Would a mature woman date a 22 year old guy if they had the chance?

Ah, not so.

I've dated nothing but younger men since my divorce at age 37. The biggest age difference was when I was 45 and he was 22.

I don't go actively looking for anyone, much less younger men, it just happens that way. I'm currently 51 and seeing both a 42 year old and a 36 year old.

And sorry guys, generally speaking (though there are many fine exceptions to the rule), most men my age are out of shape couch potatoes that need viagra.

I'm 41 and would have ZERO interest in dating someone that young. Honestly, I probably wouldn't even consider dating anyone younger than 40. I seem to gravitate towards guys that are 8 years older than I am. Not sure why that age gap and I don't ask age up front. But, the ones I have always gotten along with the best - both in relationships as well as general friendships - have been that magical 8 year age gap.

I love older women.

They're a lot more fun than teeny bopper 20 year old chicks.

I had one 38 year old women beg me to suck her toes when I was 25, now that was fun.

I don't get a chance to do that fun & kinky stuff with the drunken sluts who are in their 20's. It's not as enjoyable.

hahahahahaha u got it all figured out i see..dating two guys at once.nice

I bet you he is just trying to make money off you by advertising his site.

I don't understand women who won't date men with kids. I actually prefer it. They are more stable and settled. I'd much rather date a man with kids than one who IS the kid.

Demi is free...call her up the minute she gets out of rehab!

And why not?

Friends with benefits works quite nicely for me. :)

thats hot hahah

I am the same one who just posted about my relationship with the 22 year old. Our sexual relationship is good, yet really theres no difference vs. the men I have dated at my own age. Like I said before its all a mind set.

If men can date younger women and make marriages work, then women can do the same.

By saying that it is okay for women to date older men for love but not for younger men to do, is like saying men are vain and aren't capable of loving a woman for who they are. All men are not shallow.

When i was younger i slept with a couple of older women, i had no interest in dating them at all to be honest - much to their disappointment but why would i? They were too old for me and it was just an easy lay. I think cougars are deluding themselves if they think that young men are going to stick around for anything more than sex, one turned out to be a right stalker haha. Lesson learnt there and after that i stuck to hiing on women my own age.

So in my experience, some older women will want more than sex.

Not a chance in hell, not if she is genuine in her heart and mind, which is hopefully, the reason you want her...

There are SO many changes that happen in life, between 22 and 40+.....Leave it alone, stay in the time of life that you are and move with that,,,,stay real...

I'm happily married but if I was single then yes I would, but I would assume it was just for fun and have no expectations of anything more.

No.

You're not doing celibacy right, probably you aren't effectively replacing the procreative urge with another type of procreative urge.

If you were, then after nine years, you'd only be thinking about what non-celibates are missing.

Maybe true. Relationships just happen, you don't plan for them. Its all about compatibility and if your after the same thing. I have never had a problem with getting into relationship or a one nighter its all about personal choice. I have dated my age, younger and 20 years older when I was in my 20s, age is irrelevant, unless you are superficial. I have had my one nighters and I am very secure with who I am, but if the man no matter what the age, isnt interested in dating aand getting to know me, then fine, not my match....next....

Define "mature"....

It's a very sexually compatible match. Women are in their prime in their 40's and are hot to trot. Males are in their sexual prime at around 20...It works and is a hell of a ride...for both parties. Women should take the plunge before they hit menopause and become old, dry, wrinkled prunes...

It happens all the time with young men. It is a growing experience for them to touch and feel the mature woman. And by nature or by design it usually doesnt last very long. So spare us the generalized morality tale that has no relevance whatsoever,,,

I'm 42 with a lot of life left. I agree that age is just a number. It's all about how you feel. Unfortunately, I'm married to a man who's three years older than me and acts like he's ten years older than me:( He has a very negative outlook on life anymore and it seems that all I hear out of him is how the glass in his life is half empty. I try to listen and to reassure, but it seems to do no good. I try to tell him that he is the only one who can change his circumstances if he's so unhappy and that no one else can do it for him. Even though he understands this, he seems to prefer to wallow in his misery. He is sexually disfunctional and has been for a few years now. I'm lucky if it happens once a month. It's not been over 3 mo. and he had to be reminded that it'd been that long. I try to take care of things myself, but sometimes a woman wants, no scratch that, NEEDS to be with a man! Is that too much to ask. I take good care of myself, eat right and am often mistaken for being in my 30's.

