Help .... Obsessing over a Guy..... Your Suggestions...

Wow, she sounds like a basket case...sorry

I heard the best way to get over a man is to get under another one.

Go gay.

I have suggested to her to look for someone else.

This man obviously has no interest in her.

i agree.

oh and find the best in yourself.

self validation is the greatest.

don't count on others for it.

YES.. this is great.
Self-Value is important.

make her watch that movie hes just not that into you:)

Are you looking to get over your ex? Perhaps I could help.

Ask her why she is attracted to unobtainable men. Her obsession could in fact be the manifestation of an aversion to intimacy.

This is a terrible disease. I didn't believe in it, but got it anyway. In my youth. Had it bad. None of those very reasonable suggestions usually work.


There are a couple of self-help books which are good, she can obsess over them instead of the guy. She should pick them herself.

A spiritual solution is the best. Help her to think of herself needing to keep her spiritual immune system healthy, not to send her psychic energy outside of her body, and to think of God or her higher power every moment.

A personal trainer is also good, to get a focused exercise program going. Physical strength can provide a bit of emotional shield. Worst cases need to go to a Codependents Anonymous group. (shudder)

Your friend needs to know that there are many people we can feel like that about, and many of those won't feel like that in return. If he isn't showing interest, she needs to look for the next one!

i was gonna say that. make her watch obsessed too. actually no, might give her ideas

Yes... that was a great movie.

I am calling her right now.

I totally Agree...

Invest in some boxing gloves and a punching bag.

if she has a photo of the 'unbotainable man' in question, put it on the punching bag so she can whack the hell out of it/him.

That should make her feel a whole lot better!! hehe..

This is the definitive item. From: An old wife, as in Old Wives Tales, which are often true...

She's probably going for a guy who is 'out of her league'. She needs to keep her expectations for a partner reasonable instead of requiring he look like a combination of 25 movie stars.

Basically: she should lower her standards

How old is your friend?

52

She is 52... he is aroun 60 ... I told her.. he may not be able to perform and just wants to be left alone.

I don't think he is much of a catch... not that great looking... who know why she likes him.

If a man is interested they will show some sign of interest....

He's JUST NOT THAT In to her....

Smile.

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I hope you keep your senses open ladies. Actions speak louder than words, don't let his wit and charm fool you. Make him feel a bigger fool and a bigger loser by knowing exactly what his so-called-valid-reasons mean. Replace that decoder in your head. Let not your heart blind you.


1. He tells you he loves you, but cannot marry you because his parents don't agree with his idea about you. Ladies, he is just bullshitting, he's just not that into you.

2. He tells you he will talk to his mother and take you to them and the day just never comes and he tells you she doesn't even want to meet you, he's just not that into you.

3. He gives you some obnoxious reason for not committing. It varies from how he is not ready and how you both have a lot to know about each other and how financially he is unstable, wake up call! he's just not that into you.

4. He calls you, talks to you and does it often. His 'I love yous' are worth believing and he is ready to screw you, if he is not taking it a step ahead now, he never will, because he's just not that into you.

5. He forgets the special days and always has his work to blame it on, he's just not that into you.

6. If he lets you pay when you two meet, on a date or not, he's just not that into you.

7. If he met you before and married someone else and yet claims to have feelinsg for you, he's just not that into you.

8. The only time he has, he says, is during weekdays, during lunch break at work, honestly that is red alert, he's just not that into you.

9. His text messages are mushy, so is his conversation with you, but whenever you ask him to come over meet the parents, he complains how you doubt his love and don't trust him, stupid girl, he's just not that into you.

10. He turns up for a date, late and doesn't get you anything to make up for it, he's just not that into you.

11. He expects you to listen to his aches and yearnings and when you start to speak he tells you, you whine a lot and you should stop complaining; he's just not that into you.

12. If he has proposed to you and all signs hint that he will marry you but there is no way a date is being set; he's just not that into you.

13. Like an apple a day keeps the doctor away, if he doesn't text you, email you, call you, more than once a day, he's just not that into you.

Last Edited by IsAnyThingTrue on 02/02/2010 08:39 PM