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HELP!!! I'm Starting to HATE my Step Kids!!!!!

 
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tell them to buy plastic plates and cups
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I've thought about that, but why should we fill up the landfills when I have two healthy young men that should be able to wash a fucking plate.

I refuse to help them be any lazier.

The eldest broke down in tears a few weeks ago because the teacher spoke harshly to him about an assignment he didn't turn in!!!!!!!!!


Can you imagine what will happen when he comes out of his room long enough to get a job and his employer gives him a poor review on something! It boggles my MIND!

This is what this generation is. A bunch of lazy cry babies.
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First, remove all toilet paper from the house. Second, stir in a good does of exlax into the "dessert" third, sit back and watch them wail. While they're stuck on the toilet remove computers, tell them they can earn them back...password protect internet access, and put a timer on it, when they act up deduct time....no TV, no movies, no skateboards...just sitting on the toilet shitting without TP..and no hope of getting up.
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Never, ever, get involved with someone with kids.

Ever.

Never.

It's a no win situation. You will always be the bad guy.
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OP, you still haven't told us what your husband said when you expressed your outrage over the kids with him. Unless you tell us his take on the situation, you are just telling one side of the issue.
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Never, ever, get involved with someone with kids.

Ever.

Never.

It's a no win situation. You will always be the bad guy.
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Yep. Was just going to say the same thing. OP, you broke an important rule for keeping your peace: never get hooked up with somebody who has baggage from a prior failed relationship. Looks like hubby got a domestic slave for free and the troublesome kids are only young versions of the guy you married. Cut your losses.
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Unless you tell us his take on the situation, you are just telling one side of the issue.
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His take is, is that he is blood related to the kids.

He doesnt care about some squeeze who enters the family.

Never get involved with a person with kids.
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<sigh> I'm sorry you're having a hard time. You're not alone. I hear you. I know what it feels like. I've been there.
The last 5 days have been very stressful for me. I need to vent.

I have been extremely ill for the past 9 months and my step kids (2 boys ages 11 and 15) know it. I even left my accounting practice 3 months ago.
 Quoting: ! 62603

Vent away. Feel free to scream at me if you need to. Please feel free to PM or send email. Tell me if you can't.

You say you're ill. How? Please give detail. Are you sure it's just how you feel that's making you ill? Or could it be that you're really sick?
Anyway, the youngest one never shuts up...honestly his mouth never stops! He complains and whines about EVERYTHING. Most weekends I feel like crying because his voice literally makes my ears want to bleed.
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You feel used don't you? Like you're just an object they use and have no respect for and don't care about. I know what that feels like.

For over a year now they have been told to put their dishes in the dishwasher after they eat. Those fucking assholes have to be TOLD G'DAMNED MEAL to put the dishes in the sink or they won't do it. They supposedly are very bright kids. They do no pick up after themselves WHAT SO EVER ANY TIME. If they do manage to do something helpful around the house they do it soooooooooo fucking half assed it wasn't even worth the effort they put into it.
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That sucks. You don't deserve that. Perhaps you could try not warning them anymore. Find some consequence you can dispense. Then stop talking about it. Start doing it. Like - time out. Or yanking the plug to the computer, and carrying the power line away.

The oldest only comes out of his room and off his computer for meals. Then he stays up all nights on the weekend. He'll come downstairs and make himself all these elobrate things to eat and then leave ME the fucking dishes!
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So you get all the work with no actual relationship. That sucks.

I love my husband more than anything, I've tried to talk to him, he tries to make changes, but the kids never do. I feel sooooooooooooooo frustrated and angry I don't know what to do.
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Well, responsibility with no authority is abuse in action. So until you're given some authority they won't listen. You should have rights just like everyone else in the house. And I know what it's like to live in that. You get a little bit more hurt and angry every day don't you?

They are allowed to live like total and utter pigs at their mom's house because she does not cook or clean.

Talking, taking money out of their allowance and punishing doesn't seem to matter. What can I do!?! I can't take it anymore.
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Ah. You are doing things to punish it. Sorry I assumed. Well, there is a reason why it's not working - the kids are being trained to do that. Please see "The Deliberate Dumbing Down of America" at [link to www.deliberatedumbingdown.com]
You can download the entire book free of charge.

