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| Anonymous Coward
User ID: 472093
7/27/2008 9:40 PM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
I'm just waiting for God to destroy America
I come on the internet for some good doom news |
| Anonymous Coward
User ID: 456916
7/27/2008 9:40 PM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
Wish you luck. How old are you? -- Not interested in dating - just curious.
36--however, doesn't seem to matter due to the age ranges I received interest from.
Where do you live?
S.F Bay Area
Ha, must be gorgeous there..I'm on the opposite coast. Same thing, long term relationships that didn't lead to the altar.dammit lol.
The weather's perfect year-round, amazing sites within 50 miles of everything. Come visit--I'll buy your ticket. 
dude!
oh never mind
lmao
what?
slow down sailor, at least get her name before you pop the big question! ;)
haha, good point Malu! :) I am not ready to board the plane yet. However, the above attributes got me a bit intrigued..plus the guy can spell pretty well (not to be shallow or anything..)
I always made it to my elementary school spelling bees!
Drat, too bad you're not any closer!!
Indeed..I guess I just have to wait for the prince to rescue me out of NY.. |
| Munster
User ID: 259429
7/27/2008 9:41 PM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
Alien sexual deviates frequently play online games which are not familiar with normal human imagination... |
| Anonymous Coward
User ID: 474105
7/27/2008 9:41 PM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
Sexual Signals Detailed. EBIAC
Excerpts from Section 11 of
The Tyranny of Ambiguity
F30D = Female, 30, Dutch
M45DE = Male, 45, Dutch Employer
SIGNALS LIST. The following is a listing of the different signals, mainly female, which have been identified and collected.
ACCIDENT. Things being dropped, bicycle accidents and similar mishaps. An example and discussion appears early in Section 10.
ASSENT. The female transmits her decision to accept the male for sex. Unless he says or does something wrong he will be successful. This signal can be especially subtle and its precise nature is as yet unclear.
BLANCH (OBSERVATION ACKNOWLEDGE, M/F). Literally to whiten, to turn pale, but by this is meant a visible involuntary facial signal made in reaction to the good looks of another. The upper lip may tremble, the mouth open slightly or the eyelids flicker. It may be one of a small subset of signals which are emitted equally by males and females.
BODY POUT (OBSERVATION ACKNOWLEDGE). A part of the female's body is protruded or displayed.
BODY TREMOR. The body is rocked from side to side to emphasize the breasts.
BRIGHTENING. The female becomes alert, her posture stiffens and becomes more upright, she smiles or intensifies her smile and in this manner indicates her receptive state as a target male enters her vicinity or advances.
CHALLENGE (M/F). Challenges are expressions of defiance and can take subtle as well as overt forms. One kind of Challenge Signal is exemplified by a girl putting her nose in the air and adopting a posture of playful disdain to her boyfriend, which invites a response. Other characteristic examples are a woman ostentatiously leaning back on a chair while operating a computer, or arrogantly leaning against a photocopy machine which is in operation. The presence of a male is required for the signal to be emitted but in the presence of a perceptive one such displays are usually short-lived.
Overt Challenge Signals are impelling: they demand a response. They require attention, and secure a relationship by the involvement they demand; they can instigate or perpetuate a relationship. Challenges call for a limit to be imposed, pleading for the boundaries of acceptable behaviour to be made explicit. It may be an unconscious request for subjugation. Overt Challenges can take the form of confrontations of authority such as public demonstrations and subversive acts; they are ambiguous in intention if not in form. A good example of a male expression of the Overt Challenge Signal is knocking off a policeman's helmet.
Challenge Signals are a means by which power can be continually tested and incremented when a response is not forthcoming.
CLICK. The female transmits her realization that she is being manoeuvred into a position where sex could take place. The precise nature of this signal is as yet unclear. It is usually similar in degree to Assent.
COLLISION. A female attempts to intercept a target male with the intention of initiating a conversation in response to the encounter. Typically the female's eyes are set in a vague direction and she walks on an intersecting course in order to collide with or interrupt the course of the male, thus provoking a conversation. A comment might be made and the conversation then extended. In advanced form the female can deliberately collide with a male carrying a pile of papers and then help him pick them up.
EXAGGERATED BEHAVIOUR IN ALIEN CULTURE, EBIAC. A most distinctive instance was by one of a bevy of Middle Eastern (probably Iranian) women dressed in robes and traditional headscarves walking along the Nieuwendijk. One broke away from the rest and gave me a very pronounced Collision Signal; it was very obvious. This was similar in degree to Arabic women shoplifters in London. These women, even including the wives and daughters of diplomats and dignitaries, learning of the practice of shoplifting among the indigenous population, went at it with a vengeance, their enthusiasm apparently being in direct proportion to its prohibition in the culture from which they had come.
Germans could be forcefully uninhibited when they came to Amsterdam. It seemed that whatever behaviour was repressed in their home culture was expressed in exaggerated form in an environment in which it was not. These few reports of this effect are undoubtedly unsystematic, and in isolation might be regarded as unreliable, but in each case there is a consistent pattern. The phenomenon is evident among many different cultures.
A further example was British and other white emigrants to South Africa during apartheid. Reportedly they would spend their first year in righteous indignation, saying how disgraceful the system was and refusing to have coloured servants. After a year or so however their views would be revised and house servants, a luxury for the fairly ordinary people who would otherwise have no prospect of such convenience, would be accommodated. They would then treat them with less consideration and often more violently than the indigenous white South Africans who had grown up with the system.
