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Here's my story...

I was married for 9 years, but I divorced 4 years ago and am now ready for another serious relationship. My ex-wife and I have two children - 11 and 9. After our first son was born, her life slowly became nothing but watching TV, staying on the internet all night long and then sleeping all day. If it wasn't for me, the kids would have eaten candy for breakfast 7 days a week. My ex-wife became addicted to AOL chat rooms (in combination with her smoking) and started meeting men online and eventually flying off to visit them in person. She swears that every affair was emotional only, but I've never believed that. I helped her to see a Psychiatrist, and he basically told her that she needed to grow up, and thought I should be seeing him for staying in a relationship with such an irresponsible woman.

Anyway, my ex's last emotional affair was the last straw for me too. She moved into her parentís house and she has custody of our children. She is on medication for epilepsy and the only reason she has the children is because I know her parents step in with care giving when she falls short (which is often). I see my children as often as I can (every 2 weeks) but it's difficult because I live in another city in another country now.

Near the end of April 2009, right out of the blue an old long-lost childhood sweetheart of mine found me on facebook. I always considered her my first love and soul mate -- more than that, I consider her my Twin Flame (google it). As we were catching up, it turned out that she had been through the same thing I have -- a very bad marriage of betrayal and mistrust with a very self-destructive partner that needed to "grow-up". We clicked instantly. She told me that several times throughout her marriage she tried to leave her husband, but could never just quite do it because of her children. I know that feeling because I stayed in my marriage far too long for the same reason. We also spoke of how our lives had gone in two separate directions and stated that if things were different we probably would have dated and even married and had children with each other.

I've always had a problem of moving way too fast in my relationships, and with her I made no exception. The first week of May 2009 of being united with her was like a whirl-wind. She moved out of her townhouse and into her own apartment, and separated from her husband. The month (May 2009) that followed was like a dream come true for both of us, with truly the most magical, better than any fictional storybook romance, of magnetically intense feelings of indescribable attractions on all levels (mental, emotional, physical, spiritual). We fell deeply in love.

The beginning of June however, reality set in. She became flooded with feelings of being lost and confused. She found herself trying to sort through all her feelings at once. She became disappointed in herself for allowing herself to ignore her intuition and rush into things so fast. When she's with me it was easy for her to lose sight of what she really should be doing. Only when she's alone is she able to think properly about everything (her children, mine, her marriage, her and I). She had so much anxiety about whether she was doing the right thing that she hadn't been able to feel all of these feelings because her energy had been transferred to us and our childhood feelings. She hadnít had time to rationally think about what it is that she truly wants because she had been completely wrapped up in a fantasy with me, and we weren't being realistic at all. Everything she felt was confirmed when her oldest son began to act up and she had to sit with him alone for a couple hours talking about how he felt, and he said ďMommy why is <INSERT MY NAME HERE> more important than me and <INSERT HIS BROTHER'S NAME HERE> ?Ē. Of course she told him that wasnít true, but he was right for thinking that because she hadnít given her children the one-on-one attention they deserved since her and I started talking.

Last week she experienced one the hardest of nights she ever had in a truly long time. It was the first night the children approached her about why her and her husband are not together, and it turned into a very long night of crying and reassuring, watching her youngest son weep about missing his father and not understanding why "Mommy and Daddy" wont be living together anymore, and that broke her that night. She watched her son fall asleep crying, and felt that they blamed her for every thing that has gone on. That night she truly was in a very dark place and was unsure how to deal with the situation. She knew she'd find clarity and be able to take this stuff on eventually, but for now she's searching.

She now knows that she has to leave the children out of this right now, meaning that she doesn't think it's appropriate for her and I to speak around them, because she believes it is really confusing them. She also doesn't think itís right for her to have a relationship with another man while her children are so young. She wants to live her life selflessly for them, and then she wants to find herself again, and she wants to do that alone. She now realizes that she has been leaning on me too much. She has been using me to help get her through all of this, and not doing it on her own. She contemplated how fast we moved and how we completely jumped past friendship to lovers, and she said that maybe that is what she needed at the time, but that she needs to refocus on herself, and she can't do that when she's in contact with me. She married very young, and never had the opportunity to really date as a single person, and she says that she also wants the opportunity to do that now so that she won't later have any regrets about never having done that. She's not looking for a serious relationship, only to go out to the bars and nightclubs as a single woman with her girlfriends sometimes and have some fun. And let whatever happens, happens -- without feeling guilty.