Should I start giving them half asssed meals? Should I feed them on their half assed washed plates? I do their laundry and they throw them all over their room and then complain to their Dad they have no clean clothes.
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Yeah. You're like a slave aren't you? I know what that's like! It's your job to be used. I know how you feel!

HELP!!! I have been very ill as well.
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!!! That's the second time you said your ill! What's wrong?! Explain. Give me detail. I might be able to help! It sounds like you're going through what I did once.


Kids today are soooo lazy and so entitled. I feel like running down the street screaming! I'd like to smack the living Hell out of the youngest one, but know I can't.
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Aren't they lazy and entitled though! Yeah. It's been years for me and I STILL feel like running down the road screaming. Tell me about it. And then when you explain it to someone they tell you you're being a b!tch. Clueless experts in other people's lives. And then when it happens to them, they're shocked. If you did beat the little one, they would just use it to prove you're a controlling b!tch, wouldn't they? It's a toxic situation. And it's happening to a lot of people.
Arrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!
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Me too!

Now what if I told you it was all deliberate? That it's all well documented to do this to kids and families? Well, it is. It's half chemical. And it's half brainwashing. They're treating you like it's your job and you're an object because that's exactly what they're being told at school.
Heres a little bit on the chemical side by Dr Mercola: [link to www.youtube.com]
And here's a little bit on the brainwashing side: [link to www.youtube.com]

Kids are being told things in classrooms like "It's their job" and "Do yourself a favor and just ignore them." They're dropping all pretense. The Earth Charter contains junk to make it illegal for you to ask them to do any work at all. To quote the article at [link to www.conspiracyarchive.com]
Davis in Economic Development and Cultural Change says that an effective strategy in lowering the birth rate is to "lessen ... the identity of children with parents, or lessen... the likelihood that this identity will be satisfying," ..This "flouting of parental authority" is a familiar theme in education
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I think you resent the $5000 a month that hubby has to send for child support.
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your out of your mind, I receive $260. a month to house, cloth, feed and school two kids. its almost like he is wiping shit in my face. and to think he begged me to have two kids with him.
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It is a Man's job to teach boys how to become a man......

Your husband need to spend more quality time one on one time with his boys so they can grow up to be men.

you hounding them will not help the situation only make it a lifelong issue with woman.

Encourage your husband to do things with his sons.. fishing, hiking, camping, sports, games....

and enjoy the break-time from them throughly. hf
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I think you resent the $5000 a month that hubby has to send for child support. You hate them for it don't you!

someone got ditched for the new step mommy....
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No, I am a female and the natural parent in a blended family situation.

My side is hearing the step parent constantly yelling about leaving on a light, not eating properly, "walking like a girl", being messy and lazy, on and on. I have a hard time with supporting someone whom I perceive is attacking my child. I agree with many complaints, but it seems the kid can do nothing right. This step admits to being a lazy, messy kid himself, but by God this kid just needs to be yelled at to get him to change, Right????? My son told me that he feels like he can do nothing right. He cries so much about all of this. My son is beginning to hate the step too. It is a shame because in the beginning he recieved him with open arms. His natural father passed away and he was eager for the step. He even told the step he loves him, etc. Now it is like he feels betrayed. He doesnt' trust step anymore. He pulls away feeling rejected. I am very anmgry. We have had many fights over this. I know that I will not tollerate anyone who openly hates my child. It is a matter of it the marriage is worth the misery of constant conflict or not. There needs to be a comprimise or it will end for sure sooner or later.
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OP, you still haven't told us what your husband said when you expressed your outrage over the kids with him. Unless you tell us his take on the situation, you are just telling one side of the issue.
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I have talked with my Husband about this several times. He tries very hard to make them pick up after themselves. But like I said earlier THEY HAVE TO BE TOLD EVERY FLIPPING TIME THEY EAT ANYTHINGmeals, snacks, drinks...etc to put the dishes in the dishwasher. EVERY SINGLE TIME!!!! Seriously! I just can't believe that after all this time they cannot get up and do it on thier own.

I don't bitch and complain all the time. Some weekends I don't let it bother me, but this weekend was particularly brutal, mainly because of the youngest one who didn't do a report and my husband spent a good deal of his time trying to help him with the assignment only to hear the young one whine, complain, try to sneak on his computer game, lay down and throw fits, scream, cry and so on and so on. When he would get sent to his room (by hubby) to be quiet he would come down 2 minutes later whinning about something or other.

