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Free Love, Open Relationships: Yea or Nay?
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Dancer 
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User ID: 497567
10/5/2008 3:00 AM
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How do you feel about love, and relationships, having sex with multiple partners (one at a time or as a group is up to you!) and multi-person relationships?
For instance, would you ever be involved with two other people (at the same time) for sex?
How about for a long term relationship? (Is it worth the headaches?)
Does the gender of the others involved make a difference to you, provided you control whom you have sex with and so on, of course?
Do you think you could feel comfortable in a relationship where not all of the burden for any one task lay with you? ("Hey honey, I not tonight, I have a headache..." "All right, I'll go see if Debbie is up for some fun...")
Or do you feel that any relationship not dictated exactly by both tradition and the bible is a sin and therefore wrong?
:)
I'm curious about how people think of such things!
D.
It's often a wonderful thing! :) |
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no video==no doom
User ID: 513827
10/5/2008 3:06 AM | | Re: Free Love, Open Relationships: Yea or Nay? | Quote |
How do you feel about love, and relationships, having sex with multiple partners (one at a time or as a group is up to you!) and multi-person relationships?
For instance, would you ever be involved with two other people (at the same time) for sex?
How about for a long term relationship? (Is it worth the headaches?)
Does the gender of the others involved make a difference to you, provided you control whom you have sex with and so on, of course?
Do you think you could feel comfortable in a relationship where not all of the burden for any one task lay with you? ("Hey honey, I not tonight, I have a headache..." "All right, I'll go see if Debbie is up for some fun...")
Or do you feel that any relationship not dictated exactly by both tradition and the bible is a sin and therefore wrong?
:)
I'm curious about how people think of such things!
D. Quoting: Dancer
Morally.. nothing wrong with any of the above.
Can the ego of most people handle such grown up decisions? No. |
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Dancer
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User ID: 497567
10/5/2008 3:10 AM
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Ego, I agree that ego would often be an obstacle to such things.
I have seen if work a few times, but I don't know how it would work as a new norm.
Then again, if I loved several people enough to have them with me all the time, why not try?
Any relationship could fail of course, and one would have to chose wisely, but isn't that part of life anyway?
Are not the ego problems of people still there (most often at least) with only two people?
It would make sex more interesting! :)
(For instance I would likely be having some...) :)
D.
It's often a wonderful thing! :) |
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no video==no doom
User ID: 513827
10/5/2008 3:12 AM | | Re: Free Love, Open Relationships: Yea or Nay? | Quote |
our system and lives are inherently competitive. For most people it ends badly :( |
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Anonymous Coward
User ID: 515998
10/5/2008 3:13 AM | | Re: Free Love, Open Relationships: Yea or Nay? | Quote |
I would only say Yea if both people involved (or all involved) are on the same page.
What I would say Nay to is treating someone casually that would like to be in a committed relationship.
For that kind of lifestyle to work, there needs to be clear communication up front from all. |
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InfiniTcell
Vegan Yogi
User ID: 517781
10/5/2008 3:14 AM
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Open relationships require the absence of jealousy, which people rightly attribute that egos may be a problem. Free love is the only form of love for me. However, I say one is more than enough! |
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Anonymous Coward
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10/5/2008 3:16 AM | | Re: Free Love, Open Relationships: Yea or Nay? | Quote |
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Dancer
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User ID: 497567
10/5/2008 3:18 AM
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Do group relationships take the absence of all jealousy, or simply a normal relationship level of it within the group?
:)
Most people feel some jealousy in relationships, even long term ones!
I do agree that there needs to be clear communications and the size likely needs to be kept to a set number. (No more than five or so?)
D.
It's often a wonderful thing! :) |
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speek
User ID: 517789
10/5/2008 3:22 AM | | Re: Free Love, Open Relationships: Yea or Nay? | Quote |
My brother is in a relationship like the one you describe. It wasnt always like this with him and his girl. The longer they do it, the relationship seems to have stalled out at sex and lust and meaninglessness and they dont look very happy or fullfilled.
To each his own, but in my opinion it's impossible to grow a relationship in this way. |
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Dancer
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User ID: 497567
10/5/2008 3:24 AM
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My brother is in a relationship like the one you describe. It wasnt always like this with him and his girl. The longer they do it, the relationship seems to have stalled out at sex and lust and meaninglessness and they dont look very happy or fullfilled.
To each his own, but in my opinion it's impossible to grow a relationship in this way. Quoting: speek 517789
Are they swingers or in a multi-partner relationship?
I mean to say, is it just a couple off having sex with other people, or does someone else live with them?
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It makes a difference in how I respond.
:)
D.