Two days ago we mutually thought it best if I stay completely out of her life and have no further contact with her until such time she thinks she's ready and contacts me. This is extremely painful for us both to say the least. For her because she has so much to deal with and work through. For me knowing that she might go on casual dates with other men for fun with the possibility of sex if she says there's a spark. She's not saying she WILL have sex with other men, but she just doesn't want to 100% rule out that chance like she says she'd have to if we were together.

All advice is welcomed and appreciated.
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Sad story. I am very sorry for you all. For now just try and find yourself. Do stuff that makes you feel better. Let time bring a clearer understanding and a more centered approach to this. wishing you the very best. hf
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She sounds very healthy. There isn't a thing wrong with taking your time to see what's what, especially with children's tender hearts involved.

Maybe after a month you could just give her a call, suggest a walk in the park, and keep things on a light level like that for awhile. If it's not too intense, she may be able to let you in a little. Don't despair.

Twin Flame relationships are hard and easy at the same time...the experience they share is undeniable and irreplaceable, but the karmic gunk they've built up is usually strong and non-compatible. Just keep going forward, it's not over by a long shot.
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Here's my story...

I was married for 9 years, but I divorced 4 years ago and am now ready for another serious relationship. My ex-wife and I have two children - 11 and 9. After our first son was born, her life slowly became nothing but watching TV, staying on the internet all night long and then sleeping all day. If it wasn't for me, the kids would have eaten candy for breakfast 7 days a week. My ex-wife became addicted to AOL chat rooms (in combination with her smoking) and started meeting men online and eventually flying off to visit them in person. She swears that every affair was emotional only, but I've never believed that. I helped her to see a Psychiatrist, and he basically told her that she needed to grow up, and thought I should be seeing him for staying in a relationship with such an irresponsible woman.

Anyway, my ex's last emotional affair was the last straw for me too. She moved into her parentís house and she has custody of our children. She is on medication for epilepsy and the only reason she has the children is because I know her parents step in with care giving when she falls short (which is often). I see my children as often as I can (every 2 weeks) but it's difficult because I live in another city in another country now.

Near the end of April 2009, right out of the blue an old long-lost childhood sweetheart of mine found me on facebook. I always considered her my first love and soul mate -- more than that, I consider her my Twin Flame (google it). As we were catching up, it turned out that she had been through the same thing I have -- a very bad marriage of betrayal and mistrust with a very self-destructive partner that needed to "grow-up". We clicked instantly. She told me that several times throughout her marriage she tried to leave her husband, but could never just quite do it because of her children. I know that feeling because I stayed in my marriage far too long for the same reason. We also spoke of how our lives had gone in two separate directions and stated that if things were different we probably would have dated and even married and had children with each other.

I've always had a problem of moving way too fast in my relationships, and with her I made no exception. The first week of May 2009 of being united with her was like a whirl-wind. She moved out of her townhouse and into her own apartment, and separated from her husband. The month (May 2009) that followed was like a dream come true for both of us, with truly the most magical, better than any fictional storybook romance, of magnetically intense feelings of indescribable attractions on all levels (mental, emotional, physical, spiritual). We fell deeply in love.

The beginning of June however, reality set in. She became flooded with feelings of being lost and confused. She found herself trying to sort through all her feelings at once. She became disappointed in herself for allowing herself to ignore her intuition and rush into things so fast. When she's with me it was easy for her to lose sight of what she really should be doing. Only when she's alone is she able to think properly about everything (her children, mine, her marriage, her and I). She had so much anxiety about whether she was doing the right thing that she hadn't been able to feel all of these feelings because her energy had been transferred to us and our childhood feelings. She hadnít had time to rationally think about what it is that she truly wants because she had been completely wrapped up in a fantasy with me, and we weren't being realistic at all. Everything she felt was confirmed when her oldest son began to act up and she had to sit with him alone for a couple hours talking about how he felt, and he said ďMommy why is <INSERT MY NAME HERE> more important than me and <INSERT HIS BROTHER'S NAME HERE> ?Ē. Of course she told him that wasnít true, but he was right for thinking that because she hadnít given her children the one-on-one attention they deserved since her and I started talking.

