General question for the gals out there (and guys if you know, chime in)

she needs to get over herself. as if you were doing it on purpose to mock her. you can't go through life trying to please anyone. she'll probably never really like you again now.

I am a female and I wanted to let you know that there was nothing wrong in what you said. People are so hyper sensitive and easily offended. The only way not to piss someone off is to take a vow of silence.

To answer your question, a woman can and will hold a grudge forever. And it can bite you in the ass just when you least expect it.

You might go along thinking everything is just fine and wham! She gets you.

The best advice I can give would be to approach her and say something like this:

I have noticed a tension between us and I was concerned that I might have in someway offended you. If I did, it was not intentional because I think you are really nice and I would never want to hurt your feelings.

That will probably be enough. If she is any kind of a decent woman, she will let it go once she realized that you were not taking aim at her speech impediment.

Even if you SHOULDN'T have to say it. It might be worth it in the long run. Just one of those things in life you have to do sometimes to smooth the way.

...oh maaan...

GREAT advice, m'lady, thank-you :)

Some can hold grudges a good long time, but they can get over it if you send a card asking, what you did wrong and if you did something wrong, you didn't mean to. That you really like talking to her.

Since you didn't know you would be telling the truth. Don't
bring up her problem.

I agree, if she cant handle the little "r" bullshit, there is no telling what else she has hidden in the closet.

If there was nothing else then no problem, but seems to me that she is using this "r" bullshit to shut out.

If you really want to pursue this "r" chick then wait until she feels (bullshit) comfortable with you.

fk I hate relationships and games. Dont know why most girls do it, guess its the "dad syndrome" thing. Always having to prove yourself, fk that.

You are most welcome. After almost 25 years of marriage, my husband is an expert and calming the rough seas! LOL

nice, thanks!! i might try the card, if the verbal touch doesn't help...

PS: I would move on and find someone that dosnt have issues with petty crap like this. There are tons of fish in the sea worth your effort dude.

I know you are smart enough because you had the emotional ballz to post a relatively heart felt question, dont give her time of day is my advice. Dosnt matter how nice here ass might be, its hell waiting to be unleashed on your poor innocent soul.

Personally, I'd be doing Elmer Fudd impressions whenever I knew she was in earshot.

Has she been to cowedge?

Women are pros at holding grudges. You know that you meant no harm, if she cant cant get over herself then thats her prob not yours.

If it continues then give her some real ammo to be upset about. How about "are your blow jobs better or worse with your speach impediment".

Did you say "sowwy".

...aaaahhhh, interesting point

tell her your " weelly sowwy"

and pretend for the rest of your career that, that how you talk

some women nurse grudges like small children ... so if shes one of them ... forever

quarter-century, lucky guy!

hahaha, sounds like words of wisdom to me :)

ooohhh cwape dat wood nut be gewd...but my buds at work would bust their arses laughin'

oooh f'k...we should write a book of come-backs in this forum...

LOL...i didn't but the thought sure cracks me up!! :D

weeelly weelly sowwy...LMAO

EEEKKK...that's the answer i was afraid of...

... Well ever hear the phrase 'Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned'?

Woman's brain is wired to remember insignificant details that most men forget in a day or a week. Woman can recall these events with startling clarity 10, 20, 30 + years well past the event and can actually live the pain and emotional distress of this event when they recall it.

If she was your SO/Wife/Girlfriend this horrible faux-pas will be worked into every single argument for the rest of your life (hell even when you divorce them you will still hear about it when you see them and don't be too certain that death is an easy escape either).

If she is not your SO/Wife/GF the consequences of the crime you committed will spread through the female community. If other women were present when you committed this crime, be assured that they will not let you forget your faux-pas. Don't be surprised that other women 'judge you' as dating material based on this crime. Yeah I know, how did they know - women talk, and the speed of that talking is in proportion to how much you hurt the feelings of one of them.

If the woman doesn't immediately chastise you, you are in "vewy, vewy, deep twouble". The punishment is exponential to the amount of time she is silent on the matter. If she is silent for an hour the punishment will be ten times greater than if she had immediately chastised you. If she has been silent for a day, then you have to calculate the hours, each hour the punishment is raised on the power of ten from the previous hour. Much like the Richter Scale, however the Richter scale has an upper limit. Punishments from women have no upper limit, at least not discovered by men. Well maybe they have been discovered but no male has lived to report back.

In all honesty it appears you have lost any possible credence with this particular female. Don't be surprise if the cold shoulder sticks around for a few years.

The reality is you are getting off 'lucky' if all you are getting is the cold shoulder. It could be far much worse and far more devastating.