DIRECT LOOK. Females tend to reserve direct eye contact for attraction and can go to quite absurd lengths to avoid eye contact, including using shop windows and mirrors for indirect observation. Occasionally there was accidental eye contact followed by a display of nervousness or embarrassment. A common occurrence was the very subtle and proficient 'merging away' of a female's eyes if a male returned her look or stare (see Rapid Look Away). There were also exaggerated swings of the head as a female eagerly sought my image in a shop window as I passed by. Females tended to only meet the eyes of a male when they were accompanied by one or more males, were behind the wheel of a car or were pushing a pram.
DOUBLE BLINK. Both eyes are blinked simultaneously, usually deliberately. It is chiefly a signal of affection and sufficiently non-sexual that in Amsterdam it was sometimes given by males to each other, especially on parting. It was a female signal imitated by males.
DRESS. Indiscriminate signals which can subsequently become commonplace as a fashion.
DROPPING SOMETHING (LADY GROUP OF SIGNALS). An item is dropped to the floor for a target to retrieve, intended thereby to initiate a conversation. This is a member of a large subset of signals intended to evoke the caretaking instinct in a target male. The set is called the Lady Group. The archetype is intentionally dropping a handkerchief on the ground as a Gentleman passes.
EMPTY GLASS (LADY GROUP). This takes the form of the gentle shake of an empty glass, as a cue for a drink to be bought, and is another member of the Lady Group of Signals.
EXAGGERATED LAUGHTER. Forced or over-enthusiastic laughter within hearing of a target male. It is often emitted by one of a group of females in a bar or café.
EXAGGERATED WALK. Typically the female swings her hips as she walks away from a male.
EXCLAMATION. This appears to be a pronounced expression of the Blanch Signal. A phrase is exclaimed (e.g. "Oh my God!") in reaction to the good looks of another, perhaps particularly in response to a Direct Look from a male. (Compare Loud Verbal Utterance.)
FERTILE. A female signalling that she has reached the fertile period within her monthly cycle may appear more alert, be prominent among a group of females and display self-assured movements, perhaps most distinctively in her walk.
FOOT STAMP. The foot is stamped flat on the ground, either while standing still or involuntarily while walking along. Sometimes it is seen as a slight perturbation of the walk but not heard, or it might be heard but not seen.
FREEZING IN PLACE (OBSERVATION ACKNOWLEDGE). The head inclines to a particular angle and freezes there, or it freezes in position the instant a look, even an incidental one, from the male is ascertained. The primary purpose of the signal appears to be that the female be noticed, but an alternate interpretation is that it indicates fear of an approach being made. There can also be a narrowing of the eyes in response to a Direct Look from a male, as the female tries to establish whether the look from him is a signal. If the female is sedentary it can appear that the whole body freezes in place.
GOING QUIET. Falling silent or still, perhaps in nervousness or fear that any action will develop into a more overt signal.
HELPLESS FEMALE (LADY GROUP). The female seeks to directly inspire the caretaking instincts of the male using signals of confusion, self-depreciation or a plaintive manner.
HESITATION. The female exhibits uncertainty in her course of action or direction. The signal can be indiscriminate.
INCIDENTAL NOISES. Quiet hissing, tsk-tsk noises or making a clicking noise with the tongue are examples. An instance of hissing came from a Greek girl, tsk-tsk is reportedly used in parts of South America and clicking of the tongue was issued by a Dutchwoman.
INCIDENTAL TOUCHING. Most usually, brushes against the arm or shoulder or seemingly casual touches by a female's hand. In overt form, brushing the breasts against the male or rubbing the thigh against a male's leg.
JOSTLE. A target male is aggressively jostled or nudged. Two memorable instances of this signal are detailed. On the platform of Falmer station, after a visit to Sussex University, a girl signalled but I did not respond. When the train arrived I stood to one side to allow her past through the crush of people trying to get on, and she jabbed me violently in the ribs with her elbow.
The second example took place during the period I was working for M45DE. I had gone out to buy office coffee, was standing in a supermarket checkout queue and a woman behind nudged her shopping trolley into my back. On the first shove it occurred to me to respond, but I could not think of anything to say, or at least a polite and non-facile response to the shove. It was repeated and as the shoves intensified I started to feel angry, thinking 'Why can't she be the one to have to think of something to say to a complete stranger, for a change?' They became progressively fiercer until I was being aggressively rammed from behind. After five or six times she eventually gave up. Later I caught a glimpse of her on the other side of the checkouts and she appeared rather embarrassed.
In both instances I had looked at the female at the outset, if only briefly, and failed to approach.
JUVENILE. Juvenile Signals are particularly characteristic and include dancing, spinning and twitching. They are relatively indiscriminate although likely to have been triggered by a particular target. Juvenile females will frequently respond to male attention by displaying their breasts, for example deliberately pulling back their jacket to demonstrate their presence (Body Pout). Breast size is undoubtedly of great importance to the female psyche; flat-chested females are frequently sensitive about it.
When a group of juvenile females gather and giggle it may often be that they are practising signalling amongst each other, demonstrating to one another the signals they have learnt and are rehearsing.
LEAVING SOMETHING. An item is left behind for the target male t r their shoulder.
LOOKING FLUSTERED (LADY GROUP). While static the female appears agitated or disturbed. The signal takes the form of a twitching, shaking or shimmering of the upper limbs and torso.
LOOKING SAD. The female appears forlorn as a target male passes. The male may be inspired to approach with an exhortation to 'cheer up' or enquire what is the matter.
LOOKING THROUGH; A SPECIAL CASE OF OBSERVATION ACKNOWLEDGE. There is a definite effect of being able to Look Through females if they are susceptible to a male, for example if they are attentive to the male or have a crush on him. Typically the female will be 'caught' in a posture with her legs slightly apart.
