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My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist....
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Shakes
User ID: 275551
7/28/2008 12:29 AM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
I am a white guy too in So. Cal. (native)
I got married when I was 33 and had my first kid at 35, and my second kid at 39. My wife is 3 years younger than I. I am now 44 years old and the happiest guy on the planet.
At 28 I stopped dating and decided that the next woman I would be interested in would be the woman that I would marry. I did not date for 5 years. Then after 5 years of waiting, I met the woman of my dreams (my equal) and have been happy ever sense. I did not settle!
Before the age of 28 I had one serious girl friend about every 2-3 years with allot of dating in between. Before I met my wife, I never had a relationship that lasted longer than 6 months.
The bottom line is that when you decide that you want to meet your match, you will have to have patience and allow the universe to do its work.
I met my wife in a bar on an evening with twists and turns and unexpected circumstances. I know how to go with the flow, and on this evening this is how I met my wife. As soon as I saw her that evening, I instantly knew that she was different (I was very interested). 1.5 years later we were married. We are now and have always been the envy of our friends. I never ever talk or boast about how great my life is (amongst my work associates, friends, or real world acquaintances). People constantly let me know that they want what I have. I am not financially wealthy, but in my relationship I am the wealthiest person I know. I only wish that everyone could experience the kind of love that I have on a daily basis. It is a matter of focus, being genuine, and patience.
If you are serious about happiness, then you will not settle. If you are genuine and patient the universe will work for you and provide you with what you want.
--shakes |
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Anonymous Coward
User ID: 341282
7/28/2008 7:41 AM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
Dictionary for decoding women's personal ads
40-ish................................49.
Adventurous.......................Slept with everyone.
Athletic...............................No breasts.
Average looking....................Moooo.
Beautiful..............................Pathological liar.
Emotionally Secure................On medication.
Feminist................................Fat.
Free spirit............................Junkie.
Friendship first......................Former slut.
New-Age............................Body hair in the wrong places.
Open-minded.......................Desperate.
Outgoing.............................Loud and Embarrassing.
Professional..........................Bitch .
Voluptuous..........................Very Fat.
Large frame...........................Hugely Fat.
Wants Soul mate..................Stalker.
DICTIONARY FOR DECODING WOMEN'S ENGLISH:
1. Yes = No
2. No = Yes
3. Maybe = No
4. We need = I want
5. I am sorry = You'll be sorry
6. We need to talk = You're in trouble
7. Sure, go ahead = You better not
8. Do what you want = You will pay for this later
9. I am not upset = Of course, I am upset, you moron!
10. You're certainly attentive tonight = Is sex all you ever think about?
DICTIONARY FOR DECODING MEN'S ENGLISH:
1. I am hungry = I am hungry
2. I am sleepy = I am sleepy
3. I am tired = I am tired
4. Nice dress = Nice cleavage!
5. I love you = Let's have sex now
6. I am bored = Do you want to have sex?
7. May I have this dance? = I'd like to have sex with you.
8. Can I call you sometime? = I'd like to have sex with you.
9. Do you want to go to a movie? =I'd like to have sex with you.
10. Can I take you out to dinner? =I'd like to have sex with you.
11. I don't think those shoes go with that outfit. = I'm gay. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 333742
Priceless!
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ZENA BAYLEY
User ID: 474750
7/28/2008 8:09 AM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
Hi op, i'm easy, let's do it baby :) |
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Sireen-reborn
User ID: 472239
7/28/2008 8:18 AM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
I've yet to hear a truely inspiring success story of dating on line.
When I was single, I tried out the online thing...met some GREAT guys...most of them were soldiers I spoke with overseas, and went out with a few times when they came back....one I was absolutely CRAZY about....but the nature of our relationship didn't leave room for emotional investment.
It's easy to sell yourself online...exaggerate your qualities, play down your faults, and as long as you can think of your responses, you can have great stimulating online chats. But you're being robbed of the eye contact, the energy one puts out, the physical signs that give true insight into a personal character.
anything after 'but' is bullshit!
[link to www.myspace.com]
"Once you open your mind to the possibility of conspiracy, you then see conspiracy in everything." [link to deadbydecember-sireen.blogspot.com] |
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Anonymous Coward
User ID: 221460
7/28/2008 8:30 AM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
Tell all your friends & family to fix you up on blind or other dates.
Someone mentioned that earlier, but it got overlooked here.
If you don't have a lot of friends with friends-tell someone at work, or a church (but not a cult!)....or maybe try dating NYC chicks?
