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HELP!!! I'm Starting to HATE my Step Kids!!!!!

 
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Now, where are all those people who said that divorce is no big deal? And that as long as the parents stay involved, their children won't be traumatized?

Can we not identify what the real problem is here?

We are sitting around discussing how CHILDREN are monsters, and no one puts the fault on the original people who decide to have children when they really have no desire to be parents?
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Their father is responsible and he should be disciplining them. If he didn't, I would go on strike and do no cooking or laundry or cleaning for them at all. I would take care of myself until they got the hint.
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Sometimes you need to "snap" and show your crazy side...It'll scare the shit outta the lil' sombitches...try that, works for me...scare usually lasts about 6-7 months.
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Do it the legal way..

Take kids to DOJO
Slip the Sifu or Kyoshi 50 bucks

Beat shit out of kids.. in a fun for you but safe for them kinda they get hurt really bad but you play it off like it was a boo boo mistake kinda way..

Take home... Say do dishes.. Or you'll have a boo boo!


:-)


Worked for me...

It didn't wear of for like 20 years...

Man my mom hits hard!! :-)
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laugh
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They are picking up on the vibes that you hate them, I would leave dirty dishes for you too.
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Give them a warm hug, then proceed to beat the shit outta them!
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The last 5 days have been very stressful for me. I need to vent.

I have been extremely ill for the past 9 months and my step kids (2 boys ages 11 and 15) know it. I even left my accounting practice 3 months ago.

Anyway, the youngest one never shuts up...honestly his mouth never stops! He complains and whines about EVERYTHING. Most weekends I feel like crying because his voice literally makes my ears want to bleed.

For over a year now they have been told to put their dishes in the dishwasher after they eat. Those fucking assholes have to be TOLD G'DAMNED MEAL to put the dishes in the sink or they won't do it. They supposedly are very bright kids. They do no pick up after themselves WHAT SO EVER ANY TIME. If they do manage to do something helpful around the house they do it soooooooooo fucking half assed it wasn't even worth the effort they put into it.

The oldest only comes out of his room and off his computer for meals. Then he stays up all nights on the weekend. He'll come downstairs and make himself all these elobrate things to eat and then leave ME the fucking dishes!

I love my husband more than anything, I've tried to talk to him, he tries to make changes, but the kids never do. I feel sooooooooooooooo frustrated and angry I don't know what to do.

They are allowed to live like total and utter pigs at their mom's house because she does not cook or clean.

Talking, taking money out of their allowance and punishing doesn't seem to matter. What can I do!?! I can't take it anymore.

Should I start giving them half asssed meals? Should I feed them on their half assed washed plates? I do their laundry and they throw them all over their room and then complain to their Dad they have no clean clothes.

HELP!!! I have been very ill as well.


Kids today are soooo lazy and so entitled. I feel like running down the street screaming! I'd like to smack the living Hell out of the youngest one, but know I can't.






Arrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!
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Their father is responsible and he should be disciplining them. If he didn't, I would go on strike and do no cooking or laundry or cleaning for them at all. I would take care of myself until they got the hint.
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yeah, this is a good answer.....in our house I had to do the discipling (mother) but hubby ad I always agreed on things... I was the one to mete it out though, but the kids knew it was from both of us.
Love is a state of Being. Your love is not outside; it is deep within you. You can never lose it, and it cannot leave you. You can feel the same life deep within every other human and every other creature. You look beyond the veil of form and separation. This is the realization of oneness. This is love. What is God? The Eternal One Life underneath all the forms of life. What is love? To feel the presence of that One Life deep within yourself and within all creatures. To be it. Therefore, all love is the love of God.

Death is a stripping away of all that is not you. The secret of life is to die before you die - and find that there is no death.
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I have yet to see a functional step relationship.

