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My son is a total pothead loser slacker, what should I do?

 
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OH, and I also want to say this: I cannot wait until YOUR generation is wiped off the face of this planet. It is YOUR generations fault we are in this current predicament.

The world will be a much better place.


When we're gone; you'll wish we'd return. What's comin' ain't gonna be pretty.

Oh no, but you see, it will be pretty after we finish cleaning up from YOUR mess. Almost anything is prettier than what we're currently undergoing, and will undergo.

Maybe you should go smoke some cannabis eh? It might open up your perspective, and help you see things in a better light. God knows your generation is blind as a bad, and lacking all sense of perspective.

Morals? What fucking morals?!
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Oh sorry, blind as a BAT.
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Re: My son is a total pothead loser slacker, what should I do?
whatever

Typical response i'd expect from a from a stoner-derro.
Whilst your at it, dose the little turds lighter up with it as well, so as soon as he goes to rubb his eyes, pick his nose, or wipe bong-grott off his face BAMM! happy days.
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Hey retard, why not learn a little grammar before trying to criticize me?

Typical lesser human.
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Dad, Is God finished with you yet?

I mean, are you "all thatbyou can be?"

Perhaps not.

Can you envision what you would like to see your son like when he turns your age?

How about setting the example for him... is that a project that you can take on at this late in the game?

Your son is not you and yet he is becoming you.

Did you know that?

You want to change your son for the better?

Chage yourself.

You have your work cut out for you.

God's speed!
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OH, and I also want to say this: I cannot wait until YOUR generation is wiped off the face of this planet. It is YOUR generations fault we are in this current predicament.

The world will be a much better place.
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It's several thousand years worth of generation fault that we are in this current "perdicament", kid.

However, YOU (and the rest of your stunningly lackluster Gen Y brethren) won't have the ability, courage, stamina, endurance, or wherewithal to even BEGIN to cope with what is coming without our generation to plug in the solar panels to allow you to play your Wii, you whiny little piece of otter vomit.

Now go play in traffic, Junior.
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Why the fuck do people respond to obvious trolls?
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alright first off hes not a total slacker, my brother is 27 lives with our mom and hasn't worked in over a year, my mom being a loving parent doesnt have the heart to kick him out because he wouldnt have anywhere to go. so your son at least has a job and in these times that is something.

second as meny have stated here he is enjoying his life, mabe he heard about 2012 and believes whats going to happen, would you want to spend the rest of your days wasting away at a job for a wastfull purpose that will be pointless...

3rd im assuming that your son was born sometime before or during your tours of duty so mabe he didnt have that father figure there for him, fundamentaly the most important thing for a boy growing up is to have that father figure to guide you.

4th mabe hes heard about the troops coming back from afganistan that are all messed in the head now, or the truth about the real reason america went there which was obviously oil and opium.

5 pot is not the gatway drug, alcohal is. you dont here about some stoned person killing his family or robing a bank or crashing is huge car recks or the like, its been around for a long time and its here to stay.
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OH, and I also want to say this: I cannot wait until YOUR generation is wiped off the face of this planet. It is YOUR generations fault we are in this current predicament.

The world will be a much better place.


It's several thousand years worth of generation fault that we are in this current "perdicament", kid.

However, YOU (and the rest of your stunningly lackluster Gen Y brethren) won't have the ability, courage, stamina, endurance, or wherewithal to even BEGIN to cope with what is coming without our generation to plug in the solar panels to allow you to play your Wii, you whiny little piece of otter vomit.

Now go play in traffic, Junior.
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I'll play in traffic after you, old fart.

I wasn't speaking to you now was I? Perhaps I should begin to lay some wisdom on you though. I have nothing to prove to you, but alas, you should have everything to prove to me.

Yet again, your generation proves my point.
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Why the fuck do people respond to obvious trolls?
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At this point, I gotta wonder if it is just a group of trolls talking to each other.
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OH, and I also want to say this: I cannot wait until YOUR generation is wiped off the face of this planet. It is YOUR generations fault we are in this current predicament.

The world will be a much better place.


It's several thousand years worth of generation fault that we are in this current "perdicament", kid.