We're coming up on 24 years together next month and lately I'm wondering if that's all we're meant to have together. I strongly believe in sticking things out and making good on my commitment to him, but he's let me down so many times. And not just sexually. Long story. I have been wanting one last child before I go through the change. He doesn't and no matter how hard I try to convince him how much this means to me, he just doesn't seem to get it. He think's I'm just going through a phase.

Goodness...guess I needed to vent too! But the thing of it is, even if we eventually go our separate ways. I couldn't be with a younger man. My own son will be 22 this year and my two daughters will be 24 and 25. Regardless, I've always preferred older men. I'm attracted to the Alpha male who knows how to handle himself and his woman with self confidence and knows exactly what he wants in life and how to go about getting it.

Unfortunately...I didn't know this about myself when I married my husband fresh out of high school. Don't get me wrong...my husband has a lot of very good qualities and we've spent many years together. I consider him to be my best friend, I'm just missing that oh so important husband part of him. If that makes any sense??

I think mature women (40+) sometimes want to feel younger so that they feel better about themselves. I know a 40 year old women who dated a friend of mine who was 20 at the time, but she was a diva let me tell you haha..

for my experiences, iv never dated a women thats older than me, maybe a year or 2 tops but thats it... but i can tell you older women always check me out... im 23 btw......

Not me! I have kids around that age & that would be Creepy as hell.
That being said ~ I was married to a guy who was younger than me & we stayed together 11 years.

Since I have been dating again ~ I mostly get hit on by men around 35 or so. It's hard to just go by age ~ common interests & Life experience are Top Priorities to me. They also have to enjoy actually doing things & not eat junk food too much. A healthy body makes for better stamina ~ that's not specific to age.

^^ best of luck

Ah, not so.

I've dated nothing but younger men since my divorce at age 37. The biggest age difference was when I was 45 and he was 22.


lol those blokes must be desperate cuz you look like a beast ox

and somehow you think that they CHOSE to be this way... riight.. so you blame them for it.. NOT nature ... pffft.. SO very insightful!!

No. Just no.

Being in the middle of the road at 30 I will speak for both parties. 40 yr old women: any age women can get a twenty year old guy if they put themselves on the market as easy. Guys want sex. 18-104, end of story. 20 year old guys: You are the ones that have the luxury of being choosey, not the older women who think its because they are experienced. They just want an ego pet. It doesnt matter if you pet it, or they pet it by believing they can still get any yungun' they want. Women only like sex for the ego boost. That's why there are so many cougars. Also women, don't say I don't know what I'm talking about, you know I'm right.

If you knew many older women you would know that most would jump at the chance of dating a younger man! I am older myself but look and act much younger and can relate far more to younger men. Funnily enough the younger men try really hard to impress as well. The older men I have come into contact with are dirty old men with dirty (as in unclean) being the operative word. They are also very set in their ways and beliefs and a lot are mysoginists. They do not know the meaning of the word respect whereas their younger counterparts do. Sexually, younger men are so much more willing to please and eager to learn. They also have better bodies and make effort to keep in shape and look and smell good!
My friends also agree and even the married ones have said that shoud they become single in the future they would be more likely to date a younger man.
The comment about testosterone levels is completely untrue. Women's sex drives get stronger as they get older and we are more comfortable with who we are. Having the attentions of a young hot male only makes it stronger. Whatever preconceived ideas you have about older women are unfounded I hasten to add!
Not an anonymous coward!

No, not even close. I stopped dating under 25 when I was in my thirties.

I'm not even sexually attracted, they're like sweet, innocent children when they're that young.

Besides, if you're over 40 and still in the market, why would you waste your time on someone who has so little to offer? Someone that young has a lot of developing to do before they can be a serious relationship candidate. And if you're still avoiding serious relationships at 40, you're not gowing.