My son is a total pothead loser slacker, what should I do?

I'm sure he's still a fuckin loser at 23 though with a father like that!

Any takers?

Simply accept your son is not you and will probably never want, believe or aspire to the same as you..That's life my friend.//there is no right or wrong just personal choices. But if you want to give him a reality check tell him it's time for him to leave home, but if you don't want him to go than simply accept he is different.

. . . stop feeding it, then it will leave . . . a lonely, working girl that lives in an apartment, that doesnot allow dogs, will take it in and feed it . . . itwill stay there with the lonely, working girl, and youwill never have to worry about it anymore.

stop supporting him with all material stuff.

he'll have to grow up.

smoke a bong with your son fag

Shut up no one cares about you, your life or what you did in your pathetic life. i bet your son has already gotten more pussy than you. You are a useless father who is a law abiding little bitch and your jealous huh? you old son of a bitch

I'm sorry for all the negativity you have received here, and I'm doubly sorry for your sons lack of ambition. This is an epidemic problem and I don't think it has much to do with pot, as it does the general attitude of young people. I'm 28, but I can already see it getting much worse then even I ever imagined possible. My peers expect to have all the luxuries of the world handed to them for very little work.

I worry for the future of our country as I have a real hard time identifying hardly ANYONE with leadership potential, let alone ambitious, skilled critical thinkers.

Sadly there probably isn't anything you can do about it.

Personally if my son were 20, and wanted to fuck off any play video games, I would have to let him go, and probably try to have another one with a younger, smarter woman and try again.

Smoke with him once

Did you smoke a blunt with your son yet!!!

Comon Man!!!!



Roll & Smoke that Shit Bro!!!!

Make an investment in his future. Buy him a grow set up and let him grow weed and sell it..he'll be able to buy his own house for cash in about 5 years.

Maybe OP should try skipping work, getting high and playing everquest. His son could be on to something...

Leave your wife then get on a singles site. There's alot of 300 pound wemen with 2 or 3 kids that are lonely. Maybe the one of them will have decent kids....

i agree %100 .. let him life his life .. with age comes wisdom .

shtu ur fucking mouth up. i smoke weed everyday since i was 14. ive lived on my own since 16. i have 6 figures in the bank aswell a wife a car and house paid off.

your son is just a loser. nothing to do with weed. and you sir sound like a douche bag.

Put dog poop into his stash man! Tell him its doggy wowy from California, its the best.

I don't think it is a good idea to post here behind his back.

Maybe he is depressed. Find out and try to get him help. Most of all love him.

You might think its crazy for people to say do it with him. But do it, bond with him, smoke his green, play his game - Seriously. Then show him how to be responsible because you arent paying for him much longer.

I unfortunately moved back in with my parents after my girlfriend and I agreed we needed a break from living with eachother.

You can't be the enabler. Allowing him to not pay rent is enabling him to do what he wants when he wants.

You guys are all fucked up. This 20 year old should get off his lazy ass and start acting like a man should. He is an over grown creep who lives off the sweat of his fathers hard earned money. A lazy ungrateful disrespectful waist of space who lives in the comfort of a military hero who risked his life to save ours. A Dad should be honored and respected by his son for the blood in his veins and the stiff of his neck. This generation sucks. Freaks losers lazy pinheads who could tell the difference between hammer or a wrench. Keep enjoying all things we built and all the things we made cause its coming to an end and soon you can go back to dancing around a fire and putting rocks on the dead.
I would kick his fag ass to the curb change tge locks and the will. I take great pride in taking care of my parents and building relationships with wise old men. There is quite a difference between 6 figures and pizza delivery boy. The father is right and to all those a-pose remember this, children have fought wars, ruled countries and made the very designer cloths you were today. the joke is on you ass clowns.

first of all....if you are paying his health insurance, food, clothes, dental you are a fool and enabling him.
Not quite sure what your obsession is with him joining the military, especially now.....will you feel the same way when he comes home in a box or missing his arms and legs?

teach him hex since i'm guessing you know it

then teach him asm

Does anyone remember...?

we are all son's, daughter's, mothers and father's. Think about this... the only way humans survived to become the dominant species(?) on this planet was to be social and cooperative. Yes, sometimes we ate our young or our elders, but ultimately this was both counter, as well as, productive to 'our group survival'. For 3.5 million years we have struggled to become who we have become. In a little less than 10 thousand years we have managed to destroy all that we, as a succession of thousands of generations, have struggled to become.... Within the last 500 years we discovered the opportunity to 'sell' our labour and become less. Within the last 50 years we discovered the ability to sell or destroy life and all life, ... within the last 15 years we discovered the ability to live off of the conscience of our 'human ancestry' and what media tells us is good or bad... and that by the very single aspect of living and breathing (and because we have a 'conscience') the very fact that we live and breath is a right at the expense of any other. The tragically distressing aspect of this is that our attitudes and perspectives are CONSCIOUS (albeit conditioned) decisions to accept or reject... or understand the pressures, miscalculations, conditioning, or succumbing of any single individual or group of individuals to the conditions in which any of us are trying to survive or told that we must survive. And so our history continues....