I HATED my stepmother growing up, she was this mega Type-A person who always called me "lazy" for waking up past 9 am on the weekends and bullied everyone to get her way. I never will forget the time she yelled at me for putting my sweater in the laundry. She acted like the world was about to end. The non-stop hysterics made my life a living hell. She was/is also a gold digging bitch and really is just an overall heartless person. She also HATES my biological mother, who I am VERY close to. Why my father married this bitch I'll never know. We don't talk to each other now that I'm an adult, and if she picks up the phone when I call I immediately ask her to put my dad on the line.

One thing I've learned from this experience is NEVER to start a relationship with a woman who has children. If I ever divorce and have kids, I will wait until they are GROWN and out of the house before dating again.

I'm sorry, but this really is a two-way street paved in shit. 9 times out of 10 step parents and step kids resent the hell out of each other.
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Arrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!
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I'm afraid for the kids! I think the feeling might be mutual. Maybe they think of you as an invader. Would life be better if you ran away?
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Sometimes you need to "snap" and show your crazy side...It'll scare the shit outta the lil' sombitches...try that, works for me...scare usually lasts about 6-7 months.
angryface
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would you have liked it if someone did that to you as a kid?
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I have yet to see a functional step relationship.

I HATED my stepmother growing up, she was this mega Type-A person who always called me "lazy" for waking up past 9 am on the weekends and bullied everyone to get her way. I never will forget the time she yelled at me for putting my sweater in the laundry. She acted like the world was about to end. The non-stop hysterics made my life a living hell. She was/is also a gold digging bitch and really is just an overall heartless person. She also HATES my biological mother, who I am VERY close to. Why my father married this bitch I'll never know. We don't talk to each other now that I'm an adult, and if she picks up the phone when I call I immediately ask her to put my dad on the line.

One thing I've learned from this experience is NEVER to start a relationship with a woman who has children. If I ever divorce and have kids, I will wait until they are GROWN and out of the house before dating again.

I'm sorry, but this really is a two-way street paved in shit. 9 times out of 10 step parents and step kids resent the hell out of each other.
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I think this post gives a good view of the other side.
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Now, where are all those people who said that divorce is no big deal? And that as long as the parents stay involved, their children won't be traumatized?

Can we not identify what the real problem is here?

We are sitting around discussing how CHILDREN are monsters, and no one puts the fault on the original people who decide to have children when they really have no desire to be parents?
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I put the blame in the right place I think!
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I think this post gives a good view of the other side.
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Yeah, it really does go both ways. "Blended families," which is really some sappy PC term for broken families, are very dysfunctional.

A child needs a MOTHER and a FATHER growing up as his parental units. When you start throwing steps into the mix, it really screws the kid up.
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Our older child's biolgical mother abandoned her family while that child was an infant. The only mother in this family is me; both kids have known only me as "mom."

We don't differentiate between step and biological children in this family. It's the only way it has worked for us.
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The last 5 days have been very stressful for me. I need to vent.

I have been extremely ill for the past 9 months and my step kids (2 boys ages 11 and 15) know it. I even left my accounting practice 3 months ago.

Anyway, the youngest one never shuts up...honestly his mouth never stops! He complains and whines about EVERYTHING. Most weekends I feel like crying because his voice literally makes my ears want to bleed.

For over a year now they have been told to put their dishes in the dishwasher after they eat. Those fucking assholes have to be TOLD G'DAMNED MEAL to put the dishes in the sink or they won't do it. They supposedly are very bright kids. They do no pick up after themselves WHAT SO EVER ANY TIME. If they do manage to do something helpful around the house they do it soooooooooo fucking half assed it wasn't even worth the effort they put into it.

The oldest only comes out of his room and off his computer for meals. Then he stays up all nights on the weekend. He'll come downstairs and make himself all these elobrate things to eat and then leave ME the fucking dishes!

I love my husband more than anything, I've tried to talk to him, he tries to make changes, but the kids never do. I feel sooooooooooooooo frustrated and angry I don't know what to do.
#1 Starting to hate. Lady, you need to shut your fucking mouth. Who are you to degrade these children!!!You are probably, a pig and have no self esteem. So, you figure everyone is like you. You husband must be the same...if your husband had any guts, he would remove his precious children, and tell you to fuck off!!!!!!!!They are allowed to live like total and utter pigs at their mom's house because she does not cook or clean.

