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You ever feel bad talking behind someone's back ?
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* <----Kingdom of Heaven
User ID: 418811
 United States
7/8/2008 8:53 PM
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We all do it but i try not to because i feel bad when i do. It feel phony. Two faced you know ? Like i start thinking only a perfect person should be able to do that. I must admit i dont feel as bad if the person is a super bitch or asshole. But even then for some strange reason i feel like i have lowered myself.
Thats why i always try to throw in something good about someone IF i am talking about someone without them knowing.
Man's symbiotic connection with the cosmos will be known and there is nothing which can stop that knowing. Because everything we all do everyday helps confirm that truth. It is just that we haven't reached the pinnacle of where it leads. But we will soon enough. We will either live or die with that knowledge. Between Heaven and Earth is us.
Be brave young warriors in truth.
[link to www.youtube.com]
Only a miracle will save us now.
All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident.
Arthur Schopenhauer
German philosopher (1788 - 1860) |
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ViperThunder
User ID: 312619
United States
7/8/2008 8:55 PM
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This is a simple cure for this problem.
Don't talk about other people!
Unless inquired by someone else :P
Let There Be Peace |
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S.
User ID: 464367
United States
7/8/2008 8:56 PM
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Yeah, I do. However, I find the best remedy is to tell a person to his or her face what you think or what you've heard. Then it becomes unnecessary to "gossip" and thus feel badly or two-faced.
S.
No matter how many cookies you consult, you will find that love is our greatest fortune. ~ Leigh Standley |
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* <----Kingdom of Heaven
User ID: 418811
United States
7/8/2008 8:58 PM
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This is a simple cure for this problem.
Don't talk about other people!
Unless inquired by someone else :P Quoting: ViperThunder
From my experience i have never met one person in my life who didnt do it. Not even one time.
Man's symbiotic connection with the cosmos will be known and there is nothing which can stop that knowing. Because everything we all do everyday helps confirm that truth. It is just that we haven't reached the pinnacle of where it leads. But we will soon enough. We will either live or die with that knowledge. Between Heaven and Earth is us.
Be brave young warriors in truth.
[link to www.youtube.com]
Only a miracle will save us now.
All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident.
Arthur Schopenhauer
German philosopher (1788 - 1860) |
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* <----Kingdom of Heaven
User ID: 418811
United States
7/8/2008 8:59 PM
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Yeah, I do. However, I find the best remedy is to tell a person to his or her face what you think or what you've heard. Then it becomes unnecessary to "gossip" and thus feel badly or two-faced.
S. Quoting: S.
Yup true ....but you have to do it with well chosen words and very carefully lol
Man's symbiotic connection with the cosmos will be known and there is nothing which can stop that knowing. Because everything we all do everyday helps confirm that truth. It is just that we haven't reached the pinnacle of where it leads. But we will soon enough. We will either live or die with that knowledge. Between Heaven and Earth is us.
Be brave young warriors in truth.
[link to www.youtube.com]
Only a miracle will save us now.
All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident.
Arthur Schopenhauer
German philosopher (1788 - 1860) |
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ViperThunder
User ID: 312619
United States
7/8/2008 9:05 PM
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From my experience i have never met one person in my life who didnt do it. Not even one time. Quoting: * <----Kingdom of Heaven
My family (mostly the adults) does it all the time. My aunts will talk crap about my grandmother, my mother will talk about my father. I stay as far away as I can from that. Which is why I do not voice my opinion about anyone in my family.
But I have very good friends, and only very good friends. So we don't have anything to say about each other that we don't already know about each other.
Let There Be Peace |
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Enaid 
User ID: 310721
United States
7/8/2008 9:06 PM
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I make a concerted effort not to talk behind peoples' backs. I'm sure I probably slip - as I am human. |
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S.
User ID: 464367
United States
7/8/2008 9:06 PM
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Yup true ....but you have to do it with well chosen words and very carefully lol Quoting: * <----Kingdom of Heaven
Yes. Diplomacy. For instance, say, "Would you want to know if I heard some disturbing news about you?"
Then they can decide. You tell what you've heard if they answer yes. You keep it to yourself if they answer no, but you don't spread it any further, either.
Or...if someone bugs you, say, "I feel confused and on edge when you (fill in the blank)." This way you are expressing yourself as the one who "feels" a certain way and you are not blaming them for the way you feel. You aren't saying, "You make me feel bugged out". Because, in truth, they can't MAKE you feel any certain way...YOU are feeling it. But you can point out specific behaviors and say how you feel when these behaviors are present.
S.
No matter how many cookies you consult, you will find that love is our greatest fortune. ~ Leigh Standley |
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Anonymous Coward
User ID: 465028
 Canada
7/8/2008 9:07 PM | | Re: You ever feel bad talking behind someone's back ? | Quote |
shuttup there he is |
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* <----Kingdom of Heaven
User ID: 418811
United States
7/8/2008 9:07 PM
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From my experience i have never met one person in my life who didnt do it. Not even one time.
My family (mostly the adults) does it all the time. My aunts will talk crap about my grandmother, my mother will talk about my father. I stay as far away as I can from that. Which is why I do not voice my opinion about anyone in my family.
But I have very good friends, and only very good friends. So we don't have anything to say about each other that we don't already know about each other. Quoting: ViperThunder
Yea get it all in the open. That helps. But people are still people.
