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Why Do Some People Talk So Loud?

 
shouldbblonde
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Why Do Some People Talk So Loud?
My friend talks very loud. I don't think they realize it. However if I say shhhhh or keep it down they get mad at me.

Does anyone know of a way to not talk loud or train yourself not to talk so loud?

I would love to send them a few links about voice training but I can't find anything.

Thanks
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Re: Why Do Some People Talk So Loud?
Could be one of two things
1. She cannot hear -suggest she get tested
2. She's drunk all the time-lush
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Re: Why Do Some People Talk So Loud?
Could be one of two things
1. She cannot hear -suggest she get tested
2. She's drunk all the time-lush
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I thought about the hearing issue.
They don't drink at all.

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Re: Why Do Some People Talk So Loud?
They are probably hard of hearing...ever try talking with earphones on?
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Re: Why Do Some People Talk So Loud?
its just their natural voice
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Re: Why Do Some People Talk So Loud?
... cuz they're not listening to themselves.
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Re: Why Do Some People Talk So Loud?
Some cultures just are raised that way. Whole families can be loud. Often they all talk at once and the loudest wins, I guess.
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Re: Why Do Some People Talk So Loud?
They want attention... Or they are deaf huffy
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Re: Why Do Some People Talk So Loud?
... cuz they're not listening to themselves.
 Quoting: gooderboy



lol

I really don't think they realize how loud they are.
But every time we are out someone will tell them how loud they are talking.
Then they get embarrassed. I feel bad for her.
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Re: Why Do Some People Talk So Loud?
its just their natural voice
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Is there a way to change that
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Re: Why Do Some People Talk So Loud?
LOUD TALKER, EH? chuckle
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Re: Why Do Some People Talk So Loud?
why should they...everybody has things about their personality that irritate others..if we spent our lives trying to conform to others expectations of who we SHOULD be...then you lose yourself
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LOUD TALKER, EH? chuckle
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WHAT DID YOU SAY??
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Re: Why Do Some People Talk So Loud?
My ex husband was a loud talker.

I'd be in the back of a shop at the mall. He would be outside the shop inside the mall, talking to someone, and I could hear his voice clearly all the way in the back.

People would comment, "Man, that guy has a set of lungs!"

Unfortunately, all the neighbors could hear him loud and clear when he yelled at me or the kids.

I can't tell you how much I value peace and quiet now:)

Ah... sweet serenity...

If I ever marry again, I want a nice, quiet guy:)
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Re: Why Do Some People Talk So Loud?
... cuz they're not listening to themselves.



lol

I really don't think they realize how loud they are.
But every time we are out someone will tell them how loud they are talking.
Then they get embarrassed. I feel bad for her.
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... exactly... lol, they don't 'real-ize' it cuz they're are not listening to/for it. And I mean, can't you tell when you are speaking loudly... and I mean, like take shouting for instance... even our inner vibrations felt from shouting are much stronger/more intense as well. She wants (herself) to be heard (by her) but she will not listen (to herself). In other words... she's got something a'goin' on inside of her that she just doesn't, no way and no how, wanna deal with... and not as of yet anyways.

It could be as simple as a left over childhood like thingy, and like she always had to shout over her family for to be heard. Or... it could be like some sorta self-worth kinda thang... and as in 'I just hafta attempt to always come up for my self all the more, and be heard by all... and cuz I really don't like myself all that much'. Or... she just may be of a demanding kinda ilk... or... lol, and on and on and on... and I don't know... what does she say when you ask her, what's going on for her, and when she's doin it?
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Re: Why Do Some People Talk So Loud?
They want attention... Or they are deaf huffy
 Quoting: The Jurist
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Re: Why Do Some People Talk So Loud?
My friend talks very loud. I don't think they realize it. However if I say shhhhh or keep it down they get mad at me.

Does anyone know of a way to not talk loud or train yourself not to talk so loud?

I would love to send them a few links about voice training but I can't find anything.

Thanks
 Quoting: shouldbblonde

well had a few hard of hearing friends so it caused me to talk louder all the time after years of being with those friends. mengion to your friend that your ears are super sensitive to noise ..ask if he can remember to lower the range of his converstaion.my new friends had to remind me often to lower my range til i got reused to talking to folks without hearing impairments .
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what does she say when you ask her, what's going on for her, and when she's doin it?
 Quoting: gooderboy



She doesn't even realize she's doing it. It happens all the time.
I know she had a pretty bad childhood it could be that she is trying to be heard.

I am going to show her this thread.
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She doesn't even realize she's doing it. It happens all the time.
I know she had a pretty bad childhood it could be that she is trying to be heard.

I am going to show her this thread.
 Quoting: shouldbblonde



You have probably hit the nail on the head there OP, from personal experience. Be prepared for denial, and/or a floodgate of tears. Can you handle that?
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Finns are most silent people on the earth, when some loud immigrants move here in they are in total shock.
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Re: Why Do Some People Talk So Loud?
what does she say when you ask her, what's going on for her, and when she's doin it?



She doesn't even realize she's doing it. It happens all the time.
I know she had a pretty bad childhood it could be that she is trying to be heard.

I am going to show her this thread.
 Quoting: shouldbblonde


... I am sorry, but I tend to think/feel that she does know that she does it... or else, she wouldn't get all embarrassed by it when it's brought to her attention. And oh sure... maybe the first couple of times it might be a bit embarrassing, and cuz that would be sorta like a light bulb going off and letting her know that she wasn't aware of something that she's doing.... and thus.... there is something there that definitely needs to be addressed... at-tended to... dealt with... and/or taken care of.

And ya know what I mean?
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My friend talks very loud. I don't think they realize it. However if I say shhhhh or keep it down they get mad at me.

Does anyone know of a way to not talk loud or train yourself not to talk so loud?