Last week she experienced one the hardest of nights she ever had in a truly long time. It was the first night the children approached her about why her and her husband are not together, and it turned into a very long night of crying and reassuring, watching her youngest son weep about missing his father and not understanding why "Mommy and Daddy" wont be living together anymore, and that broke her that night. She watched her son fall asleep crying, and felt that they blamed her for every thing that has gone on. That night she truly was in a very dark place and was unsure how to deal with the situation. She knew she'd find clarity and be able to take this stuff on eventually, but for now she's searching.

She now knows that she has to leave the children out of this right now, meaning that she doesn't think it's appropriate for her and I to speak around them, because she believes it is really confusing them. She also doesn't think itís right for her to have a relationship with another man while her children are so young. She wants to live her life selflessly for them, and then she wants to find herself again, and she wants to do that alone. She now realizes that she has been leaning on me too much. She has been using me to help get her through all of this, and not doing it on her own. She contemplated how fast we moved and how we completely jumped past friendship to lovers, and she said that maybe that is what she needed at the time, but that she needs to refocus on herself, and she can't do that when she's in contact with me. She married very young, and never had the opportunity to really date as a single person, and she says that she also wants the opportunity to do that now so that she won't later have any regrets about never having done that. She's not looking for a serious relationship, only to go out to the bars and nightclubs as a single woman with her girlfriends sometimes and have some fun. And let whatever happens, happens -- without feeling guilty.

Two days ago we mutually thought it best if I stay completely out of her life and have no further contact with her until such time she thinks she's ready and contacts me. This is extremely painful for us both to say the least. For her because she has so much to deal with and work through. For me knowing that she might go on casual dates with other men for fun with the possibility of sex if she says there's a spark. She's not saying she WILL have sex with other men, but she just doesn't want to 100% rule out that chance like she says she'd have to if we were together.

All advice is welcomed and appreciated.
 Quoting: Sleepless in Seattle 681414


Just try to get over it gracefully - keep it up!

You're both making the right decision.
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Sad story. I am very sorry for you all. For now just try and find yourself. Do stuff that makes you feel better. Let time bring a clearer understanding and a more centered approach to this. wishing you the very best.
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Thank you very much for this advice. This is what I'm planning to do. Not easy, but doing it still the same..


She sounds very healthy. There isn't a thing wrong with taking your time to see what's what, especially with children's tender hearts involved.

Maybe after a month you could just give her a call, suggest a walk in the park, and keep things on a light level like that for awhile. If it's not too intense, she may be able to let you in a little. Don't despair.

Twin Flame relationships are hard and easy at the same time...the experience they share is undeniable and irreplaceable, but the karmic gunk they've built up is usually strong and non-compatible. Just keep going forward, it's not over by a long shot.
 Quoting: Windsage4 nli 625711


Thank you very much for your comments and suggestions. We both agree about the children's tender hearts. I would love to walk in the park with her, but we live in different cities with direct distance of 450 miles between us (675 driving miles). I'd also love to give her a call in a month's time, but I made a promise to her I wouldn't call her until she tells me that she'd like me in her life again.

We don't seem to have built up any karmic gunk between each other, only between others close to us in our lives. Timing has always seemed to be the thing standing in our way.


Just try to get over it gracefully - keep it up!

You're both making the right decision.
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Thank you very much for your comment and support.
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I also lost my twin flame many many years ago.

I was quite upset at first and did everything to get this back.

Now I understood he gave me the best thing of my life and I love him deeper afterwards. It is however not a love where I think he has to be with me. I love the fact that he had been there and wish the best for him.

What he did give me? The path to my own soul. I followed the pain, went deep in myself and I found myself. With healing this pain with loving myself through my love for him, I healed my soul.

Now I know where to contact my soul at any moment. He did actually give me the wakeup call, whatever painful it was at time.
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I also lost my twin flame many many years ago.

I was quite upset at first and did everything to get this back.

Now I understood he gave me the best thing of my life and I love him deeper afterwards. It is however not a love where I think he has to be with me. I love the fact that he had been there and wish the best for him.

What he did give me? The path to my own soul. I followed the pain, went deep in myself and I found myself. With healing this pain with loving myself through my love for him, I healed my soul.

Now I know where to contact my soul at any moment. He did actually give me the wakeup call, whatever painful it was at time.
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That is so sad. How did you lose your Twin Flame?

