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My son is a total pothead loser slacker, what should I do?

 
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he might be gay.

This is probably the last thing you want to hear.

If you are already this disappointed in him, can you blame him for escaping into a world of games and drugs so he doesn't have to face you?

He has some kind of porn in his room or computer, be it gay or straight.
Find it and know for sure.

but it sounds like he's good with computers.. see if he wants to go to computer tech school.
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Just tell him you love him, just for who he is, as he is.
You value him as a person.
Also,
He sounds highly intelligent, and school is too boring for him.
He will out grow it.
VALUE him.
Let him know he is a PERSON for WHO he is , not WHAT HE DOES.
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Be careful that your disgust does not filter down to suicide, you will never forgive yourself.
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Don't coddle him anymore. He's a man now, make him become one. If he turns out to be a limp wristed queer it's because you didn't push him out of the nest. afro
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Any thoughts about what I had to say, op?


My dad spent a whole night looking for me once, and I didn't do drugs. I got lucky. :P was at a girl's house, thought he'd understand.....nope..



Yes I suppose theres some good in his hobby, but check it out, he's very good at BMX biking apparently, but he's 6'1 and is riding 20" bmx bikes. I'd have alot more respect for him if it was mountain biking, or road bike racing but it just seems to me another symptom of his refusal to grow up. I called it a "little boy's bike" once, pissed him off. but it is a silly dangerous hobbie, he has multiple scars and his younger brother had a head injury (jumping these bikes in the skate park) that would have cost us $20k if we didnt have insurance. He's 20 and covered by our insurance IF he has enough units in College. He doesnt right now... Not to mention he refuses to wear a helmet/pads. Mind you, this isnt a passive stroll in the park they jump these bikes and do flips on concrete berms/half pipes trying to emulate xgames stars I guess.
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FROM ONE PARENT TO ANOTHER

He's not you, never will be.
He seems ingenious and talented, and determined.
He seems happy with his life.
Be happy for him, for goodness sake give the young man some damn encouragement, it's free!

You don't like his interests so you belittle them.
You would have "more respect" if was interested in the bikes you approve of... come on!
You are complaining about refusing to wear helmet and pads? Get over it already!

My oldest son is 20.
My step son is 20...21 next month.
They are 7 months apart.
Both graduated high school in '07
both are poking their way through college and the motivation to get the bachelors is their cars.

When they graduate with a degree they get the title. If they quit school they are responsible for a car payment to us AND their insurance or we will come an repo it and they can walk.
Man enough to quit school, man enough to pay your bills!

Step son likes beer... his father has had a beer(1) with him on the weekends he visits since age 17...I'm not the approving step-momma, but it seems to take the mystic out of it for him... and they are tight, the beer drinking is some kind of male bonding thing.

My son won't touch alcohol, his bio dad is a heavy drinker and he's not interested in following that path, its ugly, he's seen it, loves his dad just doesn't want to be him...

Neither one are into weed. We wouldn't hold it against them if they smoked it... having spent lots of time in Amsterdam I don't have the Americanized view of this herb.

Both started out at community college living at home. Both are now at university living with room mates.

Jobs are an issue for both, very hard to find... but they make do... I'm sure some plasma has been sold and I've put them both to work on some weekends. They would love to get a delivery job. You are forgetting that is $8 and hour PLUS tips!

Both have all-consuming hobbies. One video games the other martial arts. Each are addictive in their own way... I don't understand either one of them but they make them both happy.

Both have long term girl friends that at times skews their thinking and decision making... we tell them to deal with it... women are a distraction, always.

We are PROUD of our sons because they are GOOD PEOPLE.

They aren't fast tracking to anything... neither really knows what they want to do with their lives. Mine isn't interested in material things but doing what he likes to do...step son is only motivated by what career will make him the most money.

Step son WAS a star bball player in high school.
Son WAS a talented musician in high school. Both were good experiences but they are over. It has no bearing on their current value or worth as human beings.

Step son had a great gpa in high school but he admits he cheated his way through.
My son had a C gpa and just didn't care about grades.

You need to realize you have to LOVE THEM where they are and HOW they are...

my son calls me just to talk or for advice, he even has me as a friend on facebook. Step son and I have never really talked but I don't care, he's tight with his dad, they text daily.

We respect them and ACCEPT them just as they are and would not trade the relationships that we have with them for any changes that we as parents might deem "more appropriate" choices or activities for them... WE ARE NOT THEM.

OUR ONLY JOB NOW IS TO LOVE AND SUPPORT THEM WITH ENCOURAGEMENT!

I married my sons father at 20, he was born when I was 21...I have no position to cast stones from and I realized early in life that everyone has their own path to the life they want to live. I love my life and I got where I am my own way.