There was an early Brigitte Bardot film in which the actress got out of bed wearing a dressing gown and walked towards the camera. The film was shown to the censor who said that the film was acceptable save for the nude scene in which BB got out of bed. "I'll remove it" said the Director "if you show me the scene." The official had thought that Bardot had been naked; the actress had succeeded in putting the Looking Through Signal onto celluloid. This anecdote confirms that it is a signal emitted by the female and not simply a male perception; it is actually a singular example of Observation Acknowledge.
LOOSE WOMAN. This rare signal takes the form of waving the leg and arm, actually waving the arm while one foot is lifted off the ground, usually by a woman under the influence of drink.
LOUD VERBAL UTTERANCE. This quite uncommon signal consists of the loud and pronounced utterance of a single word, giving either an indication of the female's receptiveness or a clue as to how she may be located in the future, intended to reach the hearing of the target male.
NOT SAYING GOODBYE. Not saying goodbye following a conversation can be a cue for the male to follow in some circumstances. One example was F30D in BAR1.
OBSERVATION ACKNOWLEDGE. THE MOST COMMON SIGNAL. GRIMACE RESPONSE. Observation Acknowledge is a response to the attention of another person. A driving instructor once asked me "What is the most common signal you see on the road?" and I replied "The turning signal." "Wrong" he said "It's braking, the brake lights." Similarly the most common signal is looking at someone and after that, the response to being looked at. Females in Amsterdam appeared to be able to tell and would react the instant they became an object of attention; if they did not respond directly they could be seen to suppress their reaction, often by an involuntary twitch of the head or a switch to using peripheral vision. Many would actually grimace in response, as if in physical pain. The females were exceedingly quick to show displeasure.
OPEN LEGS. The instinctive, involuntary opening of the legs by a female during foreplay is something with which many males will be familiar. It is very probably the strongest signal a female can issue to a male; when combined with the smile it is stronger still. The signal can be adopted as a manner in public places in which case the signal becomes indiscriminate.
OVERCOME. The female exhibits loss of control. Once a girl emerged from a sauna close to the house. As we passed our eyes met and I saw that she was attractive. She walked a few paces farther and then veered to lean against a wall, with her back to me, where she paused for some moments without looking back. I did not respond but continued walking, watching but not comprehending. On another occasion in BAR1 a woman appeared to have been overwhelmed by me. Afterwards I wondered whether I could have steered her outside and had sex with her there and then without meeting any resistance.
PERIPHERAL COMMENT. Something is said, typically to a female companion, to which a target male within hearing might react.
PLAYFUL ABANDON. The female indicates her receptive state by careless and playful attitudes. The defining characteristics of this subset of signals are as yet unclear.
PLEASURE GROUP OF SIGNALS. Included in this group of signals are small jumps up and down on stiff legs, dancing around and singing. They are generally not sexual signals but there is a definite function of female pleasure-signalling in the male response to it: 'If females signal pleasure then everything is alright' which is, of course, not necessarily true. An obvious example of Pleasure Signalling is women working in bars and coffeeshops, who are either instructed or tacitly understand that Pleasure Signalling is part of their role. Sometimes however it was evident that the Pleasure Signals were genuine, so much so that it occasionally occurred to me that they should be paying to be there, rather than the other way around.
PREENING. The female applies lipstick, adjusts her dress or toys with an item of jewellery in the presence of her target.
RAPID LOOK AWAY (OBSERVATION ACKNOWLEDGE). There is a rapid look away, in its most advanced form the look is into the air. The rate of looking away may be moderated for effect in which case it becomes a deliberate signal.
REACHING OVER. The female rudely reaches for an object in front of or past the male, without asking for it to be passed to her or saying 'Excuse me.' This is another device, perhaps typical of mature women, for attracting attention.
SHORT STEPS. This is undoubtedly a female signal if not an innate feminine characteristic. Sometimes as a signal it belongs in the Observation Acknowledge Group. It is also emitted by homosexual males and even by heterosexual ones immediately following resort to homosexual sex (e.g. out of desperation).
SOFTENING. Similar to Brightening but the facial muscles relax.
SPITTING. This can be a device to attract attention, particularly by adolescent girls.
TONGUE. The tongue is stuck out as a sexual signal. When this stereotypical deliberate signal is given by a female it appears to signify that the male is desired by her.
WAVE OF HAIR. This signal is commonly called the Hair Flick. It is the narcissistic stroking by a female of her hair or flicking it out from the shoulders with the hand. It may mean 'I love me, you love me too.'
WAVE OF KEYS. The female waves her keys at a target male, who is intended to follow.
WIDE EYE. In this very common signal the pupils dilate to indicate the switch to peripheral vision; often the whole eye widens to appear larger. (It could alternatively be called the Greedy Eye Signal.)
FEMALE PREFERENCE FOR SIGNALS. Clearly there must be strong reasons for the female preference for a form of covert communication such as signals, and definite advantages for them in their use. Signals are obviously intended to assist male targeting. They also confer the advantage of initial control, since a male response to attraction by a signal indicates that he is manipulable. This may be why timing is so important, because a rapid and unrestrained response indicates greater manipulability. Females have a definite preference for males who respond to their signals.
CONSPIRACY MECHANISMS. THE INDULGENCE OF ROMANCE, IoR. Another reason signalling is preferred by females may be that by their subtlety the risk of a female encroaching on another's partner is minimized. A male with an existing attachment will be considerably less likely to respond to a signal from another female than to a spoken proposal from her.
In similar manner, if a female perceives that a male is naive she may be inclined to leave him alone to allow another female maximal IoR. If a female perceives, rightly or wrongly, that a male is impervious to certain signals (such as deliberate signals) her instinct may be to leave that male untainted, permitting his recognition as an optimal match by another female: specifically, allowing that other female maximal IoR following an honest signal-response sequence at some future date.
