaughtered her family | Quote |
Stockholm syndrome! |
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Anonymous Coward
User ID: 290186
5/15/2008 5:14 PM | | Re: Woman opens heart to man who slaughtered her family | Quote |
One of the most difficult things to do in life is forgiveness. Forgiveness of others and oneself. It was mania that took hold of the Hutus. I don't expect people to understand or appreciate Mukantabana's ability to forgive, but I certainly hope that people would strive to. If they don't learn to forgive, another generation will learn the fear and distrust of the past and repeat history. Revenge has never been the answer.
Forgiveness is the answer. Quoting: Bloggermouth
Try Stockholm syndrome. |
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Bloggermouth
User ID: 374108
5/16/2008 1:51 PM
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One of the most difficult things to do in life is forgiveness. Forgiveness of others and oneself. It was mania that took hold of the Hutus. I don't expect people to understand or appreciate Mukantabana's ability to forgive, but I certainly hope that people would strive to. If they don't learn to forgive, another generation will learn the fear and distrust of the past and repeat history. Revenge has never been the answer.
Forgiveness is the answer.
Try Stockholm syndrome. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 290186
Are you suggesting that forgiveness is a psychological disorder and that revenge is the solution?
A stupid man's report of what a clever man says can never be accurate, because he unconsciously translates what he hears into something he can understand.
- Bertrand Russell
* * * * * * * * *
I think differing philosophical points of view as branches of a tree, each competing for its share of the light. It is the leaves at the top of the tree whose ego says, "it is us that provide for the life of this tree." They have forgotten the roots and the branches who now sit in the shade. - Bloggermouth |
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Anonymous Coward
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5/16/2008 11:00 PM | | Re: Woman opens heart to man who slaughtered her family | Quote |
The new world is here. :) Quoting: canislatrans
Fucking right it is.
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Anonymous Coward
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5/16/2008 11:12 PM | | Re: Woman opens heart to man who slaughtered her family | Quote |
They finally got trained after KILLING the middle and upper classes. Fastest economic growth my ass...
They systematically took out a large portion of those above them and NOW they talk about "we are all Rwandans" give me a fucking break. PROPAGANDA
These women are going with the flow.. yay Quoting: Anonymous Coward 433621
Great post. No different to the jewish/communist war against the middle class in the "west". |
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