However, YOU (and the rest of your stunningly lackluster Gen Y brethren) won't have the ability, courage, stamina, endurance, or wherewithal to even BEGIN to cope with what is coming without our generation to plug in the solar panels to allow you to play your Wii, you whiny little piece of otter vomit.

Now go play in traffic, Junior.

I'll play in traffic after you, old fart.

I wasn't speaking to you now was I? Perhaps I should begin to lay some wisdom on you though. I have nothing to prove to you, but alas, you should have everything to prove to me.

Yet again, your generation proves my point.
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Sorry to break up the slapping match, but I'm in the middle of the "old gen" and the Y gen. I'm the X gen. Talk about torture, I grew up in the 80s.

Gentlemen, It is ALL of our faults, for allowing it to continue without correction.
If you see a wrong happen, is it not your duty to step up and correct it?


Everyone's fault. You can find a multitude of reasons to blame anyone.

The OP(yes, we see him trollin') presents the wonderful image of separation between young and old. This IS the problem. It's not all that kid, OR his dad.


Take this as an opportunity to learn.
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OH, and I also want to say this: I cannot wait until YOUR generation is wiped off the face of this planet. It is YOUR generations fault we are in this current predicament.

The world will be a much better place.


It's several thousand years worth of generation fault that we are in this current "perdicament", kid.

However, YOU (and the rest of your stunningly lackluster Gen Y brethren) won't have the ability, courage, stamina, endurance, or wherewithal to even BEGIN to cope with what is coming without our generation to plug in the solar panels to allow you to play your Wii, you whiny little piece of otter vomit.

Now go play in traffic, Junior.

I'll play in traffic after you, old fart.

I wasn't speaking to you now was I? Perhaps I should begin to lay some wisdom on you though. I have nothing to prove to you, but alas, you should have everything to prove to me.

Yet again, your generation proves my point.
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Just a tip: you'll be able to organize your thoughts a little more coherently if you put the bong down every once in a while.

When I was your age I could take ALL kinds of drugs and still be intelligible, but I guess you are just part of the big experiment in diminishing returns we call humanity.
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Sorry to break up the slapping match, but I'm in the middle of the "old gen" and the Y gen. I'm the X gen. Talk about torture, I grew up in the 80s.

Gentlemen, It is ALL of our faults, for allowing it to continue without correction.
If you see a wrong happen, is it not your duty to step up and correct it?


Everyone's fault. You can find a multitude of reasons to blame anyone.

The OP(yes, we see him trollin') presents the wonderful image of separation between young and old. This IS the problem. It's not all that kid, OR his dad.


Take this as an opportunity to learn.
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I know...I'm just having some fun at some punchy kid's expense...we ARE ALL responsible.

Insomnia brings out my perky side.
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Sorry to break up the slapping match, but I'm in the middle of the "old gen" and the Y gen. I'm the X gen. Talk about torture, I grew up in the 80s.

Gentlemen, It is ALL of our faults, for allowing it to continue without correction.
If you see a wrong happen, is it not your duty to step up and correct it?


Everyone's fault. You can find a multitude of reasons to blame anyone.

The OP(yes, we see him trollin') presents the wonderful image of separation between young and old. This IS the problem. It's not all that kid, OR his dad.


Take this as an opportunity to learn.


I know...I'm just having some fun at some punchy kid's expense...we ARE ALL responsible.

Insomnia brings out my perky side.
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ROFL, everyone's I think....
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alright first off hes not a total slacker, my brother is 27 lives with our mom and hasn't worked in over a year, my mom being a loving parent doesnt have the heart to kick him out because he wouldnt have anywhere to go. so your son at least has a job and in these times that is something.

second as meny have stated here he is enjoying his life, mabe he heard about 2012 and believes whats going to happen, would you want to spend the rest of your days wasting away at a job for a wastfull purpose that will be pointless...

3rd im assuming that your son was born sometime before or during your tours of duty so mabe he didnt have that father figure there for him, fundamentaly the most important thing for a boy growing up is to have that father figure to guide you.

4th mabe hes heard about the troops coming back from afganistan that are all messed in the head now, or the truth about the real reason america went there which was obviously oil and opium.

