My son is a total pothead loser slacker, what should I do?

Boundaries, the kid need boundaries.

He WILL pay room and board,

He WILL be out of your house by such-and-such a date unless he gets his shit together and goes FT to school.

He WILL assume responsibility for his life.


Your wife must stop coddling him. He's not a child anymore.

She needs to be with you on this or it won't work and he'll be 30 and still living with you.

"a bad dad is better than no dad at all." In some cases, that may be true... A friend of mine has a mom that is a lesbian, lives with a partner and an only son (my friend). I had no idea his mom lived with another woman and were intimate, but when I discovered it at his house, I was totally cool with it and wanted him to know that, hey man, I don't judge.

This made our friendship stronger and he would tell me some of the frustrations he had about his guardians. He said he didn't care if it wasn't normal, because to him it felt completely normal... he just said he wished he could be open about it because so few people, he feared, were like me.

A few weeks later my friend commented to me about my dad after several things happened that he witnessed, and of which I will not discuss. "Hey man, I don't know how to say this, but, I guess your dad is a real prick and that sucks. I know it sounds crazy and don't take this the wrong way, but you have made me so grateful for my situation. Thanks." I was thinking, "Yeah no problem, glad to be abused and of service, ya jerk..." But I knew where he was coming from and just smiled as much as I could. I fucking hate my dad and his mother, and when they die I will mark those dates on the calendar and celebrate them viscously each year until I, too, am removed from this savage world.

"A bad dad is better than no dad at all." NEVER BELIEVE THESE WORDS. EVER.

21 and you're done, son.

What would I do?
If I were your son I would get the h*** out of your home.
You are way too "perfect" and self-righteous, clearly as you see your son as a "loser".
The shame is on you, not on your son.
How about trying to show some real love, sympathy and empathy?

There's something to be said for raising kids who are nerds and into the marching band. LOL

OP,

Your son needs to marry to a WIFE who ENJOYS kicking his ASS every minute if he doesn't get his SHIT straigtened out.

As Bill Cosby once said: I brought you into this world, means I got the right to take you out.

Dad,
I'm 20 years old. I have a job. Do you know how many don't have jobs? I have one. Does that mean anything? It doesn't pay what you think I should make, but I perform an important service, cooking for others, delivering their food.

It gives me money to do what I want. Do you know what I want, Dad? Do you care what I want?

I don't want to join the military. I think it's wrong to kill people because someone tells me to.

So I smoke a little, snort a little. I want to enjoy life and not think about all the problems, the wrongs, the injustice, the hypocrisy.

Sure I've been busted for drugs. I don't think the laws are fair, necessary, or even legal. Should I set out to change that? Would that embarrass a military man?

Do you see what the world is like? How long will it go on? Wouldn't you like to enjoy it while it lasts?

I don't save. Why should I give the bank my money, knowing they may steal it like they've stolen everything else they can get their hands

Heh ...

I grew up in a poor family in the middle of a desert where I shit in plastic bags. I went to college on my own and got a job in the field I wanted. Only the week have a defeatist attitude.

The only reason I'm here is because my younger sister is a total pothead loser and I was exploring options to help her. After reading some posts, I re'affirmed myself that if she was kicked out of the house she would change. BUT unfortunately my father wants to keep her there to take care of my old rotten dieing mother who is an alcoholic in a wheel chair who shits herself.

She has 2 years to 18, I'll offer her a place to stay to get started.

She has a saying "livin life to the fulest gonna get fucked up evry nite".

If that is living life to the fullest, then life must be that boring and shitty.

+10000000000000000000

Kick his ass and throw him out.

Time for him to leave the nest.

If he dies tommorow, he'd of probably had more fun in life than you.

Perhaps if you had demonstrated a life that had purpose and wasn't completely empty he'd of followed your eaxample.

Instead he has decided to life a life without FEAR.

The OP should gladly pay for his son. The son will eventually be forced into Establishment slavery (a job), so why not let him enjoy his youth and freedom for as long as he can?

sounds exactly like my best friend.

maybe you shouldnt judge your son based on how much money he's set to make. maybe he has one of those...

oh, whats that thing called?

oh yeah, a PERSONALITY!

not being a corporate robot is a good thing

I am the OP, here's an update (serial don't match due to asshole trinity and other mods banning, but I have DYNAMIC IP!!which trumps their " 'lil dick, but Ima powerfull modduaratour" ban power EVERY day heheh) (they usually ban me jus fer tellin' people here how to get a new IP from they ISP, anyways..ban away assholes, I GOT MORE IP than you got 'lil dickimamod powers!!)

Update: Idiot son continues to smoke more weed, he got in another accident in his truck (backed into somebody, again) this time the insurance company got wise and denied the claim because he was "using the vehicle in the course of employment, to whit delivering pizzas". (We knew there was an exclusion, yet he continues to drive-I don't understand how the insurance company doesnt go after his employer..) So now this idiot loser is being sued for more than he makes in a year, EXACTLY what I told him would happen- I told him NOT to take the job 2 years ago, that they were just using him because he has a car. I've been in the joint he works, several of them are definitely tweakers, I knew it was only a matter of time till he tried the meth. I think he has.

