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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 927141 United States04/21/2010 08:03 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My son: Quoting: 18E 80289120 years old Pizza delivery/pizza cook job, he makes 8/hr Everquest(crack) addiction Continues to smoke weed Refuses to join military Attends Community College has 1 (ONE) class (they were "all full"..) wrecked every car he's driven (including 2 of mine & my wife's) No savings (even though he pays no room and board) All he wants to do is BMX bike at the skate park and play everquest. Multiple run ins with 5.0 over riding BIKE in SKATE park.. also posession of 420 charges He WAS an Olympic class/candidate swimmer (multiple national reportable times, some USA records in 15-18 boys class) He started out high school with a 3.9 GPA as a freshman and had real possibility of scholarship in Ivy league or Academy school -threw that away of course. Me: Totally squared away (NEVER used drugs- ever.) Left home at 18 joined Army Served 5 years Panama, El Salvador)as non-com BS University of California (I paid for it myself) 6 figures in bank, home will be paid for in 5 more years Working same job for 16 years NEVER MIssed a DAY not one. WTF would YOU do? Wow, I'd stop trying to live vicariously through my child. If you'd stop worrying about how perfect you are, and how your kid just doesn't live up, you might be able to step back and look at WHO he is for WHO is he and not WHAT he's done. It would do good to see yourself this way too. Take a fucking load off. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 942317 United States04/21/2010 08:05 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You got a problem in life? You got two choices. 1. Fix it. OR 2. Shut the fuck up about it. Your only choice for fixing it is to throw him out. He has a job. Let him find out how much it costs to stay out of the rain and fed on his own. You owe him nothing since the minute he turned 18. This is the only thing that will work. Otherwise, he is obviously more in control of how he lives in your home than you are and all of your bitching and moaning isn't changing a thing. So you can either throw him out or shut the fuck up about it. |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 934697 United States04/21/2010 08:21 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Oh and smarty pants up there with the comment about him having more fun than me? Fuck you you retarded fuck, I've done 6 static line jumps and 30 free fall and several HALO's a couple in COMBAT(not fun)- Fun don't get much funner than that. I've flown aircraft (not alicensed pilot, I've skied St moritz, I fired all manner of small arms, I own a 65 Cobra replica with a 500HP engine (VERY FUN), I smoke cigars, I drink McCALLAn scotch, I hunt deer, ducks, turkey and pig every year in various states (fun)I angle from Kayak in California and Alaska, I ride dirtbikes in Nevada and Ca all of these things are fun, but they require more than the wilolingness to imbibe cheap drugs. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 123590Perfect Establishment robot - Fights for imperialist capitalist masters who seek to dominate third world nations. "I smoke cigars" - Why, it doesn't get you high and kills your body, what a tard. "I drink McCALLAn scotch" - Lame high and kills your body. "I hunt deer, ducks, turkey and pig every year in various states" - Wow, killing innocent animals sounds like a blast. You should try some real fun - blow your mind on 1000mcg of fluff. Everything else you ever did will pale in comparison. Your not brave enough to handle your ego being dissolved. You pathetic cunt of a drug addict. You kill more animals in your trips to the drive through than I kill in 1 year of hunting. Oh and BTW the meat in my freezer is extremely low fat, hormone and antibiotic free. What's that on your feet? Leather? Oh but you didnt "kill anything" to get those shoes, right? You pathetic, hypocritical dip shit loser. What is wrong with all of you? I would not begrudge a man to smoke pot or any other plant on this earth IF he was responsible in his own life. That means "self sufficient" a concept you all seem to have so much difficulty with; you angry little cretins, libertarians like me don't give a shit what you put in yer bodies as long as it doesnt affect other people. All drugs should be legal, that way darwin can take over where your brains left off. Don't you get it? you are too stupid and undisciplined to handle drugs AND a productive life. You are irresponsible, uneducated and therfore should not be allowed to do drugs until you are able to do so responsibily without cost to society at large. When i joined, yes i did believe i was fighting for something important, but it didnt take long to realize that Reagan's admonition to stopp the commies "before they get to Harlingen TX" was bullshit cover for the drug trade and suporting US multinationals like United fruit in Central Am.. Green Berets were KILLED