Your story sounds similar to other TF stories I've read. Thank you for sharing it. I appreciate it.
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Well, everything was perfect but I had to go for a couple of months abroad. Abroad, I received a letter (to pages long) to tell me how it hurts and there was no future for us and that the feeling between us is strong but he felt himself in prison.

I went back to him, he pushed me back because he said he won't be able to stay cool if I stay by him. Since then he never talked about his feeling anymore. He likes smalltalk or to remind me how it was but as soon as I call on his feelings I only find a wall.

Now I am married and he married a couple of months afterwards, it's more than 10 years and we are not able to have a normal talk, it gets immediately to intensive, like I get a heart attack out of happiness when he writes and fall deep when an answer to my letters never come.

I decided to give up this up and down. There is something in this dimension holding us apart. It's hurting me too much to try but I know if I feel bad, I just have to think of this face and ask something and I get loving, comforting words back. Just in 3D it can't be.
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Gee that sounds very familiar. Her and I know those intense feelings all too well. The first few days after we contacted each other, we both couldn't eat and could barely function, and I wasn't very productive at all at work. And we were still 450 miles apart! She also emailed me a letter detailed much of what I posted initially. It was a step in our decision for me to step back until she sorts out all the things she needs to.

Neither of us are afraid to share our feelings with each other though, as unimaginably intense as they are.
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I think as long as the reptilian will be there you won't be able to get a normal relationship.

They don't have stronger feelings to feed themselves on than the hurting out of a twin love. As soon as you get a chance to come back to your twin love, something breaks you again.

It's their game, so far I am now sure. I do not want to play that game anymore.
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I took some time last night to think about your comment, and the answer that came to me really helped me a lot, and for that I truly thank you..

I believe that the answer is to focus on helping people, rather than wallowing in the sadness and the hurt of self pity. This should help attract good things in life, making life flow in joy and allowing a person more quickly to reach positive goals, rather than attracting personal demons that weigh a person down endlessly perpetuating more of the same negativity.

What do you think?
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Well folks it's over...

Yesterday she told me she loved me. After I told her that I feel as if her love for me has been diminishing over the past couple weeks, today I finally got her to admit that although she cares about me very much, she doesn't love me anymore like she used to. She also admitted to having been on dates with someone else. She said today that she does not see us ever being together as a couple.

I appreciate all the comments everyone gave here.
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Screw soul mates and twin flames.

The children are more important. They didn't ask to be brought into this world and don't deserve all these fickle parents who go around chasing soul mates and twin flames.

There's four children in this story that will be impacted negatively forever.

There is no such thing as soul mates or twin flames. You are just being selfish. And for people who believe in such things then don't have kids with anybody else than who you believe your soul mate/twin flame is!
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Well folks it's over...

Yesterday she told me she loved me. After I told her that I feel as if her love for me has been diminishing over the past couple weeks, today I finally got her to admit that although she cares about me very much, she doesn't love me anymore like she used to. She also admitted to having been on dates with someone else. She said today that she does not see us ever being together as a couple.

I appreciate all the comments everyone gave here.
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ha, well, I don't see no fat lady singing. My personal opinion is that she got scared, and uncomfortable with feeling such intensity, and thought she was somehow losing herself. But that's just a guess... but I guess pretty well.

For you, don't let this drag you down. I realized once that love feels the same no matter whether it's coming in or going out. We can't control who gives us love, but we do have something to say about how much love we experience in our own heart. And, it really doesn't matter if you are loving a twin flame or a flower pot. Surrender to the divine will, and perform your allotted duty, namely, love and serve whomever or whatever is placed in your path. Include yourself in the love (I'm not suggesting doormat status here).

Do not spiral down on this. Don't take life personally.

p.s. my comments are for YOU, based on what I've seen in your posts.

rent this movie, take notes:

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good night hf
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I see my twin flame breifly at times during the week. We rarely even talk to each other anymore. So much karma to work out. It's an experience unmatched in a lifetime for sure and it's not anything like your typical romantic love encounter. The intensity is beyond your wildest dreams.

I'm 25 years older than her for one thing. She's married and has a young child. She was ready to throw her marriage away as she was expressing how unhappy she was. I know she wanted me to say do it and we can be together but I just couldn't. Not for these reasons anyway. If she wanted out of the marriage it had to be for herself and not me.

