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joann.w User ID: 1469613 Canada 07/15/2011 10:08 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Mom in Hamilton ,Ontario Canada....YOUR NOT CRAZY! |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 1429974 United States 07/15/2011 10:22 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My son: Quoting: 18E 80289120 years old Pizza delivery/pizza cook job, he makes 8/hr Everquest(crack) addiction Continues to smoke weed Refuses to join military Attends Community College has 1 (ONE) class (they were "all full"..) wrecked every car he's driven (including 2 of mine & my wife's) No savings (even though he pays no room and board) All he wants to do is BMX bike at the skate park and play everquest. Multiple run ins with 5.0 over riding BIKE in SKATE park.. also posession of 420 charges He WAS an Olympic class/candidate swimmer (multiple national reportable times, some USA records in 15-18 boys class) He started out high school with a 3.9 GPA as a freshman and had real possibility of scholarship in Ivy league or Academy school -threw that away of course. Me: Totally squared away (NEVER used drugs- ever.) Left home at 18 joined Army Served 5 years Panama, El Salvador)as non-com BS University of California (I paid for it myself) 6 figures in bank, home will be paid for in 5 more years Working same job for 16 years NEVER MIssed a DAY not one. WTF would YOU do? Our society has become overun by slacker sons. Many factors are involved. I thought I was the only one going through this until I talked with other fathers where I work. Here is a book that gives some insight to the EPIDEMIC, but, no panacea. [link to www.boysadrift.com] While this is an epidemic, it is a reflection of our school system and society as a whole. Here is a link to a great chronological record of what has happened to our "educational system". [link to www.deliberatedumbingdown.com] you can buy the book or DL the .PDF. Either one is eye opening and though provoking and asks the question why are we <10 in almost ALL education categories in the WORLD? |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 1439491 United States 07/15/2011 10:40 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | "Refuses to join military" Quoting: Mercurius 1375863Personally I consider $8/hour doing pizza a much better choice than the military at this point. There are multiple wars going on, anyone who joins is likely going to be in combat. Plus if you deliver to rich areas of town, they give pretty good tips. And you can eat free pizzas all the time and get fat without paying for it. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 2120581 United States 10/05/2011 09:56 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | This thread is amazing. Father and son sound like total fucking failures. Basically represent why this country is going to hell- right wing military nut jobs and lazy liberal potheads who produce nothing...anyone else have any thoughts? This thread is PURE gold. |
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Hawgzilla User ID: 1138565 United States 10/05/2011 10:04 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Dad, Quoting: Anonymous Coward 791743 I'm 20 years old. I have a job. Do you know how many don't have jobs? I have one. Does that mean anything? It doesn't pay what you think I should make, but I perform an important service, cooking for others, delivering their food. It gives me money to do what I want. Do you know what I want, Dad? Do you care what I want? I don't want to join the military. I think it's wrong to kill people because someone tells me to. So I smoke a little, snort a little. I want to enjoy life and not think about all the problems, the wrongs, the injustice, the hypocrisy. Sure I've been busted for drugs. I don't think the laws are fair, necessary, or even legal. Should I set out to change that? Would that embarrass a military man? Do you see what the world is like? How long will it go on? Wouldn't you like to enjoy it while it lasts? I don't save. Why should I give the bank my money, knowing they may steal it like they've stolen everything else they can get their hands on. I took a class for you, Dad. Did you know it was for you? I don't want to go to college, don't want to join the military, don't want to have 6 figures in the bank. But I took the class. It was saying, I love you, in a way I can't verbalize. I don't know yet what I want, but know clearly what I don't want. I'm 20 Dad. Only 20. Maybe some day I'll be as wise as you. Maybe I'll even make some of the choices you made, but until then, help me find myself. I'm sorry about your cars. You know I'm sorry. I'm sorry you feel the way you do. But know this, Dad. I love you. And would love nothing more than having the love returned. Love, Your Son Grow up you spoiled little fuck. You want to do drugs? Please don't change your behavior on account of me. Find yourself a place to do them 24/7 whenever the desire strikes you because you won't be doing that shit in MY HOUSE. Once you find out that the rent, food, insurance, cable, water, sewer, vehicles, gas and tax money doesn't grow on the tree in the backyard, you'll think twice about buying that dime bag. Get your priorities in order and stop being a leech. Love Dad Ban guns to "save the children" but killing them in the womb is totally cool......I see; it makes perfect sense now. |
