OMG, YOU'RE NOT THE ONLY WOMAN HE'S EVER LOVED?!!! HE STILL HAS NICE THOUGHTS TOWARDS HIS FIRST WIFE?!!!

Geez, you'd think adults could handle this crap better. I suppose you only have two choices. Confront him about these things like an adult (not like the drama BS you see on TV 24/7), and then decide based on his reaction whether he's just feeling bad for his first wife, or if he's getting ready to offload you.

Then either express your opinion based on what he says to you (it's possible to actually support his decision, although you'll never see that on Jerry Springer!), or wait till he falls asleep and pour gasoline on him and toss a match. Either way, expect him to be defensive about it, if he thought you'd be cool with it, he would have told you...chances are he expects you to go batshit. Doesn't mean he's particularly out to deceive you, but he's seen the same crap on TV, too.

The other choice is a lot easier...just pretend you're oblivious to it...and wait till the anger from your imagination bursts out, and you find yourself waking up hanging over the bathtub with a knife in one hand, his head in the other, and covered in blood.

Everyone wants to make life so complicated...sheesh...