You ever feel bad talking behind someone's back ? | |
ViperThunder User ID: 312619 United States 07/08/2008 08:55 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
S. User ID: 464367 United States 07/08/2008 08:56 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Yeah, I do. However, I find the best remedy is to tell a person to his or her face what you think or what you've heard. Then it becomes unnecessary to "gossip" and thus feel badly or two-faced. S. No matter how many cookies you consult, you will find that love is our greatest fortune. ~ Leigh Standley |
* <----Kingdom of Heaven (OP) User ID: 418811 United States 07/08/2008 08:58 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | This is a simple cure for this problem. Quoting: ViperThunderDon't talk about other people! Unless inquired by someone else :P From my experience i have never met one person in my life who didnt do it. Not even one time. Man's symbiotic connection with the cosmos will be known and there is nothing which can stop that knowing. Because everything we all do everyday helps confirm that truth. It is just that we haven't reached the pinnacle of where it leads. But we will soon enough. We will either live or die with that knowledge. Between Heaven and Earth is us. Be brave young warriors in truth. [link to www.youtube.com] Only a miracle will save us now. All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident. Arthur Schopenhauer German philosopher (1788 - 1860) |
* <----Kingdom of Heaven (OP) User ID: 418811 United States 07/08/2008 08:59 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Yeah, I do. However, I find the best remedy is to tell a person to his or her face what you think or what you've heard. Then it becomes unnecessary to "gossip" and thus feel badly or two-faced. Quoting: S.S. Yup true ....but you have to do it with well chosen words and very carefully lol Man's symbiotic connection with the cosmos will be known and there is nothing which can stop that knowing. Because everything we all do everyday helps confirm that truth. It is just that we haven't reached the pinnacle of where it leads. But we will soon enough. We will either live or die with that knowledge. Between Heaven and Earth is us. Be brave young warriors in truth. [link to www.youtube.com] Only a miracle will save us now. All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident. Arthur Schopenhauer German philosopher (1788 - 1860) |
ViperThunder User ID: 312619 United States 07/08/2008 09:05 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | From my experience i have never met one person in my life who didnt do it. Not even one time. Quoting: * <----Kingdom of HeavenMy family (mostly the adults) does it all the time. My aunts will talk crap about my grandmother, my mother will talk about my father. I stay as far away as I can from that. Which is why I do not voice my opinion about anyone in my family. But I have very good friends, and only very good friends. So we don't have anything to say about each other that we don't already know about each other. Let There Be Peace |
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S. User ID: 464367 United States 07/08/2008 09:06 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Yup true ....but you have to do it with well chosen words and very carefully lol Quoting: * <----Kingdom of HeavenYes. Diplomacy. For instance, say, "Would you want to know if I heard some disturbing news about you?" Then they can decide. You tell what you've heard if they answer yes. You keep it to yourself if they answer no, but you don't spread it any further, either. Or...if someone bugs you, say, "I feel confused and on edge when you (fill in the blank)." This way you are expressing yourself as the one who "feels" a certain way and you are not blaming them for the way you feel. You aren't saying, "You make me feel bugged out". Because, in truth, they can't MAKE you feel any certain way...YOU are feeling it. But you can point out specific behaviors and say how you feel when these behaviors are present. S. No matter how many cookies you consult, you will find that love is our greatest fortune. ~ Leigh Standley |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 465028 Canada 07/08/2008 09:07 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
* <----Kingdom of Heaven (OP) User ID: 418811 United States 07/08/2008 09:07 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | From my experience i have never met one person in my life who didnt do it. Not even one time. Quoting: ViperThunderMy family (mostly the adults) does it all the time. My aunts will talk crap about my grandmother, my mother will talk about my father. I stay as far away as I can from that. Which is why I do not voice my opinion about anyone in my family. But I have very good friends, and only very good friends. So we don't have anything to say about each other that we don't already know about each other. Yea get it all in the open. That helps. But people are still people. Man's symbiotic connection with the cosmos will be known and there is nothing which can stop that knowing. Because everything we all do everyday helps confirm that truth. It is just that we haven't reached the pinnacle of where it leads. But we will soon enough. We