I would love to send them a few links about voice training but I can't find anything.

Thanks
 Quoting: shouldbblonde


my wife is a loud mouth.
funny thing is she doesn't know shes loud.

i find myself telling her to calm down.

imagine what i go through when she's upset.
all the neighbors can hear her around the corner.
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... I am sorry, but I tend to think/feel that she does know that she does it... or else, she wouldn't get all embarrassed by it when it's brought to her attention. And oh sure... maybe the first couple of times it might be a bit embarrassing, and cuz that would be sorta like a light bulb going off and letting her know that she wasn't aware of something that she's doing.... and thus.... there is something there that definitely needs to be addressed... at-tended to... dealt with... and/or taken care of.

And ya know what I mean?
 Quoting: gooderboy


Oh boy this is getting deep.

Do you think once she deals with the baggage her voice will lower?
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my wife is a loud mouth.
funny thing is she doesn't know shes loud.

i find myself telling her to calm down.

imagine what i go through when she's upset.
all the neighbors can hear her around the corner.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 700468



Maybe that's why my friend is single.
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Re: Why Do Some People Talk So Loud?
My brother talks loud, but that is because he is somewhat
hard of hearing in one ear.

He doesnt realize he is talking as loud as he is.
I simply put my finger to my mouth in a shhh motion.
He'll talk lower for a few minutes, then it elevates again.

Another friend of mine also talks loud, but she has a very strong personality, and admits to it.

I think it's just some peoples personality.

Sometimes I will also tell people when they are a bit too loud, to use their office voice.
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... I am sorry, but I tend to think/feel that she does know that she does it... or else, she wouldn't get all embarrassed by it when it's brought to her attention. And oh sure... maybe the first couple of times it might be a bit embarrassing, and cuz that would be sorta like a light bulb going off and letting her know that she wasn't aware of something that she's doing.... and thus.... there is something there that definitely needs to be addressed... at-tended to... dealt with... and/or taken care of.

And ya know what I mean?


Oh boy this is getting deep.

Do you think once she deals with the baggage her voice will lower?
 Quoting: shouldbblonde


... oh for sure... and not to say that them old kinda triggerings (and/or habitual like) are to be banished and/or never expected to return/show up now and again... the difference is though, that when they may show up she'll just be able to laugh at herself... and if she chooses, include any others around on why she's laughing (and for a gooder personally sincere like story, of course of course... which always but always tends to be most endearing, quality wise.... and ya know). After all, it's our life's stories, and our lessons learned, that makes us for who we are.
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Re: Why Do Some People Talk So Loud?
... cuz they're not listening to themselves.



lol

I really don't think they realize how loud they are.
But every time we are out someone will tell them how loud they are talking.
Then they get embarrassed. I feel bad for her.
 Quoting: shouldbblonde

Go get a DB meter ... Edmund Scientific.

It measures sound and can be set to trip a flashing light whenever the sound it too high.

Hang it around her neck.

Pavlov conditioning should kick in if she is willing to stick to it.

After a while hers voice will become normal.

Make sure she does not wear sun glasses as the flashing light has to get into her eyes in order to provide the feedback loop.

As a reward for trying to train the sound down,
Use Milk Bone puppy size. A human can eat them without a problem.

You get a little bag pouch to wear around your waist to carry the milk bones in.

As a side benefit if your friend has a weight problem the bones will cause her to lose weight and keep it off.

It is slow carb. food so it trips the full sensation of the stomach. She loses weight naturally and it stays off.

Works quite well.
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Those db meters are cool but kind of expensive. This one is $249.
[link to www.action-electronics.com]

Sound Level Meter with Alert with YOU'RE TOO LOUD!!! Alarm

Built-in YOU'RE TOO LOUD feature! Alerts users when sound level is too high.
Also records maximum level reached.
Optional accessories to switch on a light, give an alarm, alert some one that some one else is being TOO LOUD!!!

Bright LED's (red flashing or green) alert user when sound level is too high or too low - LED's can be read from 30m (100ft)
Continuous Monitoring of Sound Level Wall, desk or tripod mount with optional 15ft (5m) microphone extension cable for remote monitoring
User settable high or low limit (30 to 130dB) with output to drive external relay module
Meets ANSI Type 2 and EN 60651 accuracy specs - compliant to OSHA.
Applications:
• Industrial, Hospitals, Classrooms, and special quiet zones – When the sound level exceeds the HI set point the RED LED's flash and can be seen from 100 ft (30m).
• Speakers/Educators/Instructors, Auditoriums and Theaters – The user can set the SL130 so the RED LED's flash when the sound level is below the LO set point where people in the audience may not be able to hear. When the sound level is above the LO set point, the GREEN LED's indicate the sound level is acceptable. The user can reverse the Red and Green LED's activation per user color preference.
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My friend yells when he talks, I tell him to stop yelling and he goes into denial and automatically switches into a soft pitch and says inocently...."I wasn't yelling"...This is infuriating because he argues and tries to make me the "bad guy". We never resolve his loudness because he hides behind the "I wasn't yelling" diversion.
Aaaahhhhh!!!!
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Ever notice that girls that talk loud are butch looking.
It's like they are half men. They way they walk, dress and act is like a guy acts and looks.

What is the reason they talk too loud? I have heard they have too much testoterone in them. Therefore the guy gestures: walking like a guy, dressing like guys and talking loud like guys.
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I'm no expert ( who is? ) but I think that when somebody never feels that they are being heard or listened to from
( Parents, siblings, people in general ) they develop a neurosis that creates this acting out behavior. Subconsciously they feel nobody is listening to what they're saying. They overcompensate by raising the decibel level of their voices in the mistaken belief that this will resolve their subconscious memories of childhood. It only becomes an irritating neurotic behavior.

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