Talking, taking money out of their allowance and punishing doesn't seem to matter. What can I do!?! I can't take it anymore.

Should I start giving them half asssed meals? Should I feed them on their half assed washed plates? I do their laundry and they throw them all over their room and then complain to their Dad they have no clean clothes.

HELP!!! I have been very ill as well.


Kids today are soooo lazy and so entitled. I feel like running down the street screaming! I'd like to smack the living Hell out of the youngest one, but know I can't.






Arrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!
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Being a step-parent is hard. I thought I had a good relationship with my step-daughter. From the time she was 6 until she went off to college everything was great. I never had to raise my voice to her and certainly never thought of hitting her. If there was a problem I let her father handle it. She was a good kid so there really wasn't much discipline needed. There were times when I got stressed out but I would just walk away or leave the house. When she turned 21 (about the time we stopped paying her child support) she suddenly turned against us. Now she won't speak to us and won't tell us why. We occasionally get a reply to an email but that's it. I wonder if we will ever find out what happened. I suspect her mother fed her some lies.
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It will not get any better. Piss or get off the POPS! Be ready to be miserable 4 the rest of ur life or the next 10 yrs if ur lucky.

Bridges and oncomming cars will start looking appealing. And hey Y not. Then ur free of chores and it might help them learn a little responsibility. Cuz ur not going to teach them that! If u think I'm being harsh ur wrong its honesty. HAHAHAHAHHA U REAP WHAT U SOW
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Divorce their dad. Life is too short to live like hell.
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The last 5 days have been very stressful for me. I need to vent.

I have been extremely ill for the past 9 months and my step kids (2 boys ages 11 and 15) know it. I even left my accounting practice 3 months ago.

Anyway, the youngest one never shuts up...honestly his mouth never stops! He complains and whines about EVERYTHING. Most weekends I feel like crying because his voice literally makes my ears want to bleed.

For over a year now they have been told to put their dishes in the dishwasher after they eat. Those fucking assholes have to be TOLD G'DAMNED MEAL to put the dishes in the sink or they won't do it. They supposedly are very bright kids. They do no pick up after themselves WHAT SO EVER ANY TIME. If they do manage to do something helpful around the house they do it soooooooooo fucking half assed it wasn't even worth the effort they put into it.

The oldest only comes out of his room and off his computer for meals. Then he stays up all nights on the weekend. He'll come downstairs and make himself all these elobrate things to eat and then leave ME the fucking dishes!

I love my husband more than anything, I've tried to talk to him, he tries to make changes, but the kids never do. I feel sooooooooooooooo frustrated and angry I don't know what to do.

They are allowed to live like total and utter pigs at their mom's house because she does not cook or clean.

Talking, taking money out of their allowance and punishing doesn't seem to matter. What can I do!?! I can't take it anymore.

Should I start giving them half asssed meals? Should I feed them on their half assed washed plates? I do their laundry and they throw them all over their room and then complain to their Dad they have no clean clothes.

HELP!!! I have been very ill as well.


Kids today are soooo lazy and so entitled. I feel like running down the street screaming! I'd like to smack the living Hell out of the youngest one, but know I can't.






Arrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!
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Tell your kids that the world is going to end and if they don't behave you won't bring them in the bunker.
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hey they arent your kids so why do you cook for them at all? Just go out and see friends around dinner time, they arent your responsibility.