My husband didn't marry his sons mother until he was 29 his son was born when he was 31...he stayed single and got a masters degree and then traveled with the company he is still employed with to this day... PLEASE understand, TO EACH THEIR OWN!

Just go apologize to your son for not "getting it" tell him you love him just the way he is, extend your hand to him, shake it like the man he is and begin again.

and stop insulting his passion for bmx... get involved... surely there is some kind of bmx competition you could pay the entrance fee for and show up to like a proud poppa and take pictures and video...

We are raising the people that are going to take care of us when we are old, elderly and helpless... make sure it is someone that respects and loves you unconditionally... showing kindness and understand to your son now will create a caretaker, heir and namesake for your grandchildren that you WILL be proud of...
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My son:
20 years old
Pizza delivery/pizza cook job, he makes 8/hr
Everquest(crack) addiction
Continues to smoke weed
Refuses to join military
Attends Community College has 1 (ONE) class (they were "all full"..)
wrecked every car he's driven (including 2 of mine & my wife's)
No savings (even though he pays no room and board)
All he wants to do is BMX bike at the skate park and play everquest.
Multiple run ins with 5.0 over riding BIKE in SKATE park..
also posession of 420 charges
He WAS an Olympic class/candidate swimmer (multiple national reportable times, some USA records in 15-18 boys class)
He started out high school with a 3.9 GPA as a freshman and had real possibility of scholarship in Ivy league or Academy school -threw that away of course.


Me:
Totally squared away (NEVER used drugs- ever.)
Left home at 18 joined Army
Served 5 years Panama, El Salvador)as non-com
BS University of California (I paid for it myself)
6 figures in bank, home will be paid for in 5 more years
Working same job for 16 years NEVER MIssed a DAY not one.


WTF would YOU do?
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i would say. TROLL?
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Different people take different paths.

My brother was a looser pot head until he turned 40. Woke up one day and realized he had wasted half his life. Started his own (legit) business and now makes 200k / year. He's still a pothead but very successful now.

I joined the military when I was 17 and bought my first house at 19. I know have a successful career and business thanks to the discipline I learned in the military. After all these years I have found that where ever you go you find exactly what you are looking for.

Motivation is intrinsic. Some people have to hit bottom. I know people who where homeless, starving and jobless before the figured it out. (Some don't ever figure it out.) I know 2 men who were both homeless and destitute who are now millionaires.

Is he a man or a boy?
He'll be a man when he has his own place and can support himself.

I knew a very smart kid who was homeless. I told him, he could live with me rent free so long as he went to school full time and carried a 3.0 GPA and worked at least part time. 4 years later he graduated college and makes 40k a year. He still isn't motivated, still doesn't have a car or a girlfriend but he has a career, his own money and the potential for a future. Some people need structure. Your son may be one of those. The trick is if he meets your 3 or 4 basic demands you have to not complain about anything else he does.

Lay it out for him...You do these three things and I'll lay off on every other subject. Be prepared to kick him out if he fails to perform on those 3 tasks. Also be prepared to take him back when starts to perform again.
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*limp bizkit*

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trollin trollin trollin trollin tro llin
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Refuses to join military
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He doesn't sound that stupid to me!
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What is your gauge of success OP? If your son was a cleanskin, successful businessman with a bent towards other blokes, would you then be proud?

Is it more the fact that you are annoyed by his presence in your domain that erks you to find failures in his character?

What are his positive attributes? Does he have any?

What are your failings? Lack of unconditional love?

When we bring life into the world, we enter into a contract with God (who supplies the SPARK) to nurture this being to become a balanced and loving soul. The path the individual follows is many and varied, but through-out the journey a parents love will help them overcome every obstacle. In return for such diligence, we become part of the plan and ensure the future is bright (as it should).

Give LOVE, get LOVE....Give rejection...
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OH, and I also want to say this: I cannot wait until YOUR generation is wiped off the face of this planet. It is YOUR generations fault we are in this current predicament.

The world will be a much better place.


When we're gone; you'll wish we'd return. What's comin' ain't gonna be pretty.
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You've got that right, Dad. I'm in the same position with one of my sons and it's not because I didn't try to warn him.

These loudmouth hotshot smart-asses that are responding to you, are just a few years (minutes?) away from living on the streets because of their slovenly habits and lifestyle, and like all ADDICTS they pretend that THEY are the smart ones...until the first day they wake up sleeping in box in an alley.

Unfortunately, the future holds MOST of these clowns in the grip of poverty and homelessness as the economy sours and the global depression starts to manifest here in the USA.

Read the parable of the prodigal son, but don't let him drag YOU down along with him, when he comes sniveling back....

It's only a matter of time for these assholes!

chuckle
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What is your gauge of success OP? If your son was a cleanskin, successful businessman with a bent towards other blokes, would you then be proud?

Is it more the fact that you are annoyed by his presence in your domain that erks you to find failures in his character?