IoR may be preserved during a signal-response sequence with the aid of denial. The female may deny to herself that she signalled; although she is mostly incapable of seeing her own signal she will almost certainly sense herself giving it. Whether the female denies to herself that she signalled or not, she is able to convince herself that the relationship has merit by virtue of being 'natural' and the relationship is thus of value to her.
There can be, on the one hand, a healthy and normal reliance on instinctive signals and on the other, a rigid, uncompromising female insistence on them. Some disadvantages of an over-reliance on signals are obvious: less obvious is that males can become too good at reading them and this is problematic in those situations when signals contradict intentions. Females can also become neurotic about the signals they are emitting.
Signals are cowardly in that it is a safe strategy which carries little or no risk: because of their ambiguous nature a female can always deny her intent. The Collision and Jostle Signals seem to be the closest females normally come to making an approach.
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| malu 
User ID: 421073
7/27/2008 9:41 PM
 | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
Wish you luck. How old are you? -- Not interested in dating - just curious.
36--however, doesn't seem to matter due to the age ranges I received interest from.
Where do you live?
S.F Bay Area
Ha, must be gorgeous there..I'm on the opposite coast. Same thing, long term relationships that didn't lead to the altar.dammit lol.
The weather's perfect year-round, amazing sites within 50 miles of everything. Come visit--I'll buy your ticket.
dude!
oh never mind
lmao
what?
slow down sailor, at least get her name before you pop the big question! ;)
haha, good point Malu! :) I am not ready to board the plane yet. However, the above attributes got me a bit intrigued..plus the guy can spell pretty well (not to be shallow or anything..)
I always made it to my elementary school spelling bees!
Drat, too bad you're not any closer!!
here we go
i know of five couples that have met here and married, gods honest truth
send us a postcard ;)
When peaceful revolution becomes impossible, violent revolution becomes inevitable.
"Hard pressed on my right. My center is yielding. Impossible to maneuver. Situation excellent. I am attacking." |
| Anonymous Coward
User ID: 456916
7/27/2008 9:43 PM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
Wish you luck. How old are you? -- Not interested in dating - just curious.
36--however, doesn't seem to matter due to the age ranges I received interest from.
Where do you live?
S.F Bay Area
Ha, must be gorgeous there..I'm on the opposite coast. Same thing, long term relationships that didn't lead to the altar.dammit lol.
The weather's perfect year-round, amazing sites within 50 miles of everything. Come visit--I'll buy your ticket.
dude!
oh never mind
lmao
what?
slow down sailor, at least get her name before you pop the big question! ;)
haha, good point Malu! :) I am not ready to board the plane yet. However, the above attributes got me a bit intrigued..plus the guy can spell pretty well (not to be shallow or anything..)
I always made it to my elementary school spelling bees!
Drat, too bad you're not any closer!!
here we go
i know of five couples that have met here and married, gods honest truth
send us a postcard ;)
FIVE?? Seriously??!!! |
| Wake up tards
User ID: 459770
7/27/2008 9:43 PM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
I am a single white guy, fit, well educated and well adjusted. I consider myself normal in every sense of the word. I figure i am decent looking because all of the women i have dated have been decent looking as well. But some of these girls have some issues!
The first girl i met through CL was odd. We met for drinks at Red Robin. I could tell right away this was going to be an odd one. We got a table in the bar and she was having great difficulty making ANY eye contact with me what so ever. She had one word answers for everything and didnt offer much in the way of conversation. OK, so you are not interested. Thats fine because i wasn't either. I believe she is very insecure, and it was painful to watch.
One of the first girls i met through match wanted to have dinner and wine and watch the sunset at a fancy place near the beach. Now i am all for that stuff, but it doesn't seem right on the first date when you dont know someone well. So i took her bowling and then to Olive Garden. The conversation was ok, but i wasn't feeling any chemistry. She was about 10 years younger and just didnt seem to have the kind of life experiences i am hoping for. I dropped her off at her car after dinner and we called it an evening. My buddy says she has Cinderella complex-expects the guy to wine and dine her while riding up on a white stallion.
Last Tuesday, I met a woman for coffee and conversation. I figured things were going south pretty quickly because she didnt take her sunglasses off till my coffee was almost gone. The conversation was a little strained in that she didn't talk much either. No more immigrant women.
The previous woman I met sounded fun and compatible. We talked by phone for about 2 hours and it sounded like she had her shit together. MBA, decent job, similar interests etc. We met over a game of pool and had a good time. Got some food and had a pretty good time and good conversation. The evening ended with a hug and mutual interest in meeting again. We met again for dinner about a week later all the while chatting on IM during the days. Decent conversation. Then she gets kinda quiet on IM. This goes on for a couple days so I ask about it. She says I said something that made her feel odd. I ask what i did because i was unaware of anything i might have done that might be offensive. She says that while we were chatting on IM i said "your stock is going up" (which i did) when she said something that i felt made her more interesting to me. I asked what was wrong with that since thats a pretty common phrase/compliment. She says that she doesn't want to be treated like a commodity and that phrase isn't something one should say in the early stages of a relationship. I ask if she is a sensitive person ("sensitive" being a euphemism for insecure) and she says she is HIGHLY self critical/and "over analyzes" everything. We haven't chatted much since then. I suspect something is wrong with this one.
I have been chatting for a while with a woman i contacted through match. I talked to her by phone for about an hour recently and it was really a tough conversation. She is from another country and has one of those voices that is like fingernails on a chalkboard. Against my better judgement, we met this weekend for dinner. Turns out she is almost 10 (yes TEN!!!!) years older than she said she was on match. I don't like being lied to. I called that one an evening after dinner.