will either live or die with that knowledge. Between Heaven and Earth is us. Be brave young warriors in truth. [link to www.youtube.com] Only a miracle will save us now. All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident. Arthur Schopenhauer German philosopher (1788 - 1860) |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 465028 Canada 07/08/2008 09:22 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I try not to, not even conciously, it's a natural resistance. and when others talk(gossip) about people to me, behind their back, I don't contribute, I just listen for the most part... I strive to be forthrighteous, in doing so, I find confidence. I beleive people underestimate the harm they cause to others and especially themselves, through the black magic of gossip |
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* <----Kingdom of Heaven (OP) User ID: 418811 United States 07/08/2008 09:28 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I try not to, not even conciously, it's a natural resistance. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 465028and when others talk(gossip) about people to me, behind their back, I don't contribute, I just listen for the most part... I strive to be forthrighteous, in doing so, I find confidence. I beleive people underestimate the harm they cause to others and especially themselves, through the black magic of gossip Gossip is an evil evil thing. Totally wicked. And gossip very rarely is totally true. Usually sprinkled with lots of lies. Man's symbiotic connection with the cosmos will be known and there is nothing which can stop that knowing. Because everything we all do everyday helps confirm that truth. It is just that we haven't reached the pinnacle of where it leads. But we will soon enough. We will either live or die with that knowledge. Between Heaven and Earth is us. Be brave young warriors in truth. [link to www.youtube.com] Only a miracle will save us now. All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident. Arthur Schopenhauer German philosopher (1788 - 1860) |
* <----Kingdom of Heaven (OP) User ID: 418811 United States 07/08/2008 09:29 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Then again, are you back stabbing a back stabber? Pay back is a bitch for them. Quoting: mj-13Like i said no one is perfect in this area. Everyone i have found does it to some degree. Some degree. All we can do is be fools for self improvement : ) Man's symbiotic connection with the cosmos will be known and there is nothing which can stop that knowing. Because everything we all do everyday helps confirm that truth. It is just that we haven't reached the pinnacle of where it leads. But we will soon enough. We will either live or die with that knowledge. Between Heaven and Earth is us. Be brave young warriors in truth. [link to www.youtube.com] Only a miracle will save us now. All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident. Arthur Schopenhauer German philosopher (1788 - 1860) |
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So What I Smoke Weed User ID: 392665 Trinidad and Tobago 07/08/2008 10:11 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I dont feel bad because talking behind someones back is something that I dont practice. Whenever I feel myself reaching to that point I consider these things. 1. It is a waste of energy and time. Do I want when recounting my life experience to have to endure repeatedly witnessing something that served no purpose. 2. If there is nothing good or meaningful to be said one should remain quiet 3. I do not and would not like someone to do the same thing to me 4. I choose not to comment on things that I am not knowledgeable of 5. I prefer not to dwell on negativity whether it concerns myself or others 6. It is a sign of weakness. Why would I feel the need t bring down another person? This is a good question to ask oneself. 7. I feel sick in the presence of people who do this and therefore should not create this kind of environment for others to experience a similar reaction. There is no circumstance or situation where I think that this type of action is necessary. It is possible to highlight what we may consider negative characteristics of others but this can be done in light of learning from another person's experience. There is no need for the passing of judgment which is usually the context in which someone chooses to speak of another. We should always question each action from the perspective of what purpose does it serve and how does it contribute to the good of myself, the good of all and to my own personal progress and growth. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 68635 United States 07/08/2008 10:16 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You should never say anything about someone to someone else that you wouldnt say to thier face. Bitching about someone who really pisses you off because of thier constant only care about themselves attiude is one thing. The truth is what it is. Busting on them about every little imperfection is something else. Only you know if you are venting or if you are bringing the person down to your level. Niether make you feel good. I think most of us are guilty. |
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