5 pot is not the gatway drug, alcohal is. you dont here about some stoned person killing his family or robing a bank or crashing is huge car recks or the like, its been around for a long time and its here to stay.
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You're right, he's not a total slacker, but here's the deal, he's not going ANYWHERE. He seems to be of the opinion that since he has enough money for his necessities (which are basically limited to fuel, bike parts, weed, internet, and in distant last place: pussy. As you might imagine, that hierarchy completly BAFFLES me..) Theres the real problem, motivation, I kinda saw it when he was a boy, he never really tried hard at sports, even though he was good at it. In swimming he would literally loaf during the race, sometimes you could see him looking back and notice that other swimmers were overtaking him only then would he pour it on. And no, I wasnt an absent father he was born in 1989 the same year i was discharged, I remeber like it was yesterday taking him to school on my bike and watching him run into the classroom with his power rangers back pack.
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Out of all the post only 2 non-ACs..........there is your answer.

I don't have kids, so don't feel my opinion counts.

That being said, going to give it regardless.

KICK HIS FUCKING ASS OUT!!!

Are you kidding me?

You come to a "fringe" website for an answer!!!!????

He is no longer your responsibility.

I am not saying he has to follow in your footsteps but he should be able to make enough money to make it on his own, he has no responsibilities.

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alright first off hes not a total slacker, my brother is 27 lives with our mom and hasn't worked in over a year, my mom being a loving parent doesnt have the heart to kick him out because he wouldnt have anywhere to go. so your son at least has a job and in these times that is something.

second as meny have stated here he is enjoying his life, mabe he heard about 2012 and believes whats going to happen, would you want to spend the rest of your days wasting away at a job for a wastfull purpose that will be pointless...

3rd im assuming that your son was born sometime before or during your tours of duty so mabe he didnt have that father figure there for him, fundamentaly the most important thing for a boy growing up is to have that father figure to guide you.

4th mabe hes heard about the troops coming back from afganistan that are all messed in the head now, or the truth about the real reason america went there which was obviously oil and opium.

5 pot is not the gatway drug, alcohal is. you dont here about some stoned person killing his family or robing a bank or crashing is huge car recks or the like, its been around for a long time and its here to stay.

You're right, he's not a total slacker, but here's the deal, he's not going ANYWHERE. He seems to be of the opinion that since he has enough money for his necessities (which are basically limited to fuel, bike parts, weed, internet, and in distant last place: pussy. As you might imagine, that hierarchy completly BAFFLES me..) Theres the real problem, motivation, I kinda saw it when he was a boy, he never really tried hard at sports, even though he was good at it. In swimming he would literally loaf during the race, sometimes you could see him looking back and notice that other swimmers were overtaking him only then would he pour it on. And no, I wasnt an absent father he was born in 1989 the same year i was discharged, I remeber like it was yesterday taking him to school on my bike and watching him run into the classroom with his power rangers back pack.
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Hey op, what about like...13yo to 20
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alright first off hes not a total slacker, my brother is 27 lives with our mom and hasn't worked in over a year, my mom being a loving parent doesnt have the heart to kick him out because he wouldnt have anywhere to go. so your son at least has a job and in these times that is something.

second as meny have stated here he is enjoying his life, mabe he heard about 2012 and believes whats going to happen, would you want to spend the rest of your days wasting away at a job for a wastfull purpose that will be pointless...

3rd im assuming that your son was born sometime before or during your tours of duty so mabe he didnt have that father figure there for him, fundamentaly the most important thing for a boy growing up is to have that father figure to guide you.

4th mabe hes heard about the troops coming back from afganistan that are all messed in the head now, or the truth about the real reason america went there which was obviously oil and opium.

5 pot is not the gatway drug, alcohal is. you dont here about some stoned person killing his family or robing a bank or crashing is huge car recks or the like, its been around for a long time and its here to stay.