by YOUR government for exposing some of this shit and all you candy ass libtards care about is demonizing honorable men. It made the papers, it made congressional hearings (CIA sponsored drug trafficking), we saw the pallets on the c-130's. We thought surely the american people" have enough info to act on, but yet it continues! Corruption on a vast scale you cannot even imagine! WHY do you think they killed Pat Tillman? He woke up early, but he was naive enough to expose his intentions in his letters home. They fucking wacked him like a diseased dog. That's how they role and it's (collectively) YOUR FAULT. Military MEN take an oath and must follow orders, we didnt have the luxury of doing anything about it while in uniform. I am not using the nuremberg excuse, but while under oath/contract to uncle sam there is little we can do. After discharge however I told YOU (or poeple LIKE you) and was ridiculed. No one believes that the US government would load pallets of drugs on US MIL MAC flights, fly them to mena, AR where your former libtard president assisted in their orderly dispostion in the USGOV sponsored narcotic logistic chain I failed with my son. I know that, but I am damn sure it wasnt because I 'pressured him to join" I wanted him to go to a 4 year school- and then consider joining, at the very most I wanted him to be an officer IF he joined. I ave him all the toys I wanted, but couldnt afford, that was my mistake, he doesnt and probobly never will appreciate anything, The funniest thing is; you fucking retarded potheads and drug users, by your veryown filthy habits and addictions, FUND the very evil machine of US GOV military hegemony you claim to despise! It's so insane, you have to laugh, you direct venom at me as something you despise, WHILE YOU FUND AND KEEP ALIVE THE VERY BEAST YOU DESCRIBE!! by spending your pathetic little lives consuming expensive "illegal" drugs. Whaddya think of that? Your pathetic 100 dolla a day habit goes straight to bloodthirsty CIA and CIA sponsored regimes. Have you pot addled morons noticed the increase in "H" on the street? Do you think it's a fucking coincidence that the US mil is currently centered on the country/climate that provides 90% of the worlds opiates??? But yer gonna ridicule some old staff sargeant?? |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 913496 United States04/21/2010 08:34 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It's no time to be joining the military. Now they send you to Afghanistan, stop-loss you when you want to leave, and you get totally f'ed up by depleted uranium (I know this is in Iraq, not sure about Afghanistan), injections, and fighting a war that the local population does not support. It's not like when you were in the service. But you don't need to enable his selfishness. Charge him rent. If he refuses to pay, put him out I guess. But if he's trying hard to find a job and still cannot, then relent. It's a very tough job market now. And if he wants a car, he can pay for it, insure it, repair it etc. He's got to snap out of it and take responsibility or take the consequences. Unfortunately you cannot rely on the military to teach him that, because these days they will just destroy him. Good luck. These are not times when there's always a reasonable course of action. They are not fair times. We're all just trying to get through them. |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 913496 United States04/21/2010 08:45 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Dad, Quoting: Anonymous Coward 787912I'm 20 years old. I have a job. Do you know how many don't have jobs? I have one. Does that mean anything? It doesn't pay what you think I should make, but I perform an important service, cooking for others, delivering their food. It gives me money to do what I want. Do you know what I want, Dad? Do you care what I want? I don't want to join the military. I think it's wrong to kill people because someone tells me to. So I smoke a little, snort a little. I want to enjoy life and not think about all the problems, the wrongs, the injustice, the hypocrisy. Sure I've been busted for drugs. I don't think the laws are fair, necessary, or even legal. Should I set out to change that? Would that embarrass a military man? Do you see what the world is like? How long will it go on? Wouldn't you like to enjoy it while it lasts? I don't save. Why should I give the bank my money, knowing they may steal it like they've stolen everything else they can get their hands The first part is OK, except that his drug use is leading him to be dependent when he should be independent. "I don't save" why should I when I can leach off Mom and Dad. That part isn't OK. How unkind, he's stealing some of the financial security his parents have built up over their lifetimes. And he knows it and doesn't care, or doesn't know it and is an idiot. In either case this situation should not continue another minute. |