She's still married, seems to be doing better and though we act like strangers around each other now we are anything but strangers. It's strange and sounds cliche but meeting your twin is like meeting someone you have known all your life and their nature reflects yours perfectly.

I never believed in it or even cared to know until it happened to me.
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Well folks it's over...

Yesterday she told me she loved me. After I told her that I feel as if her love for me has been diminishing over the past couple weeks, today I finally got her to admit that although she cares about me very much, she doesn't love me anymore like she used to. She also admitted to having been on dates with someone else. She said today that she does not see us ever being together as a couple.

I appreciate all the comments everyone gave here.
 Quoting: Sleepless in Seattle 681414


Well she is either lying or she is not your true twin flame.
Twin flame love never diminishes with time or separation. Sounds more like a strong karmic relationship to me.
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I see my twin flame breifly at times during the week. We rarely even talk to each other anymore. So much karma to work out. It's an experience unmatched in a lifetime for sure and it's not anything like your typical romantic love encounter. The intensity is beyond your wildest dreams.

I'm 25 years older than her for one thing. She's married and has a young child. She was ready to throw her marriage away as she was expressing how unhappy she was. I know she wanted me to say do it and we can be together but I just couldn't. Not for these reasons anyway. If she wanted out of the marriage it had to be for herself and not me.

She's still married, seems to be doing better and though we act like strangers around each other now we are anything but strangers. It's strange and sounds cliche but meeting your twin is like meeting someone you have known all your life and their nature reflects yours perfectly.

I never believed in it or even cared to know until it happened to me.
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AC, your story sounds like what might have happened with me if I would not have encouraged my Twin Flame to end her marriage.

And I agree with you about what it's like to meet your TF, and I also never believed in it or even knew what a TF was until it happened to me. I also don't expect anyone else to truly understand either unless they've met their TF.
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She sounds very healthy. There isn't a thing wrong with taking your time to see what's what, especially with children's tender hearts involved.

Maybe after a month you could just give her a call, suggest a walk in the park, and keep things on a light level like that for awhile. If it's not too intense, she may be able to let you in a little. Don't despair.

Twin Flame relationships are hard and easy at the same time...the experience they share is undeniable and irreplaceable, but the karmic gunk they've built up is usually strong and non-compatible. Just keep going forward, it's not over by a long shot.
 Quoting: Windsage4 nli 625711


I just wanted to give an update on my situation months later...

I want to thank Windsage's advice and say that I have re-contacted my TF and am taking things on a very light level, and so far things are going okay. I'm being her friend and taking things very slowly. I'm giving her a lot of space and talking to her only once a week or so... I live 450 miles away from her, but am considering moving to her city next year.
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If she returns to you it was meant to be ..if not then that also was meant to be.
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But seriously now..your not gonna like this but it seems to me that this relationship is one sided now..didnt start out that way but after the heat died down she sensed you really werent for her and moved on..she told you those things not to hurt your feelings most likely..but it seems to be only one sided ..move on and find someone who is ready for a relationship not someone who is so flighty.
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I don't believe in soul mates or twin flames. With a little effort from both parties any marriage can last. And there's always two sides to every story.

Wow, such a sad story especially for all the kids involved.

It's the children that suffer the most in divorce and it is so common now.

I know more people that come from broken homes than people that don't. What happened to this world???

