HELP!!! I'm Starting to HATE my Step Kids!!!!!

What is the solution of hiring a housekeeper to clean up behind two mentally sound teen boys doing for their long term benefit? So, when they grow up and move into their own place, making a modest wage just starting out, then it's fine to live like a slop because mom will hire a housekeeper for us to come clean it up? This attachment non parenting crap is turing out weak kids who can't pour piss out of a boot.

I wonder if you feel that you must some how in a short time fix his kids to be more like you children. Do you feel like a "failure" somehow because of their lack of character? You did not have a hand in their upbringing until just recently. I think that you are torturing yourself over principle instead of clean dishes. You may be just making yourself sick. Just hire the housekeeper and let your husband be the one responsible for how horrible they turn out. Kids from some of the best families turn out to be the worst. Some kids from the worst social situations turn out to be the best. Don't let the issue with the kids lead you to a divorce or early grave.



What is the solution of hiring a housekeeper to clean up behind two mentally sound teen boys doing for their long term benefit? So, when they grow up and move into their own place, making a modest wage just starting out, then it's fine to live like a slop because mom will hire a housekeeper for us to come clean it up? This attachment non parenting crap is turing out weak kids who can't pour piss out of a boot.

The last 5 days have been very stressful for me. I need to vent.

I have been extremely ill for the past 9 months and my step kids (2 boys ages 11 and 15) know it. I even left my accounting practice 3 months ago.

Anyway, the youngest one never shuts up...honestly his mouth never stops! He complains and whines about EVERYTHING. Most weekends I feel like crying because his voice literally makes my ears want to bleed.

For over a year now they have been told to put their dishes in the dishwasher after they eat. Those fucking assholes have to be TOLD G'DAMNED MEAL to put the dishes in the sink or they won't do it. They supposedly are very bright kids. They do no pick up after themselves WHAT SO EVER ANY TIME. If they do manage to do something helpful around the house they do it soooooooooo fucking half assed it wasn't even worth the effort they put into it.

The oldest only comes out of his room and off his computer for meals. Then he stays up all nights on the weekend. He'll come downstairs and make himself all these elobrate things to eat and then leave ME the fucking dishes!

I love my husband more than anything, I've tried to talk to him, he tries to make changes, but the kids never do. I feel sooooooooooooooo frustrated and angry I don't know what to do.

They are allowed to live like total and utter pigs at their mom's house because she does not cook or clean.

Talking, taking money out of their allowance and punishing doesn't seem to matter. What can I do!?! I can't take it anymore.

Should I start giving them half asssed meals? Should I feed them on their half assed washed plates? I do their laundry and they throw them all over their room and then complain to their Dad they have no clean clothes.

HELP!!! I have been very ill as well.


Kids today are soooo lazy and so entitled. I feel like running down the street screaming! I'd like to smack the living Hell out of the youngest one, but know I can't.






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Do it the legal way..

Take kids to DOJO
Slip the Sifu or Kyoshi 50 bucks

Beat shit out of kids.. in a fun for you but safe for them kinda they get hurt really bad but you play it off like it was a boo boo mistake kinda way..

Take home... Say do dishes.. Or you'll have a boo boo!


:-)


Worked for me...

It didn't wear of for like 20 years...

Man my mom hits hard!! :-)

Well, Talk to their father, and have him point out to them that you have been pretty ill and that they have to help out and pick up the slack now.

This means no whining, making and cleaning up from meals to help out and helping pick up the place for about an hour a day.

They can do this when they like, or it can be a specific time when their dad can stand and watch them do it, their choice.

:)

They are his kids, so he can deal with them.

Still, try to be understanding of them as well. They come to your house and the rules are different, you seem pushy, asking them to do things they are not used to and don't want to do, and then you yell and complain to them, about them, get them punished...

This is not conductive to them wanting to do what you ask of them!

After all, you simply are not their Mother, and you making rules for them probably rankles more than a bit.

*This doesn't get them OUT of following your rules, but as I said, try to understand where they are coming from as well.

Just the fact that you can note all this will mean some thing to them if you explain that you know...

Kids aren't dumb. They do need consistent rules however, just like you do.

These kids don't have that, so they push the boundaries.