| Seamus User ID: 854278 United States04/21/2010 08:47 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | "Nobody talks more of free enterprise and competition and of the best man winning Quoting: Stormthan the man who inherited his father's store or farm." - C. Wright Mills -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- "It is not wise to rush about. Controlling the breath causes strain. If too much energy is used, exhaustion follows. This is not the way of the Tao. Whatever is contrary to the Tao will not last long." - Lao Tzu, 6th Century B.C. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- "One of the symptoms of an approaching nervous breakdown is the belief that one's work is terribly important." - Bertrand Russell -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- "The work of the master reeks not of the sweat of the brow - suggests no effort and is finished from the beginning." - James McNeill Whistler -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- A martial arts student went to his teacher and said earnestly, "I am devoted to studying your martial system. How long will it take me to master it?" The teacher's reply was casual, "Ten years." Impatiently, the student answered, "But I want to master it faster than that. I will work very hard. I will practice everyday, ten or more hours a day if I have to. How long will it take then?" The teacher thought for a moment, "20 years." - Zen Story -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- "There is no more fatal blunder than he who consumes the greater part of his life getting his living." - Henry David Thoreau -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- "The wisdom of a learned man cometh by opportunity of leisure: and he that hath little business shall become wise." - Ecclesiasticus ch. 38 v. 24 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- "Work is clearly not healthy for individuals and the products it produces are no longer healthy for the planet. Yet governments everywhere pursue policies aimed at encouraging more jobs...Despite the dysfuntion of the work ethic it continues to be promoted and praised, accepted and acquiesced to. It is one of the least challenged aspects of industrial culture." - Sharon Beder, Selling the Work Ethic: From Puritan Pulpit to Corporate PR -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- "Leisure is essential to civilisation." - Bertrand Russell, 1932 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- "Increased means and increased leisure are the two civilisers of man." - Benjamin Disraeli -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- "All intellectual improvement arises from leisure." - Samuel Johnson -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- "I am the laziest man in the world. I invented all those things to save myself from toil." - Benjamin Franklin -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- "...for more than five years I maintained myself thus solely by the labour of my hands and I found that by working about six weeks in a year, I could meet all the expenses of living." - Henry David Thoreau -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- "Practise non-action. Work without doing." - Lao Tzu, 6th Century B.C. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- "Men of lofty genius are most active when they are doing the least work." - Leonardo da Vinci -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- "Only the idle can be at the complete disposal of chance." - surrealist Andre Breton -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- "What is this life if, full of care, We have no time to stand and stare." - W. H. Davies -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- "It is impossible to enjoy idling thoroughly unless one has plenty of work to do." - Jerome K. Jerome -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- "Personally, I have nothing against work, particularly when performed, quietly and unobtrusively, by someone else. I just don't happen to think it's an appropriate subject for an 'ethic.'" - Barabara Ehrenreich -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- "Our primary work ... is to love and forgive ... The meaning of work, whatever its form, is that it be used to heal the world." - Marianne Williamson -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- "Jehovah the bearded and angry god, gave his worshippers the supreme example of ideal laziness; after six days of work, he rests for all eternity." - The Right to be Lazy, Paul LaFargue, 1893 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- "Life was never meant to be a struggle; just a gentle progression from one point to another, much like walking through a valley on a sunny day." - Stuart Wilde -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- "Tao abides in non-action. Yet nothing is left undone." - Lao Tzu WOW! What great quotes you have here! Thanks much for sharing. 