You're right, he's not a total slacker, but here's the deal, he's not going ANYWHERE. He seems to be of the opinion that since he has enough money for his necessities (which are basically limited to fuel, bike parts, weed, internet, and in distant last place: pussy. As you might imagine, that hierarchy completly BAFFLES me..) Theres the real problem, motivation, I kinda saw it when he was a boy, he never really tried hard at sports, even though he was good at it. In swimming he would literally loaf during the race, sometimes you could see him looking back and notice that other swimmers were overtaking him only then would he pour it on. And no, I wasnt an absent father he was born in 1989 the same year i was discharged, I remeber like it was yesterday taking him to school on my bike and watching him run into the classroom with his power rangers back pack.
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LOOKS LIKE HE'S A GENETIC DEFECTARD THANKS TO ALL THE AGENT ORANGE YOU ABSORBED YOU DICKHEAD!
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Out of all the post only 2 non-ACs..........there is your answer.

I don't have kids, so don't feel my opinion counts.

That being said, going to give it regardless.

KICK HIS FUCKING ASS OUT!!!

Are you kidding me?

You come to a "fringe" website for an answer!!!!????

He is no longer your responsibility.

I am not saying he has to follow in your footsteps but he should be able to make enough money to make it on his own, he has no responsibilities.
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+1


I left for military as well at 18.


And the LAST place I would want to live is with my folks.

Why?

They are like you....they just don't "get it".


My own house/car/bills/life........SPACE.


That's how it should be.
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alright first off hes not a total slacker, my brother is 27 lives with our mom and hasn't worked in over a year, my mom being a loving parent doesnt have the heart to kick him out because he wouldnt have anywhere to go. so your son at least has a job and in these times that is something.

second as meny have stated here he is enjoying his life, mabe he heard about 2012 and believes whats going to happen, would you want to spend the rest of your days wasting away at a job for a wastfull purpose that will be pointless...

3rd im assuming that your son was born sometime before or during your tours of duty so mabe he didnt have that father figure there for him, fundamentaly the most important thing for a boy growing up is to have that father figure to guide you.

4th mabe hes heard about the troops coming back from afganistan that are all messed in the head now, or the truth about the real reason america went there which was obviously oil and opium.

5 pot is not the gatway drug, alcohal is. you dont here about some stoned person killing his family or robing a bank or crashing is huge car recks or the like, its been around for a long time and its here to stay.

You're right, he's not a total slacker, but here's the deal, he's not going ANYWHERE. He seems to be of the opinion that since he has enough money for his necessities (which are basically limited to fuel, bike parts, weed, internet, and in distant last place: pussy. As you might imagine, that hierarchy completly BAFFLES me..) Theres the real problem, motivation, I kinda saw it when he was a boy, he never really tried hard at sports, even though he was good at it. In swimming he would literally loaf during the race, sometimes you could see him looking back and notice that other swimmers were overtaking him only then would he pour it on. And no, I wasnt an absent father he was born in 1989 the same year i was discharged, I remeber like it was yesterday taking him to school on my bike and watching him run into the classroom with his power rangers back pack.
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alright well how about this, if your son died tomaro in some accident how would you feel? would you feel remorse because you didnt get to tell him how much you actualy loved him and suddenly all the little petty things about him doesnt matter because of that fact? you don't know what you have until you loose it is how the saying goes. just be happy that he is alive and there and you can talk to him every day because time is all that we have and its running out...
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So, people are recomending the obvious stuff, dontcha think we've tried? Example, I knew the Everquest thing was a problem, I think he's been playing that stupid game since he was 14, mebbe earlier. Hell, it's partly my fault, I gave him my old computer when I upgraded, I used to love playing flight sim games, I never understood the attraction of the role play games, there was no winner, no end, you never seem to "win" or lose. Yes, that's a foreign concept to me, it's a total waste of time, you say, "hypocrite, you play games to" yes that's true but I don't/didnt play games to distraction.

