I have pondered this question too Blitz.

There is still not enough information to make a
definite decision. It is no wonder you are asking
more questions that will allow you to form a definite answer.

I dont claim to know the answer myself.

If it turns out like this .....then i'll do this
or if this...then that.


If it means completely leaving the physical then i'll choose to stay until my kids can care for themselves.

Its true after death of a time of your chosing or not you probably have to leave all the things of the physical and your family. Some say if u choose to stay you'll be an earthbound spirit...etc.

Some others in NDEs choose to come back for their family and kids and other works they must accomplish.

another perspective is if you ascend you should still be able to meet your family one day again, just like after death.