I met a black woman who seemed like she was fairly intelligent and looking for the same things i am. Went out twice. Bowling and dinner. There just didn't seem to be any chemistry.
So i am thinking of switching to Yahoo personals to see if I have any better luck. I have always had multi-year relationships until recently. Frankly i wish i was still in one because i had NO IDEA dating could be so challenging.
I like meeting new people and doing stuff with them, but I am finding it very difficult to meet people that are compatible.
Is anyone else having similar problems? Does anyone have a better way to meet healthy quality women?
Thanks!
Open your mind and stop being closed. Don't ever say things like "no more immigrant woman". If you set "categories" for finding true love, you will never find it. If you do find it with set "categories" who you will or will not date, then you're either lucky, OR, most likely NOT with your true love, but, letting "emotional" love get the best of you.
I found my true love, and she is turkish, and has qualities, that I NEVER thought I would find in a woman. Let alone someone turkish...who would have thought? Qualities that I know exist, because I have them, but thought it was close to IMPOSSIBLE to find them in a mate. :)
Point is, your only problem, might be the categories you are setting for who you will or will not date. And/or, you are letting little teeny oddities or discomforts get in the way. Quoting: Anynomous prophet 471488
Naw, I don't think that guy has any problems except the fact that he has some integrity and is trying to find a woman with integrity.
Women in the USA confuse MONEY with CLASS.
the really attractive ones expect you to be rich and the average woman is fat and has 6 kids.
There ARE some nice women out there, but you're gonna have to go through the shit in the pile to get to the jewel. |
| Anonymous Coward
User ID: 467155 (OP)
7/27/2008 9:45 PM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
Wish you luck. How old are you? -- Not interested in dating - just curious.
36--however, doesn't seem to matter due to the age ranges I received interest from.
Where do you live?
S.F Bay Area
Ha, must be gorgeous there..I'm on the opposite coast. Same thing, long term relationships that didn't lead to the altar.dammit lol.
The weather's perfect year-round, amazing sites within 50 miles of everything. Come visit--I'll buy your ticket.
dude!
oh never mind
lmao
what?
slow down sailor, at least get her name before you pop the big question! ;)
haha, good point Malu! :) I am not ready to board the plane yet. However, the above attributes got me a bit intrigued..plus the guy can spell pretty well (not to be shallow or anything..)
I always made it to my elementary school spelling bees!
Drat, too bad you're not any closer!!
Indeed..I guess I just have to wait for the prince to rescue me out of NY..
Am I invited??
At the airport, I'll be the one with the yellow rose in my teeth! |
| malu
User ID: 421073
7/27/2008 9:47 PM
| | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
Wish you luck. How old are you? -- Not interested in dating - just curious.
36--however, doesn't seem to matter due to the age ranges I received interest from.
Where do you live?
S.F Bay Area
Ha, must be gorgeous there..I'm on the opposite coast. Same thing, long term relationships that didn't lead to the altar.dammit lol.
The weather's perfect year-round, amazing sites within 50 miles of everything. Come visit--I'll buy your ticket.
dude!
oh never mind
lmao
what?
slow down sailor, at least get her name before you pop the big question! ;)
haha, good point Malu! :) I am not ready to board the plane yet. However, the above attributes got me a bit intrigued..plus the guy can spell pretty well (not to be shallow or anything..)
I always made it to my elementary school spelling bees!
Drat, too bad you're not any closer!!
here we go
i know of five couples that have met here and married, gods honest truth
send us a postcard ;)
FIVE?? Seriously??!!!
seriously, one fellow ended up moving to finland, but i am sure she was worth it, they were both very well liked here
When peaceful revolution becomes impossible, violent revolution becomes inevitable.
"Hard pressed on my right. My center is yielding. Impossible to maneuver. Situation excellent. I am attacking." |
| Anonymous Coward
User ID: 456916
7/27/2008 9:47 PM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
Wish you luck. How old are you? -- Not interested in dating - just curious.
36--however, doesn't seem to matter due to the age ranges I received interest from.
Where do you live?
S.F Bay Area
Ha, must be gorgeous there..I'm on the opposite coast. Same thing, long term relationships that didn't lead to the altar.dammit lol.
The weather's perfect year-round, amazing sites within 50 miles of everything. Come visit--I'll buy your ticket.
dude!
oh never mind
lmao
what?
slow down sailor, at least get her name before you pop the big question! ;)
haha, good point Malu! :) I am not ready to board the plane yet. However, the above attributes got me a bit intrigued..plus the guy can spell pretty well (not to be shallow or anything..)
I always made it to my elementary school spelling bees!
Drat, too bad you're not any closer!!
Indeed..I guess I just have to wait for the prince to rescue me out of NY..
Am I invited??
At the airport, I'll be the one with the yellow rose in my teeth!
LOL, personally, I like red roses, but I realize they're reserved for later on. Yellow is not my favourite color though. How about pink? :) |
| Wraithwynd
User ID: 449681
7/27/2008 9:53 PM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
First, I fail to see how you can learn anything of meaning about a person on a first (and only) date.
for instance the shy girl who didn't look directly at you - she was shy - most likely once she got to know you she would be a vixen in bed and a very, very stable companion - for like life. Shy people tend to make few friends, and tend to be very reserved around strangers - but around they people they know (and trust and love) they can be very out and open and all of that.
Shy does not mean insecure - it means a person has trust issues - and in todays world that is a good way to survive.
Second, one does not find 'true love' true love finds them. Every person I have dated I met via 'accident' in the store, at the library, at AA meetings. the ones that turned out to be long term relationships 'just happened'.