Xisuthros Rex User ID: 908143 United States 10/05/2011 10:18 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Grow up you spoiled little fuck. You want to do drugs? Please don't change your behavior on account of me. Find yourself a place to do them 24/7 whenever the desire strikes you because you won't be doing that shit in MY HOUSE. Once you find out that the rent, food, insurance, cable, water, sewer, vehicles, gas and tax money doesn't grow on the tree in the backyard, you'll think twice about buying that dime bag. Get your priorities in order and stop being a leech. Quoting: Hawgzilla Love Dad Dear dad, Thanks for the advice. But I found out that dime bags can grow on trees that can grow for acres in third world countries and I now manage my accounts from my private jet. Love Son. Yeah right, who ever heard of pot heads managing accounts!.. This is my day, there are many like it...but this one is mine. |
Hawgzilla User ID: 1138565 United States 10/05/2011 10:21 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Grow up you spoiled little fuck. You want to do drugs? Please don't change your behavior on account of me. Find yourself a place to do them 24/7 whenever the desire strikes you because you won't be doing that shit in MY HOUSE. Once you find out that the rent, food, insurance, cable, water, sewer, vehicles, gas and tax money doesn't grow on the tree in the backyard, you'll think twice about buying that dime bag. Get your priorities in order and stop being a leech. Quoting: Hawgzilla Love Dad Dear dad, Thanks for the advice. But I found out that dime bags can grow on trees that can grow for acres in third world countries and I now manage my accounts from my private jet. Love Son. Yeah right, who ever heard of pot heads managing accounts!.. I'll help you pack. Which 3rd world country should I forward all your shit to? Love Always Dad Ban guns to "save the children" but killing them in the womb is totally cool......I see; it makes perfect sense now. |
Xisuthros Rex User ID: 908143 United States 10/05/2011 10:27 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Grow up you spoiled little fuck. You want to do drugs? Please don't change your behavior on account of me. Find yourself a place to do them 24/7 whenever the desire strikes you because you won't be doing that shit in MY HOUSE. Once you find out that the rent, food, insurance, cable, water, sewer, vehicles, gas and tax money doesn't grow on the tree in the backyard, you'll think twice about buying that dime bag. Get your priorities in order and stop being a leech. Quoting: Hawgzilla Love Dad Dear dad, Thanks for the advice. But I found out that dime bags can grow on trees that can grow for acres in third world countries and I now manage my accounts from my private jet. Love Son. Yeah right, who ever heard of pot heads managing accounts!.. I'll help you pack. Which 3rd world country should I forward all your shit to? Love Always Dad Bah, burn it all, I can always buy more. But I'm leaving the Thailand suite in a couple weeks for the bungalow in Burma, you can reach me on the jet most times. Have fun at the office Dad! This is my day, there are many like it...but this one is mine. |
Frisco_Silver User ID: 1072087 United States 10/05/2011 10:37 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My son: Quoting: 18E 802891 20 years old Pizza delivery/pizza cook job, he makes 8/hr Everquest(crack) addiction Continues to smoke weed Refuses to join military Attends Community College has 1 (ONE) class (they were "all full"..) wrecked every car he's driven (including 2 of mine & my wife's) No savings (even though he pays no room and board) All he wants to do is BMX bike at the skate park and play everquest. Multiple run ins with 5.0 over riding BIKE in SKATE park.. also posession of 420 charges He WAS an Olympic class/candidate swimmer (multiple national reportable times, some USA records in 15-18 boys class) He started out high school with a 3.9 GPA as a freshman and had real possibility of scholarship in Ivy league or Academy school -threw that away of course. Me: Totally squared away (NEVER used drugs- ever.) Left home at 18 joined Army Served 5 years Panama, El Salvador)as non-com BS University of California (I paid for it myself) 6 figures in bank, home will be paid for in 5 more years Working same job for 16 years NEVER MIssed a DAY not one. WTF would YOU do? 18E, Don't waste your time, how they are now is how they turn out later. Look at all of these slackers on this thread. I Moved out at 15 Got G.E.D. Army Career - 6 Combat tours Built a Chain of Restaurants, sold them Moved to Florida Own several Publicly Traded Companies Own 2 Gold Mines and a Ghost Town, Getting ready to IPO These slackers will just bash guys like you and I all day. I am 45 years old, been all the way around the World East & West / North and South Good Luck to You. Thanks For Your Service, although You and I probably served in the same theaters of Operation. Now watch the slackers bash my post Hoo-Ah!!! Warehouse full of T-shirts - "Been There Done that" Last Edited by ***DRAGOON*** on 10/05/2011 10:39 PM |
Frisco_Silver User ID: 1072087 United States 10/05/2011 10:41 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | "Refuses to join military" Quoting: Mercurius 1375863 Personally I consider $8/hour doing pizza a much better choice than the military at this point. There are multiple wars going on, anyone who joins is likely going to be in combat. Hey Beta, COWARD much? I Got 6 combat tours, maybe You should try it. Last Edited by ***DRAGOON*** on 10/05/2011 10:44 PM |
