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Why do some people push you away when you get close?

 
Anonymous Coward
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02/17/2010 06:28 AM
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Re: Why do some people push you away when you get close?
Because they think it might be a trap.

That they will be 'held' to something, or the 'perceived' rules will be changed on them.

A sporting analogy:

When someone breaks down your defences, if it is their goal, you can't then sit on 'the ball' and hold it down your end of the court permanently. The Ref calls: ALL CLEAR. The ball goes back to the centre. The game begins again. And as you break down their defences, you can't threaten or take shot after shot. All clear! Two way street.

Both players need to be confident that the rules will be obeyed. Both players must want to play.

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When you don't try to hold onto something, it may just stay on its own accord.
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02/17/2010 06:36 AM
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Re: Why do some people push you away when you get close?
Then why string that person along if they were never ready for you at all?
You can look at it this way... maybe they weren't stringing you along, the fear of something real kicked in and they didn't know how to react.

Or, if in fact they were playing games, be thankful the game ended before you were completely invested.

Truth is, some people are into playing games with people's emotions, some aren't. If they are, they are not worth your time and don't deserve you.
 Quoting: Babe in a Bunker


Well said...Babe in a Bunker, very true.

If a man really loves you wild horses won't keep him away...


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02/17/2010 06:40 AM
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Re: Why do some people push you away when you get close?
I found out he was lying about being married.
 Quoting: Hillcrest nli 392015



Me too.

I think men do this because they are not ready for a relationship. They really just want sex
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Re: Why do some people push you away when you get close?


You get so close to them and next thing you know they push you away and put up a wall.

Are they scared of getting hurt?
 Quoting: coolhandluke74


Maybe somebody has secrets,Luke. ya know? Sometimes they can't let people in because they feel inadequate to you,like maybe you're too good for them. OR if they are lying to you and have another man/woman in their lives, they shut you out and they don't want you to know about it so they don't come out looking like the bad guy.
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Re: Why do some people push you away when you get close?
Yes and sometimes Mr Nice Guy can't live up up to what he portrays. Some men have to feel superior due to a lack of self esteem. Leo's are prone to that they have to be control. Like Obama a lot of bravado but underneath the Leo the Leopard is very insecure.

The man that comes in like the Knight in Shining armour while at the same time he is having an affair with someone else. Does it remind you of the double agent? LOL! Some even marry you and still don't give up their princess. Children learn what they live is so true.

Empowered people don't make a move until they are ready and when they are ready they are empowered. Few people give themselves a chance to heal in between relationships and too many jump from one to another. Taking the old energies with them into the new just compounds that which must be healed.

Most people don't leave one relationship until they have another one set-up. Few people can truly stand alone and if a person cannot stand alone what do they really have to offer another?

How many times do we have to pick up the pieces of what others have co-created for themselves?



I look forward to a healed and whole humanity.

Lotus

Last Edited by Lotus Feet on 02/17/2010 08:03 AM
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02/17/2010 08:03 AM
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Re: Why do some people push you away when you get close?
I usually turn to music for stuff like this ... why do people push you away .. they do many reasons .. if the love is 'real' then it's because they're scared/fearful of being hurt .. if the love just isn't there then they give you the 'isn't not you, it's me' kinda line ...could also be timing .. I once pushed a great person away because I wasn't ready for the seriousness of the relationship .. I was once pushed away by someone for the same reason .. in both cases, each party had different needs, etc.

but it all comes down to this ... Freedom .. freedom from pain, freedom to pursue other options ...

"through the joy and pain that livin' brings, don't we all want the same thing: FREEDOM"

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02/17/2010 08:04 AM
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Re: Why do some people push you away when you get close?
The question is, do that people do that to everyone, or just with you?
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maybe your smothering in your relationship
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02/17/2010 08:32 AM
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Re: Why do some people push you away when you get close?
Truth is, some are just scared in everyday life, afraid, fear ponders they're lifestyle, you go for a walk with your dog, you got to look over your shoulder to see if someone will mug you or rape you, you go to your car and you have this fear around your surroundings wishing you won't have an accident.

Truth is, do not fear anything, become fearless, you will let life unfold right in front of you and you will see positive things happen, trust me, ever since I was a kid, I smelled death around me, grew up around death, I still walk the same sidewalks and streets where people got stabbed and shot, so there's is no point on being afraid..