My Husband tries to keep us all happy. I know it is hard for him because basically at Mom's house there really are no rules, they live like wild animals and at our house I will not permit it. He does try to stand by me. We are all learning as we go.

But COME ON! Are they really that stupid they have to be told every time they use a dish to take it to the dishwasher?

When they come inside they throw their shoes off where ever they want and will drop their back packs off in a middle of a room and just leave them there. One time I left a pair of the youngest sneakers smack dab in the middle of a busy walk way in the family room to see how long they would stay there. I gave up after 3 days and moved them.

I don't always hate them, but this weekend it sure felt like I did. I even went up to my room and just stayed there for hours to get some peace from youngest. I've never done that before. It didn't help much because I could still here him lying, whinning and complaining about wanting to play on the computer.
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<sigh> I'm sorry you're having a hard time. You're not alone. I hear you. I know what it feels like. I've been there.

The last 5 days have been very stressful for me. I need to vent.

I have been extremely ill for the past 9 months and my step kids (2 boys ages 11 and 15) know it. I even left my accounting practice 3 months ago.
Vent away. Feel free to scream at me if you need to. Please feel free to PM or send email. Tell me if you can't.

You say you're ill. How? Please give detail. Are you sure it's just how you feel that's making you ill? Or could it be that you're really sick?
Anyway, the youngest one never shuts up...honestly his mouth never stops! He complains and whines about EVERYTHING. Most weekends I feel like crying because his voice literally makes my ears want to bleed.You feel used don't you? Like you're just an object they use and have no respect for and don't care about. I know what that feels like.

For over a year now they have been told to put their dishes in the dishwasher after they eat. Those fucking assholes have to be TOLD G'DAMNED MEAL to put the dishes in the sink or they won't do it. They supposedly are very bright kids. They do no pick up after themselves WHAT SO EVER ANY TIME. If they do manage to do something helpful around the house they do it soooooooooo fucking half assed it wasn't even worth the effort they put into it.That sucks. You don't deserve that. Perhaps you could try not warning them anymore. Find some consequence you can dispense. Then stop talking about it. Start doing it. Like - time out. Or yanking the plug to the computer, and carrying the power line away.

The oldest only comes out of his room and off his computer for meals. Then he stays up all nights on the weekend. He'll come downstairs and make himself all these elobrate things to eat and then leave ME the fucking dishes!So you get all the work with no actual relationship. That sucks.

I love my husband more than anything, I've tried to talk to him, he tries to make changes, but the kids never do. I feel sooooooooooooooo frustrated and angry I don't know what to do.Well, responsibility with no authority is abuse in action. So until you're given some authority they won't listen. You should have rights just like everyone else in the house. And I know what it's like to live in that. You get a little bit more hurt and angry every day don't you?

They are allowed to live like total and utter pigs at their mom's house because she does not cook or clean.

Talking, taking money out of their allowance and punishing doesn't seem to matter. What can I do!?! I can't take it anymore.Ah. You are doing things to punish it. Sorry I assumed. Well, there is a reason why it's not working - the kids are being trained to do that. Please see "The Deliberate Dumbing Down of America" at [link to www.deliberatedumbingdown.com]
You can download the entire book free of charge.

Should I start giving them half asssed meals? Should I feed them on their half assed washed plates? I do their laundry and they throw them all over their room and then complain to their Dad they have no clean clothes.Yeah. You're like a slave aren't you? I know what that's like! It's your job to be used. I know how you feel!

HELP!!! I have been very ill as well.!!! That's the second time you said your ill! What's wrong?! Explain. Give me detail. I might be able to help! It sounds like you're going through what I did once.


Kids today are soooo lazy and so entitled. I feel like running down the street screaming! I'd like to smack the living Hell out of the youngest one, but know I can't.Aren't they lazy and entitled though! Yeah. It's been years for me and I STILL feel like running down the road screaming. Tell me about it. And then when you explain it to someone they tell you you're being a b!tch. Clueless experts in other people's lives. And then when it happens to them, they're shocked. If you did beat the little one, they would just use it to prove you're a controlling b!tch, wouldn't they? It's a toxic situation. And it's happening to a lot of people.
Arrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!
Me too!