It is not going to be easy for anyone to fix this, but try to be kind about it, don't yell or hate them for being what others made them!

Just do your best and try to be understanding, even while your ears feel like they will bleed!

Take care and best of luck friend.

D.

I totally see where you are coming from. I am only 28 years old and have a 15 years old step son. I love the kid but i don't like him very much.
Lazy,Lazy,Lazy, cannot stand it anymore. I cook dinner for our family every single night ,do the dishes,clean the house ,everything ,yet he always forgets to wipe the table after he eats. I get the same answer 3 times a day "I FORGOT" and i want to run away! I stopped doing his laundry this year and of course he forgets to do that now. My husband will make him do it once he starts smelling something bad in the house.
Also he can not put the empty milk bottles,coke boxes in the trash,he just leaves them on my kitchen floor.

My husband and i had an amazing relationship,we only fight because of my stepson ,b/c i'm tired of being his maid and i won't accept his snotty attitude.
I realized that my problem is with my husband and not my stepson,for condoning this type of behavior. So from today i stopped cleaning ,leave all the dishes in the sink,put trash on my own kitchen floor ,even stop cooking. We'll see how long until someone realizes something's WRONG! I'll keep you posted . Don't feel lonely tough,there's many of us out here dealing with the same issues.
Good luck to both of us and God bless!


The last 5 days have been very stressful for me. I need to vent.

I have been extremely ill for the past 9 months and my step kids (2 boys ages 11 and 15) know it. I even left my accounting practice 3 months ago.

Anyway, the youngest one never shuts up...honestly his mouth never stops! He complains and whines about EVERYTHING. Most weekends I feel like crying because his voice literally makes my ears want to bleed.

For over a year now they have been told to put their dishes in the dishwasher after they eat. Those fucking assholes have to be TOLD G'DAMNED MEAL to put the dishes in the sink or they won't do it. They supposedly are very bright kids. They do no pick up after themselves WHAT SO EVER ANY TIME. If they do manage to do something helpful around the house they do it soooooooooo fucking half assed it wasn't even worth the effort they put into it.

The oldest only comes out of his room and off his computer for meals. Then he stays up all nights on the weekend. He'll come downstairs and make himself all these elobrate things to eat and then leave ME the fucking dishes!

I love my husband more than anything, I've tried to talk to him, he tries to make changes, but the kids never do. I feel sooooooooooooooo frustrated and angry I don't know what to do.

They are allowed to live like total and utter pigs at their mom's house because she does not cook or clean.

Talking, taking money out of their allowance and punishing doesn't seem to matter. What can I do!?! I can't take it anymore.

Should I start giving them half asssed meals? Should I feed them on their half assed washed plates? I do their laundry and they throw them all over their room and then complain to their Dad they have no clean clothes.

HELP!!! I have been very ill as well.


Kids today are soooo lazy and so entitled. I feel like running down the street screaming! I'd like to smack the living Hell out of the youngest one, but know I can't.






Arrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!



Stop feeding them. They are too old to be catered to. Tell their Dad they need money for Burger King or whatever and throw them out of the freaking house. Then tell hubby that he will be helping to prepare and clean up after the evening meal if any. Demand that he discipline them and if he doesn't you will do whatever you have to to get the situation under control. "Making changes" isn't cutting it. And why the hell can't you smack the hell out of them? Would hubby lose custody? That would be too bad now wouldn't it?

And one more thing - don't take advice from me or anyone else on GLP. We're all mentally ill.

I totally see where you are coming from. I am only 28 years old and have a 15 years old step son. I love the kid but i don't like him very much.
Lazy,Lazy,Lazy, cannot stand it anymore. I cook dinner for our family every single night ,do the dishes,clean the house ,everything ,yet he always forgets to wipe the table after he eats. I get the same answer 3 times a day "I FORGOT" and i want to run away! I stopped doing his laundry this year and of course he forgets to do that now. My husband will make him do it once he starts smelling something bad in the house.
Also he can not put the empty milk bottles,coke boxes in the trash,he just leaves them on my kitchen floor.

