She's always been depressed, and often suicidal. We've known each other since High School. The relationship has always been strictly Platonic. She's had 5 kids and countless relationships. Been married several times. I've tried and tried to help her - spent thousands of dollars bailing her out of debt and bad situations she's gotten herself into. I'm her "safety net" and if she thinks she lost that there's no telling what she'd do to herself, her kids, etc.