I smashed his computer years ago (with a hammer) because he refused to stop playing the game, I decided it was enough. He got a friend to help him build another one. So I disconnected the ethernet going to his room, he'd sneak out and reconnect it. I CUT the wire going to his room, he bought new cable (50 bucks worth TWICE!) and ran it under the carpet thinking I wouldnt see it, I cut it again. I started disconnecting the modem, he calls AT&T and has them try and install DSL on my house (where we already have cable) I tell ATT to remove it, 6 months ago or so he gets Clearwire in his room, this everquest is a powerful addiction (I looked into it, they call it "Evercrack" for a reason) His drive crashed on his PC, so he goes in my office, takes a backup drive from a removable bay thing and FORMATS and reinstalls his OS on it! He takes my Craftsman wrenches and grinds them to fit on a bike part, I bought him lots of tools, but he loses them as soon as he needs something he just TAKES it, he wasnt raised like that. And he lies constantly.
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Life for your son:
Drugs, sex, and violence, programmed in my head. Living for the dollar, makes me feel so dead. Daddy cast me out, his face became so red. Your a piece of shit. That is what he said. I am all alone now, with no place to call home. I'll take another hit, feelin' oh so stoned. Maybe I'll go bike, take the pressures off my mind. Wait there's the 5.0, shit man, never mind. What to do with my life? Find a job? Find a wife? Maybe I'll save me the trouble, and end it all with a knife.

Life for you:
Boy oh boy, times are rough, damn it I've had enough. Boy of mine, clean your room! If you don't, it will be your doom. Bills to pay, things to fix. Living like this 9 to 6. I'm getting old, my story is told. My family is there to hold.
Overtime get's me stressed, the boss was not impressed. Anger fills me, what to do? Boy you better pay me soon! Pay me now, worthless child. Get a job, don't you smile! Greed has got me, I'm enslaved. Working nonstop, my life's been depraved. Depraved of good memories, depraved of good times. It's okay I have money. I take my son's dimes.

~Obviously you have no real relationship with your son at all.
Go understand the pain he is feeling. Let him understand your pain. Then hug it out.
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Life for your son:
Drugs, sex, and violence, programmed in my head. Living for the dollar, makes me feel so dead. Daddy cast me out, his face became so red. Your a piece of shit. That is what he said. I am all alone now, with no place to call home. I'll take another hit, feelin' oh so stoned. Maybe I'll go bike, take the pressures off my mind. Wait there's the 5.0, shit man, never mind. What to do with my life? Find a job? Find a wife? Maybe I'll save me the trouble, and end it all with a knife.

Life for you:
Boy oh boy, times are rough, damn it I've had enough. Boy of mine, clean your room! If you don't, it will be your doom. Bills to pay, things to fix. Living like this 9 to 6. I'm getting old, my story is told. My family is there to hold.
Overtime get's me stressed, the boss was not impressed. Anger fills me, what to do? Boy you better pay me soon! Pay me now, worthless child. Get a job, don't you smile! Greed has got me, I'm enslaved. Working nonstop, my life's been depraved. Depraved of good memories, depraved of good times. It's okay I have money. I take my son's dimes.

~Obviously you have no real relationship with your son at all.
Go understand the pain he is feeling. Let him understand your pain. Then hug it out.
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Nice, man.
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OP, all I can say is that you are the parent and it is your house. You have no legal obligation to support him, and you have the right to lay down rules in your own house. He can either abide by them or leave.

Some here say he is just enjoying his youth. I agree somewhat, but I have friends that let this situation go on too long and before they knew it they had a 30 year old teenager living in their basement and it was harder to put an end to it. It's better to force his hand now when he is young enough to start a life for himself. Sounds harsh, but it is a good thing. When I was that age, I opted to leave home because I thought my parents were square and I wanted to be my own person. This generation does seem to feel entitled, and many are content to live with mom and dad forever. If he does develop a drug problem, believe me, the last thing you want is to have that in your home. It will destroy you, your wife and any other kids still living there.

It doesn't sound like your son is completely messed up, he just needs to grow up, and that is not likely to happen as long as he has free room and board, mom doing his laundry and pocket money from his job. My best advice is to explain to him that you may be old fashioned, but you need to lay down some rules. Make him pay room and board, something fair (less than it would cost him if he moved out, but enough to reduce his cash in pocket). He will either understand and grow up a bit, or he will hate you and move out, where he will be forced to grow up and take responsibility for himself. What he does with his life is up to him. He may mess it all up, or he might turn out better than you expected. You have brought him to adulthood, and you deserve to have some peace in your own home.
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Go to your phone book and look up your local Alanon group.