My husband and i had an amazing relationship,we only fight because of my stepson ,b/c i'm tired of being his maid and i won't accept his snotty attitude.
I realized that my problem is with my husband and not my stepson,for condoning this type of behavior. So from today i stopped cleaning ,leave all the dishes in the sink,put trash on my own kitchen floor ,even stop cooking. We'll see how long until someone realizes something's WRONG! I'll keep you posted . Don't feel lonely tough,there's many of us out here dealing with the same issues.
Good luck to both of us and God bless!


The last 5 days have been very stressful for me. I need to vent.

I have been extremely ill for the past 9 months and my step kids (2 boys ages 11 and 15) know it. I even left my accounting practice 3 months ago.

Anyway, the youngest one never shuts up...honestly his mouth never stops! He complains and whines about EVERYTHING. Most weekends I feel like crying because his voice literally makes my ears want to bleed.

For over a year now they have been told to put their dishes in the dishwasher after they eat. Those fucking assholes have to be TOLD G'DAMNED MEAL to put the dishes in the sink or they won't do it. They supposedly are very bright kids. They do no pick up after themselves WHAT SO EVER ANY TIME. If they do manage to do something helpful around the house they do it soooooooooo fucking half assed it wasn't even worth the effort they put into it.

The oldest only comes out of his room and off his computer for meals. Then he stays up all nights on the weekend. He'll come downstairs and make himself all these elobrate things to eat and then leave ME the fucking dishes!

I love my husband more than anything, I've tried to talk to him, he tries to make changes, but the kids never do. I feel sooooooooooooooo frustrated and angry I don't know what to do.

They are allowed to live like total and utter pigs at their mom's house because she does not cook or clean.

Talking, taking money out of their allowance and punishing doesn't seem to matter. What can I do!?! I can't take it anymore.

Should I start giving them half asssed meals? Should I feed them on their half assed washed plates? I do their laundry and they throw them all over their room and then complain to their Dad they have no clean clothes.

HELP!!! I have been very ill as well.


Kids today are soooo lazy and so entitled. I feel like running down the street screaming! I'd like to smack the living Hell out of the youngest one, but know I can't.






Arrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!



Stop feeding them. They are too old to be catered to. Tell their Dad they need money for Burger King or whatever and throw them out of the freaking house. Then tell hubby that he will be helping to prepare and clean up after the evening meal if any. Demand that he discipline them and if he doesn't you will do whatever you have to to get the situation under control. "Making changes" isn't cutting it. And why the hell can't you smack the hell out of them? Would hubby lose custody? That would be too bad now wouldn't it?

And one more thing - don't take advice from me or anyone else on GLP. We're all mentally ill.

The last 5 days have been very stressful for me. I need to vent.

I have been extremely ill for the past 9 months and my step kids (2 boys ages 11 and 15) know it. I even left my accounting practice 3 months ago.

Anyway, the youngest one never shuts up...honestly his mouth never stops! He complains and whines about EVERYTHING. Most weekends I feel like crying because his voice literally makes my ears want to bleed.

For over a year now they have been told to put their dishes in the dishwasher after they eat. Those fucking assholes have to be TOLD G'DAMNED MEAL to put the dishes in the sink or they won't do it. They supposedly are very bright kids. They do no pick up after themselves WHAT SO EVER ANY TIME. If they do manage to do something helpful around the house they do it soooooooooo fucking half assed it wasn't even worth the effort they put into it.

The oldest only comes out of his room and off his computer for meals. Then he stays up all nights on the weekend. He'll come downstairs and make himself all these elobrate things to eat and then leave ME the fucking dishes!

I love my husband more than anything, I've tried to talk to him, he tries to make changes, but the kids never do. I feel sooooooooooooooo frustrated and angry I don't know what to do.

They are allowed to live like total and utter pigs at their mom's house because she does not cook or clean.

Talking, taking money out of their allowance and punishing doesn't seem to matter. What can I do!?! I can't take it anymore.

Should I start giving them half asssed meals? Should I feed them on their half assed washed plates? I do their laundry and they throw them all over their room and then complain to their Dad they have no clean clothes.

HELP!!! I have been very ill as well.


Kids today are soooo lazy and so entitled. I feel like running down the street screaming! I'd like to smack the living Hell out of the youngest one, but know I can't.






Arrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

OP, these are not step kids. These are step teenagers. The worst of the worst. They are at the age where they have mixed feelings about their biological parents, let alone their step-mom. They are at an age when parents have mixed feelings about their own biological offspring too!

American teenagers are usually pretty atrocious. They expect to be waited on like little kids but talk back like an adult.

Not sure what advice to give you, except that you are not alone. Maybe try to put some pressure on dad to get them in line and force them to be men and pull their own weight.

I bet those kids LOVE living with an unhealthy, bitchy woman.

The last 5 days have been very stressful for me. I need to vent.

I have been extremely ill for the past 9 months and my step kids (2 boys ages 11 and 15) know it. I even left my accounting practice 3 months ago.

Anyway, the youngest one never shuts up...honestly his mouth never stops! He complains and whines about EVERYTHING. Most weekends I feel like crying because his voice literally makes my ears want to bleed.

For over a year now they have been told to put their dishes in the dishwasher after they eat. Those fucking assholes have to be TOLD G'DAMNED MEAL to put the dishes in the sink or they won't do it. They supposedly are very bright kids. They do no pick up after themselves WHAT SO EVER ANY TIME. If they do manage to do something helpful around the house they do it soooooooooo fucking half assed it wasn't even worth the effort they put into it.

The oldest only comes out of his room and off his computer for meals. Then he stays up all nights on the weekend. He'll come downstairs and make himself all these elobrate things to eat and then leave ME the fucking dishes!

I love my husband more than anything, I've tried to talk to him, he tries to make changes, but the kids never do. I feel sooooooooooooooo frustrated and angry I don't know what to do.

They are allowed to live like total and utter pigs at their mom's house because she does not cook or clean.

Talking, taking money out of their allowance and punishing doesn't seem to matter. What can I do!?! I can't take it anymore.

Should I start giving them half asssed meals? Should I feed them on their half assed washed plates? I do their laundry and they throw them all over their room and then complain to their Dad they have no clean clothes.

HELP!!! I have been very ill as well.


Kids today are soooo lazy and so entitled. I feel like running down the street screaming! I'd like to smack the living Hell out of the youngest one, but know I can't.






Arrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

Not anymore. Lazy little bastards. Thank god we only get them every other weekend now.


you sound like a lazy cunt complaining about dishes! those kids should not be allowed to be around YOU!!! i wish i could rat you out!!!

Those fucking assholes have to be TOLD G'DAMNED MEAL to put the dishes in the sink or they won't do it.

Those fucking assholes have to be TOLD G'DAMNED MEAL to put the dishes in the sink or they won't do it.

You EVIL step mom!! I stopped reading after you called the fucking assholes...bitch!

Have you tried child-abuse yet?

Not anymore. Lazy little bastards. Thank god we only get them every other weekend now.


you sound like a lazy cunt complaining about dishes! those kids should not be allowed to be around YOU!!! i wish i could rat you out!!!

May you live in interesting times, maybe then you will understand in your miniscule mind what complete monsters these scum are really like, you have no idea how many of them are very lucky to be alive.




shiiittt.....I got two step kids also and they are fucking assholes,I would love to slap the shit out of them and their mother......I am ashamed of my step kids, and honestly so is their own father,it leaves me in utter disgust,and no one here that has NEVER had BAD STEP KIDS have NOOOOO room to talk, YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW FUCKING RIODICULOUS THEY CAN BE!!!with there snobby little attitudes and how they want thir fathers attention, so they act like dicks and then I end up getting it all anyways..HA HAHAHAHHHAHA HA and the youngest one plays with his shit, shits on his floor,and does everything that is fucking nasty and the little girl looks JUST LIKE HER UGLY ASS MOTHER ...so EW I'm sorry but she is fucking UGLY I cant help it It makes me feel like a bad person, but I tried having a good relationship ,and at one time I did , but there mental case mom who sees them 52 days a year if she shows up fills their heads with shit so fuck itr I have two beautiful little girls who I love to be with and so does my husband,(the baby is his also) and my 2 yr old he adores,so I got enough with my man and my kids trying with the step-fucks again would just be a waste of time...like who would want to be around them two....well NOT ME!!!!maybe if they would change but as is NO fucking way

Shouldn't have married their father, then.

If they don't clean up after themselves, serve them dinner on their dirty dishes.