Take advantage of that dearth. The only thing is that you will have to let people know that you are available otherwise you will be seen as "married or gay", like every other guy there. |
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Anonymous Coward
User ID: 460134
7/28/2008 8:42 AM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
my only confusion about dating sites is how a woman who is 5'3" and weighs 170lbs describes herself as average size.
WTF?
or a woman who is 5'3" and weighs 200lbs describes herself as big breasted.
WTFF? |
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Anonymous Coward
User ID: 406027
7/28/2008 8:51 AM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
Your first mistake is that you expected the lady to perform for you, to your liking.
Your second mistake is that you don't have the confidence or the will to make any woman in your company, feel like the luckiest woman on earth, for having met you.
Once you determind to eliminate the first and adopt the second, you will have no trouble, at all, finding a lady. |
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Anonymous Coward
User ID: 473738
7/28/2008 9:15 AM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
It seems to me that you like to fish more than you want to take the fish home. Granted most of these women probably weren't a good match for you but you didn't know ANY of them. Maybe you should stop going fishing and pull something out of the freezer. Something you've had around for a while and needs to be spiced up while you cook it. Something comfortable. Someone you know. |
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Anonymous Coward
User ID: 448044
7/28/2008 10:01 AM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
BOWLING?????????? ARGH
OP clearly you need some help...
LEARN TO DANCE..swing, latin, ballroom, TANGO...just go and learn, and trust me on this, within a year you will be crawling with women and have your pick...ANYWHERE YOU GO.
MOST women like to dance, few men know how to, thus the men that do are NEVER lonely.
On top of that, if you are not a total dweeb geek looking fellow, you'll have to beat them off with a stick...in the dance world even the dweebs have better luck than you.
tl;dr: learn to dance, get laid. |
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Anonymous Coward
User ID: 341282
7/28/2008 10:28 AM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
BOWLING?????????? ARGH
OP clearly you need some help...
LEARN TO DANCE..swing, latin, ballroom, TANGO...just go and learn, and trust me on this, within a year you will be crawling with women and have your pick...ANYWHERE YOU GO.
MOST women like to dance, few men know how to, thus the men that do are NEVER lonely.
On top of that, if you are not a total dweeb geek looking fellow, you'll have to beat them off with a stick...in the dance world even the dweebs have better luck than you.
tl;dr: learn to dance, get laid. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 448044
Dancing is for gays and metrosexuals |
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g. poobah
User ID: 301292
7/28/2008 4:47 PM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
In my experience these internet sites do not properly represent a cross section of the dating pool. You are either gonna find big egos in need of attention and praise or you will find rather desperate (and perhaps ugly) types. If you are looking for a more balanced, thoughtful, multi-dimensional (depth) person it is better to meet people from work or through friends and social gatherings. You know, places where people are people...not a list of stats and a blurry photo. |
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Anonymous Coward
User ID: 446469
7/28/2008 5:08 PM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
I think you have to take this from a woman's perspective. Meeting a guy you don't know but have only emailed is very dangerous. I think most women assume, for our own safety, that you are going to be a psycho/and or not to be trusted. I think that is why those women were not overly friendly within the first 5 minutes of meeting you. Also, a woman knows within 2 minutes of looking at someone whether or not they want to be with that person. It doesn't mean your ugly, just that she doesn't want to be with you. |
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Taojones
User ID: 453510
7/28/2008 5:59 PM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
OP, if you ever get sick of paying for those site (like I did), try
www.plentyoffish.com
. It's free and I've had luck there.
