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[quote:Anonymous Coward 29132009:MV80MjU1ODE3Xzc3NjEyNTMwX0Q5ODkwQTJB] [quote:Anonymous Coward 76652864:MV80MjU1ODE3Xzc3NjA5MzEwXzU1M0JBQUI=] [quote:0000001:MV80MjU1ODE3Xzc3NTk4Mzc2Xzg5NTJDRkEy] [quote:Lady Boy George Foreman Grill:MV80MjU1ODE3Xzc3NTg4MDc5XzI2Q0I0NURB] Have you worked out your plan? Write down what you want / need to do and do it. Keep referring to your list as a reminder. If you’ve never been the type to open up emotionally to her, and she’s never really seen you vulnerable, it’s advisable to start there, as this simple act earns maximum brownie points. A tip regarding quitting anything, don’t ever say you’ll miss it, or you will. I’d edit that comment to say you won’t miss Mary Jane. You’re gonna do this, and your life is gonna be so much better for it.. [/quote] I've never been the type to be emotional full stop, I don't show my feelings at all, even on this thread I have let my guard down, feels odd, maybe that's something i need to work on, but i don't like emotional people anyway so that's not for me, but i am being honest with my feelings with her (fuck my feelings) :cruisemask: that could be an issue right there ha. in regards to a plan, honestly, i haven't a clue. she needs space, i need space, so its going to be a while yet. i'm taking on all the payments for the house and all that shit, so she will have some level of financial freedom, so she can treat herself and what not. and yeah the weed thing, I am rather discombobulated about the situation, she sent a text saying i need to stop smoking, i text back saying "i will stop the cigs, I have wanted too for a long time" sooo... she didn't snap back saying "ITS THE WEED" or anything, i know i can smoke a hell of a lot of it, but its not like i'm a stoner waster pot head loser, it just helps keep me leveled. but i have ran out of bud, i have no intention of buying any currently, but i am really struggling with sleep, i just don't stop unless i've had a night cap. and good point on the lists too, my mother said that as well. [/quote] No one’s ever truly comfortable showing their emotions to others, especially true for most of us guys. You’re learning a lesson that it’s important to a woman and a healthy relationship that you open up to them more, and more often. I gave up cigs and weed @ same time, it really isn’t that hard if you actually want to give up. Stopped cold turkey with only mild withdrawals & cravings thankfully. Most have an issue with eating & sleeping after quitting cigs and or weed, but it’s only temporary, and gets better with each day. The fact is that you’d be having difficulty eating & sleeping anyway, cos of your emotional state, so why not take advantage of that to help you mask the similar symptoms from withdrawals of quitting.. You don’t need weed, especially if it's causing turmoil. Don’t wait for her to ask you to stop the weed. Tell her you intend on quitting that too. Don’t look for a reason to continue to use. Even if she says you don’t have to quit, or that she just wants you to cut back, hell, even if she says she doesn’t want you to give it up, you gotta tell her that you’re giving it up anyway, because you want to. Even if you think you’re a light user, and weed doesn’t really affect your life and the way you live it, I can assure you it still does. I can almost guarantee that you’d not be in this predicament if it were not for weed. It clouds your view, so much so that you fail to recognise potential problems, immediate and future. It changes your behaviour regarding many aspects of life, many that can only truly be appreciated after quitting. I’ve been there guy, many of us have, for some of us it was too late... don’t make the same mistake or you’ll regret it the rest of your life. You have to do it mate, for yourself as much as your family. Vices are always gonna be there, the unfortunate reality is that your family may not. You are the only one with the power to ensure that doesn’t happen. Your wife doesn’t want to do this, it’s easier for her to stay. You need to convince her of that with your actions. Don’t push it on her, let her realise for herself. Tell her your plans, give her space, and continue to work on your list. Don’t give up or relapse into bad habits just because it’s seems pointless, or because she isn’t responding how you expect or want. It doesn’t matter if you feel emasculated, nor how you look to your mates. The only thing that matters is fixing your family, and if you’re truly invested in doing that you must be willing to do whatever it takes. As for your plan, it need only be simple. Sticking with a plan is your best chance of being successful. Write it on paper and keep in your pocket at all times. Review it constantly to reinforce your intentions. Don’t worry about how gay it looks or feels or sounds, just do it. If you want help or advice making a plan you just have to ask and I’d be more than happy to do that. You can pm me an email address if you’d prefer to make it private. Whatever avenue you take just promise to keep us updated and stay positive.. [/quote] Well mate, ive not smoked a cig all day, and I've not got any left, I have no weed either. So we're off to a start. I'm a tad busy, i will drop you a line later mate, thanks. [/quote]
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** thread title changed from "me and the wife has just split" **
true story.
she came home earlier and said "we need to talk"
oh yeah, i know the talk.
so turns out im single now.
i am fucking gutted for the kids
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