He had 12 units this quarter at the JC, I think he dropped most of them (again) 365 dllars down the drain (again). He broke his arm (bad, required surgery may require more, plates pins screws etc) snowboarding in January (I'm sure he was high)50,000+ dollar medical bill (our insurance covered him, but due to new job/new insurance he wont be covered next time). Remember, he's a natural athelete- he's an incredible snowboarder, he threw away a scholarship to Stanford- he's (was) an olympic class swimmer he still holds records at several high school meets and national reportable times) His coach described him as "1 in a million" "talent and form that you CANNOT teach", "smooth stroke" (this was ll before Michael Phelps, but I believe he has that kind of potential-don't remind me of phelps pot smoking scandal-I highly doubt he was doing pot during training, he was settup at a party) I remeber him getting out of the water at HS meets and getting a towel before others touched- until he was told it's 'bad form' to hop out of the pool before all have touched)

He doesnt play evercrack anymore, he's playing some other MMPORG that's free. I turn off his power to his room every night (it's the only way to stop him) I had to put a double cylider lock on the garage door to keep him from turning breaker back on) he started jimmying the lock and defeated it. I bought another one a better one he can't get past it. I think he tried prying the two car rollup garage door (from the front of the house) open because the track is all fucked up- the addiction is THAT BAD people, he will do anything to get that fucking game back on.

I spent serious time and money last summer replacing all the screens on my house (27 windows) I bought those kits where you have to cutt all the aluminum bars down and make them from scratch. anyway alotta work, this fucking dumass pothead, removed the screen (he's too fucking dumb to remove screen without damaging it) bends it all to hell and lets it fall to the pool deck below (2nd floor bedroom) so he can sit in that window seat and smoke pot- like I'm not gonna notice. Fucking ASSHOLE leaves the screen off and the window open- he doesnt give a SHIT that the mosquitos are just startin to hatch here in the N. San Joaquin valley of California, he just leaves the fucker wide open for the last few nights. He's an animal, he pushes his younger siblings outta the way in the kitchen when he wants something. he eats like a horse, drinks milk (the white poison I wish my idiot wife would stop buyin')
My wife has to bitch at him incessantly for 2-3 days, (same routine all the time) each week to get him to mow the lawn- he finally does it (always a shitty, half ass job) and like clockwork, he always leaves the bag full of grass in the mower to rot) she bitches at him yesterday to dump the grass outta the mower he still hasnt done it.


tell ya what, all the asshole losers here who doubt me, after I getta new IP, I'll post pics of the asshole son of mine his car, and his scar on his arm and anything else you can think of. I'm not doin this because I give a shit about what you human debris think, but Im takin a new tack, embarrassment. wait till his fucked up unauthorized biography gets on the net and myspace, mebbe that'll shape his pot headed ass up.

I need at least 4 separate GLP smacktards to pipe up and say they want pics before I do it though. Especially you fucking pothead ap9ologists sayin this is my fault...

Oh and smarty pants up there with the comment about him having more fun than me? Fuck you you retarded fuck, I've done 6 static line jumps and 30 free fall and several HALO's a couple in COMBAT(not fun)- Fun don't get much funner than that. I've flown aircraft (not alicensed pilot, I've skied St moritz, I fired all manner of small arms, I own a 65 Cobra replica with a 500HP engine (VERY FUN), I smoke cigars, I drink McCALLAn scotch, I hunt deer, ducks, turkey and pig every year in various states (fun)I angle from Kayak in California and Alaska, I ride dirtbikes in Nevada and Ca all of these things are fun, but they require more than the wilolingness to imbibe cheap drugs.

you dumass potheads were so stoned you couldnt even revive this thread on your Bday (yesterday) 4-20

leave him alone
he's doing wot he wants
just like you did at his age!

I could post pics of the vehicle he destroyed too, then all his pothead friends would realize who we talkin about.

If there is a void between you and your son, it is because you were too busy serving yourself to keep in touch with him. You lost him.

What kind of retarded comment is that? "He's just doin' what he wants" So that makes it OK? So because your entire parliarment there in Jiolly ole England likes to cornhole children (jus' doin what they want, right?)that makes it OK? What if he just wants to be a leach loser and not work- WHO is gonna pay for his consumption? You idiot brits?

At least he is not a homosexual; not that there is anything wrong with that.

I told you to kick his ass out.

So tell him to move out already - he's 20 ffs - not your problem any more.

Blah blah blah it's not your place to tell people what to do, you claim to love freedom but all you love is conformity

Perfect Establishment robot - Fights for imperialist capitalist masters who seek to dominate third world nations.

"I smoke cigars" - Why, it doesn't get you high and kills your body, what a tard.

"I drink McCALLAn scotch" - Lame high and kills your body.

"I hunt deer, ducks, turkey and pig every year in various states" - Wow, killing innocent animals sounds like a blast.

You should try some real fun - blow your mind on 1000mcg of fluff. Everything else you ever did will pale in comparison. Your not brave enough to handle your ego being dissolved.

Maybe if you could look past YOUR OWN BELIEFS you could have a relationship with your son, and who knows... maybe if he can see a decent human being in you he wont purposely rebel against everything you say just to spite you.

Also it aint the drug, not everyone wants to live your life.
Can you see that? Or do you need a smoke to see it?