Man's symbiotic connection with the cosmos will be known and there is nothing which can stop that knowing. Because everything we all do everyday helps confirm that truth. It is just that we haven't reached the pinnacle of where it leads. But we will soon enough. We will either live or die with that knowledge. Between Heaven and Earth is us.
Be brave young warriors in truth.
[link to www.youtube.com]
Only a miracle will save us now.
All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident.
Arthur Schopenhauer
German philosopher (1788 - 1860) |
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Anonymous Coward
User ID: 465028
Canada
7/8/2008 9:22 PM | | Re: You ever feel bad talking behind someone's back ? | Quote |
I try not to, not even conciously, it's a natural resistance.
and when others talk(gossip) about people to me, behind their back, I don't contribute, I just listen
for the most part...
I strive to be forthrighteous, in doing so, I find confidence.
I beleive people underestimate the harm they cause to others and especially themselves, through the black magic of gossip
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Sara-Ka-El
User ID: 326961
United States
7/8/2008 9:26 PM
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shuttup there he is Quoting: Anonymous Coward 465028
From Cooperate Law to Public Defense
Truth is a Stranger to Fiction
Learn to Swim
In the Instancy of Atomic Love, the Footloose are Dead |
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mj-13
User ID: 465100
United States
7/8/2008 9:27 PM | | Re: You ever feel bad talking behind someone's back ? | Quote |
Then again, are you back stabbing a back stabber? Pay back is a bitch for them. |
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* <----Kingdom of Heaven
User ID: 418811
United States
7/8/2008 9:28 PM
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I try not to, not even conciously, it's a natural resistance.
and when others talk(gossip) about people to me, behind their back, I don't contribute, I just listen
for the most part...
I strive to be forthrighteous, in doing so, I find confidence.
I beleive people underestimate the harm they cause to others and especially themselves, through the black magic of gossip
Gossip is an evil evil thing. Totally wicked. And gossip very rarely is totally true. Usually sprinkled with lots of lies.
Man's symbiotic connection with the cosmos will be known and there is nothing which can stop that knowing. Because everything we all do everyday helps confirm that truth. It is just that we haven't reached the pinnacle of where it leads. But we will soon enough. We will either live or die with that knowledge. Between Heaven and Earth is us.
Be brave young warriors in truth.
[link to www.youtube.com]
Only a miracle will save us now.
All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident.
Arthur Schopenhauer
German philosopher (1788 - 1860) |
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* <----Kingdom of Heaven
User ID: 418811
United States
7/8/2008 9:29 PM
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Then again, are you back stabbing a back stabber? Pay back is a bitch for them. Quoting: mj-13
Like i said no one is perfect in this area. Everyone i have found does it to some degree. Some degree. All we can do is be fools for self improvement : )
Man's symbiotic connection with the cosmos will be known and there is nothing which can stop that knowing. Because everything we all do everyday helps confirm that truth. It is just that we haven't reached the pinnacle of where it leads. But we will soon enough. We will either live or die with that knowledge. Between Heaven and Earth is us.
Be brave young warriors in truth.
[link to www.youtube.com]
Only a miracle will save us now.
All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident.
Arthur Schopenhauer
German philosopher (1788 - 1860) |
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Sara-Ka-El
User ID: 326961
United States
7/8/2008 9:29 PM
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Gossip is tied to sex and jealousy and fate and all those emotionally insecure juicy things...
From Cooperate Law to Public Defense
Truth is a Stranger to Fiction
Learn to Swim
In the Instancy of Atomic Love, the Footloose are Dead |
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So What I Smoke Weed
User ID: 392665
 Trinidad and Tobago
7/8/2008 10:11 PM | | Re: You ever feel bad talking behind someone's back ? | Quote |
I dont feel bad because talking behind someones back is something that I dont practice.
Whenever I feel myself reaching to that point I consider these things.
1. It is a waste of energy and time. Do I want when recounting my life experience to have to endure repeatedly witnessing something that served no purpose.
2. If there is nothing good or meaningful to be said one should remain quiet
3. I do not and would not like someone to do the same thing to me
4. I choose not to comment on things that I am not knowledgeable of
5. I prefer not to dwell on negativity whether it concerns myself or others
6. It is a sign of weakness. Why would I feel the need t bring down another person? This is a good question to ask oneself.
7. I feel sick in the presence of people who do this and therefore should not create this kind of environment for others to experience a similar reaction.
There is no circumstance or situation where I think that this type of action is necessary. It is possible to highlight what we may consider negative characteristics of others but this can be done in light of learning from another person's experience. There is no need for the passing of judgment which is usually the context in which someone chooses to speak of another.
We should always question each action from the perspective of what purpose does it serve and how does it contribute to the good of myself, the good of all and to my own personal progress and growth. |
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Anonymous Coward
User ID: 68635
United States
7/8/2008 10:16 PM | | Re: You ever feel bad talking behind someone's back ? | Quote |
You should never say anything about someone to someone else that you wouldnt say to thier face. Bitching about someone who really pisses you off because of thier constant only care about themselves attiude is one thing. The truth is what it is. Busting on them about every little imperfection is something else.
Only you know if you are venting or if you are bringing the person down to your level. Niether make you feel good. I think most of us are guilty. |
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* <-----Kingdom of Heaven
User ID: 418811 (OP)
United States
7/8/2008 10:16 PM | | Re: You ever feel bad talking behind someone's back ? | Quote |
To answer Sara and the weed person. I agree with both of you.
Sara it is tied to sex a lot. |
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