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misanthropist User ID: 1830575 Turkey 10/05/2011 10:48 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My son: Quoting: 18E 802891 20 years old Pizza delivery/pizza cook job, he makes 8/hr Everquest(crack) addiction Continues to smoke weed Refuses to join military Attends Community College has 1 (ONE) class (they were "all full"..) wrecked every car he's driven (including 2 of mine & my wife's) No savings (even though he pays no room and board) All he wants to do is BMX bike at the skate park and play everquest. Multiple run ins with 5.0 over riding BIKE in SKATE park.. also posession of 420 charges He WAS an Olympic class/candidate swimmer (multiple national reportable times, some USA records in 15-18 boys class) He started out high school with a 3.9 GPA as a freshman and had real possibility of scholarship in Ivy league or Academy school -threw that away of course. Me: Totally squared away (NEVER used drugs- ever.) Left home at 18 joined Army Served 5 years Panama, El Salvador)as non-com BS University of California (I paid for it myself) 6 figures in bank, home will be paid for in 5 more years Working same job for 16 years NEVER MIssed a DAY not one. WTF would YOU do? smash his bong over his head several times while telling him to go get a life and get a girlfriend with her own place that can cook and clean as he cant do it himself.. its the only thing i can see missing in your post. i would assume he wouldnt get into the military, drug tests and all. to be honest he is also probably dwelling on the fact he is on a shit wage with no savings and could probably have done better if he went to college. its never too late to learn either.. might not be ivy league but im sure he could get somewhere. |
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SevenThunders User ID: 1202063 United States 10/06/2011 02:25 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Explain to your son that you love him, and because of that you are going to have to incrementally turn the screws on his freeloading. Give him several options such as, stop smoking dope, a minimum college workload or training at some trade. Give him milestones to pass, which if failed result in increased rent payment requirements or possible loss of housing. You will have to back up your threats. As for the BMX biking, well that's just cool. Tell him you'll support it if he can find a way to make money doing it. Either via competition or selling/building equipment etc. With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible |
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<3YouRongTime User ID: 938673 Japan 10/06/2011 03:21 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Since doom and revolution is just around the corner for all of us, Just love him! Tell him you love him no matter what! End. My son: Quoting: 18E 802891 20 years old Pizza delivery/pizza cook job, he makes 8/hr Everquest(crack) addiction Continues to smoke weed Refuses to join military Attends Community College has 1 (ONE) class (they were "all full"..) wrecked every car he's driven (including 2 of mine & my wife's) No savings (even though he pays no room and board) All he wants to do is BMX bike at the skate park and play everquest. Multiple run ins with 5.0 over riding BIKE in SKATE park.. also posession of 420 charges He WAS an Olympic class/candidate swimmer (multiple national reportable times, some USA records in 15-18 boys class) He started out high school with a 3.9 GPA as a freshman and had real possibility of scholarship in Ivy league or Academy school -threw that away of course. Me: Totally squared away (NEVER used drugs- ever.) Left home at 18 joined Army Served 5 years Panama, El Salvador)as non-com BS University of California (I paid for it myself) 6 figures in bank, home will be paid for in 5 more years Working same job for 16 years NEVER MIssed a DAY not one. WTF would YOU do? |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 2747540 United States 10/06/2011 05:33 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I remeber like it was yesterday taking him to school on my bike and watching him run into the classroom with his power rangers back pack. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 802891 Your post made me tear up. I got a little baby girl I try to spend as much time with as I can. I already think about her just a little while ago. Sorry that doesn't help you. If it's any help, I was a totally wild and rambunctious atheist till I was 19. Even after coming to believe in God in an inpatient rehab, it took me until I was 22 before I could finally overcome my addictions. I've been clean by the grace of God for 7.5 years now and my life is totally different. I totally believe in the healing power of Christ. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 2120581 United States 10/06/2011 05:33 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Is your son still playing evercrack? At 20? What a fag...OP, please post some pictures of him! By the way, he's not a loser simply by virtue of smoking weed, the whole package is what makes him a fuck...even at least if he was bagging some snatch in the process he'd have one redeeming quality but that seems unlikely...I'd recommend you just embarrass the shit out of him, maybe he'll reconsider his lifestyle choices. The hardass approach clearly isn't getting through to this 8 year old in a 20 year olds body... |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 2747540 United States 10/06/2011 05:35 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I remeber like it was yesterday taking him to school on my bike and watching him run into the classroom with his power rangers back pack. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 802891 Your post made me tear up. I got a little baby girl I try to spend as much time with as I can. I already think about her just a little while ago. Sorry that doesn't help you. If it's any help, I was a totally wild and rambunctious atheist till I was 19. Even after coming to believe in God in an inpatient rehab, it took me until I was 22 before I could finally overcome my addictions. I've been clean by the grace of God for 7.5 years now and my life is totally different. I totally believe in the healing power of Christ. I just realized after posting that this had been gravedug from the bottom levels of the Abyss. His kid is like 22-23 now lol. |
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