question OP...

do you guys have shared custody? or just every other weekend?

My parents split when i was very young. Went to my dads every other weekend often. I would have been very hurt if he'd made me do chores while i was there...

I mean if i was there all the time, sure, but i didn't go over there to vacuum their floors.

On the other side i would have never disrespected my step mother. Even though she was a horrible bitch and hated me. I was still nice to her and didn't talk back.

Sounds like you and hubby need to have a come to jebus meeting about your expectations