He says things like: “You never do shit” “You’re a bad mother” You’re a bad wife” “You’re lazy” “I’m going to leave you if we lose everything” “You’re a piece of shit” “leave me the fuck alone” You never do ____” “You don’t love me” and the list goes on and on.

He also gets mad and upset a lot and he is known to throw things and breaks things when he gets upset. He is very critical with me and the children and he is always telling me what I feel and what I think. I have tried to talk to him but he tells me that is the way men act, when they get mad they hit and throw things.

He also tells me I’m just making things up and he does not have a problem. He tells me things like “If only I would clean the house the way he likes it then things would be better” or “If only I would have the children the way he likes them then things would be better” I have tried and tried to do things his way but nothing ever seems to work, I’m thinking that maybe I’m not the women for him.

He tells me that I’m too sensitive and that I need to toughen up. I just don’t know what to do anymore, I love him and we have children together, it is hard to just walk away. Does his behavior sound abusive or normal, am I just whining over petty stuff? He has never hit me but I am afraid that with his anger issues he may one day. Please give your honest opinions, I am so lost right now!