How could one learn to exercise more control over his own perception? Quoting: Anonymous Coward 757588
It might not be said that one controls or does not control perception. The concept of control is not really compatible with it.
The key here is, again, relationships. Practically-speaking, this means that if you are looking at an apple and want to see an orange there is more to changing the perception than averting your gaze.
You must change the relationships.
There are other relationships you may not see. Like the relationship of the apple to the table on which it rests. A table that has certain meaning to you. Or the meaning of the apple, bound with a certain aspect of your personality.
Some people intepret the relationships that they can't see as "it was meant to happen" or " it was not meant to happen".
There is no fate, in that respect. There are just relationships that you're not paying attention to.
You may be bound to perceive the apple for years because the other relationships in your life dictate it. It is not that they have control over what you experience. It is just that you are probably not aware of the myraid of connections it has with other things.
It could be as small of a thing as the necklace you've been wearing for 13 years enables every car you buy to have mechanical problems. Or it could be that you don't like men who remind you of your father because of obvious reasons. Or that the name "Gertrude" causes your daughter to have certain experiences.
Change the representations and you change your experience.