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Storm User ID: 779169 United States 11/09/2009 12:22 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Educate and inform the whole mass of the people... They are the only sure reliance for the preservation of our liberty. -Thomas Jefferson Down these mean streets a man must go who is not himself mean, who is neither tarnished nor afraid. —Raymond Chandler, 1944 Is man an ape or an angel? Now I am on the side of the angels. —Benjamin Disraeli, 1864 I love America more than any other country in this world, and, exactly for this reason, I insist on the right to criticize her perpetually. James A. Baldwin |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 762313 United States 11/09/2009 12:24 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You sound so self righteous but who do you think you are to take HER child out of HER home and plunk her down with a person who is outside with three dogs!!! They were probably all watching tv and playing while their mom was out front. I had six kids and would go out to hang up clothes ( 20 minutes) in the back yard and never a mishap...I waited till sesame st came on and gave them each a plastic cup of cheerios/raisens/bitty marshmallows. I bet you were thrilled to have a reason to be hatefull. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 794149 Canada 11/09/2009 12:26 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | hmm, she shouldn't have walked so far with the dogs at least if she stayed in the same block would be fine... but a mile away is a bit much. Your in the right to do what you did But in her defense if any.... she has to walk the dogs and i don't think she could bring 3 kids with her let alone 3 year old, mind you if she was responsible, the kids should take priority over a walk for the dogs. I would have just let the dogs in the back yard, till they do there buisness. She doesn't seem to have her priorities straight Just takes a second for a kid to see a lighter or something and light a toilet paper roll on fire. I did it once was smart enough to toss it into the toilet... after it went out the toilet was pretty much black on the inside after some cleaning the black marks came off :P |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 807349 United States 11/09/2009 12:29 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Am I over-reacting? Quoting: momoliver1My kids were at their Dad's this weekend and stayed an extra night. I had teacher conferences at the elementary school this morning. As I was leaving, I saw the new wife walking their three dogs. I drove up to her an asked, "Who's with the kids?" She replied flatly, "Nobody". She was about a half a mile from the home at that time. I immediately drove to their house and collected my 9 and 7 year old along with her 3 year old. I drove back to where she was and left her son with her. I then asked if she could make it back okay with the 3 year old and her dogs. She said yes. I told her NOT to leave them alone again! We exchanged a few words and I left. Am I being too over-protective? Depends on how responsible your 9 year old is. Also depends on the security of the "hood". I know kids less than 9 who have the ability to defend themselves, if your kid is normal in this day and age, then good call. |
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momoliver1 (OP) User ID: 804421 United States 11/09/2009 12:31 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | The house does have a yard (about a half-acre). I am not the type for confrontation. I admit, I don't like the woman and I am still bitter, but I would rather keep the peace and mutter under my breath. Before I confronted her I went back in the school and told the secretary of my concerns. She told me to go ask her who's with the kids? Dum spiro spero / "While I breathe, I hope" - Marcus Tullius Cicero |
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BRIEF AND TO THE POINT User ID: 381742 United States 11/09/2009 12:34 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | 9,7,and 3 are too young to home alone. Poor people do poor people things, and rich people do rich people things. You cannot legislate the poor into prosperity by legislating the wealthy out of prosperity. What one person receives without working for, another person must work for without receiving. The government cannot give to anybody anything that the government does not first take from somebody else. When half of the people get the idea that they do not have to work because the other half is going to take care of them, and the other half gets the idea that it does no good to work because somebody else is going to get what they work for, that my dear friend, is the beginning of the end of any nation. You cannot multiply wealth by dividing it! when you rob Paul to give to Peter ... ... ... you will always get Peters support! :Brieffromnativea: |
Enaid User ID: 515273 United States 11/09/2009 12:36 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | The house caught on fire. Your kids survived (but badly burned) but the three-yr-old died. Your kids would live with that guilt the entire lives - just because of an irresponsible adult. They are all children. And should never, ever be left alone. I know I am over-protective of all children. But that is our job as adults. Period. I was left alone alot as a young child. I was lucky nothing happened. Personal responsibility - try it sometime. Quit blaming others for your bad choices. Consequences happen. :enaid11: |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 526155 Canada 11/09/2009 12:37 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | 9,7,and 3 are too young to home alone. Quoting: BRIEF AND TO THE POINTAgreed. Good thing you spoke to another adult about it. LOG THIS INCIDENT and don't make a big deal of it to her face. But again, this could be a pattern. You also need to be VIGILANT and interview your children in a gentle way about their interactions with her. I wouldn't trust this woman. A gal who would leave her 3 year old alone with a 9 and 7 year old while she is OUT OF THE HOUSE ENTIRELY is NOT TRUSTWORTHY! |
Enaid User ID: 515273 United States 11/09/2009 12:37 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You did the right thing. She is just being negligent. If it happens again, talk to your lawyer. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 526155Hell. I would talk to my lawyer and the authorities now. Just to have a report on record. Personal responsibility - try it sometime. Quit blaming others for your bad choices. Consequences happen. :enaid11: |
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momoliver1 (OP) User ID: 804421 United States 11/09/2009 12:40 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You sound so self righteous but who do you think you are to take HER child out of HER home and plunk her down with a person who is outside with three dogs!!! They were probably all watching tv and playing while their mom was out front. I had six kids and would go out to hang up clothes ( 20 minutes) in the back yard and never a mishap...I waited till sesame st came on and gave them each a plastic cup of cheerios/raisens/bitty marshmallows. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 762313I bet you were thrilled to have a reason to be hatefull. I do not need you judgement!!! If you would read the post correctly, the person I plunked her kid down with is HIS mother!! Dum spiro spero / "While I breathe, I hope" - Marcus Tullius Cicero |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 25 United States 11/09/2009 12:41 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Depends on the neighborhood and how far the stepmom walked the dog, but if all the kids were in the 9 year old range it would be OK. Since there was a toddler involved the stepmom was in the wrong in this instance. Maybe you could come to an arrangement--she watches the kids while you walk the dog? |
