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Newly single dad of 6 mos after 20 years of marriage. How do I relate to my kids?
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[quote:Eagle 70863575:MV8zMDM3NDY3XzUzOTExNTg0Xzg5NDlDNkI2] I was divorced with almost the same two daughters and time married ! You HAVE TO REMEMBER what phychiatrists will tell you; for the daughters to have a success finding a mate/husband, they NEED TO WITHDRAW from YOU as the male figure in their life. Best thing I could do was take the 15 year old on a trip to Mexico for a few weeks, and the older daughter to Europe, when she was between 'boyfriends'. Also, having lost your presence in the home, BE SURE you spend one day of the week with them, to mentally assure them that you DO LOVE THEM ! DON'T fight with the wife ..... TRY to become 'friends', AS, the children will BIND YOU TOGETHER .... FOREVER ! They have enough terrible memories of the divorce to last them a life time, so they may not get married for many years, Generally, the children blame themselves for the divorce, as they DO take sides, with out realizing it ! Hope this helps. Eagle [/quote]
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Long story short: Wife decided to go out and have herself a midlife crisis after 20 years of marriage. Racked up a bunch of debt buying clothes and partying (while she told me she was a Bible study), ruined my credit rating, nearly fleeced me for $250K which is a story in itself, got a few boyfriends, etc.
During that time, I worked and she stayed at home with the kids. She was a lousy wife, but a good mom. We're doing joint custody of the remaining daughters who are at home ages 15 and 13. Our eldest is out of the house.
I dont get home until 6pm on the evenings I have them. And the ex has been their primary caregiver their whole lives. I find that our evenings together are spent primarily camped out watching NetFlix, them texting various friends and love interests, and then going to bed.
What are some inexpensive things that I can do (other than board games) to help relate better to my kids so they don't feel like their time with dad is a drag?
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