I cannot f'ing believe that 'we' are so stupid to think that ANY OF OUR CHILDREN OR PARENTS are anything more or less than a product of 'us' and our evolution, or current technology, and our immensely and entirely brainwashed perspectives...!!! Are we (or am i) simply stupid...??? or are we/i just very, very, very naive.

Does no one get it???

The conflict has ALWAYS been there!!!

What has allowed us to survive is the fact that the wisdom and experience of the 'fathers' could and always was balanced and advanced by youth and strength. This no longer applies... in the context of our current mindsets and technology... well you unconscious ignorant, and dignant idiots figure it out... and appreciate the summary, in tragic poem from,


Life for your son:
Drugs, sex, and violence, programmed in my head. Living for the dollar, makes me feel so dead. Daddy cast me out, his face became so red. Your a piece of shit. That is what he said. I am all alone now, with no place to call home. I'll take another hit, feelin' oh so stoned. Maybe I'll go bike, take the pressures off my mind. Wait there's the 5.0, shit man, never mind. What to do with my life? Find a job? Find a wife? Maybe I'll save me the trouble, and end it all with a knife.

Life for you:
Boy oh boy, times are rough, damn it I've had enough. Boy of mine, clean your room! If you don't, it will be your doom. Bills to pay, things to fix. Living like this 9 to 6. I'm getting old, my story is told. My family is there to hold.
Overtime get's me stressed, the boss was not impressed. Anger fills me, what to do? Boy you better pay me soon! Pay me now, worthless child. Get a job, don't you smile! Greed has got me, I'm enslaved. Working nonstop, my life's been depraved. Depraved of good memories, depraved of good times. It's okay I have money. I take my son's dimes.

~Obviously you have no real relationship with your son at all.
Go understand the pain he is feeling. Let him understand your pain. Then hug it out.


With so much gratitude...,
Descendent/Ancestor

Love him and protect him he is your son. Its tough in america at the moment and maybe as a lot of young people feel that there is no real future for them and they just wait for whatever disaster is going to happen. Dont kick him out you would put his life in danger and the military is not a resort unless you want to put his life in danger. Be a dad and be close. Do you even hug him or maybe thats not manly. He is a kid and a 20 year old today is less mature than a 20 year old in the 70s or 80s. Dont know why but that seems to be a trend. Anyway sounds like depression so just love him and talk.

You are definitely an anonymous coward!!! That's the whiniest loser message I ever read!!

Wow, from most of what I've read here so far, we should all just smoke pot. I used to smoke pot... then I grew up. Became a mom and raised a loser. I'm not in the military, and I'd love for my son to make something of his life, something that he is proud of. But if all you younguns are proud of is SMOKING POT all day, is that really ANY kind of accomplishment? For REAL. I'm not a six figure, I was poor my entire childhood and most of my young adult life. I came from a broken home, was sexually molested and raped at 12 and 13 years old. Got knocked up by a complete loser and left him the day I found out I was prego. That is when I became strong, grew up and decided that no matter what, I had to be a good person. Which generally speaking, I always had been. With the exception of the bad things I did in high school, I've always strived to be morally good and have a 110% work ethic and to help people. Where did *I* go wrong? My son smokes weed, he used to do meth and a bunch of other crap (pills, etc), but he still smokes weed and that K2 shit. Probably still drinks some too. He is lazy, irresponsible, entitled to everything.. so much that he steals from his family. His little sister, his little brother, his grandpa, me, his stepdad, the 83 yr old lady across the street. ALL to pay for his freaking DRUG HABITS. Well, at least when I did do drugs, it didn't make me mental or psychotic, like it does him (he has mood swings like you wouldn't believe, holes punched in my walls, broken windows, etc) and I never stole anything so I could have money to go get high. I had a job. And like I said, I grew up! Why would somebody keep doing that to themselves AND their family by stealing for drugs????????????????????
Why can't you people these days be STRONG enough to yes, have some occasional fun.. go out for a drink or two, smoke a bowl, but be strong enough to get through life and all of it's hardships without self freaking medicating? What is so darn wrong with FEELING? Bunch o pussies, perhaps?

...would that better place be in your mom's basement?

This is from 2009, btw.

Try this,
If he loves BMX, you should encourage him to get sponsored & go pro. So he can get paid doing what he loves....Ofcourse he's got to be good..?? These days with the internet & youtube he can make a "SPONSOR ME" video and send it directly to the BMX companies which are always open to talented riders... I grew up in a similar way & became a pro-snowboarder at 18(1993) it changed my life drastically and got me out of my parents basement enabling me to see the world like a rock star...