Alanon is full of people who love or care about addicts. There is a vast store of knowledge there about techniques you can use to cope with this situation.

Most colloquial "wisdom" about what to do can actually prolong their dysfunctional behavior.
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Yes, first step is to get him off all drugs. Then make him get a job and pay for his own car or do without.
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kick his freakin ass
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10/28/2009 01:55 AM
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Re: My son is a total pothead loser slacker, what should I do?
Hey Dad, it sounds like your son is in a spiritual vacuum.

Is he following in your steps in this also??
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10/28/2009 01:59 AM
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Re: My son is a total pothead loser slacker, what should I do?
My wife is finally on board with kicking him out, I was totally ready long ago, but I know he'll be homeless, at least for awhile. It's harder than I thought it would be to actually shove his ass out the door. I think I'll have to get an actual eviction notice to make him leave without getting a domestic violence scene goin'.

I heard another kid (20 something pothead) at a neighbors house screaming at his mother about money and how he can't afford anything and how "if I had money I'd beat this rap" (I know his step father, and this kid has worse legal problems than my son, but he's older too) Anyway, they all seem to have the same victim attitude, like some of the idiots here (BTW, We used NO Agent Orange in Central America you moron), who say "oh, the world is shitty", "the banks would steal our money if we made any anyway", "so why bother", well, here's why, and here's what really scares me, if you free spirits don't start pullin yer weight and saving nuts for the winter you are gonna literally die out in the cold. It sucks, I know, there arent many choices, you can go to college but that doesnt guarantee you jack diddly squat, you need to work harder than my generation (I'm 44 BTW)and yer gonna get less for it. Life's a bitch, but all you can do is suck it up. It takes generations to build the kind of idyllic lifestyle we had here in the US it took alot of sacrifice of our fathers to make each generation have it better than the last but that model is played out, its been stopped (intentionally I believe) by some very nasty people.
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10/28/2009 01:59 AM
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Re: My son is a total pothead loser slacker, what should I do?
IS HIS NAME "EAT" ??

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10/28/2009 02:02 AM
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Re: My son is a total pothead loser slacker, what should I do?
My son:
20 years old
Pizza delivery/pizza cook job, he makes 8/hr
Everquest(crack) addiction
Continues to smoke weed
Refuses to join military
Attends Community College has 1 (ONE) class (they were "all full"..)
wrecked every car he's driven (including 2 of mine & my wife's)
No savings (even though he pays no room and board)
All he wants to do is BMX bike at the skate park and play everquest.
Multiple run ins with 5.0 over riding BIKE in SKATE park..
also posession of 420 charges
He WAS an Olympic class/candidate swimmer (multiple national reportable times, some USA records in 15-18 boys class)
He started out high school with a 3.9 GPA as a freshman and had real possibility of scholarship in Ivy league or Academy school -threw that away of course.


Me:
Totally squared away (NEVER used drugs- ever.)
Left home at 18 joined Army
Served 5 years Panama, El Salvador)as non-com
BS University of California (I paid for it myself)
6 figures in bank, home will be paid for in 5 more years
Working same job for 16 years NEVER MIssed a DAY not one.


WTF would YOU do?
 Quoting: 18E 802891
I'd stfu, at least he has a job.
stfu
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10/28/2009 02:02 AM

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Re: My son is a total pothead loser slacker, what should I do?
Hey Dad, it sounds like your son is in a spiritual vacuum.

Is he following in your steps in this also??
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 804683

Sure, blame the parent. No parent is perfect, and no child is perfect. Time to lay down the law and mean it. If he doesn't like it, he can move out. If he refuses, you put his things out and change the locks. If he breaks in, you call the police. As I said before, past generations couldn't wait to move out when they hit adult age. Some of us fucked up, most of us grew up and did well for ourselves, and in the end, even though we hated our parents for a while, we grew to respect them as we matured. The OP has invested 20 years on his son. You never stop loving them, you never disown them, but some kids can only grow up when they have nobody to look after them.
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