Now what if I told you it was all deliberate? That it's all well documented to do this to kids and families? Well, it is. It's half chemical. And it's half brainwashing. They're treating you like it's your job and you're an object because that's exactly what they're being told at school.
Heres a little bit on the chemical side by Dr Mercola: [link to www.youtube.com]
And here's a little bit on the brainwashing side: [link to www.youtube.com]

Kids are being told things in classrooms like "It's their job" and "Do yourself a favor and just ignore them." They're dropping all pretense. The Earth Charter contains junk to make it illegal for you to ask them to do any work at all. To quote the article at [link to www.conspiracyarchive.com]
Davis in Economic Development and Cultural Change says that an effective strategy in lowering the birth rate is to "lessen ... the identity of children with parents, or lessen... the likelihood that this identity will be satisfying," ..This "flouting of parental authority" is a familiar theme in education
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Thank you soooo very much for this post! I'm listening and reading as we speak.
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Let me give you an example of what my youngest ingrate step son whines and complains about.

If we want to go the amusement park he will COMPLAIN! When my kids were young this was a big deal that we had to save up for! It was a special occassion.

When we were in Kona, HI the little bastard threw a fit because we had to drive to the beach A WHOLE HOUR AWAY. I got sooooo mad at him I made hubby turn around and take him back to the condo to spend the day with his Grand parents.

I took him shopping for new school clothes and he pitched a hissy fit in the middle of the department store because his Mom never made him get new school clothes. I was so mad I put the clothes on the rack and started to walk out. He then changed his tune and begged me for the clothes.

He is Mr. Complainer Contrary. If the entire family wants one thing he will want the other then actively seeks and argument. He enjoys the arguments. I have learned just to shut him down and walk away, but so far hubby and other step kid have not.

I'm always emotionally exhausted when they leave after a long weekend.
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I believe you about the school brainwashing. I have many days I could just scream all day long because of the whining and complaining of my youngest son.

We just took him out of public school this year. He is going wild resisting homeschooling. He says public school is way easier! His teacher each year has said the same thing at parent teacher confrence: He just glazes over and doesn't pay attention. He makes honor roll without even listening to the teacher. In homeschoo can make sure that he is paying attention, and make him produce work! Our problems with his attitude and behavior have become worse since we started homeschool. I won't give up because I believe things would get worse if I don't start unschooling him ASAP with the programming that he received from Grades K-3 already.
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OP, you still haven't told us what your husband said when you expressed your outrage over the kids with him. Unless you tell us his take on the situation, you are just telling one side of the issue.


I have talked with my Husband about this several times. He tries very hard to make them pick up after themselves. But like I said earlier THEY HAVE TO BE TOLD EVERY FLIPPING TIME THEY EAT ANYTHINGmeals, snacks, drinks...etc to put the dishes in the dishwasher. EVERY SINGLE TIME!!!! Seriously! I just can't believe that after all this time they cannot get up and do it on thier own.

I don't bitch and complain all the time. Some weekends I don't let it bother me, but this weekend was particularly brutal, mainly because of the youngest one who didn't do a report and my husband spent a good deal of his time trying to help him with the assignment only to hear the young one whine, complain, try to sneak on his computer game, lay down and throw fits, scream, cry and so on and so on. When he would get sent to his room (by hubby) to be quiet he would come down 2 minutes later whinning about something or other.

My Husband tries to keep us all happy. I know it is hard for him because basically at Mom's house there really are no rules, they live like wild animals and at our house I will not permit it. He does try to stand by me. We are all learning as we go.

But COME ON! Are they really that stupid they have to be told every time they use a dish to take it to the dishwasher?

When they come inside they throw their shoes off where ever they want and will drop their back packs off in a middle of a room and just leave them there. One time I left a pair of the youngest sneakers smack dab in the middle of a busy walk way in the family room to see how long they would stay there. I gave up after 3 days and moved them.

I don't always hate them, but this weekend it sure felt like I did. I even went up to my room and just stayed there for hours to get some peace from youngest. I've never done that before. It didn't help much because I could still here him lying, whinning and complaining about wanting to play on the computer.
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I don't understand why you have to use the word...HATE...its such a awful word to use towards children. Also the comment "Are they really that stupid"...... They are an age where you set them down and give them a heart to heart... I do realize they are boys, but seriously its seems like you all are so disconnected...
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"Spare the rod, spoil the child."