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Apparently, the name "Los Angeles" is an abbreviated version of "El Pueblo de Nuestra Señora la Reina de los Ángeles de Porciúncula", roughly translated as:
"The Gaping Maw Feeding Upon Lost Souls and Giving Birth to Broken Dreams." |
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Taojones
User ID: 453510
7/28/2008 6:02 PM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
Yep, and most if not all remain alone. EVERY woman I met through that site complained about the shirtless pix guys. My shirt was on ;-)
try the free site www.plentyoffish.com
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that site seems to have lots of dudes with shirtless pics, motorcycles and tatooes..if you're into that thing. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 456916
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Apparently, the name "Los Angeles" is an abbreviated version of "El Pueblo de Nuestra Señora la Reina de los Ángeles de Porciúncula", roughly translated as:
"The Gaping Maw Feeding Upon Lost Souls and Giving Birth to Broken Dreams." |
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Anonymous Coward
User ID: 258111
7/28/2008 6:19 PM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
It is very simple. Enjoy your own company and quit looking for someone. A state of happiness will draw the right partner to you like a bee to honey. You don't have to TRY. Just know in your heart that what you are seeking is also seeking you. Amazing synchronicity will unfold rapidly if you do these things and keep it simple. |
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Anonymous Coward
User ID: 473816
7/28/2008 9:27 PM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
there is nothing on craigslist but homos, prostitutes, old women looking for sex with boys, bossy german women with lots of rules, nigerian money scams, and single mothers with autistic children they want to stick someone with. I found this out by impersonating everything I could think of and seeing what alias got the most replies. I did this because my friend is always getting herself laid online, and she's so reckless and unsafe that it horrifies and facinates me. And THAT is because of all the analingus my friend reports. Do you want to kiss some old bitch that just had her tongue in some guy's ass? And then transfer the bacteria to the mouth and body of the next girls you meet? If you want a 'bbw' fat bitch that puts out after you just buy her a hamburger at the gas station, then online dating is for you. Myspace BBW clubs is an easy score for kids and blacks looking for a fat white cum-dump, and plentyoffish.com was what she used before she discovered it. Once you hear about what risky and disgusting sexual acts are common today, you'll cut your own freakin' penis off.
I liked the old datelines on the phone before internet caught on, I had over 70 sexual contacts in like 4 years and made friends I knew for YEARS. Quoting: Hugh Jardon 357052
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Anonymous Coward
User ID: 473816
7/28/2008 9:30 PM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
Download Mystery Method and David Deangelo's materials and it will change your life and how you date women.
Are they those "pick up artist" tards?
Why do you call them "tards"? You realize mystery gets basically ANY woman he wants. Have you seen his infield videos where he goes out and works his game. I'll tell you right now...I've been doing online game at plenty of fish, and I've closed out 6 phone numbers in the last 2 months. I'm a newb, so my skills are getting better EVERYDAY. It seems you've had quite a bit of success without using any materials, if you applied this stuff, you'll be attracting 10's left and right. You wont be complaining on websites like these because those 10's will be too damn good in bed.
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Married Guy
User ID: 475121
7/28/2008 10:47 PM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
I suggest...
Go out with a variety of women you meet in real life.
If you're like me, you may have a series of false relationships, but that's OK.
I learned my likes and dislikes that way, then put them on paper.
This took emotionalism out of the equation somewhat.
A real relationship can last over 4 years, at which point the emotional part is about done. (Romantic emotion.)
I actually listed positives and negatives on like a chart, and assigned point values! If you do this, I don't suggest you tell the women. LOL
I finally stopped bothering with false relationships -- there were some negatives that were deal-killers, so I quit going out with them. If there was to be no permanence, why bother going through all the romantic emotional stuff?
I tried the online stuff. Real life is far superior.
I also recommend a singles group at a fairly large church. I did it, and began dating right away. It didn't work for me, but it was the right track as opposed to bars etc.
Parties always worked best. Parties.
Oh, and, if you're like me, there a a few women already sniffing around, but you're not interested in them. I finally learned that in the main, the woman does the choosing, not the man.
So I started to notice the ones sniffing, looking for them, and making the little point-value charts of positives and negatives, attraction or not.
I got with my wife this way, we've been together 10 years, married 9.
And I am more attracted to her with each passing year.
P.S. I told her about the chart LOL don't do it! She says she chased me til I caught her. LOL |
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Anonymous Coward
User ID: 376724
7/29/2008 1:27 AM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
Here's your problem:
" She says that she doesn't want to be treated like a commodity and that phrase isn't something one should say in the early stages of a relationship. I ask if she is a sensitive person ("sensitive" being a euphemism for insecure) and she says she is HIGHLY self critical/and "over analyzes" everything. We haven't chatted much since then. I suspect something is wrong with this one."
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She was telling you, Waldo, that you are a superficial asshole and don't know what love is.
She's fine -- YOU ARE THE ONE WITH SOMETHING WRONG with you.
She's lucky she found this out about you and ditched you, you piece of arrogant shit.
Beg her to talk to you again and maybe you might have a life worth living when you're 55. |
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see right through you
User ID: 475204
7/29/2008 3:35 AM | | Re: My recent dating experiences through match.com and Craigslist.... | Quote |
....but the nature of our relationship didn't leave room for emotional investment. Quoting: Sireen-reborn
Dictionary for decoding women's personal ads
"the nature of our relationship didn't leave room for emotional investment" = you weren't the only white woman he was fucking and no, he wasn't about to accept your 'generous heartfelt offer' to be exclusive with you.
nice try though.
lol. |
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