It's often a wonderful thing! :) |
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speek
User ID: 517789
10/5/2008 3:30 AM | | Re: Free Love, Open Relationships: Yea or Nay? | Quote |
They're swingers.
If you mean like 3 or more people living together as an extended relationship, it's different, but it could be possible as long as everyone is on the same page. I think the only problem would be the potential for part of the group to gang up on one of the other people in the group, whereas with just two people you have to WORK out your problems together. |
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Anonymous Coward
User ID: 517800
10/5/2008 3:48 AM | | Re: Free Love, Open Relationships: Yea or Nay? | Quote |
Im at the 'stage' right now in my evolution that I don't have an attraction for 'group' interaction.
it seems to diminish the quality to some extent or another..
almost feels like 'greedy'...
I find that i can settle to one partner for very long periods of time..like more then 15 years for my first..now on my 6th year for this..i like the idia of cultivation and giving/learning the most out of what I can.
gender attraction now is to the opposite sex for me.
I don't like to control my partner..I want that they are content enough to focus on 'us' but if they move on to other partners I don't share myself anymore for the purpose of sex with them..a kind of impulsive reaction..
I believe that 'love' is a chance that life brings to prove to ourselves and another that we are united and can explore the depths of that unity..in agreement..it becomes a challenge unfolding depths of understanding that are uniting ..
like to mad scientist's discovering ways to please the other..
trying to understand the other..agreeing to become the master of understanding the other..
like whats to understand when you see him on the couch with a remote glued to his hand?
that he is in need of stimulation and is giving you a break *L* |
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speek
User ID: 517789
10/5/2008 3:56 AM | | Re: Free Love, Open Relationships: Yea or Nay? | Quote |
I'm 28, been with my wife for 7 years and have 2 kids. We have awsome sex, awsome fights and awsome understanding. The reason I bring this up is because I feel my life has so much love in it that wouldnt have happened if we were only interested in banging.
Sex is awsome but it dosn't last long enough to centralize a relationship around. As far as free love goes, I love many people and many people love me...even though I'm not fucken em'. |
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The Professor
User ID: 385883
10/5/2008 6:13 AM | | Re: Free Love, Open Relationships: Yea or Nay? | Quote |
I'm 28, been with my wife for 7 years and have 2 kids. We have awsome sex, awsome fights and awsome understanding. The reason I bring this up is because I feel my life has so much love in it that wouldnt have happened if we were only interested in banging.
Sex is awsome but it dosn't last long enough to centralize a relationship around. As far as free love goes, I love many people and many people love me...even though I'm not fucken em'. Quoting: speek 517789
One of the best articles I have ever read.
You have done much to restore my faith in humankind. |
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ViperThunder
User ID: 512301
10/5/2008 6:15 AM
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I would only say Yea if both people involved (or all involved) are on the same page.
What I would say Nay to is treating someone casually that would like to be in a committed relationship.
For that kind of lifestyle to work, there needs to be clear communication up front from all. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 515998
Exactly
And that can't happen in a society with religiously-inspired preconceived notions
Let There Be Peace |
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Anonymous Coward
User ID: 512333
10/5/2008 11:37 AM | | Re: Free Love, Open Relationships: Yea or Nay? | Quote |
How do you feel about love, and relationships, having sex with multiple partners (one at a time or as a group is up to you!) and multi-person relationships?
For instance, would you ever be involved with two other people (at the same time) for sex? Quoting: Dancer
the thought of it makes me ill in the same way the thought of the smarmy cheap thrills of Las Vegas Casinos make me ill. |
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NikkiLaVey
User ID: 272356
10/5/2008 11:45 AM
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How do you feel about love, and relationships, having sex with multiple partners (one at a time or as a group is up to you!) and multi-person relationships?
I use to have multiple partners in fact I have most likely had more sex combinations them 99% of the people out there.
For instance, would you ever be involved with two other people (at the same time) for sex?
I have many times in the past.
How about for a long term relationship? (Is it worth the headaches?)
I am in a very sucessful one now.
Does the gender of the others involved make a difference to you, provided you control whom you have sex with and so on, of course?
Not to me
Do you think you could feel comfortable in a relationship where not all of the burden for any one task lay with you? ("Hey honey, I not tonight, I have a headache..." "All right, I'll go see if Debbie is up for some fun...")
Not any more.
Or do you feel that any relationship not dictated exactly by both tradition and the bible is a sin and therefore wrong?
Not my girlfriend and I we are a same sex relationship we can't marry
:)
I'm curious about how people think of such things!
D. Quoting: Dancer
Typo fixed <damn long nails>
If we don't help each other who will
Dream the Good Dream,
Nikki |
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NikkiLaVey
User ID: 272356
10/5/2008 11:56 AM
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If we don't help each other who will
Dream the Good Dream,
Nikki |
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