anonymous User ID: 814078 United States 11/09/2009 12:44 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | 9 and 7 maybe. But they are not mature enough to care for a 3 year old should an emergency arrise. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 754098those kids could have have got into mischief and a tradegy can occur fast . happens all the time in America......never leave little ones unattented . she could have stepped outside with the dog on her front yard ...rather than walking a g ood distance away ....she made a very poor choice.... |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 762313 United States 11/09/2009 12:53 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You sound so self righteous but who do you think you are to take HER child out of HER home and plunk her down with a person who is outside with three dogs!!! They were probably all watching tv and playing while their mom was out front. I had six kids and would go out to hang up clothes ( 20 minutes) in the back yard and never a mishap...I waited till sesame st came on and gave them each a plastic cup of cheerios/raisens/bitty marshmallows. Quoting: momoliver1I bet you were thrilled to have a reason to be hatefull. I do not need you judgement!!! If you would read the post correctly, the person I plunked her kid down with is HIS mother!! That was understood... IF you wanted to help your children to be in a safer environment, you would /could have befriended this person who will influence your children for ten years and nicely advise her that this wasnt a good idea and did she know how others might perceive this and how could you help her out here. That is a smart response to modify her behavior to help your children be safe. What you chose was not to go to her home and check on your kids but to RUN to the school to tattle tale and then run to her house without talking to her and strong arm her little child probably all mad and yelling at your kids. What she did was ill advised but what you did was deliberate and confiscating her child possibly just as bad. CHildren can get into trouble with you sitting right beside them. |
Queen User ID: 810683 United States 11/09/2009 12:55 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You sound so self righteous but who do you think you are to take HER child out of HER home and plunk her down with a person who is outside with three dogs!!! They were probably all watching tv and playing while their mom was out front. I had six kids and would go out to hang up clothes ( 20 minutes) in the back yard and never a mishap...I waited till sesame st came on and gave them each a plastic cup of cheerios/raisens/bitty marshmallows. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 762313I bet you were thrilled to have a reason to be hatefull. This individual knows nothing about responsibility. It may have not been your responsibility to take her child, but it was very compassionate that you just didn't leave the 3 year old at home. This woman had no business leaving the others to do her babysitting for her. If she is not responsible to have children and dogs, get rid of the dogs. You did nothing wrong and actually were very responsible given her irresponsibility. Daddy has a fool on his hands and I wish him luck in the future, it's only going to get worse. I would definitely keep an eye on my children especially with the character this person represents. Lack of responsibility on her part has placed you in the position you are now in. I don't like fear driving my life, but I would say that this loser has placed you in a position of fear which you are going to have to gain control of. Inform dad and whomever necessary that the children are not going to be babysitters ever again, the trust level is gone and you are not willing to place them in a situation where they will be held responsible for the 3 year old as you do not trust the adult judgement. These are your children and thru this wacko's judgement, she not you placed you in this position. So all I can say is take the position of adult and handle the situation without more fear of "did I do the right thing". Get out of the fear mode and accept the authority as parent to your children. Let it be known that the next time they leave your children alone to babysit without discussing with you BEFORE hand, you will call social services and come and pick up your children. You did the right things as I would have just picked up my kids, told a neighbor and called social services. That was an option. It is time to awaken to your real purpose. It is all up to you. |
momoliver1 (OP) User ID: 804421 United States 11/09/2009 12:57 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | where was dad? Quoting: Anonymous Coward 320717Dad left for on a business trip last night. When I told her not to leave them alone she said she has done it before.....(so that makes it okay?) Let me say again, I DON'T LIKE confrontation!! I become visibly shaken. I have not talk to this woman in years, all communication is with the ex. When it comes to my kids I have to stand up!! Just adding the ex and his wife are two recovering alcoholics that met in AA. Dum spiro spero / "While I breathe, I hope" - Marcus Tullius Cicero |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 526155 Canada 11/09/2009 01:01 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | where was dad? Quoting: momoliver1Dad left for on a business trip last night. When I told her not to leave them alone she said she has done it before.....(so that makes it okay?) Let me say again, I DON'T LIKE confrontation!! I become visibly shaken. I have not talk to this woman in years, all communication is with the ex. When it comes to my kids I have to stand up!! Just adding the ex and his wife are two recovering alcoholics that met in AA. YOU NEED TO TALK TO YOUR LAWYER. |
Queen User ID: 810683 United States 11/09/2009 01:08 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | where was dad? Quoting: momoliver1Dad left for on a business trip last night. When I told her not to leave them alone she said she has done it before.....(so that makes it okay?) Let me say again, I DON'T LIKE confrontation!! I become visibly shaken. I have not talk to this woman in years, all communication is with the ex. When it comes to my kids I have to stand up!! Just adding the ex and his wife are two recovering alcoholics that met in AA. I have always been like you, afraid of confrontation. After my children I learned how to deal with confrontation. The first step is to get rid of fear. Do not fear what the person says to you, remember it is you that incorporates their words into your thoughts. Listen to what they say, listen intently because in the words they use they will tell you their fears. (First you have to get rid of yours). ALL anger is based upon fear and once you really know what their fear is, then you can reshape the words they use and place them back at their feet. One of two things now happen, either you disappate the fear or you blow the whole thing up. Either way you win, now I've become a soul that people really do not want to battle with. I still do not like confrontation but I now know when and how to address it. FEAR is the thing that puts us in our world of unhappiness. It is time to awaken to your real purpose. It is all up to you. |