What are his positive attributes? Does he have any?

What are your failings? Lack of unconditional love?

When we bring life into the world, we enter into a contract with God (who supplies the SPARK) to nurture this being to become a balanced and loving soul. The path the individual follows is many and varied, but through-out the journey a parents love will help them overcome every obstacle. In return for such diligence, we become part of the plan and ensure the future is bright (as it should).

Give LOVE, get LOVE....Give rejection...
 Quoting: Looking Glass 804709


fucking effeminate pop psych bullshit. lmao

Go suck on a twig, ya fucking fairy! laugh
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Wow if you were my Dad I would smoke pot and play computer games all day with the hope a dad that wasn't such an asshole would show up.
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Perhaps there is a reason for his escapism through the use of drugs and video games. Many parents fail to take an introspective look at themselves whilst blaming external factors for their children's bad behaviour. But you must understand that things are the way they are most likely because inside he wants to rebel against your notion of 'life' . Instead of projecting negative thoughts and loving him less because he doesn't tread your path, perhaps you should try and understand him at his level before it becomes too late. You gotta let go of your old traditional thought process because it will be like a brick wall between you and your son. Until you change YOUR ways, he will not change his. Simple choice my friend - either love him or control him. The choice is always yours.
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Kick the little bird from the nest...... As long as you actually kick him from the nest, he will actually learn to fly.
"Holy, holy, holy is the Lord God Almighty, who was, and is, and is to come." - I AM



Vote for people that have a track record for loving your Constitution or lose your country forever!!!

Put down the damn touchy feely koolaid and WAKE THE FUCK UP!!!!

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Stop being such a douche for one.

Maybe you should smoke with your son, and then you can understand why it's such a hit (pun intended).

I can't stand fathers like you.


Just the sort of blinkard, philistine pig ignorance I've come to expect from you non-creative garbage...

(Always wanted to say that) That's fine and dandy, I'm an authoritarian asshole, great, fine I accept that, I was not handed everything on a platter, but don't you pothead sensitive type slackers realize that these fucked up female'ish "my ffewlings are hurt" attitudes are gonna lead to a shitty, poor, dependent life? I mean fuck, the USA is going 100% turd world, people cant be leaches here ANY more. The price of failure in the turd world is DEATH. Nobody is gonna feed yer sorry asses don't you get it? you can't go through life thinking that all you gotta think about is the next days events. I just don't get it, I made 600 bucks a month in the Army when I joined. I saved it ALL I had 65 grand in the bank when I got out all I thought about was the future, I know that most you here are pothead loser types, thats why I'm tryin to get a handle on this defeatist attitude you have. Is it the drug? I mean can it be reversed? how long does it take for that "pothead laugh" (as Dr. Drew describes it) take to go away?
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for somebody who went to the college you went to, you sure have poor punctuation and spelling.
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Kick the little bird from the nest...... As long as you actually kick him from the nest, he will actually learn to fly.
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and with his drug habit, become a drug dealer..

Before long, the "little bird" will become a "jail bird."

This "punk-ass class" really has no parallel in modern history. They're a lazy-ass bunch of liberal education recipients that are NO DAMN GOOD. And they never will be. huffy It's just another great feature of the godless culture we've been handed by the fucking communists in this country.
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troll is obvious

nobody really plays EQ anymore lmao.

wow.
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Lay down the law. You are enabling him.

Start charging him rent. Make him pay his own bills, insurance and video game subscription.
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Yeah, what he said... You allowed this to happen in your home.

Warn him. Give him a month, to save some money. Then out the door.

Fly little bird, fly.
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and he that hath little business shall become wise."
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"Work is clearly not healthy for individuals and the products it produces are no longer
healthy for the planet. Yet governments everywhere pursue policies aimed at
encouraging more jobs...Despite the dysfuntion of the work ethic it continues to be
promoted and praised, accepted and acquiesced to. It is one of the
least challenged aspects of industrial culture."
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Work without doing."
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"Personally, I have nothing against work,
particularly when performed, quietly and unobtrusively,
by someone else. I just don't happen to think it's an appropriate subject for an 'ethic.'"

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Dad,
I'm 20 years old. I have a job. Do you know how many don't have jobs? I have one. Does that mean anything? It doesn't pay what you think I should make, but I perform an important service, cooking for others, delivering their food.

It gives me money to do what I want. Do you know what I want, Dad? Do you care what I want?

I don't want to join the military. I think it's wrong to kill people because someone tells me to.

So I smoke a little, snort a little. I want to enjoy life and not think about all the problems, the wrongs, the injustice, the hypocrisy.

Sure I've been busted for drugs. I don't think the laws are fair, necessary, or even legal. Should I set out to change that? Would that embarrass a military man?

Do you see what the world is like? How long will it go on? Wouldn't you like to enjoy it while it lasts?