'When Plunder becomes a way of life for a group of men, they create for themselves, in the course of time, a legal system that authorizes it and a moral code that glorifies it.' Frederic Bastiat, 'The Law' 1850 ++++++++++++++++++++++++++ "The business of the journalists is to destroy the truth, to lie outright, to pervert, to vilify, to fawn at the feet of mammon, and to sell his country and his race for his daily bread. You know it and I know it, and what folly is this toasting an independent press? We are the tools and vassals of rich men behind the scenes. We are the jumping jacks, they pull the strings and we dance. Our talents, our possibilities and our lives are all the property of other men. We are intellectual prostitutes." JohnSwinton, 1830-1901, Former chief-of-staff New York Times ++++++++++++++++++++++++++ "The bold effort the present bank has made to control the Government, the distress it has wantonly produced ... are but premonitions of the fate that awaits the American People should they be deluded into a perpetuation of this institution (The Bank of the United States), or the establishment of another like it." Andrew Jackson (December 2, 1834) |
| 2cb User ID: 694654 United States04/21/2010 09:13 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | every man in this world DESERVES at least the land to sustain his life. if you didn't provide for any land for your son, then you are a selfish self-serving irresponsible asshole that pops out kids without accountability, just to serve their meat to the system. DONT HAVE KIDS IF YOU CAN'T AFFORD TO GIVE THEM ENOUGH LAND TO SURVIVE UPON! I'M 45 ... get him some land and THEN give him the boot ... you should at least provide him land to sustain himself, a place he can grow food and build a home. that is a much better investment than college. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 947647 United Kingdom04/21/2010 09:15 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Oh and smarty pants up there with the comment about him having more fun than me? Fuck you you retarded fuck, I've done 6 static line jumps and 30 free fall and several HALO's a couple in COMBAT(not fun)- Fun don't get much funner than that. I've flown aircraft (not alicensed pilot, I've skied St moritz, I fired all manner of small arms, I own a 65 Cobra replica with a 500HP engine (VERY FUN), I smoke cigars, I drink McCALLAn scotch, I hunt deer, ducks, turkey and pig every year in various states (fun)I angle from Kayak in California and Alaska, I ride dirtbikes in Nevada and Ca all of these things are fun, but they require more than the wilolingness to imbibe cheap drugs. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 934697Yet you are moaning and he is not. |
| zodiac User ID: 927802 United Kingdom04/24/2010 11:13 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | leave him alone Quoting: Anonymous Coward 934697he's doing wot he wants just like you did at his age! What kind of retarded comment is that? one for a retard to answer. sheepleoaf. let him do it his way. he will start walkin' when he's not being carried. just how we all did. obviously this AC is still in pampers |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 967980 United States05/12/2010 01:31 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My answer, which echoes some of the best advice from the other posters here, is to let him face reality. Let him fail. Give him an ultimatum: shape up or ship out. I joined the Air Force after I graduated high school. I was a satellite operator which was some of the most rewarding work I have ever done. After I separated I had a hard time finding a job (5 years ago or so). Some friends supported me for a while, but I grew lazy, and did not do much. So, I found myself homeless when I was 26. I got myself together, and got myself a good job working on computers. Now, I have a rewarding job working as a Unix System Administrator (Linux has been a hobby of mine since I was 16). Your son's path may be different than mine, but the important thing is to get him started down it. Calling your son a loser is not necessary. Nor is letting him stay in his current rut. It is a false dichotomy. Love, however, is necessary. Not all love is soft, some of it is tough. You want your son to succeed. In order to do that, you need give him the chance to fail. He is an adult now...treat him like one. This is not pop psychology, but what wise men have known for centuries. From the Discourses of Epictetus: "To those who fall off from their purpose Consider as to the things which you proposed to yourself at first, which you have secured and which you have not; and how you are pleased when you recall to memory the one and are pained about the other; and if it is possible, recover the things wherein you failed. For we must not shrink when we are engaged in the greatest combat, but we must even take blows. For the combat before us is not in wrestling and the Pancration, in which both the successful and the unsuccessful may have the greatest merit, or may have little, and in truth may be very fortunate or very unfortunate; but the combat is for good fortune and happiness themselves. Well then, even if we have renounced the