Third, I would never, ever take a woman bowling on a first date. That is something that few women can appreciate.
Bowling is something I would do with a guy - on the way to making a friendship - not with a woman who I plan on making a love interest.
Dinner, movie, walk in the park, maybe a short drive to what passes for Napa Valley in your area. Bowling - 3rd or 4th date.
Fourth, If you are looking for the perfect match you will never, ever find it.
There is no such thing as a 'perfect' match - there are only good matches, and working matches. The good ones are those where you will share enough in common to where you can talk to each other. The working ones are the ones where both of you get something out of the relationship without really having much in common. EXAMPLE: A marriage of convenience for financial or family ties kind of reasons.
If you want to meet people with similar interests, then go find groups of people who DO share your interests. If you are a reader, intellectual kind, then start hanging out a book signings, reading groups, the library.
If you are into the arts - then spend time at museum or conservatory.
If you are into horses, then spend time at the horse track, the riding farms, etc.
If your into sports... join a team.
What ever your true interests are, I'm certain that there is a meeting place of like minded individuals. the trick is finding those places - and not going just because your looking for a mate. |
| Anonymous Coward
User ID: 467155 (OP)
7/27/2008 9:53 PM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
Wish you luck. How old are you? -- Not interested in dating - just curious.
36--however, doesn't seem to matter due to the age ranges I received interest from.
Where do you live?
S.F Bay Area
Ha, must be gorgeous there..I'm on the opposite coast. Same thing, long term relationships that didn't lead to the altar.dammit lol.
The weather's perfect year-round, amazing sites within 50 miles of everything. Come visit--I'll buy your ticket.
dude!
oh never mind
lmao
what?
slow down sailor, at least get her name before you pop the big question! ;)
haha, good point Malu! :) I am not ready to board the plane yet. However, the above attributes got me a bit intrigued..plus the guy can spell pretty well (not to be shallow or anything..)
I always made it to my elementary school spelling bees!
Drat, too bad you're not any closer!!
Indeed..I guess I just have to wait for the prince to rescue me out of NY..
Am I invited??
At the airport, I'll be the one with the yellow rose in my teeth!
LOL, personally, I like red roses, but I realize they're reserved for later on. Yellow is not my favourite color though. How about pink? :)
You'll get the pink as long as it matches your outfit -- That's my favorite!!
email: sprice4224 -- at -- aol dot com
Have to go get the groceries...be back later! Thanks for all the great advice! |
| Anonymous Coward
User ID: 456916
7/27/2008 9:54 PM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
Wish you luck. How old are you? -- Not interested in dating - just curious.
36--however, doesn't seem to matter due to the age ranges I received interest from.
Where do you live?
S.F Bay Area
Ha, must be gorgeous there..I'm on the opposite coast. Same thing, long term relationships that didn't lead to the altar.dammit lol.
The weather's perfect year-round, amazing sites within 50 miles of everything. Come visit--I'll buy your ticket.
dude!
oh never mind
lmao
what?
slow down sailor, at least get her name before you pop the big question! ;)
haha, good point Malu! :) I am not ready to board the plane yet. However, the above attributes got me a bit intrigued..plus the guy can spell pretty well (not to be shallow or anything..)
I always made it to my elementary school spelling bees!
Drat, too bad you're not any closer!!
here we go
i know of five couples that have met here and married, gods honest truth
send us a postcard ;)
FIVE?? Seriously??!!!
seriously, one fellow ended up moving to finland, but i am sure she was worth it, they were both very well liked here
Yeah, I think I recall that particular couple. I've been in and out of this forum for some time. I remember when they announced their wedding--amazing! |
| Anonymous Coward
User ID: 456916
7/27/2008 9:58 PM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
Wish you luck. How old are you? -- Not interested in dating - just curious.
36--however, doesn't seem to matter due to the age ranges I received interest from.
Where do you live?
S.F Bay Area
Ha, must be gorgeous there..I'm on the opposite coast. Same thing, long term relationships that didn't lead to the altar.dammit lol.
The weather's perfect year-round, amazing sites within 50 miles of everything. Come visit--I'll buy your ticket.
dude!
oh never mind
lmao
what?
slow down sailor, at least get her name before you pop the big question! ;)
haha, good point Malu! :) I am not ready to board the plane yet. However, the above attributes got me a bit intrigued..plus the guy can spell pretty well (not to be shallow or anything..)
I always made it to my elementary school spelling bees!
Drat, too bad you're not any closer!!
Indeed..I guess I just have to wait for the prince to rescue me out of NY..
Am I invited??
At the airport, I'll be the one with the yellow rose in my teeth!
LOL, personally, I like red roses, but I realize they're reserved for later on. Yellow is not my favourite color though. How about pink? :)
You'll get the pink as long as it matches your outfit -- That's my favorite!!
email: sprice4224 -- at -- aol dot com
Have to go get the groceries...be back later! Thanks for all the great advice!
Ok, will do..tomorrow though. I have to process all this psychologically..in my pink dreams.. :) happy grocery shopping. |
| Anonymous Coward
User ID: 474567
7/27/2008 9:59 PM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
I am a single white guy, fit, well educated and well adjusted. I consider myself normal in every sense of the word. I figure i am decent looking because all of the women i have dated have been decent looking as well. But some of these girls have some issues! Quoting: Anonymous Coward 467155
Well Programmed and Conformed? Normal as in programmed with darkness and evil? just asking , you could be different. |
| Anonymous Coward
User ID: 333742
7/27/2008 10:06 PM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
I like typetango personally... Myers-Briggs scoring is great.. since I'm looking for intuitive personality types only, as I don't really "click" with sensory types, it allows me or anyone to find the right MBTI type for them.
