I am a loud talker. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 870381
In fact I just got back from lunch with a friend and the guy at the next table was turning to look at me.It happens often & many people have told me I am loud.
I've had my hearing tested and it is fine so that's not the reason.
One friend told me it is not loud just exceptionally clear.
I've looked into ways to modulate my tone because it is extremely embarrassing for me.
Thinking about the most recent incident - lunch - I felt agitated because my friend did not understand me. So I suspect it is related to not being "heard in the sense of not being "understood".
I have a recurring dream motif of not being able to scream that I think is related.
Anyone know what this means?
I think I know the problem behind this.
Me and my wife, and two of our sons, are soft speakers. But one of our sons is annoyingly loud. He is also very tense
. He has a strong continuous tension in every muscle in his body, and can never truly relax. His loud voice is simply a reflection of his hyper-energized personality.
He can speak with a soft voice when reminded of it, but he soon reverts back to what's natural to him.
Anyway, I suggest relaxation exercises. Make a habit of making a relaxation pause now and then in conversations, to "reset" your building excitement and engagement in the topic. That should help you keep it down.
I don't think there's anything wrong with having this kind of personality, it's probably just that these people are hyper-energetic, and when they don't meet sufficient "resistance", they tend to spiral out of control.
This psychological need for resistance
was noticed early with our loud son. He actually filled his school backpack with heavy stones, so it wouldn't be so light!