My Mom died friday night. Did we do the right thing??? | |
Bob Saget User ID: 520952 United Kingdom 12/01/2008 06:01 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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CountryGirl User ID: 563769 Sweden 12/01/2008 06:02 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hon, I hardly know what to say. I am so sorry for your loss and that terrible experience. But do not blame yourself. It was her time and God took her home. Gal 4:16 Am I therefore become your enemy, because I tell you the truth? Here in America - in GOD we still trust... Be silent! Be patient! Be quiet! Be Still! - And know that He is God. |
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Woman On The Edge User ID: 470724 United States 12/01/2008 06:04 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | The fact that you left the room was your own personal choice. We all have our own emotional thresholds, and you were simply doing what you had to do to cope with the situation. Oh honey so sorry. What you need to understand is that the moment your Mother's soul left her body she was free of pain and fear. She was in the arms of those who have gone before her. Safe in the arms of her God. At peace, and no longer afraid. It will take time for you to come to terms with her passing, and your reaction. But in the end you will understand all, for she will be there in heaven waiting for you when you arrive some day, with open arms. Hugs. |
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KnowingYouNow User ID: 421096 United States 12/01/2008 06:06 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Wrong about what? Quoting: Bob SagetAbout taking the mask off. Because thinking about it now, maybe she would have just stayed knocked out, if we hadnt. ANd maybe she would have just drifted off. I dont know, it was just so bad how it happened. Im just trying to make sense of it. And to the other posters, thank you |
Jahservant User ID: 521573 United States 12/01/2008 06:07 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You followed your heart and your actions followed your compassion. You did no wrong son.... I pray you healing right now...and I special blessing for all that you've been trough.. May the blessings of Jah be upon thee right now as you read this....turn to his son and reap your reward..... |
CountryGirl User ID: 563769 Sweden 12/01/2008 06:08 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You should've had a bat nearby, you know give her a good knock on the noggin. Then she would go right back to sleep Quoting: Anonymous Coward 514253What an insensitive jerk you are. Gal 4:16 Am I therefore become your enemy, because I tell you the truth? Here in America - in GOD we still trust... Be silent! Be patient! Be quiet! Be Still! - And know that He is God. |
Woman On The Edge User ID: 470724 United States 12/01/2008 06:08 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You should've had a bat nearby, you know give her a good knock on the noggin. Then she would go right back to sleep Quoting: Anonymous Coward 514253That is cold A/C .... really cold |
KnowingYouNow User ID: 421096 United States 12/01/2008 06:10 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You should've had a bat nearby, you know give her a good knock on the noggin. Then she would go right back to sleep Quoting: CountryGirlWhat an insensitive jerk you are. Its alright. I know you get those types of comments, and already prepared myself for them. I will only take the ones to heart that are meant to help. |
I Am Spartacus User ID: 501302 United States 12/01/2008 06:12 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
ac User ID: 563799 Brazil 12/01/2008 06:12 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Please accept my condolences. I know how you feel. My mother died one year ago this past September and I still question myself about some of the decisions I made, along with a few "coulda, woulda, shoulda's". Dying is not always peaceful. Even a little bird will want to struggle for its last breath. Please don't be hard on yourself. You did the best you could, with the information you had at the time. Nothing is ever perfect and in the end, it all works out and is as it should be. May you find peace in the days ahead. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 563800 United Kingdom 12/01/2008 06:13 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | What a heartbreaking story. You wanted the best for your Mom, you took medical advice about what was going to be the best for her, and you were there for her. She would not want you to go through pain and anguish about her last moments, that moment has gone now, it is in the past. She is in a more peaceful place, so however hard it may be try not to dwell on that moment in time. It is over, she has moved on from that place and time and she would not want you to stay there. Love and healing to you all. |
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Dovespirit User ID: 563603 United States 12/01/2008 06:16 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Op I am so sorry for what you endured, Please Lord be there for your blessed child, help to heal, comfort and strengthen through time. Sweetie your mom is no longer suffering and she wouldn't want you to either, God Bless you and your family! :Dove 1: |
Angel_Eyes User ID: 340940 United States 12/01/2008 06:18 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | No....you have nothing to feel bad about. I know how you feel though. I lost my MOther in 1998 and it was one the hardest most difficult times of my life. When someone's lungs are were in the condition of hers....there isn't much that can be done for them and its so painful for the loved ones who are there giving her comfort. But please think of this...would your Mother want you to live with guilt? I can tell you she wouldn't. So please forgive yourself for whatever negative feelings you have. Your Mother is happy now and not in any pain... She only wants you to be happy and to carry on your life now the best that you can with a broken heart. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 538723 United States 12/01/2008 06:19 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Psalm 116:15 Precious in the sight of the LORD is the death of his saints. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 426194 United States 12/01/2008 06:19 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I pray that you would have peace in your spirit in the knowledge that whatever your mother experienced as far as fear or anxiety has melted into peace. She has none of that now. You cannot blame yourself for one moment, because there was no way to know. Death is short-lived. Paradise is forever. Have peace in your spirit. I'm sorry for your loss and I'm sorry for the trauma and tragedy. Pray for resolution within yourself. There was nothing you could do, and your family's presence with her while she made the transition was precious to her, I'm sure. |
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Beingsouthern User ID: 113248 United States 12/01/2008 06:23 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | There is no right or wrong... when watching a loved one pass away, especially one's mother. This is a more than difficult task and very much out of the norm for anyone. Don't beat yourself up. Remember, you loved her and she loved you....and that's what matters most. Try not to hang on to how she died, but how she lived. You will always have the memories deeply embedded in your heart. May she remain there with you forever and may she rest in peace. My deepest condolenses to you and your family. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 539957 United States 12/01/2008 06:25 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | That is one of the most terrifying stories I've read, it would haunt me my whole life, but her soul is in a better place now, the soul of a person is about the big picture, did she have a good life? Loving family? That's what is important, the last few moments are very important but they are very rarely ever clean and beautiful, none of us get out of this alive, I will send light your way. |
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Goober User ID: 550550 Australia 12/01/2008 06:27 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Do not beat yourself up over this! You did well, and by the sounds of it, your mum had a lovely last few days. Losing our parents is very hard. However it is something we all have in common. Please do not focus on the last few minutes. (as impossible as it might seem). My dad fort cancer for 13 years and died suddenly in a shop close to his home. It took about 5 hours for the cops to show up and tell us the news. My mum and I were waiting for him to return. I remember telling my mum not to worry about dad being late ... If you believe in anything after death, know that your mum has put aside the last few minutes of her life and would be enjoying all of her experiences from her whole life. Peace to you and family mate. Goober. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 487397 United States 12/01/2008 06:31 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm so sorry OP. I'll remember you in my prayers. I wish I had answers for you, you can probably talk to the nurses about the whole thing. They've seen everything and can probably provide you with better information to ease your mind and heart. |
SwordOfSovereign User ID: 563818 United Kingdom 12/01/2008 06:39 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | When I read this there were no replies, I wanted to post something at the time but I couldn't think of what to say. The whole scenario just went through my imagination and it choked me up inside. I'm so sorry for your loss, and like I said I can only "imagine" what it must be like for you. I'm one of the lucky ones who has both parents around, although I ask myself all the time how much longer that will be. |