What did their father marry you for? Love or did he need a cook, cleaner and child rearer?
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When the step parent crosses the line to calling names, telling the kid that they are worthless, etc. I will not stand for it. I think an above poster is correct. The step should stop with the intense conflict and the natural parent should be the one to handle it.
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I've never said anything mean to them or called them names. I save it for here.
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well it seems like their father fell on his feet with you. Seriously kids that age are difficult at the best of times, good luck.
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Also, boys 11 and 15 are old enough to learn to clean up the kitchen, and do their own laundry.
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Are you fucking kidding me? Kids these days at 19 still don't know how to clean, cook or do anything themselves but sleep.
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when you decided to marry their dad you knew you were going to be put into a mother role so you should shut the fuck up and know your place bitch.. and stop being a whinging annoying evil step mother bitch, cause that shit is just annoying.. if you knew how to be a real women and had some values and morals you would have the situation under control without having a fucking nervous breakdown.. its only one young boy and a teenager for fucks sake.. get with the program or fuck off and marry a guy without kids..
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Wow! I just read through this whole article and it is amazing to me how much hatred there are for children out there. And all you people that want to put all the blame on the kids? Seriously, get a grip.

If you feel this way about a step child two things are going to happen... 1. They are going to KNOW that's how you feel and they will act accordingly meaning... "if that bitch doesnt like me then fuck her".. 2. Their actual PARENT will also know that's how you feel and he will become defensive and protective of his children.
Your one and ONLY response to this issue needs to be to show those children LOVE and support. Take the issues you have up with their dad in PRIVATE but do not show anything but love to those kids.
Take an interest in what they do and channel all that energy you are currently using to HATE them and turn it into energy used in BUILDING an actual relationship with them.
You are NOT thier parent and never will be. So stop fucking trying to be. Be their friend and let the parent be the parent.

And to all you dip shits that think a harsher, firmer stance with a defiant step child will work... you are dead WRONG! You as the step parent are already the outsider coming in and trying to take over their life. You want to try and rule with an iron fist you will simply become the hated evil step mom and their behavior will get worse not better.

You want those kids to be better adults, then show them that they are actually people worth loving. From the sounds of their upbringing, right now they probably dont feel like they belong anywhere.. and you nagging them about dirty dishes and laundry is only amplifying the problem. Be their friend, love them and understand their pain. Have house rules but stick to the serious issues (homework, respect) and dont worry about the tiny ones like dirty dishes or a messy room.

Forcing those kids to clean thier dishes is NOT going to make them better adults, no matter what you think. All you're doing is wanting to power struggle with them to show them who is boss.. and it's backfiring.

If I were their dad and heard you say even half the shit you posted on here... i would kick your sorry sick ass all the way to the curb and i would do it IMMEDIATELY!
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Sorry you're having a hard time.

Your problem is with your husband, and not with your kids.

You obviously don't have a united front, and you and your husband need to determine why that is and fix it.

Best wishes.
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^this^
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Should I start giving them half asssed meals? Should I feed them on their half assed washed plates? I do their laundry and they throw them all over their room and then complain to their Dad they have no clean clothes.
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Yes, yes, and they can learn to run the washing machine themselves.

You take it easy and get better. Hope you're not afraid if the kids complain to Dad, he should support you because you are his wife, not their maid. hf
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Wow! I just read through this whole article and it is amazing to me how much hatred there are for children out there. And all you people that want to put all the blame on the kids? Seriously, get a grip.

If you feel this way about a step child two things are going to happen... 1. They are going to KNOW that's how you feel and they will act accordingly meaning... "if that bitch doesnt like me then fuck her".. 2. Their actual PARENT will also know that's how you feel and he will become defensive and protective of his children.
Your one and ONLY response to this issue needs to be to show those children LOVE and support. Take the issues you have up with their dad in PRIVATE but do not show anything but love to those kids.
Take an interest in what they do and channel all that energy you are currently using to HATE them and turn it into energy used in BUILDING an actual relationship with them.
You are NOT thier parent and never will be. So stop fucking trying to be. Be their friend and let the parent be the parent.

And to all you dip shits that think a harsher, firmer stance with a defiant step child will work... you are dead WRONG! You as the step parent are already the outsider coming in and trying to take over their life. You want to try and rule with an iron fist you will simply become the hated evil step mom and their behavior will get worse not better.