Since many here and on other forums tend to be INTJs and INTPs, who would go great with other IN personality types and possibly ENFPs too. |
| Hugh Jardon
User ID: 357052
7/27/2008 10:07 PM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
there is nothing on craigslist but homos, prostitutes, old women looking for sex with boys, bossy german women with lots of rules, nigerian money scams, and single mothers with autistic children they want to stick someone with. I found this out by impersonating everything I could think of and seeing what alias got the most replies. I did this because my friend is always getting herself laid online, and she's so reckless and unsafe that it horrifies and facinates me. And THAT is because of all the analingus my friend reports. Do you want to kiss some old bitch that just had her tongue in some guy's ass? And then transfer the bacteria to the mouth and body of the next girls you meet? If you want a 'bbw' fat bitch that puts out after you just buy her a hamburger at the gas station, then online dating is for you. Myspace BBW clubs is an easy score for kids and blacks looking for a fat white cum-dump, and plentyoffish.com was what she used before she discovered it. Once you hear about what risky and disgusting sexual acts are common today, you'll cut your own freakin' penis off.
I liked the old datelines on the phone before internet caught on, I had over 70 sexual contacts in like 4 years and made friends I knew for YEARS. |
| Anonymous Coward
User ID: 467155 (OP)
7/27/2008 10:11 PM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
Wish you luck. How old are you? -- Not interested in dating - just curious.
36--however, doesn't seem to matter due to the age ranges I received interest from.
Where do you live?
S.F Bay Area
Ha, must be gorgeous there..I'm on the opposite coast. Same thing, long term relationships that didn't lead to the altar.dammit lol.
The weather's perfect year-round, amazing sites within 50 miles of everything. Come visit--I'll buy your ticket.
dude!
oh never mind
lmao
what?
slow down sailor, at least get her name before you pop the big question! ;)
haha, good point Malu! :) I am not ready to board the plane yet. However, the above attributes got me a bit intrigued..plus the guy can spell pretty well (not to be shallow or anything..)
I always made it to my elementary school spelling bees!
Drat, too bad you're not any closer!!
Indeed..I guess I just have to wait for the prince to rescue me out of NY..
Am I invited??
At the airport, I'll be the one with the yellow rose in my teeth!
LOL, personally, I like red roses, but I realize they're reserved for later on. Yellow is not my favourite color though. How about pink? :)
You'll get the pink as long as it matches your outfit -- That's my favorite!!
email: sprice4224 -- at -- aol dot com
Have to go get the groceries...be back later! Thanks for all the great advice!
Ok, will do..tomorrow though. I have to process all this psychologically..in my pink dreams.. :) happy grocery shopping.
Definitely looking forward to it. happy dreams |
| Internet Romeo
User ID: 474565
7/27/2008 10:12 PM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
Sounds a lot like my dating expierences.. but i always got laid at the end of the night. |
| Anonymous Coward
User ID: 456916
7/27/2008 10:12 PM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
I like typetango personally... Myers-Briggs scoring is great.. since I'm looking for intuitive personality types only, as I don't really "click" with sensory types, it allows me or anyone to find the right MBTI type for them.
Since many here and on other forums tend to be INTJs and INTPs, who would go great with other IN personality types and possibly ENFPs too. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 333742
I wonder what our grandparents did before discovering all this Myers-Bringgs typology.. |
| Anonymous Coward
User ID: 456916
7/27/2008 10:14 PM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
Wish you luck. How old are you? -- Not interested in dating - just curious.
36--however, doesn't seem to matter due to the age ranges I received interest from.
Where do you live?
S.F Bay Area
Ha, must be gorgeous there..I'm on the opposite coast. Same thing, long term relationships that didn't lead to the altar.dammit lol.
The weather's perfect year-round, amazing sites within 50 miles of everything. Come visit--I'll buy your ticket.
dude!
oh never mind
lmao
what?
slow down sailor, at least get her name before you pop the big question! ;)
haha, good point Malu! :) I am not ready to board the plane yet. However, the above attributes got me a bit intrigued..plus the guy can spell pretty well (not to be shallow or anything..)
I always made it to my elementary school spelling bees!
Drat, too bad you're not any closer!!
Indeed..I guess I just have to wait for the prince to rescue me out of NY..
Am I invited??
At the airport, I'll be the one with the yellow rose in my teeth!
LOL, personally, I like red roses, but I realize they're reserved for later on. Yellow is not my favourite color though. How about pink? :)
You'll get the pink as long as it matches your outfit -- That's my favorite!!
email: sprice4224 -- at -- aol dot com
Have to go get the groceries...be back later! Thanks for all the great advice!
Ok, will do..tomorrow though. I have to process all this psychologically..in my pink dreams.. :) happy grocery shopping.
Definitely looking forward to it. happy dreams
Thanks! You too! |
| Anonymous Coward
User ID: 333742
7/27/2008 10:16 PM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
Dictionary for decoding women's personal ads
40-ish................................49.
Adventurous.......................Slept with everyone.
Athletic...............................No breasts.
Average looking....................Moooo.
Beautiful..............................Pathological liar.
Emotionally Secure................On medication.
Feminist................................Fat.
Free spirit............................Junkie.
Friendship first......................Former slut.
New-Age............................Body hair in the wrong places.
Open-minded.......................Desperate.
Outgoing.............................Loud and Embarrassing.
Professional..........................Bitch .
Voluptuous..........................Very Fat.
Large frame...........................Hugely Fat.
Wants Soul mate..................Stalker.