I don't save. Why should I give the bank my money, knowing they may steal it like they've stolen everything else they can get their hands on.

I took a class for you, Dad. Did you know it was for you? I don't want to go to college, don't want to join the military, don't want to have 6 figures in the bank. But I took the class. It was saying, I love you, in a way I can't verbalize.

I don't know yet what I want, but know clearly what I don't want. I'm 20 Dad. Only 20. Maybe some day I'll be as wise as you. Maybe I'll even make some of the choices you made, but until then, help me find myself.

I'm sorry about your cars. You know I'm sorry. I'm sorry you feel the way you do. But know this, Dad. I love you. And would love nothing more than having the love returned.
Love,
Your Son
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there are so few that understand this mindset...

join the military, wear a suit, become a consumer.. blah blah blah

if you need a place to stay, lay off the crack and you can come stay with me. my sons are both in college and uni studying music because that what THEY want. and they smoke weed. so what. its better than being drunk and starting fights and behaving like an ass. its not a big deal. the crack however IS a big deal. give it up because it will take you places you never wanna go, i've seen it with my own eyes....

not nice.
happy now?
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Its not the weed that has your son shut down. (if this is indeed a true story)

Your son is probably aware enough to realize he has no future as it stands right now.

Why dont you have your son roll a doobie for the both of you? Mayhaps then you can sit there and talk to the boy. Your eyes are bound to be open.

Last Edited by cloud4strife on 10/28/2009 07:20 AM
Apology in advance for killin your thread.
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i can't be read all 4 pages its too fucking boring but did someone remind Op that his son may have been better off if his father was PRESENT during his childhood and puberty and there may still be time to develop a relationship with him but at 20 he can do whatever the fuck he likes - his mentorship is OVER.
Op can only offer love at this point. Anything else is too little too late.
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I think you should stop being a little bitch and recognize that your son's generation is eons above all of the pieces of shit that make up your worthless generation.


Haha. That's exactly what my generation thought about my parent's generation before we grew up. They thought the same thing about their parents.
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Obviously you haven't taken a look around lately.
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Your description of your son is EXACTLY what i was like at 20. I rode BMX, i played waay too much videogames, and i smoked tons of bud, except i didnt have a job, i sold shrooms.

6 years later and im still stuck in the same habits, minus the BMX. That was substituted with Golf & Paintball. Anyways, i always wanted my dad to HELP me and i remember thinking, "why doesnt he want to help me get on my feet? ". Even though a guy is 20 he still needs a little reassurance.

What i would suggest is try to remember how much you wanted to do for him when he was a little child and sit down with him and actually ask what his thoughts are on his future. Talking to us wont get you any closure. Only talking to him will.

PS: The main problem here is the bud hes smoking. It will make you extremely tired if youve been smoking daily for years. Or at least it does with me. Hes not gay, hes just too lazy and/or depressed from the bud. Being stoned all the time dulls out your sex drive, trust me. It can make you depressed if abused as well. He probably plays videogames due to the depression, and uses this false reality where he CAN be anything he wants.

I have only recently come to realize the depth of the hole ive dug myself. Im your son in 6 years if he doesnt do ANYTHING to get some bank going. And if he keeps on smokin bud, playin videogames and not saving money you can tell him from somebody online who been there EXACTLY, that hes going to regret it.
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10/28/2009 08:23 AM
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Re: My son is a total pothead loser slacker, what should I do?
Its not the weed that has your son shut down. (if this is indeed a true story)

Your son is probably aware enough to realize he has no future as it stands right now.

Why dont you have your son roll a doobie for the both of you? Mayhaps then you can sit there and talk to the boy. Your eyes are bound to be open.
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fucking ADDICTS infest this forum. What a surprise.. chuckle
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10/28/2009 08:26 AM
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I think you should stop being a little bitch and recognize that your son's generation is eons above all of the pieces of shit that make up your worthless generation.


Haha. That's exactly what my generation thought about my parent's generation before we grew up. They thought the same thing about their parents.


Obviously you haven't taken a look around lately.
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And they're looking with ADDICT eyes.. There's a reason that they can't even get into a NARC-ANON meeting, until they quit using. chuckle
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sound like your son is enjoying his life and you wasted yours serving your slave masters.
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Reality check!
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10/28/2009 08:29 AM
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Stop being such a douche for one.

Maybe you should smoke with your son, and then you can understand why it's such a hit (pun intended).

I can't stand fathers like you.
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10/28/2009 08:35 AM
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Re: My son is a total pothead loser slacker, what should I do?
plainly, simply, kick him out of the house, OP.

If he can make it on his own, doing all these things, then love him and support him.. but don't enable his behavior.. kick him out.

That's what should have been done to me, honestly, so I speak from experience here. KICK HIM OUT, op.





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