You want those kids to be better adults, then show them that they are actually people worth loving. From the sounds of their upbringing, right now they probably dont feel like they belong anywhere.. and you nagging them about dirty dishes and laundry is only amplifying the problem. Be their friend, love them and understand their pain. Have house rules but stick to the serious issues (homework, respect) and dont worry about the tiny ones like dirty dishes or a messy room.

Forcing those kids to clean thier dishes is NOT going to make them better adults, no matter what you think. All you're doing is wanting to power struggle with them to show them who is boss.. and it's backfiring.

If I were their dad and heard you say even half the shit you posted on here... i would kick your sorry sick ass all the way to the curb and i would do it IMMEDIATELY!
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You say love them, despite the abuse, and also note that she will never be their "real" parent.

You're asking her to be a saint and then some. Or to be delusional.

Love doesn't just come because you will it. What's there now between OP and the kids is probably somewhere between tolerance and dislike. It's abusing OP to expect her to show love, love, love.

As for becoming better adults, well they kids can start by cleaning up after themselves. I don't know if it will make them better adults, but it will be more fair right this moment to their ill step-mom. Chances are this will make them into better adults. In any case, OP is not their servant and everyone has to get out of the habit that OP can be abused. If her husband is trying to stick up for her, it isn't working, she's got to stick up for herself!

Parents are not servants of children or step-children.
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i aint reading seven fucking pages about shit like this, but i will say that you sound like a right whiny, cold hearted bitch. firstly, these are KIDS - YOU are supposed to take care of them. sure, the teenager could perhaps clean up after himself, but an eleven year old should be left to be a kid

poor kids, first they have to deal with being apart from their own mother, then they gotta deal with a bitch like you

wouldnt let my ids anywhere near you lest you beat the crap out of them one day when youve finally had it with - horror of horrors - normal kid behaviour

yeah, it sucks. but they are your responsibility

perhaps if you were less of a bitch they might want to help out
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This thread is 4 years old.

OP has long since murdered the brats and/or committed suicide.
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Wow! I just read through this whole article and it is amazing to me how much hatred there are for children out there. And all you people that want to put all the blame on the kids? Seriously, get a grip.

If you feel this way about a step child two things are going to happen... 1. They are going to KNOW that's how you feel and they will act accordingly meaning... "if that bitch doesnt like me then fuck her".. 2. Their actual PARENT will also know that's how you feel and he will become defensive and protective of his children.
Your one and ONLY response to this issue needs to be to show those children LOVE and support. Take the issues you have up with their dad in PRIVATE but do not show anything but love to those kids.
Take an interest in what they do and channel all that energy you are currently using to HATE them and turn it into energy used in BUILDING an actual relationship with them.
You are NOT thier parent and never will be. So stop fucking trying to be. Be their friend and let the parent be the parent.

And to all you dip shits that think a harsher, firmer stance with a defiant step child will work... you are dead WRONG! You as the step parent are already the outsider coming in and trying to take over their life. You want to try and rule with an iron fist you will simply become the hated evil step mom and their behavior will get worse not better.

You want those kids to be better adults, then show them that they are actually people worth loving. From the sounds of their upbringing, right now they probably dont feel like they belong anywhere.. and you nagging them about dirty dishes and laundry is only amplifying the problem. Be their friend, love them and understand their pain. Have house rules but stick to the serious issues (homework, respect) and dont worry about the tiny ones like dirty dishes or a messy room.

Forcing those kids to clean thier dishes is NOT going to make them better adults, no matter what you think. All you're doing is wanting to power struggle with them to show them who is boss.. and it's backfiring.

If I were their dad and heard you say even half the shit you posted on here... i would kick your sorry sick ass all the way to the curb and i would do it IMMEDIATELY!
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indeed. anyone who hates any child should get their head checked. perhaps its depression. just reading about her 'problems' is making me feel a tad blue

i feel sorry for the OPs husband. if he only knew that she hates his kids. wow

i am a parent. got a fucking miserable husband to deal with, and boys aged 10 and 17. i know exactly the circumstances of which the OP speaks. but guess what? thats fucking life as a married parent

OP what are you? 16? get a fucking grip

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