Oh .. that's right ... we're not "allowed" to do that anymore.

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beat them like unwanted step children and maybe they will get the message ( a real thick leather belt works best)..
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fuckin weak asses come crying to GLP.

you finding help on GLP yet?
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fuckin weak asses come crying to GLP.

you finding help on GLP yet?
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Agreed!
To Each their Own!
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I don't understand people who breed or marry just because they can't think of anything better to do with their lives.
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I don't understand why you have to use the word...HATE...its such a awful word to use towards children. Also the comment "Are they really that stupid"...... They are an age where you set them down and give them a heart to heart... I do realize they are boys, but seriously its seems like you all are so disconnected...
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We have again and again and again. That is why I used the word stupid.
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fuckin weak asses come crying to GLP.

you finding help on GLP yet?
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go adopt a few teenagers, then come back in a year, or two. Make sure they are struggling school, have sneaky tendencies, and know everything.

Then come back and give your opinion.
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beat them like unwanted step children and maybe they will get the message ( a real thick leather belt works best)..
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I'd love to and the oldest one is a red head.
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the father should be the one to intervene until you are closer. but you cant sound like the whining bitch either. this behavior sucks. it has to be a "house rules" hard line about who does what and when. Allowance should be linked to compliance and the degree in which specific jobs are done well. better compliance, better pay. the family areas need to be kept clean, but the individual rooms only need to be cleaned once per week. personal pride will take over in time as they mature and have more friends over. eventually the children will come around and it will be the father who is complaining. if your not having good sex, then let me sooth your nice little tight ...oh never mind
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Ok, here's my opinion.

These are not YOUR children, they are your husbands children. A Step parent cannot discipline effectively without causing major discord in the home.

YOUR HUSBAND needs to step up and be a Dad. He needs to quit 'trying' and DO IT. Especially since you are ill, the fact that he isn't stepping up and parenting his own children, by basically laying down the law and being consistent about the rules and expectations.

I've been through therapy on this very subject and it is a fact that a step parent simply cannot parent as if they were your own. Your husband is being disrespectful to you and his own children by not doing this.

You are in a tough position, because you will have to lay down the law to hubby first. Make sure he understands that you will no longer parent his children, that to be effective, he will have to be the disciplinarian.

And believe me, at the ages these boys are, the fun is only beginning. Nip it in the bud.

Good Luck, Hope you feel better, now go kick some ass. hf
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You know OP, these days you are just supposed to let kids do whatever the fuck they want, never say NO to them and spoil them for being entitlement minded little shitstains. It's all a big mindfuck that began back in the late 80's with the governemnt ramping up CPS to be like a baby Blackwater project with their own above the law rules...then the media showing tons of child abuse cases that were just the most extreme of the most extreme to validate CPS's unorthodox above the law practices...and then they slowly began to demonize corporal punishment in schools...then they came with the propaganda taking it out of the parent's hands to use spankings, because now everyone has basically been brainwashed into thinking spanking is bad, and it's "child abuse".

Don't feel bad OP...you are just a victim of the New World Order, just like the rest of us. They want these new generations to be unruly and without proper guidance, spoiled with decadent things they don't deserve...look how the media forces this down your gullet. They want a generation of chaos to usher in a time of chaos. An undisciplined mind is an unhealthy mind. A mind that is open to pollution, because it will fall for anything.

The only thing you can do is place the boys in a grueling form of martial arts and hope for the best. I wish I would have ignored my granny when she told me to do a chore, she would have tracked me down like a bloodhound and laid into my ass with a switch or a broom. And heaven rest her blessed soul, I thank her for guiding me. Things just are not the same anymore.
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P.S. Parenting is not for the weak of heart. Also tell hubby not be afraid of putting the fear of D-A-D in them - Physical punishment is not socially acceptable, but is sometimes necessary (and believe me, from experience, if the Police are called they are sympathetic to the PARENTS.
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the kids are normal

the mother needs medication

if they were her kids she wouldn't even notice
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fuckin weak asses come crying to GLP.

you finding help on GLP yet?
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She said she just wanted to vent. No one asked you.
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the kids are normal

the mother needs medication

if they were her kids she wouldn't even notice
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bullshit
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