DICTIONARY FOR DECODING WOMEN'S ENGLISH:
1. Yes = No
2. No = Yes
3. Maybe = No
4. We need = I want
5. I am sorry = You'll be sorry
6. We need to talk = You're in trouble
7. Sure, go ahead = You better not
8. Do what you want = You will pay for this later
9. I am not upset = Of course, I am upset, you moron!
10. You're certainly attentive tonight = Is sex all you ever think about?
DICTIONARY FOR DECODING MEN'S ENGLISH:
1. I am hungry = I am hungry
2. I am sleepy = I am sleepy
3. I am tired = I am tired
4. Nice dress = Nice cleavage!
5. I love you = Let's have sex now
6. I am bored = Do you want to have sex?
7. May I have this dance? = I'd like to have sex with you.
8. Can I call you sometime? = I'd like to have sex with you.
9. Do you want to go to a movie? =I'd like to have sex with you.
10. Can I take you out to dinner? =I'd like to have sex with you.
11. I don't think those shoes go with that outfit. = I'm gay. |
| Anonymous Coward
User ID: 444069
7/27/2008 10:23 PM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
The first girl i met through CL was odd. We met for drinks at Red Robin. I could tell right away this was going to be an odd one. We got a table in the bar and she was having great difficulty making ANY eye contact with me what so ever. She had one word answers for everything and didnt offer much in the way of conversation. OK, so you are not interested. Thats fine because i wasn't either. I believe she is very insecure, and it was painful to watch.
Does she work at the library and live around Lake Merritt? If so, I went out with her, too. Poor thing. |
| Anonymous Coward
User ID: 131925
7/27/2008 10:40 PM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
I'm not going to read every response... but would add okCupid.com as a source of interesting people. Their format supports more honest & upfront answers. I haven't had much luck yet, but 2-3 of my friends have found long term relationships. good luck. |
| who cares?
User ID: 474588
7/27/2008 10:48 PM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
I'm a 39 year old male and live with my mother.
My mother is on vacation.
I ate a cold can of Chef Boyardee Beef Ravioli before
I didn't feel like heating it in a pot.
damn, and all the women act like the good ones are taken Quoting: malu
Indeed. But did he wash the can before he threw it out? That might be a plus ... maybe. |
| Anonymous Coward
User ID: 322321
7/27/2008 10:50 PM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
Dictionary for decoding women's personal ads
40-ish................................49.
Adventurous.......................Slept with everyone.
Athletic...............................No breasts.
Average looking....................Moooo.
Beautiful..............................Pathological liar.
Emotionally Secure................On medication.
Feminist................................Fat.
Free spirit............................Junkie.
Friendship first......................Former slut.
New-Age............................Body hair in the wrong places.
Open-minded.......................Desperate.
Outgoing.............................Loud and Embarrassing.
Professional..........................Bitch .
Voluptuous..........................Very Fat.
Large frame...........................Hugely Fat.
Wants Soul mate..................Stalker.
DICTIONARY FOR DECODING WOMEN'S ENGLISH:
1. Yes = No
2. No = Yes
3. Maybe = No
4. We need = I want
5. I am sorry = You'll be sorry
6. We need to talk = You're in trouble
7. Sure, go ahead = You better not
8. Do what you want = You will pay for this later
9. I am not upset = Of course, I am upset, you moron!
10. You're certainly attentive tonight = Is sex all you ever think about?
DICTIONARY FOR DECODING MEN'S ENGLISH:
1. I am hungry = I am hungry
2. I am sleepy = I am sleepy
3. I am tired = I am tired
4. Nice dress = Nice cleavage!
5. I love you = Let's have sex now
6. I am bored = Do you want to have sex?
7. May I have this dance? = I'd like to have sex with you.
8. Can I call you sometime? = I'd like to have sex with you.
9. Do you want to go to a movie? =I'd like to have sex with you.
10. Can I take you out to dinner? =I'd like to have sex with you.
11. I don't think those shoes go with that outfit. = I'm gay. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 333742 |
| Krusty
User ID: 461504
7/27/2008 11:01 PM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
Seriously I know a lot of younger people(women) and most that use the internet for dating have issues Quoting: mathetes
Issues? ISSUES?? What the fuck do you mean "ISSUES"!?
Are you saying *I* have issues?
Why don't you just spit it out, you think I'm fat don't you.... |
| Konomonose
User ID: 466052
7/27/2008 11:51 PM
 | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
email: xxxxxx24 -- at -- aol dot com
OP, you are mighty brave giving this out here, I do not know how you will be able to sort thru all the BS troll emails you will likely get and figure out who your intended date is. I mean it's not like two registered members pm'ing; its AC to AC. good luck, seriously. Anyway, keep us posted. |
| Anonymous Coward
User ID: 474618
7/28/2008 12:05 AM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
I lost my virginity to a woman 12 years older than me, met on craigslist, paid her for the initial encounter but we met 4-5 times more and had a great time. Every young man needs to experience something like that, amazing memories.
I met my girlfriend on craigslist as well, we may be soul mates, going on two years.
The problem aren't the sites, you will find good and bad on every site. I had met some prospective mates on craigslist but my radar went up and I cancelled contact, didn't even need to meet to know. It's not the sites or the people involved, it's you. |
| Anonymous Coward
User ID: 472093
7/28/2008 12:26 AM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
I'm a 39 year old male and live with my mother.
My mother is on vacation.
I ate a cold can of Chef Boyardee Beef Ravioli before
I didn't feel like heating it in a pot.
damn, and all the women act like the good ones are taken
Indeed. But did he wash the can before he threw it out? That might be a plus ... maybe. Quoting: who cares? 474588
yes I did
I don't want smelly garbage.
tempted to heat up a can of baked beans right now.
and maybe fry some hotdogs |
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