contest in this matter, no man hinders us from renewing the combat again, and we are not compelled to wait for another four years that the games at Olympia may come again; but as soon as you have recovered and restored yourself, and employ the same zeal, you may renew the combat again; and if again you renounce it, you may again renew it; and if you once gain the victory, you are like him who has never renounced the combat. Only do not, through a habit of doing the same thing, begin to do it with pleasure, and then like a bad athlete go about after being conquered in all the circuit of the games like quails who have run away. "The sight of a beautiful young girl overpowers me. Well, have I not been overpowered before? An inclination arises in me to find fault with a person; for have I not found fault with him before?" You speak to us as if you had come off free from harm, just as if a man should say to his physician who forbids him to bathe, "Have I not bathed before?" If, then, the physician can say to him, "Well, and what, then, happened to you after the bath? Had you not a fever, had you not a headache?" And when you found fault with a person lately, did you not do the act of a malignant person, of a trifling babbler; did you not cherish this habit in you by adding to it the corresponding acts? And when you were overpowered by the young girl, did you come off unharmed? Why, then, do you talk of what you did before? You ought, I think, remembering what you did, as slaves remember the blows which they have received, to abstain from the same faults. But the one case is not like the other; for in the case of slaves the pain causes the remembrance: but in the case of your faults, what is the pain, what is the punishment; for when have you been accustomed to fly from evil acts? Sufferings, then, of the trying character are useful to us, whether we choose or not." Finally, a scene that was personally meaningful to me while homeless: |
| Meevinman User ID: 967924  Pakistan05/12/2010 01:42 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Stop being such a douche for one. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 802891Maybe you should smoke with your son, and then you can understand why it's such a hit (pun intended). I can't stand fathers like you. Just the sort of blinkard, philistine pig ignorance I've come to expect from you non-creative garbage... (Always wanted to say that) That's fine and dandy, I'm an authoritarian asshole, great, fine I accept that, I was not handed everything on a platter, but don't you pothead sensitive type slackers realize that these fucked up female'ish "my ffewlings are hurt" attitudes are gonna lead to a shitty, poor, dependent life? I mean fuck, the USA is going 100% turd world, people cant be leaches here ANY more. The price of failure in the turd world is DEATH. Nobody is gonna feed yer sorry asses don't you get it? you can't go through life thinking that all you gotta think about is the next days events. I just don't get it, I made 600 bucks a month in the Army when I joined. I saved it ALL I had 65 grand in the bank when I got out all I thought about was the future, I know that most you here are pothead loser types, thats why I'm tryin to get a handle on this defeatist attitude you have. Is it the drug? I mean can it be reversed? how long does it take for that "pothead laugh" (as Dr. Drew describes it) take to go away? Im in the Navy, have been for a year and a half, have a fair bit of money saved. I was kinda like your son before i joined (still am) and im leavin in about a weeks time because i want to be FUCKING FREE! I value freedom very much, i also like to smoke some weed every now and then, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. If you were my dad i would tell you to go shove it. It has to start somewhere It has to start sometime What better place than here What better time than now. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1121984 Canada10/06/2010 09:52 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Are you still there? How is your son doing? I am sorry for all those nasty posts people put out there. I understand your concern. I know it's very difficult to watch you child make poor choices. It's one thing to not be a planner or be that ambitious when you are young. I can understand wanted to enjoy your youth and not be that forward thinking. But the drugs is a different challenge. I'd love to hear how he is now and how you are too. L |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 668442 United States10/06/2010 10:12 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It sounds like your son, apart from having fun, is rejecting your advice, I would guess, largely because he does not want to become a squared-away military/banking type like you. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 804607That isn't too hard to understand, is it? No, it isn't. But what is HARD to UNDERSTAND is why an able bodied ADULT is sponging off someone else. Charge him rent for starters. Don't give him any money. If he wrecks his car, he can take public transportation. If he brings drugs in your house, kick him out. Sometimes the hard lessons are the most valuable. And sometimes they never get learned at all. I'm sorry- you sound like a good sort. But it sounds like your son is manipulating you. Just telling it like it is. He is more than capable of doing more for himself. His past achievements prove that. Anyway, good luck whatever you choose to do. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1169887 United States11/19/2010 09:24 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Don't smoke with your son. Only pot heads want to stick up for pot heads. A better idea is we should send all the pot heads to this guys house so he can smoke out with them all the time and they can hang out with him and do nothing but eat his food, shit and smoke "The Great Un-motivator" all the time, then.....wake up the next day....and do it again............and the next day...........and the next day. This guy obviously doesn't mind taken care of all the special needs of really cool people that like to smoke pot AND DO NOTHING ELSE ALL DAY EVERYDAY!! After all, smoking pot is not immature, it just helps you to relax.......right? (of course, it helps you relax all day the damn time!! like a frickin' Zombie!!!!) Well buddy, you better go get a whole bunch of it then, cause when all these pot heads end up at your door, you're gonna need it!!! |
| Curro User ID: 1229311 United States01/13/2011 11:31 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OH, and I also want to say this: I cannot wait until YOUR generation is wiped off the face of this planet. It is YOUR generations fault we are in this current predicament. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 802891The world will be a much better place. When we're gone; you'll wish we'd return. What's comin' ain't gonna be pretty. I agree with the quote above. OUR generation is screwed. People don't read anymore. OUR generation is turning out to be the worst trifecta: fat, stupid, and lazy. People my age sit in front of the television all day and the world is passing them by. Next thing you know; you will be looking in the mirror and wondering where the time went. I am not a military war veteran and I am not a stoner hippie wasting time. I am a realist with goals and objectives to accomplish in my life. I am 23, on a full scholarship for track/XC at a University. I run 60-70 miles a week. I'm getting great grades. and I am working 20 hours a week. I am anything but lazy. And I have pothead roommates; so I kind of know what you deal with. I would recommend you (the father) spend more time with your son and get to understand his views on life and where his struggles are currently. Do things together: grocery shopping, movies, plays, and video games. Anything that influence him to change his ways. DO NOT point out his screw ups; as this could affect his judgement and make him smoke more weed in spite of you. DO NOT put military pressure or any of that chauvinistic crap on him; as this also could complicate things and create needless drama within the family. I hope this helps. |
| Firehorse User ID: 1216353 Canada01/14/2011 12:46 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Stop being such a douche for one. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 802891Maybe you should smoke with your son, and then you can understand why it's such a hit (pun intended). I can't stand fathers like you. Just the sort of blinkard, philistine pig ignorance I've come to expect from you non-creative garbage... (Always wanted to say that) That's fine and dandy, I'm an authoritarian asshole, great, fine I accept that, I was not handed everything on a platter, but don't you pothead sensitive type slackers realize that these fucked up female'ish "my ffewlings are hurt" attitudes are gonna lead to a shitty, poor, dependent life? I mean fuck, the USA is going 100% turd world, people cant be leaches here ANY more. The price of failure in the turd world is DEATH. Nobody is gonna feed yer sorry asses don't you get it? you can't go through life thinking that all you gotta think about is the next days events. I just don't get it, I made 600 bucks a month in the Army when I joined. I saved it ALL I had 65 grand in the bank when I got out all I thought about was the future, I know that most you here are pothead loser types, thats why I'm tryin to get a handle on this defeatist attitude you have. Is it the drug? I mean can it be reversed? how long does it take for that "pothead laugh" (as Dr. Drew describes it) take to go away? WOW you have control and anger issues and he is trying to numb himself from you, he's prolly heard your rant forever and doesn't want to be like you. You sound like a master complainer. He does not have to accept that, sounds like he depises you, can you blame him ? if you weren't so controlling you would not have fucked everything up I hate those overcontolling parents in sports or school- they fuck their own kids heads up ! Should have been talking to him way before he was a teen and spending better time with him instead of controlling; the straighter the parent the more fucked up the kids turn out for some reason. Too bad you fucked up as a father; get into counselling, help yourself first. Get him to move out and stop dealing with his "problems" you are one of them, just shut up for awhile and introspect. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1229316 United States01/14/2011 12:58 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Stop being such a douche for one. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 802891Maybe you should smoke with your son, and then you can understand why it's such a hit (pun intended). I can't stand fathers like you. Just the sort of blinkard, philistine pig ignorance I've come to expect from you non-creative garbage... (Always wanted to say that) That's fine and dandy, I'm an authoritarian asshole, great, fine I accept that, I was not handed everything on a platter, but don't you pothead sensitive type slackers realize that these fucked up female'ish "my ffewlings are hurt" attitudes are gonna lead to a shitty, poor, dependent life? I mean fuck, the USA is going 100% turd world, people cant be leaches here ANY more. The price of failure in the turd world is DEATH. Nobody is gonna feed yer sorry asses don't you get it? you can't go through life thinking that all you gotta think about is the next days events. I just don't get it, I made 600 bucks a month in the Army when I joined. I saved it ALL I had 65 grand in the bank when I got out all I thought about was the future, I know that most you here are pothead loser types, thats why I'm tryin to get a handle on this defeatist attitude you have. Is it the drug? I mean can it be reversed? how long does it take for that "pothead laugh" (as Dr. Drew describes it) take to go away? Are you aware enough to KNOW 911 was a BUSH crime? Or are you more focused on POT (a plant)? |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1229316 United States01/14/2011 01:00 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OH, and I also want to say this: I cannot wait until YOUR generation is wiped off the face of this planet. It is YOUR generations fault we are in this current predicament. Quoting: Curro 1229311The world will be a much better place. When we're gone; you'll wish we'd return. What's comin' ain't gonna be pretty. I agree with the quote above. OUR generation is screwed. People don't read anymore. OUR generation is turning out to be the worst trifecta: fat, stupid, and lazy. People my age sit in front of the television all day and the world is passing them by. Next thing you know; you will be looking in the mirror and wondering where the time went. I am not a military war veteran and I am not a stoner hippie wasting time. I am a realist with goals and objectives to accomplish in my life. I am 23, on a full scholarship for track/XC at a University. I run 60-70 miles a week. I'm getting great grades. and I am working 20 hours a week. I am anything but lazy. And I have pothead roommates; so I kind of know what you deal with. I would recommend you (the father) spend more time with your son and get to understand his views on life and where his struggles are currently. Do things together: grocery shopping, movies, plays, and video games. Anything that influence him to change his ways. DO NOT point out his screw ups; as this could affect his judgement and make him smoke more weed in spite of you. DO NOT put military pressure or any of that chauvinistic crap on him; as this also could complicate things and create needless drama within the family. I hope this helps. Don't sell out! |
| wolfius User ID: 577454  Australia01/14/2011 01:06 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I doubt he would escape reality through drugs & games if his home environment was a pleasant one. Don't assume that the world you provide him with through your money & other assets is the ideal one for him. Perhaps you need to check your pride at the door and show him some true love instead of emotionally abusing him until the cord that is holding the relationship between him and yourself is cut for good. Prideful people always like to blame something else besides themselves. I throw idiots on the bbq...™ Best Idiot Idiom so far: You are about as far from the truth as can be ! thats why you are a EvilBugger Quoting: AC1457060 - Zionist shill |
| end of my rope User ID: 900551 Canada03/07/2011 12:08 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Mine is too. I kicked him out and the cops brought him home and said I cant just kick him out. I have to go to the police station pay $50 and follow these papers that aren't really clear and give him 30 days. He is not my tenant he is just a loser pot head drug fuck that makes me want to kill myself for the shame he makes me feel when I just look at him. I have never felt so helpless and angry in my whole life. I actually feel like I don't even love him anymore. |