Good luck, OP. I really do wish the best. But I mainly wish the best for the children and not the adults. The grass is rarely greener on the other side of the fence.
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I have something to say to you both, GROW UP AND QUIT PUTTING YOURSELVES FIRST!! Those poor children in both of your lives are going to NEVER be the children they were meant to be because neighter of you could help your mates enough to be strong when they were weak. Look, it seems like all you want is a whirlwind romance. You both are wrecking your lives and those of innocent children who will forever try to figure out why their parents did not love THEM enough to work through marriage with their own parents when ALL MARRAGES HAVE TO BE WORKED THROUGH. THE HONEYMOON DOES NOT LAST VERY LONG AND YOU ARE RIGHT WHERE YOU WERE IN THE BEGINNING, only with OTHER people and with children whom you will never have the privledge to grow in a parent/child relationship with the total family life because of childish expectations. LOOK, YOU PLAYED WITH FIRE, NOW YOU MUST BE RESPONSIBILE ENOUGH TO DO THE RIGHT THING FOR YOUR CHILDREN WHO WILL BE MARRED FOR LIFE. IT IS NOT THEIR FAULT YOU "GO WAY TO FAST" IN RELATIONSHIPS AND THEREFORE THE FIRE BURNS OUT FASTER THAN NORMAL. GET IT STRAIT AND DO THE RIGHT THING. IT IS A FACT THAT CHILDREN WHO DO NOT "LIVE" WITH YOUR CHILDREN HAVE CHILDREN WHO ARE SUICIDAL, DEPRESSED AND FAR MUCH WORSE THAN CHILDREN WHO GROW UP IN A HOME WITH "BOTH" PARENTS. FACT. GET OVER YOUR SELF.
Live and let live, for we all have our own lessons to learn.
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But seriously now..your not gonna like this but it seems to me that this relationship is one sided now..didnt start out that way but after the heat died down she sensed you really werent for her and moved on..she told you those things not to hurt your feelings most likely..but it seems to be only one sided ..move on and find someone who is ready for a relationship not someone who is so flighty.
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Thanks for the advice, I hear and appreciate it, especially the part about being so "flighty" (I considered that also). But as she pointed out herself when I brought this up with her, she was loyal and stuck it out with her husband for 11 years. Does that sound like a flighty individual to you?
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09/08/2009 03:40 AM
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I have something to say to you both, GROW UP AND QUIT PUTTING YOURSELVES FIRST!! Those poor children in both of your lives are going to NEVER be the children they were meant to be because neighter of you could help your mates enough to be strong when they were weak. Look, it seems like all you want is a whirlwind romance. You both are wrecking your lives and those of innocent children who will forever try to figure out why their parents did not love THEM enough to work through marriage with their own parents when ALL MARRAGES HAVE TO BE WORKED THROUGH. THE HONEYMOON DOES NOT LAST VERY LONG AND YOU ARE RIGHT WHERE YOU WERE IN THE BEGINNING, only with OTHER people and with children whom you will never have the privledge to grow in a parent/child relationship with the total family life because of childish expectations. LOOK, YOU PLAYED WITH FIRE, NOW YOU MUST BE RESPONSIBILE ENOUGH TO DO THE RIGHT THING FOR YOUR CHILDREN WHO WILL BE MARRED FOR LIFE. IT IS NOT THEIR FAULT YOU "GO WAY TO FAST" IN RELATIONSHIPS AND THEREFORE THE FIRE BURNS OUT FASTER THAN NORMAL. GET IT STRAIT AND DO THE RIGHT THING. IT IS A FACT THAT CHILDREN WHO DO NOT "LIVE" WITH YOUR CHILDREN HAVE CHILDREN WHO ARE SUICIDAL, DEPRESSED AND FAR MUCH WORSE THAN CHILDREN WHO GROW UP IN A HOME WITH "BOTH" PARENTS. FACT. GET OVER YOUR SELF.
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We both stuck it out much longer than we both should have with our "mates" before divorcing. Staying together in a loveless marriage was not doing the children any good. Children need to be around people that care and love (not hate) each other, regardless of bloodlines. It takes a grown up to understand this.
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09/08/2009 02:42 PM
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I don't believe in soul mates or twin flames. With a little effort from both parties any marriage can last. And there's always two sides to every story.

Wow, such a sad story especially for all the kids involved.

It's the children that suffer the most in divorce and it is so common now.

I know more people that come from broken homes than people that don't. What happened to this world???

Good luck, OP. I really do wish the best. But I mainly wish the best for the children and not the adults. The grass is rarely greener on the other side of the fence.
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I didn't believe in soul mates either until it happened to me. After doing a little research, it's typical that a person doesn't believe in twin flames unless it happens to them. If it hasn't happened to you, I can certainly understand why you don't believe in twin flames.

I agree that with effort from both parties, marriages can last. In my case however, my partner wasn't willing to sleep with me anymore, and wasn't willing to make the effort to stop cheating on me, wasn't willing to stop her internet and smoking addictions, wasn't willing to get up before noon everyday to care for our children, and wasn't willing to stop wasting huge amounts of money that drove our family towards bankruptcy. There's a long list of other things, but I think I've listed plenty enough to make my point.

And by the way, both my children and hers are doing very well considering the circumstances. I see my children as often as I can considering I live far away. She is now focusing 100% on her children, and not on me at all anymore.

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